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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Has Rights? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on his mother’s needs and neglects his own, it can be clear to the outsider that something is not right. After all, he will be an individual with his own life to lead; he won’t be here to act as an extension of his mother or anyone ...
Views: 309 - Self-knowledge: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To The Darkness That Is ‘Out There’? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world. If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of ...
Views: 309 - Survival: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel As Though Their Survival Is Constantly Under Threat? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can live a life where they often feel as though they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if they are not aware of this, they are still likely to suffer. What can be normal is for them to experience a lot of anxiety and ...
Views: 309 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel Ashamed Of Their Body If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s body is part of them and is, therefore, not something that they can get rid of, it doesn’t mean that they have embraced it. As a result of this, they may overlook this part of them or they could do just about everything that they can to change it. What this will illustrate ...
Views: 308 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Oppressive Environment? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may see that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. As a result, they are going to spend a lot of time in a disconnected state. Not being in tune with this part of them is going to undermine them. This is ...
Views: 308 - Depression: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Depressed As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperUp until recently, someone may have typically been full of life and taken life by the horns, to so speak. But, after something has taken place, they could have very little if any energy and have just about lost all their drive to do anything. As a result of this, if they were to reach out for ...
Views: 308 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Disconnected From Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man can be out of touch with how he feels and a number of his needs. He is then going to look like a whole human being, but he typically won’t operate like one. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for him to ignore how he feels and overlook a number of his needs. But, ...
Views: 308 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Need To Be With A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man might be out of touch with his need to be with a woman. Thus, he won’t be aware of his need for emotional closeness and support, affection, or sex. This can mean that he will spend a lot of time in his head and very little time in his body. The reason for this is that these ...
Views: 308 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Reject Love If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being in a position where he has wanted to be in an intimate relationship and to be loved for a little while, a man could end up sabotaging the very thing that he has wanted for all this time. Still, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. The ...
Views: 308 - Psychic Protection: Does Someone Need To Protect Themselves From ‘Negative’ Energy? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous articles, videos and books available that go into how important it is for someone to protect themselves from ‘negative’ energy. Furthermore, there is a lot of information that goes into how this can be done. When someone does this, they will create a strong energetic ...
Views: 308 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Being Able To Inhabit Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to freely express themselves, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. So, if they don’t feel safe, they are likely to have the need to hide who they are and please others. In this case, their attention won’t be on what is taking place inside and outside of ...
Views: 308 - True Self: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have the tendency to ignore their feelings and a number of their needs. Due to this, they are typically going to act as though they are an extension of others as opposed to a separate human ...
Views: 308 - Being Seen: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Associate Being Seen With Being Humiliated? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being seen. This might be something that they are not consciously aware of or this might not be the case. If this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they could often feel ignored ...
Views: 307 - Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Deprive Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like it. When it comes to how they live, it could be as though they only have a few needs. There will be their survival needs and then there can be the other needs that they take care of. When it comes ...
Views: 307 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Falling Apart If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone typically comes across, they can appear to be a together human being. However, beyond the impression that they create can be someone who doesn’t have firm foundations. Thanks to how they live their life, though this could be something that they are not fully aware of. ...
Views: 307 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Continually Cheated On? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA few days, weeks or months ago, someone may have been in a relationship with someone who they loved. But, after finding out that this person cheated on them, they might have soon decided that it was best for them to cut their ties with them. Then again, they might have found out that this ...
Views: 307 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Struggle With Jealousy If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may come to see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to feel jealous. But, this might not be something that they experience from time to time; no, it could be something that is a regular occurrence. Consequently, when they ...
Views: 307 - Inner Security: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel all at sea internally or to be in a shut down state and unable to feel anything. Experiencing life in this way is likely to make it hard for them to appreciate their time on this planet. Due to how unstable they often feel, then, their need to feel ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Focus On A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Avoid Herself? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could have spent a fair amount of time trying to understand why he is the way that he is. This could be something that has been going on for a number of weeks, months or even years. Throughout this ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother Enmeshed-Man Abandoned Himself? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the tendency to be there for his mother, it is going to mean that he will also have the tendency to overlook a number of his own needs. Quite simply, it is not going to be possible for him to be there for both his mother and himself. So, when he is not at work, assuming that he ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Being Selfish If She Leaves A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is unable to be there for her. This can be because he is too focused on taking care of his mother’s needs and doesn’t have much time or energy left for anyone else. As a result, this is not going to be a relationship that is having ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Woman Be Able To Accept That She Doesn’t Randomly End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperTo have been with one man who was overly focused on his mother would have been a lot to deal with, and, therefore, if a woman has been with a number of men who were like this, it is not going to be a surprise if she is well and truly fed up. For however long, she will have wanted to be with a ...
Views: 307 - Struggle: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Struggle? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that just about every area of their life is one big battle. Due to this, they will be used to putting in a lot of effort while getting very little in return. If there is a plus to the life that they lead, it could ...
Views: 307 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Consciously Choose To Harm Their Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can believe, if they were mistreated during their early years, is that their parent or parents did this on purpose. They then did what they could to undermine their child as opposed to doing what they could to build them up. Assuming that it was one parent who did this; they ...
Views: 306 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have Strong Need To Be Successful If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is ...
Views: 306 - Self-Expression: Can Someone Have A Fear Expressing Themselves If They Were Abandoned As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of acting like an individual, it can be normal for someone to typically act like they are an extension of others. Therefore, when it comes to how they behave, it can all depend on who they are with. Consequently, they are rarely going to freely express themselves and this is likely to ...
