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- Early Deprivation: Does Someone Engage In Repetition Compulsion To Avoid Their Emotional Truth? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they continually end up in situations where they feel unloved, unwanted and even invisible. Now, this could mean that they have had a number of relationships that have been anything but fulfilling. But, ...
Views: 244 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Woman Be Able To Accept That She Doesn’t Randomly End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperTo have been with one man who was overly focused on his mother would have been a lot to deal with, and, therefore, if a woman has been with a number of men who were like this, it is not going to be a surprise if she is well and truly fed up. For however long, she will have wanted to be with a ...
Views: 244 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That His Needs Are A Burden If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with all of his needs. So, when it comes to his basic needs, such as his need to eat and sleep, he could be fine. But, when it comes to his emotional needs, such as his need to be seen and ...
Views: 243 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Their Head If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can live in a building that has many levels and spend most of their time on the top floor, they can also inhabit a body and spend most of their time up top. As a result of this, they will generally be unaware of what is taking place in their body. The outcome of ...
Views: 242 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Treat Themselves Like An Object If Their Parents Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being that has a number of needs, feelings and inherent value, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could treat themselves like they are nothing more than an object that only has a few basic needs, no feelings and no value and purely exists to ...
Views: 242 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Possess A Woman If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman could feel as though he is too much for her to handle. This is because she could feel controlled and as if her ability to freely express herself has been taken away. However, there is a strong chance that she didn’t feel this way in the ...
Views: 242 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Accept That He Is Overly Focused on His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and very little time doing things for himself, this might be something that he is aware of. Being this way will allow him to do what he needs to do to gradually change his life. This might have been something ...
Views: 242 - Personal Power: Can A Man Reject His Power If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be walked over by others and to do what other people want. He is then not going to stand up for himself and he will act as though he is an extension of others. As a result of this, he is likely to often be in a very low place and experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 242 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay In The Background If They Had A Verbally Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch a film, they might soon find that there is the main actor and then there are a number of supporting actors. Once the film has come to an end, what may stand out, if they were to reflect on their own life, is that they have a lot in common with a supporting actor. The ...
Views: 241 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Falling Apart If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone typically comes across, they can appear to be a together human being. However, beyond the impression that they create can be someone who doesn’t have firm foundations. Thanks to how they live their life, though this could be something that they are not fully aware of. ...
Views: 241 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes that they are unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, it is still going to have a big impact on their life. So, a lot of their time and energy could be spent doing things to make ...
Views: 241 - Emotional Problems: Can A Man Feel Isolated If He Has Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will end up reaching out for the support that he needs. He might not even share what is going on for him with his friends or family, for instance. As a result of this, he could have a number of people in his life that would be happy to ...
Views: 241 - Inner Critic: Can Someone Have A Critical Inner Voice If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to record how they talk to themselves and then play it back through speakers, they could find that they are typically not very kind to themselves. By having externalised what is going on for them internally, it will have been easier for them to see what is going ...
Views: 241 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Being Able To Inhabit Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to freely express themselves, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. So, if they don’t feel safe, they are likely to have the need to hide who they are and please others. In this case, their attention won’t be on what is taking place inside and outside of ...
Views: 241 - Child Abuse: Did A Highly Critical Parent Externalise Their Inner Critic? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it ...
Views: 240 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Passive? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t take care of his needs. Furthermore, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t stand up to his mother and make it clear that he is not responsible for her. Therefore, ...
Views: 240 - Self-Assertion: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Need To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it will be essential for them to be able to assert themselves. This will allow them to make it clear when something is not right for them and thus, protect themselves and their well-being and do the things that are right for ...
Views: 240 - Enmeshed Family: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate being that has their own needs and feelings, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are merely an extension of others. They are then going to be focused on other people’s needs. Due to how caught up they are in other people’s lives, they ...
Views: 239 - Existence: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to sit with themselves and was able to connect with how they really feel, what they may soon find is that they don’t feel as though they deserve to exist. As opposed to being worthy of being here, then, they will feel like an intruder. After this, they could look into why this ...
Views: 239 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is It A Good Idea For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Stay Single? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he was in a relationship and this relationship largely came to an end because he was too focused on his mother, he could now be looking into what he can do to change his life. This relationship may have finished a few weeks ago or might have ended a number of ...
Views: 239 - Belief: Does A Man Need To Be Discerning When It Comes To What He Believes About Women? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are numerous books that go into what women are like and the truth about female nature. If, then, a man wants to understand women, he won’t find that there is a shortage of information on this topic. Yet, if he has this need, he doesn’t need to read a book, as he will be able ...
Views: 238 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Blame Their Child For What Their Abusive Parent Did To Them? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could struggle to get their head around, if they were abused as a child, is why their parent treated them in this way. The person who was supposed to love and cherish them wouldn’t have done so. If they had been harmed by someone at school or a stranger, for instance, it would ...
Views: 238 - Early Deprivation: Is Feeling Depressed Part Of Healing From Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is depressed, it is often seen as a sign that they are not in a good way. As a result of this, they can end up going on medication or be encouraged to develop a number of goals. If the former takes place, they might not end up feeling great but they might be able ...
Views: 238 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Had An Emotionally Underdeveloped Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they have it together and are living a fulfilling life. Instead, their life could be one big struggle and they could be well and truly fed up. But, if this is just what is normal, what is going on for them might not stand out. As a result ...
Views: 238 - Relationships: Can Relationships Take On A Symbolic Meaning If Someone Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on the relationships that they have been in, they could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. As opposed to this being a time when they will feel good, then, it will be a time when they feel bad. Then again, they might be able to remember some good ...
