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- Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Have The Right Vibration If They Want To Experience Something? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance. Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need ...
Views: 393 - Mental Health: Is It A Good Thing That Lady Gaga And Prince William Are Talking About Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, Lady Gaga and Prince William had a conversation about mental health. This was a time when the former spoke about her own challenges and the latter spoke about how important it is for people to open up, amongst other things. A Mixed Response And as these two people are ...
Views: 1295 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 345 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 16 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Seeing His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact. He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ...
Views: 58 - No One Will Listen To You! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had a number of mentors, and one mentor that has had a big effect on me is one that I met at a charity event in 2003. This person was offering readings there and it turned out that this was not the only thing she did. If I remember rightly, my mother and sister had a ...
Views: 1048 - Online Dating: Should Someone Take It Personally If Another Person Goes Silent On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they wanted to start a new relationship, they might decide to join an online dating side. This could be seen as the best way for them to find someone to be with. No Shame In the past, online dating was frowned upon, and this was partly because it was ...
Views: 1244 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 15 - People Pleasing: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they have the need to please others. What this will show is that they are aware of what is wrong and this is then why they have been able to take the next step. One Step Behind Yet, if one hasn’t reached this ...
Views: 1061 - Relationships: Can A Man Have A Healthy Relationship With A Woman If She Has A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to meet a woman who he had a good connection with, he might want to take things further. So, in the upcoming weeks and months, he could take the time to get to know her better. A Better Understanding Through taking this approach, it will give him the opportunity to see if ...
Views: 1457 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Believe That Their Partner Will Leave Them? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, there is no guarantee that it will last for a certain amount of time. It could last for a few months, a few years, or it could come to an end when their life comes to an end. Two Sides Now, this is not to say that this is something that is completely ...
Views: 1095 - Relationships: Do Some People Use The Law Of Attraction To Shame Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the chance that if someone is in to self-development, it is because of the law of attraction. Through finding out about this so-called law, it would then have meant that this ended up being an important part of their life. One thing leads To Another It is then the same as how ...
Views: 1429 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to connect with others, and then there are others who are unable to do so. When one can do this, there is a strong chance that they are going to be used to having people in their life that they are close to. One on side this could mean that they will have ...
Views: 1243 - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Attracts Controlling Men? - by Submitted on May 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can have the desire to be with a certain type of man, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. There is then the chance that the kind of guy she ends with is completely different to the one she had in mind. Not a Problem Nevertheless, she could find that this is ...
Views: 1233 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Be In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to start a new relationship, they might think about where they can find someone to be with. Alternatively, they could simply join an online dating site and see what happens there. There could also be moments when one goes out in the evening to different places, and there might ...
Views: 1076 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Someone Is No Longer Willing To Put Up With Other People's Projections? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people have the tendency to take responsibility for what takes place within them, there are others who don’t. Due to this, it can be normal for someone to believe that what is taking place externally has nothing to do with what is going on internally. It is then going to be ...
Views: 1439 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Two People Put On An Act During The Start Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together for the first time, it will give them the chance to see how they get on. This will also give them the opportunity to find out about each other, to see what their values are, and what they hope to achieve it the future, for instance. The First Step What happens ...
Views: 1192 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act As Though They Are An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won’t believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals. It will be as though other people have nothing going ...
Views: 827 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Fix Others When They Open Up? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the best thing that someone can do for another person, when they are going through a challenging time, is to simply be there for them. So, when one is in the other person’s presence, it will be vital for them to be completely present. No Agenda This means that one is ...
Views: 1417 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf woman was to focus on an area of her life that is not working, she may begin to think about how she is unable to find a man who is available. This could be how her life has been for a short while, or it may have been this was for as long as she can remember. There is Hope When she can ...
Views: 1251 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Relax When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to have a very busy life, and this can stop them from being able to just be. During the week, there is likely be the amount of time that they are at work each day and, once they get home, they may have other things to do. Another Job This ...
Views: 1078 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Attach Their Value To What They Do? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to observer how the people around them behave, they may find that a lot of them have something in common. What could stand out is how so many people are always doing something. Always On the Go And even if these people were to go on holiday or to take some time off work, it ...
Views: 1029 - Self-Worth: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Sensitive When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one behaves in a way that is seen as being socially acceptable, it can be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. But before they were even old enough to go out into the world by themselves, there would have been how they were treated by their caregiver/s. An Extrovert ...
Views: 1031 - Self-Worth: It Is Harder For Someone To Make Mistakes When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get something wrong, they may find that this is not something that will end up derailing them. They might need a little while to pull themselves together, so to speak, but that will be as far as it will go. Going Back And, if they were to look back on how they have been ...
Views: 951 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Good Enough? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one believes that they are not good enough, it can set them to live a life that is not very fulfilling. For one thing, this can stop them from taking the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. A Half-Life One is not going to view themselves in a positive light, and this ...
Views: 1136 - Social Justice Warriors: Are Social Justice Warriors Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world and/or if they use social media, they may be familiar with the term ‘social justice warrior’ or SJW for short. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is someone who is trying to make a difference in the ...
Views: 1131 - Social Media: Does Social Media Give Some Women A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why people use social media, and it could be said that one of the mains reasons is for them to talk to their friends. This is something that a lot of people are going to come out with. In addition to this, there are likely to be people who primarily use it ...
