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- Being Brave and Sensible by coming to Jupiter Counseling for Addiction and Abuse Treatment - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Scott McCownNot everyone who takes drugs in an addict or even likely to become one, just as not everyone who drinks alcohol is an alcoholic. In fact here are many who, notwithstanding the campaigns against both indulge in substance abuse. Students are especially fond of acquiring a skin full and making ...
Views: 1558 - Shame - The Hidden Cause of Addiction and Codependency - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2013 from Darlene LancerShame is so painful to the psyche that most people will do anything to avoid it – even though it’s a natural emotion that everyone has. It’s a physiologic response of the autonomic nervous system. You might blush, have a rapid heartbeat, break into a sweat, freeze, hang your head, slump your ...
Views: 3234(2 votes) - What Is Codependence and How Does It Affect My Life? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Suzanne E. Harrill, M. Ed., LPCCodependence is a new word that became popular in the 1980's. It has become a buzzword and important for you to understand in becoming the person you want to be. In less aware times codependence was considered normal. To be good, perfect, compliant, agreeable, giving, and selfless was rewarded ...
Views: 2078 - Navigating You & Me With Love & Compassion: Pet Peeves: Accept Or Reject? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2012 from Ragini MichaelsEveryday Dilemma: Should I keep my own counsel and accept my partner’s unpleasant behaviors? Or, should I let him know that I reject them and want him to change? There’s something very odd about us humans. We invite others to be our intimate friends, lovers, and partners because we either ...
Views: 2079 - Four Key Steps for Setting Healthy Boundaries - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2012 from Lisa EspichThroughout the first sixteen years of my marriage my husband, Dean, struggled with his addiction to alcohol, prescription pain pills, and crack cocaine. As his addiction continued to get worse, my ability to set healthy boundaries failed. This didn’t happen overnight -- it was a gradual process ...
Views: 3397(1 vote) - Navigating You And Me With Love And Compassion: Two Sweeteners for Intimate Interaction - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Ragini MichaelsEveryday Dilemma: Do I honor my thirst to be alone for awhile, or do I follow the longing in my heart to be together with friends and family? For years I believed intimacy meant being together with my beloveds - all the time! Everyone I knew suffered greatly from my youthfully exuberant ...
Views: 2026 - Navigating You & Me With Love & Compassion: Our Dualistic Dance of Relating - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Ragini MichaelsThe Everyday Dilemma: Do I take care of myself now, or everyone and everything else first, including my career? Most of us truly wish to infuse our lives with love, compassion, and caring. And, you have probably been enticed by the common notion that bringing these words to life requires ...
Views: 1935 - Dilemmas of Codependent Men - by Submitted on May 26, 2012 from Darlene LancerThe dilemmas of codependent men aren’t talked about. Unlike women, men don’t discuss their relationship problems with friends and family. Instead, they internalize their pain. Many are in denial, suffer in silence, or become numb to their needs and feelings. They shun attention and try to do the ...
Views: 3376(2 votes) - Three Causes of Christian Codependency - by Submitted on May 15, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for help for your Christian codependency? If so, one of the things you might be wondering is what caused your codependency. In the 1980s, codependency was originally used to describe the dysfunctional patterns of family members of chemically dependent people who were also called ...
Views: 2548 - Are YOU with the best Partner for YOU? - by Submitted on May 10, 2012 from Rosemary PriceAre you with the best partner for you? Whether you are married to yours, living with them or contemplating spending a lot of time with them in the future it is a good idea to know if you are truly compatible with them first. Remember that sometimes your partner shows a certain side of their ...
Views: 2339 - Why Passive Aggressive Behavior is so Hard to Grasp When You Are in Love - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Neil WarnerIt seems to be a silent but growing epidemic of miscommunication between people in any kind of relationships. If you read forum comments, help requests are popping up everywhere, and the hurt from miscommunication seems to be a shared national pain. Several factors have contributed to the ...
