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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why a man would be so focused on his mother. He can spend most of his life doing things for her and even if he isn’t, he can be thinking about what he can do for her. By being this way, naturally, he is going to severely neglect himself ...
Views: 321 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
Views: 321 - Child Abuse: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Find Out About Their Parents Childhood If They Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to ...
Views: 320 - Critical Thinking: Is The External Chaos A Reflection Of What Is Taking Place Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, and for a little while now, there is a lot of upheaval in the world. A number of years ago, a virus, which was said to have first been identified in an outbreak in Wuhan, soon spread all over the world. And, just as things were starting to return to a ‘new normal’, ...
Views: 320 - Critical Thinking: Is The Virus Known As The Victim Mentality Undermining Peoples Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, both the mainstream media and the government have said a lot about “mental health” and how people need to look after this part of them. Mainstream society offers a number of different ways for someone to do this. One option that is often put forward is for them to talk about ...
Views: 320 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Earn Love? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s developmental years, they needed love to grow and develop and, as an adult, they also need love in order to be at their best. However, although they will need love as an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this need. But, even if they are not aware ...
Views: 320 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Try To Stop Her Son From Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on May 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a mother is unable to see her son as an individual, she is going to have an issue with him living his own life. His purpose, as far as she is concerned, will be to be there for her and to take care of her needs. Still, this is not to say that this is something that she will be ...
Views: 320 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Dysfunctional View Of Love If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being brought up by an abusive mother, a man was able to realise that his early years were dysfunctional and then to reach out for support, he might not end up in a relationship with an abusive woman. He would then have been through hell but there would be no reason for him to replay ...
Views: 320 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man’s Emotional Wounds End Up Being Sexualised If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has a strong sex drive and experiences a fair amount of lust, he might not feel the need to look into why this is. After all, he can just see this as a normal part of being a man. Also, he can see this as a sign that he has high testosterone and is, ...
Views: 320 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind; however, the latter is largely overlooked. Not only does mainstream society ignore this mind but a lot of people in the helping professions, those who are doing what they can to help peoples “mental health”, also do the same ...
Views: 320 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to freely express themselves. And, to be able to do this, they will need to have a felt sense of safety. By feeling safe in their own body, they will be able to listen to their needs and feelings and then allow what is ...
Views: 320 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Hide How They Feel If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s feelings are an important part of them, it doesn’t mean that they will typically express how they feel. Not only this, but they might rarely if ever be aware of how they feel. If this is the case, it will show that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings and ...
Views: 319 - Disconnected: Can A Big Part Of Someone’s Being Be Split Off If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is living on the surface of themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. How they experience life can just be what is normal, so there will be no reason for it to stand out. Assuming that they are in this position, they are likely to spend a lot of ...
Views: 319 - Helpless State: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be In A Helpless State? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel helpless and as though they are unable to do anything. However, even though this is how they can generally feel and perceive life, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. As a result of this, being this way is going to prevent ...
Views: 319 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Relationship With Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a relationship with his mother, if this could be called a relationship, he won’t have much of a relationship with himself. This means that he won’t be aware of most of his needs and is unlikely to value who he is. He will spend a lot of time in his head and being ...
Views: 319 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it is not going to be a surprise if he ends up coming to the conclusion that he is this way because of how his mother treated him very early on. The reason for this is that after looking into what took place during his early years, he ...
Views: 319 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can be happy spending time by themselves and rarely if ever be or reach out to others. If they are around others, it could be a sign that they are at work or out shopping. ...
Views: 318 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 318 - Inner Enemy: Can Someone Have An Inner Enemy If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust as a group of individuals will be able to make more progress when they work together, someone will also be able to make more progress when they are able to work with themselves. Of course, unlike a group of people, they are one person but they will be made up of many different parts. As ...
Views: 318 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Can It Be Harder For A Man To Break Away From His Mother If She Becomes Ill? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and is not living his own life, he might not even realise that this is the case. As he was probably trained to be there for her from a very young age, it is not going to be a surprise if it doesn’t occur to him that he is out of alignment with himself and is not ...
Views: 318 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may often feel invisible and as though he doesn’t exist. If he doesn’t feel this way, it could be because a woman who he finds desirable has looked at him or he is seeing a woman or is in a relationship. Thanks to this, he is likely to have a strong need to be seen by a woman and to be ...
Views: 318 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Ability To Love Been Taken Away? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is difficult for him to connect to how he feels and to experience love. If this is so, he could wonder if he has the ability to feel and to feel love in his heart. Then again, he could come to the conclusion that he is ...
Views: 318 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Change His Perception? - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is “enmeshed” to his mother, it is likely to mean that he didn’t receive what he needed to receive during his early years. Therefore, he hasn’t simply chosen to become entangled with his mother as an adult; he has always been this way. What this means is that it is not just about him ...
Views: 317 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 317 - Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity’s Mental Health Being Destroyed By The Media? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor a lot of people, paying attention to the mainstream media is a normal part of life. Throughout their day, they will look towards this source of information to tell them about what is taking place in the world. Providing they have a Smartphone, someone like this can do this no matter where ...
Views: 317 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Different If “Conspiracy Theorists” Focused On Creating A Better World? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are a lot of people who spend a fair amount of their time looking into what appears to be taking place behind the scenes. Thanks to modern-day technology, there is no shortage of information when it comes to this topic. The only thing that someone like this will need is a ...