Views: 306 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Insecure To Take Responsibility For How They Behaved? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to speak to the parent or parents who harmed them. But, if they have this need and take the next step, it doesn’t mean that they will get very far. Assuming it was one parent who ...
Views: 305 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Own Repressed Darkness? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, the general view is that the citizenry is being victimised by those at the top. For some, this relates to the government and for others, this relates to those that live in the shadows. If, then, it wasn’t for what these people have done and are doing, the world would be a ...
Views: 305 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Father Was Treated Badly During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he could find that he doesn’t have a very empowering view. He could find that he sees himself as someone who doesn’t have any value. What could then stand out is how this view is having a negative impact on his ability to ...
Views: 305 - Father Wounds: Can A Mother Use Her Sons Father To Emasculate Him? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in touch with his power, he will be able to be assertive, take action, and to stand up for himself. This will show that he has a strong connection with his body as this is where his power will be found. Of course, his mind will provide him with a certain level of power but the ...
Views: 305 - Loss: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle Loss? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has experienced a breakup, lost a loved one, or had a pet pass on, for instance, they could end up embracing how they feel and allowing themselves to grieve. This is then likely to be a time when they won’t behave as they usually would. So, they might no longer have the desire ...
Views: 305 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Both Idolised And Demonised During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, someone generally needed to be treated as though they deserved to exist and were valuable and lovable, among other things. If this is what took place, now that they are an adult, there is a strong chance that they will have developed a strong sense of self and be able to feel good ...
Views: 304 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Create A Disembodied Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on May 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a human being, it means that they will have a head and a body. And, on the inside, they will have and thoughts, feelings and instincts. However, although there are these two parts of them or seemingly two parts of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of ...
Views: 304 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Someone Be Unaffected By Experiences If They Are Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they will have had many different experiences since they were a child. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will feel a lot different. However, if they are not in tune with how they feel, this is not going to be something that will stand ...
Views: 304 - Fear Of Abandonment: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a fear of being left, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, this can still be a fear that will have a massive impact on their life. So, from outside of their couscous awareness, this fear is likely to define how they generally behave. ...
Views: 304 - Mother Enmeshed Man: Why Would a Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs and feelings is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with them. As a result of this, it could be normal for him to overlook them. There can be moments when this is something that he is aware of and moments when this is something ...
Views: 304 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man has the desire to connect with and develop a deeper connection with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to achieve this aim. So, if he has been able to connect with at least one woman, he might not have been able to take things further. Then again, he might not have ...
Views: 304 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Possess A Woman If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman could feel as though he is too much for her to handle. This is because she could feel controlled and as if her ability to freely express herself has been taken away. However, there is a strong chance that she didn’t feel this way in the ...
Views: 304 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Disconnect From His Need To Break Away? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man behaves as though he is an extension of his mother, is that he hasn’t separated from her. He will then be an adult, but based on how he behaves, it will be as if he is still a dependent child. However, there is a chance that he is not even aware of the fact that ...
Views: 304 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Suppress Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to ignore their own needs. In fact, they could find that, in general, they are not even aware of their needs. Apart from their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 304 - Repression: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Accept They Are Carrying Repressed Pain If They Are In A Repressed State? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that could cause someone to reach out for support is if they suffer from anxiety and/or often feel low. They could soon read or be told, depending on what approach they take, is that they need to look into and change what is taking place in their mind. What is going on up top, so to ...
Views: 304 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman’s Unmet Development Needs Stop Her From Being Able To See A Man Clearly? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman meets a man who she is attracted to and takes things further with him, she is likely to have a positive view of him. For example, she can see him as a man who is loving, kind, and protective. Due to this, when she thinks about him and is with him, she can feel loved, valued, ...
Views: 303 - Happiness: Is It Right For Someone To Be Happy When There Is So Much Suffering In The World? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is taking place in the Middle East and Ukraine, someone can often feel down and depressed. Due to this, they might not do a number of the things that they used to do before. Quiet simply, they won’t have the desire or the energy to do a great deal. Apart from going to ...
Views: 303 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Be Perfect To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, someone can believe that they will only be loved if they are perfect. Naturally, if they are in this position, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to be loved by others. At the same time, they can be loved by others, but, thanks to what is going on inside them, they ...
Views: 303 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Could A Mother-Enmeshed Man Live His Own Life If His Mother Wanted Him To? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, it can seem as though a mother enmeshed man just needs to stop focusing on his mother’s life and to focus on his own. By doing this, he will be able to slowly transform his life and live a life that is worth living. With this in mind, it will be up to him to draw the line ...
Views: 303 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That His Needs Are A Burden If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with all of his needs. So, when it comes to his basic needs, such as his need to eat and sleep, he could be fine. But, when it comes to his emotional needs, such as his need to be seen and ...
Views: 303 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have Sex To Try To Be Loved If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperA man could be in a position where he is only interested in having sex with women. What this then means is that he won’t be interested in having a relationship with a woman. And, if he ever dates a woman, most of the time that he spends with her could involve him having sex. When this doesn’t ...
Views: 303 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Parents? - by Submitted on May 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be clear that something is not right if a man is focused on his mother and is not there for himself. He will be a separate human being, who has his own needs and life to lead, and yet, he won’t act like one. Thus, he will have put his own life to one side and his main ...
Views: 303 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry Narcissistic Wounds? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, someone may have spent a fair amount of time around people who always wanted to be the centre of attention, to always be admired, had a strong sense of entitlement and were self-centred, for instance. Unlike these people, they could come across in a very different way. So, ...
Views: 302 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Sexualise Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the stage where they can see that they are typically only appreciated for their looks, they could end up coming to see that this is largely due to how they present themselves. Although they will have many different sides to them, they might have primarily focused on one ...
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