Views: 5472(1 vote) - Christian Codependency: Changing the Beliefs Underlying False Guilt - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you struggling with Christian codependency? If you answered yes, then you probably experience feeling guilty often in your relationships. Codependents struggle with guilt in relationships because they hold untrue beliefs about relationships. They need to change their inaccurate beliefs about ...
Views: 2341 - To Trust or Mistrust - Part I - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2012 from Darlene LancerMany people claim that they trust others until they have reason not to, but when you first meet someone, you don’t know anything about their integrity or past conduct, except what they tell you. Trustworthiness is proven over time by actions, not only by words. You can get hurt by believing what ...
Views: 2585(2 votes) - Rebuilding Trust - Part II - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2012 from Darlene LancerSatisfying relationships are built on a foundation of safety and trust that you won’t be hurt physically or emotionally. Whether you trust too little or too much is influenced by your past, but once trust is broken, your sense of safety is in jeopardy. You feel insecure and may begin to question ...
Views: 2508(2 votes) - 6 Scriptural Misunderstandings of Christian Codependency - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2012 from Karla DowningThe following 6 Scriptural misunderstandings form the basis of Christian codependency. They show how inaccurate Scriptural understandings contribute to Christian codependency. The cure is an accurate understanding of what the Bible says about ourselves and how we are to value ourselves compared ...
Views: 1954 - What Makes Codependency Qualify As Christian Codependency? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2012 from Karla DowningBefore we answer the question "What makes codependency qualify as Christian codependency?" we need to understand the history of the term. In the 1980s, codependency was originally used to describe the dysfunctional patterns of family members of chemically dependent people who were also called ...
Views: 2115 - When Helping Becomes Enabling: Top Ten Enabling Behaviors - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2012 from Lisa EspichTake a close look at the life of any person struggling with addiction, and you will likely find at least one family member or friend 'helping' that person. Somebody making it easier for the addict to continue in the progression of their disease. This behavior is called enabling. The problem is ...
Views: 3477 - From Co-dependence to Confidence - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2012 from Michelle MorandHow do we relate to others? One of the key aspects which influences all our interactions with others is the extent of unconscious co-dependent behaviour that exists in us. Ask yourself this question: Is there anything in my life, right now, that I feel anxious about? Do I feel responsible, in ...
Views: 2333(1 vote) - Avoid being Cheated by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomAvoid being cheated by Rosemary Price psychic. Most of us can get enticed by someone who is not trustworthy at some time or another. But this is when our hearts rule of our. The key to not being scammed is to always have the head rule the heart. Take the example of a designer hand bag for ...
Views: 1131(1 vote) - Codependent Problems in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerEveryone laughs when I tell them that I wrote Codependency for Dummies. But codependency is no laughing matter. It causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans, both in and out of relationships. I know. I spent decades recovering. There are all types of codependents, including ...
Views: 2798(2 votes) - Codependents are the Majority! - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerThe term codependency has been around for almost four decades. Although it originally applied to spouses of alcoholics, first called co-alcoholics, research revealed that the characteristics of codependents were much more prevalent in the general population than had been imagined. In fact, they ...
Views: 2401(4 votes) - Do you know the 3 causes of all relationship problems? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneWhat do YOU believe are the 3 causes of all relationship problems? * Inadequate Money? * Not enough or too much Sex? * Friends interfering? * Family triangles and intrusions? * Poor communication? * Emotional Imbalance? Relationships are more complex than many of us care to ...
Views: 2674(2 votes) - Worry Warts Anonymous - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Patricia PottsWorry Warts Anonymous By Patricia Potts Okay, I admit it. Worrying comes natural for me. In fact I will actually admit that at times I am addicted. When I became a parent then a grandparent my worrying accelerated. When my little ones lay cuddled in the warmth of blankets. I ...
Views: 2237(2 votes) - “It's All My Fault for Having Provoked Him” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninHow often have you heard the following phrases coupled with the most horrific physical, verbal, and psychological abuse: "It's all your fault, you made me do it" or "look what you made me do!" Abusers have alloplastic defenses and an external locus of control. This means that they tend to ...
