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- Critical Thinking: Are “Primitive” Parts Of The World An Expression Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about different parts of the world, they might think about how there are certain places that are “civilised” and certain places that are “uncivilised”. When it comes to the countries that are, over the years, some of these countries have tried to change the countries that ...
Views: 328 - Meaning: Can Someone’s Life Lack Meaning If They Are Out Of Touch With How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could simply go through the motions in life and perhaps often wonder why they are even alive. During the week, then, they could wake up, get ready for work and then head to work. Once they are there, they could perform one or a number of tasks, with it being as though they ...
Views: 328 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends most of his life doing what he can to please others and his mother, in particular, it is going to mean that he is primarily focused on what is going on without. What is taking place within is rarely, if ever, going to something that he is aware of. This is likely to mean that ...
Views: 328 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That He Can Live His Own Life? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly caught up in his mother’s life and neglects his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life. This is because most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother. However, although his life is unlikely to be very ...
Views: 328 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on May 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. So, even if they were to go on holiday, they could spend a lot of time thinking about what they should have done before they left and what they will do when they get back. This will ...
Views: 328 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Passive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a car to move, it will need to have a power source; without this, it will simply stay in the same place. If it does move, it will only be because it is being pushed by someone or something that has power. In the same way, for a man to move and to take action he will also need to ...
Views: 327 - Father Wounds: Can Man Associate Self-Assertion With Death If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may find that it is difficult for him to stand his ground and to stop others from walking over him. Then again, he might not even get to this point and could simply allow other people to cross his boundaries. Once this has taken place, he could end up feeling deeply frustrated and fed ...
Views: 327 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Believe That He Needs To Hide His True Self In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was able to take a step back and reflect on how behaves, what may come to mind is that his behaviour rarely matches up with what is going on for him. So, when he is around others, he could typically be focused on their needs and be completely out of touch with his own ...
Views: 327 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man can have the desire to deeply connect to a woman, he may also have the need to keep his distance. The experiences that he has had with them throughout his life may appear to be what has given him this need. As a result of this, it is going to be a challenge for him to fulfil ...
Views: 327 - Emotional Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the needs that someone has, there will be at least three areas; their intellectual, emotional and survival needs. In order for them to live a fulfilling life, it will be essential for them to take care of each of these areas. This is not to say that this is something that ...
Views: 326 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Badness If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, that’s if he was able to step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the inclination to feel bad. When this is the case, he is likely to feel very low and worthless and he might, at times, even contemplate ending his life. Therefore, even if he doesn’t feel this ...
Views: 326 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Ashamed Of Not Being Able To Act Like A Man? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can take a while for a man to realise that he is emotionally entangled with his mother; this could be something that will take place after he has been on this planet for many decades. It could seem strange as to why it would take him so long to find that he is overly focused on ...
Views: 326 - Support: Can Someone Have Trouble Being Supported If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could have the tendency to overlook their own needs and to be there for others. Naturally, this is not going to allow them to lead a fulfilling life but it can just be what feels comfortable. By behaving in this way, they may find that it is not difficult for them to ...
Views: 326 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Be Frozen In Time If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is now an adult and their developmental years are thing of the past, it doesn’t mean that they have truly moved on from this stage of their life. However, if this is the case, they might not be consciously aware of it. The signs that reflect that they haven’t moved on ...
Views: 325 - Inner Conflict: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Experience A Lot Of Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, if someone is carrying a deeply wounded infant inside them, it is going to be a challenge for them to fulfil their adult needs. In a lot of cases, this part of them is going to stop them from having what they truly desire. However, although this is what will be taking place, they ...
Views: 325 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother Feel Ashamed Of Her Own Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to put her needs first. Most likely, this will be something that takes place without him even needing to think about it. What should be normal is putting his own needs first and, perhaps, being there for his mother ...
Views: 325 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Someone Engage In Repetition Compulsion If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their life, they may see that there is what they want to experience in one area of it and what they actually experience. Due to this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a number of ’negative’ feelings and thoughts. Then again, this ...
Views: 324 - Being Seen: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on May 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, one could feel as though they don’t exist, and this is not going to be because they won’t have a pulse. No, it will be due to the fact that they will rarely feel seen and heard and what they do in life might not have much of an impact. So, when they are around others, they could ...
Views: 323 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Resent His Desire For Women If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is attracted to women, it doesn’t mean that he will feel comfortable being this way. In this case, part of him will feel attracted to a woman and another part of him will experience resistance. By being this way, he is going to experience a lot of conflict when it comes to this area ...
Views: 323 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Grow Up? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship with a man who is enmeshed with his mother, she can be incredibly frustrated and fed up. Perhaps she has been with the man for a number of months. Then again, she may have been with him for a number of years. Either way, she is likely to have a strong need for ...
Views: 323 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Allowing Some People To Mask Their Unresolved Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, what is going on has been all-consuming, with it being hard for them to function. For others, what is going on hasn’t been something that has totally consumed their mind, with it being possible for them to carry on living their life. There are then, of course, those who are ...
Views: 322 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Ashamed Of His True Self? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he may soon find that he generally hides himself around others and rarely shows up. This will mean that his physical self will be seen but he will be estranged from his inner self. As a result of this, the person who shows up ...
Views: 322 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Feel Responsible For Their Mothers? - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could stand out, if a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has felt responsible for his mother for as long as he can remember. He could see that this doesn’t just relate to her physical wellbeing but also relates to her happiness. Therefore, he will feel the ...
Views: 322 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Rage Towards His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOnce a man gets to the stage where he realises that he is emotionally entangled with his mother, he could end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage. He could see that not only was he used during his younger years but he has continued to be used. For so long, this won’t have stood out and ...
