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- Boundaries: Can Someone Let Other People Walk Over Them When They Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier for one to live a fulfilling life, and having boundaries is one them. It will then be possible for one to be able to stand up for themselves and to be around the right people. Protection One is then not just going to be able to spend ...
Views: 1172 - Boundaries: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to feel safe and when they don’t feel safe, they can end up building walls around themselves. But while one might feel safe though having them, what they won’t be able to do is to embrace life. On the other hand, if one has boundaries they will be able to ...
Views: 1763 - Boundaries: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in the world today and some these are big and some of them are small. And a lack of boundaries can create all kinds of relationship problems. This is also something that can be seen on a global scale; with certain countries going into other countries. This often ...
Views: 1833 - Boundaries: Do Other People Walk Over You? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that make up ones experience of reality, and these include what they see, hear and smell. What also play an important part are their feelings and thoughts. When it comes to what they see, hear and smell, these are going to be things that other people will also ...
Views: 704 - Boundaries: Do Some Countries Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, there are going to be a number of factors that will play a part. One of these things is the state of their health, and this is something that most people are aware of. Physical Health For example, it is not uncommon to hear about how important it ...
Views: 1305 - Boundaries: Do Some People Only Say Yes To Please Others? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked if they would like to do something by a friend or a family member, for instance, they could give them their answer more or less straight away. But if this doesn’t take place, it could mean that one will need to think about it first. How they behave is going to depend on a ...
Views: 1306 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile boundaries are essential, it doesn’t mean that they are going to be the same for everyone. One person could feel infringed upon when another person does something, and if this was to happen to someone else, it might not cause any problems. But although there will be differences in what ...
Views: 1737 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels safe in their own body it is going to make their life a lot easier. But while this is the ideal, this is not something that everyone on this planet can relate to. If one doesn’t feel safe in their own body it will be normal for them to be walked over and/or for them to ...
Views: 1786 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Say Yes All The Time? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to do something, they can say yes, and, if they don’t, they can say no. Both of these words are going to be important; one word won’t be more important than the other. When someone can use both of these words, there will be no reason for them to have the tendency to ignore ...
Views: 915 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk Over Others? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen an area of land has been fenced off, it is likely to show that it is private property. As a result of this, someone is going to need permission in order to walk on the land; that is, of course, unless they own it or know the person who does. If someone was to ignore this and used the ...
Views: 1171 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Condition Them Up To Be Caught Up In Other People’s Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that when someone is in balance, they will be there for themselves and they will be there for others. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they will neglect their own life when they are there for others, though. In general, they could find time to be there for others without ...
Views: 548 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able to Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough every human being on the planet has a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that each and everyone one of them feel connected to both of these parts of themselves. It may be hard for some people to understand how someone can be out of touch with a part of themselves, but, this is how some ...
Views: 1180 - Boundaries: Does America Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has boundaries, they will be able to say yes and no, and this is because they will safe in their own body. And through being this way, it will allow them to express their true-self. Protection What this comes down to is that one is inherently vulnerable, and this is why it is ...
Views: 1321 - Boundaries: Does Someone Lack Boundaries When They Don't Let Other People Speak? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to have a conversion with a friend or a family member, for instance, there will be what they say and what the other person says. What this comes down to is that one will talk and they will listen. Two Parts This doesn’t mean that they will speak for a certain amount of time ...
Views: 1107 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Avoid People Who Lack Boundaries When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to express their true-self, they will need to feel comfortable doing so. If they only feel safe when they are putting on an act, it will still stop this part of them from seeing the light of day. How they generally behave around others is then going to be the ...
Views: 1505 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Find It Hard To Say Yes? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has boundary problems, they may end up hearing about how important it is to be able to say no. This could be a time when one will come across information that will talk about how they need to be assertive and to draw the line. Through being able to behave in this way, it will allow ...
Views: 1213 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Unable To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is asked if they would like to do something, they could end up saying yes. This could show that they actually want to do what the person has suggested, and there will then have been no reason for them to say anything else. A Wonderful Experience This could then be a time when one ...
Views: 1209 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Used To Being Walked Over? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to stand their ground, they are not going to have to worry about being walked over. Now, this doesn’t mean that they will never be walked over by others; what it means is that is that it won’t be something that happens on a regular basis. As if it was something they ...
Views: 1391 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that when someone has boundaries, their life is going to be a lot better than it would be if they didn’t have them. The reason for this is that one has their own needs and feelings. So, while one is an interdependent human being who needs other people, that doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1330 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop You From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is used to being walked over by others, they can feel like a victim, or they can have a different outlook. When one can relate to the former, it will be normal for them to feel as though they have no control over their life. Alternatively, when one doesn’t see themselves in this ...
Views: 1428 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Saying No? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable standing their ground, there are others who don’t feel this way. As a result of this, it is going to mean that their experiences on this planet are going to be extremely different. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that the former are going to be ...
Views: 1406 - Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life. Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others ...
Views: 1830 - Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1795 - Boundaries: Is Having Open Borders A Good Idea? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted travel to another country, there is a strong chance that they would need to have a passport. In addition to this, they may also find that they need to get a visa. This could be something that doesn’t bother them, and they are then not going to have the need to think about ...