Views: 2999(1 vote) - “I Attract Abusers Like a Magnet” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninMany victims of narcissists are firmly convinced that they have been "chosen" by their abusers because of their capacity to empathize, their innate sensitivity, compassion, and their ability to love and care. Indeed, these qualities tend to attract exploitative psychopathic predators who ...
Views: 5418(1 vote) - THE TRAP OF CHARM - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2012 from narcissism curedNot all Emotional Abuse is obvious. In fact, behavior that belies Emotional Abuse often starts out feeling good. Have you ever met the charmer, the smooth talker? Everything you say and do he finds adorable. Narcissists are masters of charm and sweet talk. His doting and compliments feel good. ...
Views: 2768(1 vote) - Treating Love Addiction - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallPeople looking for the answers to overcoming their love addiction often ask two questions, “What does recovery really mean when it comes to breaking this problem”? ... and “What are key things I need to work on to successfully recover from love addiction”? When we are new to recovery, we may ...
Views: 3119(1 vote) - Improving Your Marriage May Begin With You - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachMy approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the ...
Views: 2256(2 votes) - On Being Normal - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachHave you ever wondered if you are normal? Do you spend time comparing yourself to others? It is not uncommon to have these thoughts because we tend to judge many things as being normal or not normal. If people don’t perceive themselves as having “acceptable” thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or ...
Views: 3083(2 votes) - Setting Personal Boundaries - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Linney ElderBy Linney Elder So…what invaluable lessons have I learned this week? Well, for one…I am definitely not Superwoman! That myth has been well and truly blown out the window. What I have realised once again is the value of setting boundaries and when it’s totally appropriate to simply say ...
Views: 2232(1 vote) - Receiving - by Submitted on May 05, 2012 from Mary Fitzpatrick"And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so? I did. And what did you want? To call myself beloved, to feel myself beloved on the earth" Raymong Carver Many of us were told as children, some of us relentlessly, about the primacy of giving. Yes, it is very important to give of ...
Views: 2145(1 vote) - Inner Child Healing - How to begin - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Robert Burney"Recovery involves bringing to consciousness those beliefs and attitudes in our subconscious that are causing our dysfunctional reactions so that we can reprogram our ego defenses to allow us to live a healthy, fulfilling life instead of just surviving. So that we can own our power to make ...
Views: 3296(1 vote) - What are "we" waiting for? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2011 from Suzanne ToroMany of ''US" have been traversing through expansion, contraction, purging, refining and feel at times that we are jumping from cliffs or being pushed off them...This has been a period where we are being asked to realign with "self". Many of ''US'' are traversing through old stories, beliefs and ...
Views: 2020(1 vote) - It's time to have Inner Peace! Learning to say NO - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Marion LicchielloLearning to say NO! Being Authentic to Yourself Are you the type of person who always says yes? I’ve come to learn that it is very important to learn to say NO! It’s okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are being authentic. I’m not ...
Views: 2097(1 vote) - Love Addict Recovery: Setting Boundaries - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallIn the 'Love Addict in Love Addiction', I write a lot about the five core issues which is a large part of our pain and dysfunction in addictive relationships—one of these core issues of love addicts are Impaired Boundaries. Love addicts need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall ...
Views: 2738(2 votes) - How To Overcome Codependency In 3 Simple Steps - by Submitted on May 28, 2012 from Fariborz ArbasiWhat Is Codependency Codependency is a learned behavior that refers to an obsessive need for affection, attention and affirmation. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because; this relationship based on emotional dependency is the other side of the coin of emotionally destructive and ...
Views: 31025(1 vote) - Relationship Codependency: Everything You Need to Know - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Randi FineExcerpted from the April 21,2011 episode of my radio show, A Fine Time for Healing Roughly 100 million Americans suffer the effects of codependency today. Relationship codependency is often referred to as the “White Knight” syndrome, because the codependent tends to be a rescuer. ...