Views: 238 - Relationships: Does A Lot Of Relationship Advice Encourage People To See Themselves As Powerless Victims? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if someone is having relationship problems, it is not going to be difficult for them to find information that goes into why this is and what they can do about it. After a basic search online, there will be thousands of videos and articles that will provide them with a lot of ...
Views: 238 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Struggle With Jealousy If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may come to see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to feel jealous. But, this might not be something that they experience from time to time; no, it could be something that is a regular occurrence. Consequently, when they ...
Views: 237 - Mental Strength: Can Repressed Pain Undermine Someone’s Mental Strength? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, a lot is often said about having the ‘right mindset’ and being mentally strong. By having the right mindset and being mentally strong, someone will be more likely to achieve their goals and handle the challenges that come their way. Naturally, if someone sees themselves and the ...
Views: 237 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Disconnect From His Need To Break Away? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man behaves as though he is an extension of his mother, is that he hasn’t separated from her. He will then be an adult, but based on how he behaves, it will be as if he is still a dependent child. However, there is a chance that he is not even aware of the fact that ...
Views: 237 - Self-Punishment: Is Kayce From Yellowstone Punishing Himself? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the article that I wrote about Yellowstone titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I briefly spoke about John’s youngest son, Kayce. I said that he was a loose cannon, and, in addition to the drama in his life, he was inches away from being killed or ending up ...
Views: 237 - True Self: Can Someone Associate Self-Expression With Being Isolated If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. As a result of this, it will be normal for them to please others and to ignore their own needs. But, if this is just what ...
Views: 237 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Focus On A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Avoid Herself? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could have spent a fair amount of time trying to understand why he is the way that he is. This could be something that has been going on for a number of weeks, months or even years. Throughout this ...
Views: 236 - Repressed Pain: Can Someone Feel Like They Have Regressed When They Reconnect To Their Repressed Pain? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was greatly deprived during their formative years, they are likely to be carrying a lot of pain and a number of unmet developmental needs. This is, of course, assuming that they haven’t started to work through any of this pain. The reason for this is that missing out on the love ...
Views: 236 - True Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need To Express Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone typically behaves, it can be as though they are wearing a straight jacket and don’t have a voice. The reason for this is that it can be normal for them to go along with what others want and not to speak up when they need to. They are then going to be an individual, who ...
Views: 236 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal As An Adult? - by Submitted on May 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. And, if they were to take a step back and relax, they could soon end up feeling tense and agitated. Thus, even if they were told that they need to slow down by a friend or a family ...
Views: 235 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Sexualise Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the stage where they can see that they are typically only appreciated for their looks, they could end up coming to see that this is largely due to how they present themselves. Although they will have many different sides to them, they might have primarily focused on one ...
Views: 235 - Emasculation: Has Jamie From Yellowstone Been Emasculated? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSo, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how ...
Views: 235 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man has the desire to connect with and develop a deeper connection with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to achieve this aim. So, if he has been able to connect with at least one woman, he might not have been able to take things further. Then again, he might not have ...
Views: 235 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man fears women, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. If so, being this way will have a big impact on his life but he won’t realise what is going on. But, while he won’t be aware of this, a friend or family member, for instance, could be aware of this. It might ...
Views: 235 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Oppressive Environment? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may see that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. As a result, they are going to spend a lot of time in a disconnected state. Not being in tune with this part of them is going to undermine them. This is ...
Views: 234 - Early Deprivation: Is Self-Hate Passed Down From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they find it hard to feel good about themselves. What could stand out, if they were to take a closer look at how they feel during these moments, is that they feel worthless, unlovable and deeply ...
Views: 234 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Feel Emotionally Empty If He Is Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to experience a breakup, he might end up feeling very low and as though he is missing something. Due to this, it might not be long until he is having casual encounters with one or a number of women. Then again, and even if he was to have casual encounters with one woman, he might ...
Views: 234 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Look Towards A Woman To Rescue Him? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, he can act as if he is merely an extension of his mother. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his life won’t be very fulfilling. However, this can just be what is normal, which means that he might not be aware of ...
Views: 234 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Rage If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years, they are likely to carry a lot of anger, rage, and hate. These feelings will be a natural consequence of having been violated throughout this stage of their life. However, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of ...
Views: 233 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Enough For A Woman If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t believe that he is enough for a woman. As a result of this, he might not have ever been in a relationship and, if he has, it might not have lasted for very long. However, even if he is aware of this, it ...
Views: 233 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Guilty For Being Happy If He Grew Up With A Depressed Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he finds it hard to experience both ‘positive’ feelings and good things for very long. Therefore, whenever he has felt good, it might not have been long before his mood changed. And, whenever an area of life is going ...
Views: 233 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have Sex To Try To Be Loved If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperA man could be in a position where he is only interested in having sex with women. What this then means is that he won’t be interested in having a relationship with a woman. And, if he ever dates a woman, most of the time that he spends with her could involve him having sex. When this doesn’t ...
Views: 233 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Who Has It All Together End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on May 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a good position in life and she has been with a number of men who are overly focused on their mother, she can be well and truly fed up. But, as she will be a woman who has continually ended up with men that are more like boys, this is to be expected. This area of her life is ...
Views: 233 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay Small If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will freely express themselves. In general, they could be in the background and even spend a lot of time vicariously living their life through others. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they ...
Views: 232 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For A Mother Figure If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man’s childhood is well and truly behind him, it doesn’t mean that every part of him has moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be frozen in time and still trying to receive what was not provided all those years ago. Assuming that this is the case, this ...
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