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- True Self: Can Someone Associate Self-Expression With Being Isolated If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. As a result of this, it will be normal for them to please others and to ignore their own needs. But, if this is just what ...
Views: 227 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Rage If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years, they are likely to carry a lot of anger, rage, and hate. These feelings will be a natural consequence of having been violated throughout this stage of their life. However, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of ...
Views: 226 - Early Deprivation: Is Self-Hate Passed Down From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they find it hard to feel good about themselves. What could stand out, if they were to take a closer look at how they feel during these moments, is that they feel worthless, unlovable and deeply ...
Views: 226 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Become His Mothers Enabler? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the love that he needed to grow and develop in the right way during his formative years, it is not going to be a surprise if he behaves like an extension of his mother now that he is an adult. He will no longer be a powerless and dependent child, but, as he was deprived, ...
Views: 226 - Early Attachment: What Can Happen If Someone Was Unable To Attach To Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone was born, it simply wasn’t possible for them to break away from their mother after a number of weeks had passed and to live their own life. Unlike a rabbit, for instance, they needed to be able to attach to their mother, receive the right attunement and love and gradually develop a ...
Views: 225 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Developmental Years? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a valuable human being, who has the right to say no and live their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Consequently, they can be accustomed to being treated badly and putting up with things that don’t serve them, saying yes to ...
Views: 225 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To See Human Contact As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it is going to mean that it is important for them to experience human contact. This is something that will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Nonetheless, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will experience a great deal of ...
Views: 225 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Darkness If They Have The Need To Be Positive All The Time? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to self-development, a lot is often said about the importance of being positive. The impact that this will have on how someone feels, their relationships and their ability to attain what they desire is typically mentioned. With this in mind, if someone is into self-development, ...
Views: 225 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can It Be Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man When His Father Passes On? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is caught up in his mother’s world, he might not be the only one in this position as his father could also be in the same position. Assuming that this is so, there will be what he does for his mother and what his father does for her. Based on this, the weight of his mother’s life is ...
Views: 225 - Attunement: Is Attunement A Key Part Of What Will Allow Someone To Heal From Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was brought up by at least one parent who was emotionally unavailable and lacked the ability to attune to their needs and feelings, they can be in a bad way now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have been born with a fully developed sense of self; they ...
Views: 224 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Insecure To Take Responsibility For How They Behaved? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to speak to the parent or parents who harmed them. But, if they have this need and take the next step, it doesn’t mean that they will get very far. Assuming it was one parent who ...
Views: 224 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother Enmeshed-Man Abandoned Himself? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the tendency to be there for his mother, it is going to mean that he will also have the tendency to overlook a number of his own needs. Quite simply, it is not going to be possible for him to be there for both his mother and himself. So, when he is not at work, assuming that he ...
Views: 224 - Past Life: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Caught Up In Their Past Lives? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, someone may have been looking into the different past lives that they have had. They might resonate with one life more than the others or they could feel equally connected to all of them. Furthermore, in each life that they have been able to remember, they might have ...
Views: 224 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Abandonment If Their Parents’ Had An Unstable Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might end up standing out is that they have a strong fear of being left. So, they can believe that their friends are going to leave them and perhaps their partner, if they have one. By being this way, they could see that they ...
Views: 223 - Learned Helplessness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. So, just about every area of it might not be going how they would like it to go. Now, this might be something that has been at the back of their mind for quite ...
Views: 223 - Mother Wounds: Can A Fear Of Abandonment Cause A Man To Be A ‘Nice Guy’ Around Women? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around a woman, he could typically lose himself. In other words, he won’t be in touch with and express his true self; no, he will end up putting on an act. As a result of this, he can be easy-going, needless and have a strong need to please. By being this way, it is likely to be ...
Views: 223 - Embodied Awareness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose The Ability To Experience Embodied Awareness? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a mental, emotional and physical self, they might typically only be aware of the thoughts that are in their head. In fact, they might even see themselves as a being that is purely mental. This is going to mean that they won’t have a good connection with their body. By ...
