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- Disconnected: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Emotional Pain If They Live In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on May 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf one spends most of their time on this planet living in their head, it will naturally mean that they will rarely inhabit their body. In general, then, what is taking place in his part of their being will be a complete mystery. As a result of this, they are not going to have a good ...
Views: 285 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Emotional Self If They Had Emotionally Unavailable Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with someone’s physical needs, they will also have emotional needs. However, even though this is the case, they can be out of touch with their emotional needs. If so, although these needs will be outside of their conscious awareness, they will still have an effect on how they behave. ...
Views: 285 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Treated Badly By Women If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on May 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have had a number of experiences with women that were anything but pleasant. This can mean that he has been in a number of relationships that greatly undermined him. Additionally, there can be all the interactions that he has had, both at work and in his everyday ...
Views: 285 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unsafe Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may find it hard to feel at ease when he is around women. Due to this, he could often act in a very submissive and easy-going manner when he is around them. What this will mean is that who he is will rarely if ever show up when he is in the company of a woman. Instead, a ...
Views: 285 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Are Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has become aware of the fact that they are not connected to their feelings or are rarely connected to them, they might end up criticising themselves. They could even end up believing that there is something inherently wrong with them. If so, this is not going to be a time when ...
Views: 284 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is not uncommon is for someone to continually end up in relationships with people who are unable to be there for them. Ending up with people who are ‘emotionally unavailable’ is then going to be the norm. The outcome of this is that when they have been in a relationship, they will have ...
Views: 284 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Hide His Feelings If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he typically behaves, he could see that he has the tendency to hide how he feels. As a result of this, most if not all of the people in his life are not going to know what is really going on for him. This is going to mean that he will keep a ...
Views: 284 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Wounded To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may hope, if they were abused as a child, is that their parent or parents will validate what they went through. This will then be a time when one or both of their parents will be able to both hear what they say and express remorse. But, what they may soon find is that this ...
Views: 283 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Make Their Child Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have their own life. No, practically their whole life could revolve around their parent or parents, with them behaving more like their parent than their child. Naturally, if a lot of their time and energy is being directed towards ...
Views: 283 - Depression: Can Shame Stop A Man From Being Able To Admit That He Is Depressed? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is depressed, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to fully accept this. He can then do just about everything that he can to hide what is really on for him from both himself and others. One of the ways that he can do this is by more or less always being on the go and being focused on ...
Views: 283 - Emotional Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is likely to have been connected to and expressed their emotional needs when they were a child, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case now that they are an adult. In general, their emotional needs could be a mystery and, naturally, this will stop them from expressing ...
Views: 283 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to having a mental self, someone also has an emotional self. But, while this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be connected to both of these parts of their being. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their emotional self, they might not be aware ...
Views: 283 - Father Wounds: Can Man Have The Need To Be Rescued If His Father Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an adult, it doesn’t mean that he will typically feel strong and capable. Instead, he could typically feel weak and incapable, which is likely to mean that his life will often be too much for him to handle. In general, it could be as though his circumstances are ...
Views: 283 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Abusive If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but loving. When he was with these women, he might have often been verbally put down, emotionally deprived and even physically harmed. Thanks to this, he might not have a strong desire to be in another relationship. ...
Views: 282 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Reject Love If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being in a position where he has wanted to be in an intimate relationship and to be loved for a little while, a man could end up sabotaging the very thing that he has wanted for all this time. Still, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. The ...
Views: 282 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Treated Like An Object By His Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: What Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have In Common With A Spartan Warrior? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOver two thousand years ago, in a place called Sparta, males were trained from a young age to fight. As part of their training, they went through numerous challenges in order for them to be moulded into warriors. It then didn’t matter what any of these males wanted to do with their life as ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Attract Mother-Enmeshed Men If She Has An Underdeveloped Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could be pretty fed up and feel drained. There can be a number of reasons as to why she is this way. First, there will be the fact she is sharing him with his mother, and, second, she is likely to be the one ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can It Be Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Liberate Himself If He Is In Doing Mode? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, comes to see what is going on, he could end up having the need to change his life. Before this takes place, though, he could feel deeply frustrated and totally helpless. However, after a while, assuming that this doesn’t take place ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Unconsciously Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on May 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone doesn’t need to have read a book on psychology let alone be a psychologist to see that, if a man is overly focused on his mother, something is not right. What can be clear is that he is behaving more like his mother’s father or mother than her son. And, as he is this way, his own life ...
Views: 282 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Full Of Self-Doubt? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to believe in themselves. By being this way, it is not going to matter if they are good at something as they won’t be able to accept it. Along with this, if they have made a plan to do ...
Views: 281 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Toxic shame If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to detach from how they experience life, is that they have the tendency to feel low. This can mean that they will often feel depressed and they may even have moments when they think about ending their life. They may find that this is how they have been ...
Views: 281 - Isolation: Can Someone Have The Need To Isolate Themselves If They Had Intrusive Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically need to be by themselves in order to feel settled and at ease. Along with this, this can be when they generally experience a sense of freedom and are able to be themselves. On the other hand, ...
Views: 281 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Attract Abusive Women? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but nurturing. These women may have undermined him in a variety of different ways and made his life a misery. Once his time with one of these women came to an end, it might have taken him a number of months if not ...
Views: 281 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like His Partners Possession? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of a relationship, a man can look forward to spending time with his partner. So, when he is not with her, he can spend a fair amount of time thinking about her and the moments that they have shared and will share in the future. This will be a time when he experiences ...