Views: 322 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Sexualise Women If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman will be made up of many different sides such as a sexual side, an emotional side and an intellectual side, it doesn’t mean that a man will always be able to truly accept this. Thus, when he sees a woman to who he is attracted, he could simply see her as someone who could please ...
Views: 321 - Self Sabotage: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Sabotage Their Life? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that at least one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go. This could be an area of their life that they have tried to change for a very long time. But, no matter what they have done, they might ...
Views: 321 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Withdraw? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel as though they are simply going through the motions in life. They are then not going to have a strong desire to be here and this can be evident when it comes to how they live their life. When it comes to what they do each week, this could typically ...
Views: 321 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Use Success To Try To Be Accepted If They Were Not Affirmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend most of their life doing things, and this can mean that they are fairly ‘successful’. So, they could have a well-paid job, an expensive car, and a big house and they could have a desirable partner. If this is the case, they will look as though they have it all ...
Views: 320 - Emotionally Shut-Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Emotionally Shut-Down Around Others? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that when they are around others, they have the tendency to lose touch with how they feel. This is then going to be something that just happens as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. As ...
Views: 320 - Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Expect Bad Things To Happen? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back from their life and to reflect on their expectations, what they may find is a lot of these are “negative”. The expectations that they do have that are “positive” are then going to be overshadowed by those that are “negative”. After this, they could find that ...
Views: 320 - False Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Themselves If They Had A Parent Who Didn’t Attune To Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what could stand out is that they spend a lot of time doing what other people want. Consequently, they are likely to find that they often feel drained and even exhausted. Additionally, they can experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 320 - If You Were Rescued, You Wouldn’t Develop Your Strength - by Submitted on May 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place. When this ...
Views: 320 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are All Mother-Enmeshed Men The Same? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a certain term is used to describe someone, then it can mean that they fit a certain criterion. In this case, the term that has been used will be appropriate and it won’t be a sign that they have been mislabelled. When it comes to a man who has been described as a mother-enmeshed man, ...
Views: 320 - Self-Image: Does Someone Need To See Themselves Through Their Own Eyes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, if they were to reflect on how they see themselves, is that they don’t have a very empowering view of themselves. They might find that they see themselves as worthless, unlovable and even useless. Having this view is likely to mean that they will have suffered over ...
Views: 320 - Does Someone’s Past Life Define What Family They Will Incarnate Into? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the family that someone was born into, it can seem as though this was completely random. As a result of this, if they were born into a family that was generally loving and supportive, they were lucky and if they weren’t, they would have been unlucky. Furthermore, if they can ...
Views: 319 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That Their Existence Is A Burden? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have the right to be here and have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of this, they can see both themselves and their needs as a burden. However, this could be something that is outside their awareness, which ...
Views: 319 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
Views: 319 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard To Receive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is often hard for them to receive what they need to survive, let alone thrive. So, when it comes to money, they may rarely have enough. Keeping a roof over their head is then going to be a challenge ...
Views: 319 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Be Overly Fearful Of The Coronavirus If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who have done their best to carry on as normal since the arrival of the contagion, there are others who have been unable to do so. For someone in the second position, it might not matter if the restrictions have been eased where they live. They may have ...
Views: 318 - Early Deprivation: Can A Parents Inability To Love Go Back Many Generations? - by Submitted on May 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of someone’s life, they need love in order to grow and develop in the right way. This, of course, is something that they will need for many, many years after this stage for their development to continue to go in the right direction. When it comes to what is meant by ‘love’, ...
Views: 318 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Responsible For His Mother If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an individual who has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to act like one. In general, he could put his mother first and do what he can to fulfil her needs. Naturally, this is going to cause him to neglect a number of ...
Views: 318 - Child Abuse: Was An Abusive Parent Abusing A Part Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to become aware of the fact that they were mistreated during their early years, they can have a strong need to find out why this took place. Along with this, a big part of them can feel as though they deserved to be treated badly. However, the reason that they can also feel ...
Views: 317 - Disconnected: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Become Even More Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone ends up getting into self-development, they could already be in a pretty shut-down state. However, if they have been this way for most of their life, they might not even realise it. But, although they might not have a good connection with their body and thus, their feelings and a ...
Views: 317 - Love: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Love? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is likely to be born with the need to both receive and give love, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with these needs now that they are an adult. In fact, they could be unaware of both of these needs. However, even if they are not aware of these needs, a lot of what ...
Views: 317 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Scared Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at bay. Not only this, but when he is around them, he may find that he is usually anxious. And, if he is not on edge, he could see that he loses touch with what is going on ...
Views: 317 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a physical body and, therefore, will be visible to others, it doesn’t mean that he will feel seen. In general, he could feel invisible and wonder if he even exists. As a result of this, he could often feel powerless and helpless and believe that he has very little if ...
Views: 317 - True Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That Only Parts Of Them Are Acceptable? - by Submitted on May 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be a multi-faceted being who has many different aspects, they could typically come across as though this is not the case. They are then going to be like a TV that has many different channels but only one channel is ever selected. What this can mean is that they will ...
Views: 317 - Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are ...
Views: 317 - Avatar 2: The Way of Water - ‘I See You’ - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I ended up watching the new avatar film with a few friends, and I must say, that it was spectacular. I watched it in 3D but I think that it would be even better if I had watched it in 4DX. Throughout the film, a number of parts stood out and had a strong emotional impact on ...
Views: 316 - Child Abuse: Is Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Get Through To Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. In fact, their life could be one big struggle, with them wondering if they even want to be alive. However, even if they are not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
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