Views: 4562(1 vote) - Low Self-Esteem Is Dangerous - Some Techniques To Deal With It - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Sawas DeeLow self-esteem is a characteristic of the person from a psychological point of view, but nevertheless it’s a good idea to view it as a disease. It’s similar to a disease in the fact that it brings lots of negative impact in your life. From the overall feeling of worthlessness, through the ...
Views: 2421(2 votes) - Healing Love Addiction: Letting Go Of The Past - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim Hall“It is not where we were that counts, but where we are going” When we first find recovery, some of us feel shame and despair at calling ourselves “addicts”. In the beginning, we may be filled with both fear and hope as we struggle to heal and find new meaning in our lives. The past may ...
Views: 3903(1 vote) - Domestic Violence: What It Is--Part One, in a Series of Six - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“When I used to hear stories about men beating up their wives, I figured the wives were cheating around. I never, ever, heard my father raise his voice to my mother, so this was foreign to me. What goes on behind closed doors is someone’s own business, right?” – Dr. Gayle J. Hall, (my thoughts ...
Views: 1774(1 vote) - "Don't Wipe Your Dirty Feet On My Mind" - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2011 from Susan FoxleyThe monk just finished clearing and purifying his mind with meditation, and decided to have a glorious walk with one of his students. On the walk the student began to spew arrogance, pride, vulgarity, and vanity. The monk quietly said,”please don’t wipe your dirty feet on my mind.” When ...
Views: 3112(2 votes) - Free up Personal Time through Medical Transcription - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2011 from steve martinTime, is undoubtedly a key factor for any healthcare professional in the present demanding scenario. One of the easiest as well as the most effective action plan would be to team up for Medical Transcription services with a service provider that suits your exact needs. Outsourcing the ...
Views: 1638 - Your Relationship Broke Up - What to Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Jonathan HuieYour relationship broke up and you are heart broken. What should you do now to heal the hurt and move on with your life? First, examine what Not to do. These are things that will make your situation worse. 1. Don't try to get back together. There must be some very strong reasons why you ...
Views: 2657(2 votes) - E Is For Elephant - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Sara DillingerDon’t think about that elephant in the room. Whatever you do, do not think about the elephant. Just ignore it. Maybe it will go away. Of course, when you are told NOT to think about something, that is about the only thing you can think of. Even though there is no actually elephant in ...
Views: 1833(1 vote) - Why Love Addicts Are Truely Like Any Other Addict - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallUsing a practical definition, addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance, behavior, or activity to reach euphoric states in the brain, despite negative consequences (harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life). ...
Views: 1903(2 votes) - Recovering Ground Rules for The Love Addict - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim Hall1- Understand the Dynamics of Love Addiction & Intricacies of Love Addicted Relationships A very important first step in recovery is to gain clarity into the intricacies of love addiction, the love addict, avoidant partner, and love addicted relationship dynamics. Understanding your ...
Views: 2452(2 votes) - The Recovery Ground Rules for Love Addicts - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Jim Hall* The following are some very critical ground rules needed for love addicts in order to pave a healthy, successful path in love addiction recovery. 1) Understand the Dynamics of Love Addiction & Intricacies of Love Addicted Relationships A very important first step in recovery is to ...
Views: 2007(1 vote) - Seeds of Co-Dependency - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from David GharatCo-dependency is defined as the reliance of one person on people for fulfillment of their self-image. When a person needs to have someone else to act as the missing piece for their identity, there is inevitably some type of negative impact of the relationships of the co-dependent person. The ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - Seeds of Co-dependency - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from David GharatWhile family relationships (or substitute family relationships) are indeed essential for everyone, there are instances in which a relationship can become harmful. There are a number of potential reasons for this to occur in the previously described situation, many of which stem from ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Men in Love Addiction - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallIf you're a man- you're here for a reason. Maybe you're here because you're having relationship difficulties- or you are dealing with a relationship loss. And/or you identify yourself as having characteristics in love addiction- - YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Many mental health care professionals make ...
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