Views: 281 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Dysfunctional Relationship With Their Sexual Side? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s sexual side, it can be like another food that they have as part of a meal or it can be something that they have late at night. In other words, it can be something that is just part of a relationship that they are in or it can be something that they engage in with ...
Views: 280 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Wait For Another Person To Take Care Of Them If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a child, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like a strong and capable adult. But, if experiencing life in this way is just a normal part of their life, they might not be aware of this. Another part of this is that they might both consciously and unconsciously do ...
Views: 280 - Emasculation: Can A Man Be Emasculated By A Woman? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship with a woman who is undermining him, he could have at least one friend who finds it hard to accept why he doesn’t cut his ties with her. Over the days, weeks and perhaps months that he has been with her, this friend might have had a number of conversations with ...
Views: 280 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Lot Of Hurt If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be out of touch with how he feels and to be in a collapsed physical state. Due to this, he can typically go through the motions in life, not feeling alive or as though his life has much meaning. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, he might not ...
Views: 280 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Anxious Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to act like one. The reason for this is that he might not be able to spend much time by himself. When he is by himself, he could soon feel very uncomfortable and end up doing whatever he can to find ...
Views: 280 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Redefine Himself? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has spent most if not all of his life focusing on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to have a very empowering view of himself. Even so, this doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, why would he be aware of this? How ...
Views: 280 - Power Struggles: Can Someone’s Life Be Full Of Power Struggles If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of having the odd moment when they end up in a situation where another person is trying to cross their boundaries and control them, one could continually end up in this position. For example, they could be in a relationship with someone who is like this and they might work with some ...
Views: 280 - Invisible: Can Someone Feel Invisible If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be seen and they were to share this, another person might find it hard to understand. They could say that they can see them, so there is no way that this could be an issue for them. However, being physically seen is unlikely to be the real issue; what they will ...
Views: 279 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Abandoned If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a man may have been in a relationship that seemed to be going well and then, out of nowhere, it came to an end. As a result of this, he could be in a pretty bad way and find it hard to function. When he is not feeling low and flat, he could be filled with a deep sense of sadness and ...
Views: 279 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Has Rights? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on his mother’s needs and neglects his own, it can be clear to the outsider that something is not right. After all, he will be an individual with his own life to lead; he won’t be here to act as an extension of his mother or anyone ...
Views: 279 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Underdeveloped To Realise That He Is Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on May 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, in order for a man to live a life that is worth living, he will need to do what is right for him. For this to take place, he will need to be in tune with his needs and feelings and allow his inner world to impact his outer world. This is not to say that he won’t be able to be there ...
Views: 279 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Say No To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s yes will only mean something if they also have the ability to say no. The reason for this is if they are unable to say no, they will say yes out of their need to please another person. On the other hand, if they felt comfortable saying no, they would be able to ...
Views: 279 - Self-Pathologizing: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Have Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are finding it hard to handle life, they could believe that there is something inherently wrong with them. They could often see themselves as useless, incapable and even stupid. Unlike perhaps the people in their life, who have it together or at the very ...
Views: 279 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Highly Motivated If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on May 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others. However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being ...
Views: 278 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Get Back Into His Body? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2023 from Oliver JR Cooper Now, although a man can’t leave his body and get into another person’s body, what he can do is mentally leave his body and focus on another person. When this takes place, he won’t have a strong connection with what is going on inside him but he will be aware of what is going on inside ...
Views: 278 - Passive: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Passive? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there is a time to be and a time to do, someone could be in a position where they find it hard to get things done. It could take a lot for them to get moving and when they do move, it could typically be because they have to. For example, if they didn’t have to go to work, they could ...
Views: 278 - Relationships: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Bond With Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it means that they are not their own island. As a result of this, they are not on this earth to do everything by themselves and to always be in their company. Likewise, they are also not here to look towards others to do everything for them and to ...
Views: 278 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First If They Were Brought Up By A Self-Absorbed Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. When someone is in this position, it is likely to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of most of their needs and so they are ...
Views: 277 - Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Disconnected? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s ego allows them to have their own experience on this earth, among other things. Therefore, this part of them causes them to see themselves as separate from everyone and everything. So, while this will allow them to have their own experience, which can be seen ...
Views: 277 - Fight Instinct: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to both survive and thrive, it will be essential for them to have the ability to stand up for themselves and make it clear when something isn’t acceptable. This will allow them to protect their physical, mental and emotional self. There will be moments when they will need ...
Views: 277 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 277 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience Extreme Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he might have had the need to be there for his mother. He may find that this is generally something that he doesn’t have to think about doing as being there for her is something that just happens. But, as time has passed, he might have started to experience ...
Views: 276 - Pedestalization: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Put Others On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to elevate others. As a result of this, seeing another person as more knowing, more powerful and more capable will be normal. They are then going to be at one level and the average ...
Views: 276 - Relationships: Will A Man Commit When He Finds The ‘Right’ Woman? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could believe that, once he finds the right woman, he will settle down. If so, this will mean that he is either not in a relationship, or he is simply having casual encounters. Over the years, he might have dated a number of women; then again, he might have only ...
Views: 276 - Being Seen: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Associate Being Seen With Being Humiliated? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being seen. This might be something that they are not consciously aware of or this might not be the case. If this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they could often feel ignored ...
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