Views: 1552 - Boundaries: Is It Important For Someone To Be Able To Say No When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt tired, it might not matter if someone asked them if they would like to go out. They could put their own needs first and say that they haven’t got the energy to do anything. This could be what always takes place, or it could be something that happens from time to time. If this is ...
Views: 1226 - Boundaries: What Stops People From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries and are therefore able to stand their ground, there are other people who don’t. For them, having boundaries is a challenge and this could relate to a certain area of their life or every area. Standing their ground may be something they do at times, but it ...
Views: 1722 - Boundaries: Who Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Feelings? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be responsible for how one feels is one thing and yet it is quite another to feel responsible for how other people feel. Owning how one feels and not to see other people as being the primary reason that they feel as they do, is a sign of self awareness and emotional maturity. Through ...
Views: 3751 - Boundaries: Why Can't Some People Take No For An Answer? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being successful, it is often said that one shouldn’t take no for an answer and that they should keep going. As if they were to give up after they experience negative response, they are not going to get very far. It is then going to be in their best interest to be ...
Views: 10099 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less ...
Views: 7375 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side of the spectrum there is total responsibility and, on the other, there is total irresponsibility. And while it might sound as though the ideal will be for one to be on the left side of it, it is not going to be this black and white. Pros and Cons This is then no different to ...
Views: 1361 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People That Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self. As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a ...
Views: 2079 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was walked over by someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will have literally put their feet on their body. What it can also mean is that another person has violated their personal space. When this happens, the other person won’t have respected their boundaries, and this will ...
Views: 1405 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
Views: 2235 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from another. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and yet this doesn’t mean that the impact ...
Views: 27767 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Fear Setting Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to protect ones personal space and what they own, it will be important for them to set boundaries. Other people are not always going to know what ones boundaries are; if people could reads minds, it would be different. At times, other people will know what is appropriate and what is ...
Views: 3854 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Boundaryless? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf it was raining and one didn’t wear jacket or something to keep them dry, they would soon be soaked. Their jacket or an umbrella for instance, is then something that protects them from the rain. However, even if it was not raining one still needs to protect themselves. Their personal space ...
Views: 2388 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1794 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Saying No? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one doesn’t want to do something, they may find that they are able to stand their ground, and this could be what takes place on most occasions. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they have good boundaries. Separate And as one is not an extension of other people, there ...
Views: 1359 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf it often sad that if one can’t say no, then their yes doesn’t mean anything. And while having the ability to say yes is clearly important, so is being able to say no. They both have their uses and this will often depend on the context that one is in. To say yes can become a habit and ...
Views: 2358 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Let Others Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo walk all over a carpet or some kind of tiled floor would be normal. This is because the floor has no feelings and very few wants and needs for example. If the floor was used too much it may wear out; so it will need to be cleaned at certain times and it might even need to be replaced after a ...
Views: 4015 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People See Others As Extensions Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a look at their fellow human beings, it would be clear that they are all separate. They each have their own body and this then goes onto to cover their individual preferences, wants and needs. And as well as this, each person has their own personal reality and an ...
Views: 7402 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Walk All Over Others? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are used to having people walk all over them, there are other people who are used to walking all over others. The former is going to live a life of being violated and compromised, and the latter is going to live a life of violating and compromising others. Now, not everyone ...
Views: 2676 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Therapists Take On Their Clients Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property. And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ...
Views: 1682 - Boundaries: Why Don’t Some People Realise When They Are Picking Up On Another Person's Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are often seen as being independent, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Now, this is not to say that they don’t have their own life to lead; what it comes down to is that everyone is connected. Therefore, although everyone has their own physical body, this ...
Views: 1310 - Boundaries: Why Would Someone See Other People As An Extension Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they act as though another person is an extension of themselves, there are some people that act in this way practically all of the time. This could be seen as the difference between not having a disorder and having one. The ...
Views: 878 - Brands: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Worship A Brand? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years, someone may have spent a fair amount of their money on certain or several clothes brands. Assuming that it is one brand, this is then going to be a brand that they greatly value. Therefore, the money that they have spent over the years will be seen as an investment. So, ...
Views: 228 - Breakups: Can A Man Punish Himself After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has experienced a breakup, he can experience a number of different feelings. For example, he can feel angry, sad, helpless, and hopeless and be full of regret. If so, what this can show is that he was with a woman who he was very fond of and perhaps loved. Perhaps he was with her ...
Views: 157 - Breakups: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just gone through a breakup and even if this took place a few weeks or a number of months ago, they could be in a bad way. This could show that they were with their ex for a number of years, or it might not have been this long. Additionally, this might have been a relationship ...
Views: 273 - Breakups: Can It Be Harder For A Man To Handle A Breakup If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, a man may have experienced a breakup. Then again, this might not be something that took place recently, with his relationship having ended a number of months or years ago. However, irrespective of how long ago this took place, he could now be in a very bad way and find it ...
Views: 260 - Breakups: Why Would A Man End Up Sleeping Around After He Has Experienced A Breakup? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter going through a breakup, a man could decide to take his time before he dates or merely share his body with another woman. If so, this can show that he has been greatly affected by what has happened. Then again, this might not be the case but he might just want to take a break and focus ...
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