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- Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1670 - Boundaries: Is Having Open Borders A Good Idea? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted travel to another country, there is a strong chance that they would need to have a passport. In addition to this, they may also find that they need to get a visa. This could be something that doesn’t bother them, and they are then not going to have the need to think about ...
Views: 1351 - Boundaries: Is It Important For Someone To Be Able To Say No When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt tired, it might not matter if someone asked them if they would like to go out. They could put their own needs first and say that they haven’t got the energy to do anything. This could be what always takes place, or it could be something that happens from time to time. If this is ...
Views: 1091 - Boundaries: What Stops People From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries and are therefore able to stand their ground, there are other people who don’t. For them, having boundaries is a challenge and this could relate to a certain area of their life or every area. Standing their ground may be something they do at times, but it ...
Views: 1567 - Boundaries: Who Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Feelings? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be responsible for how one feels is one thing and yet it is quite another to feel responsible for how other people feel. Owning how one feels and not to see other people as being the primary reason that they feel as they do, is a sign of self awareness and emotional maturity. Through ...
Views: 3551 - Boundaries: Why Can't Some People Take No For An Answer? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being successful, it is often said that one shouldn’t take no for an answer and that they should keep going. As if they were to give up after they experience negative response, they are not going to get very far. It is then going to be in their best interest to be ...
Views: 9574 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less ...
Views: 6924 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side of the spectrum there is total responsibility and, on the other, there is total irresponsibility. And while it might sound as though the ideal will be for one to be on the left side of it, it is not going to be this black and white. Pros and Cons This is then no different to ...
Views: 1232 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People That Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self. As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a ...
Views: 1855 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was walked over by someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will have literally put their feet on their body. What it can also mean is that another person has violated their personal space. When this happens, the other person won’t have respected their boundaries, and this will ...
Views: 1237 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
Views: 2021 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from another. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and yet this doesn’t mean that the impact ...
Views: 27205 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Fear Setting Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to protect ones personal space and what they own, it will be important for them to set boundaries. Other people are not always going to know what ones boundaries are; if people could reads minds, it would be different. At times, other people will know what is appropriate and what is ...
Views: 3636 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Boundaryless? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf it was raining and one didn’t wear jacket or something to keep them dry, they would soon be soaked. Their jacket or an umbrella for instance, is then something that protects them from the rain. However, even if it was not raining one still needs to protect themselves. Their personal space ...
Views: 2129 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1659 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Saying No? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one doesn’t want to do something, they may find that they are able to stand their ground, and this could be what takes place on most occasions. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they have good boundaries. Separate And as one is not an extension of other people, there ...
Views: 1154 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf it often sad that if one can’t say no, then their yes doesn’t mean anything. And while having the ability to say yes is clearly important, so is being able to say no. They both have their uses and this will often depend on the context that one is in. To say yes can become a habit and ...
Views: 2179 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Let Others Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo walk all over a carpet or some kind of tiled floor would be normal. This is because the floor has no feelings and very few wants and needs for example. If the floor was used too much it may wear out; so it will need to be cleaned at certain times and it might even need to be replaced after a ...
Views: 3754 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People See Others As Extensions Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a look at their fellow human beings, it would be clear that they are all separate. They each have their own body and this then goes onto to cover their individual preferences, wants and needs. And as well as this, each person has their own personal reality and an ...
Views: 6947 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Walk All Over Others? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are used to having people walk all over them, there are other people who are used to walking all over others. The former is going to live a life of being violated and compromised, and the latter is going to live a life of violating and compromising others. Now, not everyone ...
Views: 2417 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Therapists Take On Their Clients Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property. And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ...
Views: 1551 - Boundaries: Why Don’t Some People Realise When They Are Picking Up On Another Person's Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are often seen as being independent, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Now, this is not to say that they don’t have their own life to lead; what it comes down to is that everyone is connected. Therefore, although everyone has their own physical body, this ...
Views: 1187 - Boundaries: Why Would Someone See Other People As An Extension Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they act as though another person is an extension of themselves, there are some people that act in this way practically all of the time. This could be seen as the difference between not having a disorder and having one. The ...
Views: 619 - Breathing In Is Masculine, Breathing Out Is Feminine - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year ago I went to a health and wellbeing centre and had a little look around the entrance, but I didn’t go any further. However, a few weeks ago I felt the urge to go to this place again, and this made me look at the website. I found out that there would be a free guided mediation ...
Views: 1566 - Breathing Problems: Can Trapped Grief Cause Breathing Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that our greatest wealth is health, and it doesn’t take much thought to realise why this is. When someone has good health, it will be lot easier for them to live a fulfilling life. If they are not in good health, it is going to be a lot harder for them to enjoy their time on ...
Views: 1656 - Bullying: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Bullied? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing. And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ...
Views: 1820 - Bullying: Why Do Some People Bully Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one form or another and under one name of another; bullying has been around for a very long time. And it is not limited to a specific environment and neither is it only experienced by a certain type of person. Human beings of all backgrounds can come face to face with this type of ...
Views: 2047 - Busyness: Do Some People Stay Busy To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to say they are busy, and while this could be how their life is during certain times, it could be a way of life. In this case, it won’t matter what time it is or what day it is, as they will have things to do. This could be how they have been for most of their ...
Views: 1865 - Buy This And You Will Be Happy! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I used to play football at school, I used to see other people wear expensive football boots - the ones that the professionals wore - and think about how good I would be if I had them. I thought that wearing these boots would instantly make me a better player. This showed that I had ...