Views: 1136 - Success: Do Some People Only Do Things To Impress Others? - by Submitted on May 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about something in their life that they have been doing for a little while, they may find that it doesn’t take much effort for them to understand why they do it. This could be a time when one will think about their job, for instance. Two Reasons One may come to see ...
Views: 1144 - Terrorism: What Do Some Western Countries Have In Common With Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what is taking place in the Middle East, what is clear is that a lot of people are suffering. The only thing that someone needs to do to realise this is to pick up a paper or to go online, for instance. Carnage During this time, they might see that there are certain areas ...
Views: 1214 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Vijay Rana - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self-awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from, and one of those people is Vijay Rana. This is someone who is based in England and he is a healer/therapist. Emotional Build-up Towards the end of 2014, I was ...
Views: 1992 - Therapy: Are Some People Too Young To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to assist others, there are a number of things that they could do. For one thing, they could end up doing some kind of volunteering, and this would allow them to have a positive effect on the world. But if this wasn’t something that interested them, they could decide to ...
Views: 1220 - Therapy: Why Are Some Techniques More Popular Than Others? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what music people like, there are styles that are more popular than others. And within each style, there are musicians that plenty of people know about and musicians that very few many people know about. In the same way, certain approaches are more popular than others when ...
Views: 1261 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to express what is taking place within them, they will probably be seen as someone who is in tune with themselves. They will be able to share their thoughts and feelings, and being this way will affect every area of their life. Authentic Being this way is going to ...
Views: 1098 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in touch with themselves and they feel safe enough to express who they are, there will be no reason for them to put on an act. How they come across on the outside is going to match up with who they are on the inside. Now and Then Or, if they do put on act, it is going to be ...
Views: 1862 - You Are More Than Your Circumstances - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has had a certain challenge for a long time, they can believe that there is nothing that they can do. Therefore, due to how long something has been in their life, it can be seen as something that is permanent. As a result of this, they are just going to have to tolerate what is ...
Views: 656 - You Are Your Own Saviour! - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a week ago, I was looking through a book called ‘The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness’ by Gary Zukav and Linda Francis. What first caught my attention was the book’s subtitle, and this was because I had used this term for the main title on a number of articles. It soon became ...
Views: 1305 - You Don't Need Anyone To Love You! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon for someone to say that they want someone to love them, and this is what will motivate them to look for another person to be with. They might believe that everything will be fine after they have found someone like this. At an emotional level, they are likely to feel empty, ...
Views: 974 - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1733 - “I Knew That Everything Would Be OK!" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter my father had been moved to a closer hospital, towards the end of 2011, we were pleased that it would be a lot easier to visit him. Even so, this was a time when he was on a life support machine, so it wasn’t as if we could have a conversation with him. There were times when I would ...
Views: 1590 - “My Life Had No Meaning!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember lying in bed as a child feeling overwhelmed by my emotions and wanting my life to end. This wasn’t a one-off, though; as this was something I went through on numerous occasions. I had a father, mother, and a sister, but I felt as though I was all by myself; that’s not to say that ...
Views: 998 - “My Mother Lacked Empathy!” - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt was not uncommon for my mother to act in a destructive way when I was younger, but that doesn’t mean that she spent a lot of time apologising. Shortly after she had done something, she would generally act as though nothing had happened. I would then similar to dropping a plate of food on ...
Views: 1153 - “Their Mission Is To End Child Trafficking and Exploitation!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I felt the need to write an article about customer service, and when I was looking for information on a search engine I came across an interesting article. This was written by someone called Geoff Hudson-Searle. For some reason, I ended up doing a search to find out more ...
Views: 1090 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 637 - “You Are Wasting Your Money!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing Dov Baron speak about how important our beliefs are, through an interview I listened to in December 2006, I searched for more information on this topic. Ultimately, I was looking for a way to change or remove what I believed. I spent a little while going over the information ...
Views: 1032 - “You Seem Super Strong!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2011, my father had to go into hospital in order to have an operation. I drove him there and expected to be bringing him home in the not too distant future. At the time, I thought that this was just a routine operation and that he would soon be out of hospital. What also ...
Views: 1338 - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop Someone From Realising When A Friendship Is Over? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked why they use social media, they may say that it’s because it allows them to stay in touch with their friends. It could be said that this is not much of a surprise, and this is because this is how social media is often portrayed. One of these sites has even promoted ...
Views: 1344 - ‘I Can Make You Rich’ - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was reading ‘I Can Make You Rich’ by Paul McKenna and, just as I started to read it, someone asked me what I was reading. I lifted the book up so they could see the title and their face said it all. I didn’t need to hear this person say anything to know what their thoughts ...
Views: 1306 - ‘Men have a Strong Aversion To Shame’ - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book ‘Manhood’ by Steve Biddulph, there is a section where he says that “a deep aversion to shame has become wired in to male biology.” The reason that is put forward for is that “throughout history, women are most sexually attracted to high-status males”. What this means is that if a ...
Views: 746 - ‘You Can’t Have Anything Until You Don't Need It’ - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out, I spotted a book that caught my attention. This book was called ‘Creating Money: Attracting Abundance’, and it was written by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer. A number of months ago I had looked through another book that Sanaya Roman has written, and this played ...
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