Views: 222 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman’s Unmet Development Needs Stop Her From Being Able To See A Man Clearly? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman meets a man who she is attracted to and takes things further with him, she is likely to have a positive view of him. For example, she can see him as a man who is loving, kind, and protective. Due to this, when she thinks about him and is with him, she can feel loved, valued, ...
Views: 222 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Empty If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to connect with how he feels, he could find that he feels as though he is missing something. It is then going to be as if there is a hole inside him that needs to be filled. And, if he were to go deeper into this inner emptiness, he could come into contact with a lot of pain. He ...
Views: 222 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Meet Their ‘Shadow?’ - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has met another person who they are attracted to and is getting to know them, they can have only good things to say about them. Not only this, but they can want to spend a lot of time with them. If they take the next step and end up in a relationship with them, they can end up ...
Views: 222 - Early Deprivation: Can It Be Like Waking Up From A Coma When Someone Reconnects To Their Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, in their unconscious mind, someone can carry numerous unmet developmental needs. But, because they are outside of their conscious awareness, this won’t be something that they are aware of. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that these needs will lie dormant and ...
Views: 221 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Explore Her Unconscious Mind If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were too focused on their mothers. There is even the chance that she is currently with a man who is like this. Assuming that she is currently single and not with a man who is like this, she could be well and truly fed up when it ...
Views: 221 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wasn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father There For Him? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself in the process, he could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. Nonetheless, as his life is not going to be very fulfilling, it is to be expected that he would feel this way. Along with this, ...
Views: 221 - Boundaries: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual, with their own needs and feelings, it is not going to be possible for them to always say yes and to do what another person wants or suggests. If they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. However, while they will need to say no at ...
Views: 220 - Enmeshed Family: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Grew Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter feeling pretty exhausted and no longer having the energy to behave as they normally would, someone could think about how they find it hard to say no. What can be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things that they would rather not do. They are then going to be like an ...
Views: 220 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Being Selfish If She Leaves A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is unable to be there for her. This can be because he is too focused on taking care of his mother’s needs and doesn’t have much time or energy left for anyone else. As a result, this is not going to be a relationship that is having ...
Views: 220 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Selfish For Putting Himself First? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be there for himself and take care of his own needs. By being this way, he will be able to live a life that is worth living. However, while putting himself first should be normal, this could be something that rarely takes place. Instead, he can typically ...
Views: 220 - Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have An Open Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there is less pressure on people to have a traditional relationship and even to get married. Thanks to this, people have far more freedom to express themselves and experience something that is actually right for them. So, for a while now, casual encounters have been an option, and, ...
Views: 220 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was mistreated by his father during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. The reason for this is that his brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. But, if he was able to remember some of the things that took place, he still might ...
Views: 219 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For A Father Figure If His Father Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man’s childhood will be behind him, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be anchored to this stage of his life. The reason for this is that this might have been a time when he missed out on what he needed from his father ...
Views: 219 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Be Perfect To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, someone can believe that they will only be loved if they are perfect. Naturally, if they are in this position, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to be loved by others. At the same time, they can be loved by others, but, thanks to what is going on inside them, they ...
Views: 219 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Enough For A Woman If He Had A Critical Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves, he could find that he spends a lot of time doing things so that he can be enough. He could find that this doesn’t relate to being enough in general, it relates to being enough for a woman. He could then spend a lot of time trying ...
Views: 219 - Self-Expression: Can Someone Have A Fear Expressing Themselves If They Were Abandoned As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of acting like an individual, it can be normal for someone to typically act like they are an extension of others. Therefore, when it comes to how they behave, it can all depend on who they are with. Consequently, they are rarely going to freely express themselves and this is likely to ...
