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- I Told My Ex I Missed Him and He Didn't Reply: Told My Ex I Miss Him No Response - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaI Told My Ex I Missed Him and He Didn't Reply: Told My Ex I Miss Him No Response I'm sorry your relationship with your ex boyfriend didn't work out and you miss him dearly and need to figure out what to do. I know you still love him and think your relationship is still worth fighting for? I ...
Views: 228(1 vote) - It's Been A Month Since We Broke Up: It's Been Months And I Still Miss My Ex - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaIt's Been A Month Since We Broke Up: It's Been Months And I Still Miss My Ex It has been a month after you break off with your ex and you wonder if it is possible to get back with your ex. How possible it is to get an ex back after a month? It depends on the situation. If your ex is not in ...
Views: 79(1 vote) - It's Been Years and I Still Love My Ex: It's Been 2 Years and I Still Miss My Ex - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaIt's Been Years and I Still Love My Ex: It's Been 2 Years and I Still Miss My Ex Do you find yourself still thinking "I still love my ex"? If you do it is time to figure out what you want to do about it. It is natural to still have love for your ex if you were together for a while. As a ...
Views: 174(1 vote) - Misunderstanding Abusive Men Like Chris Brown - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Teagin Maddox,An article about Chris Brown captured my attention recently because of the title, "The Real Reason Everybody Hates Chris... Brown, That Is (It's Not Why You Think)". It was written by Keli Goff, an Author, Commentator, and Contributing Editor at TheLoop.21.com. She also appears as a regular ...
Views: 2358(4 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alternate Between ‘Bad Boys’ And ‘Nice Guys’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren’t. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different. The Norm Still, when it comes to what a woman’s ...
Views: 530(1 vote) - She's Not My Mother - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month; this is to honor the abused. A child can be abused by parents, stepparents, grand parents, siblings, and other relatives. This is a hypothetical story about a child and his mother, however, it could be the story of anyone. In this day and age, ...
Views: 1135(1 vote) - Staying True to Your Inner Voice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAlways Remain True to Yourself We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment. We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ...
Views: 920(1 vote) - Still Crying A Year After Breakup: Still Struggling A Year After Breakup - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaStill Crying A Year After Breakup: Still Struggling A Year After Breakup So, your relationship has run its course and you guys broke up. We could sat it is not such a big deal. It happens to thousands of people everyday. A little crying, your heart seems broken for some time, but not long ...
Views: 146(1 vote) - Still In Love With My First Love After 20 Years: Thinking About Ex Years Later - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaStill In Love With My First Love After 20 Years: Thinking About Ex Years Later If you have been separated or divorced from your ex and suddenly you realize that you are still in love, do not feel bad. Lots of people experience the same situation. There are lots of people who still love their ...
Views: 111(1 vote) - The Voice from Within - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Patrice PerkinsA voice within......we all have one - we just need to listen. It's a parents dream to be a witness to their child's first words. There was a time when it was easy to speak my little words of expression from that point in my life and receive a smile from my mother. But, as time went on my ...
Views: 760(1 vote) - Toxic People - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsA few years ago, I attended one of Debbie Ford’s ( No1 NY Times Best Selling Author and Self Development Expert) Shadow process workshops in New York. One of the biggest light bulb moments I had on this course was when Debbie led us through a process where we learned to accept that ‘ There are ...
Views: 2748(6 votes) - When It Hurts Say OUCH! - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghThat's Got to Hurt! I recently had a Twitter friend ask me to post some uplifting quotes related to “taking kindness as weakness” and “being pushed too far.” Of course I did my best to find a few that might assuage her pain. At least I hope they helped a little. This reminded me of a common ...
Views: 1456(2 votes) - When What You Give is Squandered: Re-thinking identity as a giver when giving too much can hurt - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2010 from Fannie LeFloreIf you’ve been victimized often, chances are the positive qualities you possess were viewed as an opportunity to take advantage of you – often by someone who lacks caring and concern, consciousness or character, usually in combination. Being un-thoughtful and even callous in our stressed, ...
Views: 1699(1 vote) - At the Mall - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.Derron liked to play his Xbox as much as he could in between work and school. He competed with his friends and family as well as people online. His new game just came out and he just had to beat everyone’s score. He always had to have the highest score. Sabrina worked at the video store in ...
Views: 1166(7 votes) - Lane Changing Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2010 from Vonzel SawyerI was contemplating what could I write that would reach people and help them to get them started toward the path of life that best suits them and those connected to them. Here is what came to me, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable” When we meet others and purpose is sensed ...
Views: 1132(6 votes) - ABC's Of Overcoming Fear Associated With Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Laura Bonetzky-JosephA - Acknowledge the abuse - past, present and future B- Break the Silence C- Confront your fears & Call for help - There is nothing to be ashamed of D - Don't Blame Yourself - Deliberately set intentions towards empowerment E - Everyone Can Heal F- Fear is worse than the abuse ...
Views: 1081(4 votes) - The Main Causes of Your Irrational Anger - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople often get angry and many times they don't even know why they get angry. As a counselor, I've dealt with many people who are genuinely puzzled why they got so angry. Have you ever gotten angry over something small, stupid, or just plain silly? Have you ever sat down later and felt ...