Views: 317 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have both a masculine and feminine element inside him, he may find that it is hard for him to connect to the former. Consequently, it will be hard for him to express himself and to take action. From the outside, it will probably look as though he has the ability to do ...
Views: 317 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Reconnect With His Personal Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can stand out for someone who has come into contact with a man who is overly focused on his mother is that he is too caught up in his mother’s life. They will then be able to see that he needs to start focusing on his own life. This is not to say that they will believe that he needs to ...
Views: 317 - Fame: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have a strong need to be known by a lot of people. Thanks, in a part, to modern-day technology, there is a myriad of different ways in which someone can achieve this goal. However, in the past being known by a lot of people was largely seen as ...
Views: 316 - Paranoia: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Paranoid? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to how someone typically experiences life, they can have what could be seen as a fairly troubled existence. Then again, it could be even worse than this as their life could be extremely difficult. The reason for this is that they could find it hard to trust others and accept that not ...
Views: 316 - Father Wounds: Does A Man Need To Heal His Father Wounds In Order To Embrace His Masculinity? - by Submitted on May 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is very much estranged from his masculinity, he might not wonder if this is due to the issues that he has with his own father. In fact, he might not even be aware that he is out of touch with this side of his nature. It could seem strange that he wouldn’t be aware of this but this ...
Views: 315 - Happiness: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Happy If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. ...
Views: 315 - Mother Wounds: Can It Be Hard For A Man To See A Woman Clearly If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt might be hard for a man to maintain a positive view of a woman when he is dating or in a relationship. In the beginning, however, it could be very different. During this time, he could have a very positive view of the woman he is with; in fact, there is a chance that his view of her will ...
Views: 315 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Needs Are Important? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to focus on her needs. This is likely to mean that he won’t even be aware of a lot of his own needs. His mother’s needs are then going to consume him and it won’t occur to him that he is out of touch with ...
Views: 315 - Self-Assertion: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone can assert themselves, they will have no trouble standing their ground and saying no. Along with this, if they want to do something, it won’t typically be a challenge for them to do it. Having this ability will allow them to both protect and express themselves. Thanks to this, ...
Views: 315 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Give Someone The Need To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that their inner self will typically be seen by others. In general, this part of them could be hidden and this will mean that what is truly going on for them will be a mystery to others. Along with this, what is taking ...
Views: 315 - Acting Out: Can Someone Act Out Feeling Helpless If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the tendency to feel totally helpless, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. However, when they feel this way, it is going to have an effect on how they behave. This is likely to be a time when they will behave in ways that typically don’t serve them ...
Views: 314 - Emotional Support: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Feeling Emotionally Supported? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone’s emotional self will allow them to feel connected to life and others, and to feel supported. Clearly, then, this part of them will serve a very different purpose to their mental self. This part of them will give them the ability to think, plan, reflect and understand how they feel. ...
Views: 314 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he often feels worthless and as though he is bad. Due to this, he may find that it is a challenge for him to embrace good things as he won’t feel worthy of them. As a result of this, he may see that he has pushed a lot of ...
Views: 314 - Fear Of Death: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Die? - by Submitted on May 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a strong fear that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Now, of course, everyone on this planet is going to die at some point. But, there is a big difference between this simply being a part of life and it being ...
Views: 314 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Mans True Self Gone Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to live a life that is in alignment with who he is, he will need to be connected with his true self and feel comfortable expressing who he is. When it comes to his true self, this will relate to his needs, feelings and wants and most of these will be found in his ...
Views: 314 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their True Self? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is information outside of someone, and, on the other, there is information inside them. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their body, they are going to have limited access to the information inside them. In general, then, a number of their needs and ...
Views: 314 - Willpower: Can Someone Rely On Willpower If They Have Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is willpower and, on the other, there is emotional power. The former can be seen as something that comes from the mind, while the latter can be seen as something that comes from the body. At times, someone won’t feel like doing something that they know is good for them, so ...
Views: 314 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Carry A Wounded Infant If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is an adult and thus their childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Of course, they will no longer be a toddler, infant or even a child; that will be clear from their appearance. But, while this will be clear from the ...
Views: 313 - Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to get into a relationship, what could soon stand out is that they don’t have a good connection to their needs and feelings. Before this, they might not have realised how disconnected they were. But, now that they need to be in touch with both of these elements, it will be ...
Views: 313 - Workaholic: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Become A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people work to live, there are others that live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth. When it comes to the former, someone’s life won’t revolve around their work and they will typically only work at certain times. ...
Views: 313 - Anger: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Anger With Being Isolated? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThe part of someone’s being that provides them with aggression and thus anger and rage is there to protect them. Along with this, it will give them the energy and drive that they need to get things done. It will then allow them to take care of the basics, so their ‘lower’ needs and to go ...
Views: 312 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on May 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they may hope that what they went through will be validated by them. This could be seen as part of what will allow them to move on from what happened. However, even if this need is there, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 312 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone See Themselves As An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to act like an individual as an adult, who has their own needs and feelings, they will have needed to have had a childhood that was at least somewhat nurturing. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have felt like an individual when they were born; this was a sense that ...
Views: 312 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Repressed Feelings If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place. Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand ...
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