Views: 913 - Can Someone Use Anger To Motivate Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to think about one thing that you want to achieve, something could soon come to mind. When it comes to what enters your mind, it could be something that is small or it could be something that is fairly big. This could be something that you have only wanted to achieve for a little ...
Views: 475 - Career: Is It Important For Someone To Find The Right Career When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the average person spends most of their life at work, and this shows why it is so important for someone to do something that is fulfilling. If they don’t, this one area is likely to have a negative effect on every other area of their life. Point of Focus When they ...
Views: 1414 - Career: Will Someone Need To Create A New Identity If They Have Lost Their Job? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone does for a living, there is the chance that it is a big part of who they are. In fact, it might go even further, with one seeing this area of their life as their whole life. One is then not just going to go to work and then to leave this part of their life ...
Views: 733 - Celebrities: Are Celebrities Being Used To Indoctrinate Children? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about a singer or an actor, for instance, they could say that these people have one purpose. When it comes to the former, they could say that their purpose is to sing and, when it comes to the latter, they could say that their purpose is to act. Clear As Day This ...
Views: 1020 - Celebrities: Are Celebrities Good Role Models? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is part of human nature to look to others for guidance in how to behave and what is right or wrong for instance. And this is not good or bad; it is just how things are. What can turn it into something dysfunctional and unhealthy is when someone copy’s behaviours and ways of being that are ...
Views: 8582 - Celebrities: Are Some Celebrities Hypocrites? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a famous actor or singer, for instance, it could be said that their purpose is either to act or to sing. This is then no different to how a plumber or an electrician, for instance, is going to have their own purpose. Now, this is not to say that a singer or an actor won’t ...
Views: 2223 - Celebrities: Can Feeling Worthless Cause Someone To Be Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, someone could follow a celebrity through watching TV, buying a magazine and/or through reading a paper, for instance. If they were an actor or an actress, they could also watch their films, or if they were a musician, they would also be able to listen to their music. Today’s ...
Views: 1623 - Celebrities: Do Celebrities Always Know What They Are Talking About? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are plenty of people who follow a celebrity or a number of them, and it is easier than ever before for this to take place. This is primarily because of the internet and how one can follow them on social media. Before this option was available, one would have had to ...
Views: 1494 - Celebrities: Do Celebrities Look Stupid When They Talk About Politics? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are going to be a number musicians and actors, who are generally going to keep their views to themselves, there are others who are going to take a different approach. As a result of this, they are not going to hold back when it comes to what they think about certain topics. Now, ...
Views: 1209 - Celebrities: Do Certain Celebrities Normalise Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of ways for someone to become famous, and this has opened the door to people from all walks of life. Said another way, it is no longer necessary for someone to have real talent; they can end up in the public eye for other reasons. Reality TV What has ...
Views: 1042 - Celebrities: Is It A Surprise For Celebrities To Have Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a lot of people are obsessed with celebrities, and there are a number of reasons as to why this is. For some people, this can simply be a way for them to avoid their own life. This is likely to show that their life is not going as they would like it to go, and focusing on ...
Views: 1190 - Celebrities: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some time I have been reflecting on and thinking about what causes the obsession with celebrities. So here is my current outlook on what I believe is going on. Today's Society In today's society celebrities are often worshiped and are objects of obsession for many people. And it ...
Views: 13224 - Celebrities: Why Do Politicians Get Celebrities To Endorse Them? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a politician has the desire to get into a certain position, they can end up looking towards different celebrities. And while some of these might be known by people who fall into a certain age group, for instance, there can be others who will be known by people of all ages. Therefore, it ...
Views: 2398 - Celebrities: Why Do Some People Like To Build People Up And Then Tear Them Down? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can be seen as a celebrity, there would have been a time when no one knew who they were. That is unless their parents were already famous, and this would have given them the upper hand. In The Beginning Therefore, if one doesn’t have famous parents, for instance, they ...
Views: 1434 - Celebrity Endorsement: Can A Celebrity Ruin Their Career By Endorsing A Presidential Candidate? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has achieved a certain level of fame, there are a number of things that they can do. On one hand, they could use it to increase their income; with their being a number of ways that this can be done. A Good Idea In addition to what this will do to their bank balance, there ...
Views: 1137 - Celebrity Endorsements: Are Celebrities Too Out Of Touch To Endorse Presidential Candidates? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that food brands often rely on different celebrities to sell their products; presidential candidates can also look towards these kinds of people in order to encourage people to vote for them. When it comes to the former, it could be said that the stakes are relatively low. ...
Views: 1241 - Ceremonial Grade Cacao Is Powerful - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround ten years ago, I would add something called cacao to some of the drinks that I would make. This was a time when I would usually have an oat and milk smoothie for my breakfast and adding cacao would give me a break from the usual taste. The years went by and I stopped having this ...
Views: 576 - Change: Do Some People Try To Change The World In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are the changes that one can make in their own life and then there are the changes they can make in the world. And as one is part of the world, what takes place in their life can end up affecting the world. The internet has given individuals the power to make more of a difference than ...
Views: 1837 - Chest Pain: Can Chest Pain Be Caused By Trapped Grief? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find that there is pain and tension in their chest, the first thing that could come to mind is that there is something wrong with their heart. It could also be a challenge for them to breath, which could mean that they will believe that there is something wrong with their lungs ...
Views: 1240 - Child Abuse: Are Some Parents Too Emotionally Immature To Show Remorse? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parents about what took place. There could be a number of things that they want from them. For one thing, they might want to know why their parents treated them in the way ...
Views: 384 - Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Disordered To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parent/s about what took place. However, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to receive what they are looking for. When it comes to what they ...
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