Views: 219 - Disconnected: Can Someone Only Listen To Their Needs When They Are Ill If They Are In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has needs that they need to pay attention to in order to live a fulfilling life, they can overlook a number of their needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of a number of their needs. Therefore, they won’t be consciously choosing to be this way; it will just be what is ...
Views: 218 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Make Someone An Easy Target For ‘Love Bombing’? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have been with a number of people who more or less showered them with love, practically as soon as they met them, and then, before long, they changed. It would then have been as though they were the centre of ...
Views: 218 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Someone Be Unaffected By Experiences If They Are Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they will have had many different experiences since they were a child. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will feel a lot different. However, if they are not in tune with how they feel, this is not going to be something that will stand ...
Views: 218 - Feelings: Can Someone Believe That Their Feelings Are Not Important If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving feelings is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will have a good relationship with their own. What can be normal is for them to be out of touch with how they feel. This part of them is there to provide them with guidance. Consequently, they are typically not ...
Views: 218 - Critical Thinking: Is What Is Taking Place In The World A Reflection Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, there were lockdowns in place that prevented millions of people from being able to carry on as normal. The main purpose of these lockdowns was said to have been to try to stop the virus from spreading. Since then, there has been a war between Russia and Ukraine. And, to go ...
Views: 217 - Grieving: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Being Able To Embrace Life? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperExperiencing loss is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will grieve after they have experienced a loss. As a result of this, they can do their best to carry on as normal. Still, this is not to say that they will consciously avoid how they feel as this can be ...
Views: 217 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Use Him To Meet Some Her Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly focused on his mother and is not there for himself, it will be clear that something is not right. This is based on the fact that he is not on this earth to be an extension of anyone else – he is here to live his own life. So, as this is not taking ...
Views: 217 - Struggle: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Struggle? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that just about every area of their life is one big battle. Due to this, they will be used to putting in a lot of effort while getting very little in return. If there is a plus to the life that they lead, it could ...
Views: 217 - True Self: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have the tendency to ignore their feelings and a number of their needs. Due to this, they are typically going to act as though they are an extension of others as opposed to a separate human ...
Views: 217 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Women Are A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man wants to develop a loving and harmonious relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to make much progress. He could be in a position where he hasn’t been able to find a woman who is suitable. Alternatively, he might have dated at least one woman but for ...
Views: 216 - Needs: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is typically a challenge for them to not only listen to their needs but to also fulfil them. In general, they could overlook them and go along with what another person wants and/or what they think they want. They could find that this is something that just ...
Views: 216 - Existence: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Existing? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, they can feel as though they don’t deserve to be here. If this is so, it won’t be seen as something that they merely believe; it will be seen as the truth. It ...
Views: 215 - False Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Hide Themselves To Survive? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on how they typically experience life, what may soon stand out is that they automatically hide a number of their needs and feelings. As a result of this, what is really going on for them is going to be covered up. This is going to mean that they ...
Views: 215 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Understand The Law Of Resonance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been in a number of relationships where the man was overly focused on his mother’s needs, she could be ready to turn her back on this area of her life. She might believe that it is better for her to stay single. She is simply not going to want to be with another man who is like ...
Views: 215 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Sensitive Side If He Was Abused During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man typically comes across, it can be as if he only has a masculine aspect. In other words, he can come across as emotionless, hard and as though nothing fazes him. And, if he was to come across a man who is emotionally expressive and sensitive, he could criticise him. This ...
Views: 214 - Happiness: Is It Right For Someone To Be Happy When There Is So Much Suffering In The World? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is taking place in the Middle East and Ukraine, someone can often feel down and depressed. Due to this, they might not do a number of the things that they used to do before. Quiet simply, they won’t have the desire or the energy to do a great deal. Apart from going to ...
Views: 214 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Disconnected From Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man can be out of touch with how he feels and a number of his needs. He is then going to look like a whole human being, but he typically won’t operate like one. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for him to ignore how he feels and overlook a number of his needs. But, ...
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