Views: 11780(3 votes) - 5 Thing to NEVER Say to your CHILD! - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Carl LogreccoAs parents, we would agree that we love our children. Perhaps even more than we have ever loved anyone. However, most children, especially weight-challenged children, may remember things that we said to them years ago, that keep them from experiencing love. Before I became a father, a friend ...
Views: 1186(3 votes) - Abusive Parents: Why Do Some Parents Abuse Their Children? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of ...
Views: 2236(3 votes) - How to Date a Nice Guy - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeI constantly work with women who are tired of cycling through ‘bad boys’ or dysfunctional relationships. They want to find someone worth spending the rest of their lives with. The problem is that they may not be able to identify the ‘nice guys.’ Even if they can, there is baggage they cannot ...
Views: 9646(3 votes) - Hurt People Hurt People - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken FieldsPeople who are hurt, specifically in an emotional or psychological sense, tend to hurt other people. Hurt people can hurt people with harsh words, biting comments, derogatory statements, ridicule, condescension, sarcasm, yelling and screaming, cussing and innuendo about family members or ...
Views: 3314(3 votes) - Is Your Family Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on May 06, 2011 from Darlene LancerProbably, and you’re in the majority. The term “dysfunctional family,” once used only by professionals, has become popular jargon in America where dysfunctional families are the norm due to cultural values, a high divorce rate, and widespread addictions – from prescription drugs to exercising, ...
Views: 1098(3 votes) - Parental Alienation Syndrome and the law of gravity - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Les LinetParental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) has, to date, not been included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders and is not widely accepted in United States courts. Even after it might be included in the diagnostic manual, courtroom arguments will likely continue for decades – ...
Views: 1677(5 votes) - The Finest Boy in the School - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.This is a short story about Mary, who is a sophomore in high school. Her best friend’s name is Lindsey; they are inseparable. There was a junior in high school, which caught Mary’s eye. He was tall and handsome and had muscles on top of muscles. She told Lindsey all about him, “Look, there ...
Views: 1101(5 votes) - ***Divorcing Destruction: Think Straight and Think Strong - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,As women, we typically give, and want, more in relationships than men; we want nice homes and solid families, not just some roof over our heads and a bunch of people co-existing together--although that sure would be easier. Nope; we want constant connection; we want the fairy tale. We are ...
Views: 2125(4 votes) - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 1507(2 votes) - Advice on Relationships - by Submitted on May 28, 2019 from Beth ShepherdDid you know that most of the people who seek out advice from strangers are wanting help with relationship issues. They are wanting to get together with someone they like a lot, or they are in a relationship and it has troubles that they hope can get resolved if they get the right advice. ...
Views: 758(4 votes) - Cycle of Abuse and How to Leave - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Rhonda NeelyThe Cycle of Abuse and How to Leave Eleven years ago I was married to an abuser. Before I met him I had very high self-esteem (maybe even a little too high), was happy in my career, and pretty much worked and got whatever I wanted. Life was good. After I married Justin, he started showing ...
Views: 1039(2 votes) - Dating Help: Is He Married? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeOne of the most devastating betrayals for a woman is to find out that the man she is dating is a married man. The betrayal goes deeper than a break up. There is rarely, if ever, a chance to confront the man. The relationship will break up just as it is ready to move to the next step. In fact, ...
Views: 1051(2 votes) - Have The Backbone To Say NO! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 377(2 votes) - I Want to Know How to Get My Boyfriend Back After Cheating on Him - Expert Advise! - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Charles Uadiale"I want to know how to get my boyfriend back after cheating on him." Saying this signifies you’re in terrific emotional torture and possible experiencing a lot of guilt too. At present, dating a new guy may appear and feel like the appropriate thing to do. Maybe you believe that your boyfriend ...
Views: 1171(2 votes) - Parental Alienation Syndrome: The Controversy - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetSome women’s groups have denounced and denied the existence of Parental Alienation Syndrome, claiming it is a ploy by men to use against women. The claim that PAS has not been accepted in U.S. courts of law is not true. Although there are judges who have not recognized Parental Alienation ...
Views: 1822(6 votes) - The Gregory Mantell Show -- Parental Alienation - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetIn my YouTube video, Parental Alienation Syndrome Excerpts from Gregory Mantell Show, I have excerpted segments from an excellent discussion of Parental Alienation. This episode is from a weekly half-hour progam, the most successful talk show on the internet. "The Gregory Mantell Show” also airs ...
Views: 3327(8 votes) - Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship - Be Very Quiet - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Daryl CampbellYou don't get the full gist of it in the beginning of the relationship. And as far as your significant other is concerned you are not supposed to. If you did than the chances of you still being in the relationship would drop considerably. So they went about sweeping you off of your feet and ...
Views: 1014(2 votes) - Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetDr. Linet has extensive experience and expertise in the problem of abuse in its various forms. Most people are more familiar with the concept of physical abuse than they are of nonphysical abuse. The terms, nonphysical abuse, relationship abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and ... Dr. Linet ...
Views: 977(7 votes) - ***Four Ways to Overcome Your Story - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,Women who are coming out of destructive relationships have been the most invisible women on the planet. We have been silent for a long time, our lives lacking normal, responsive, interactive, and respectful communication. When our silence finally breaks, however, we suddenly can’t be stopped. ...
Views: 2690(5 votes) - ***CNN Missed The Point With Charlie Sheen - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,On CNN’s (HLN) SHOWBIZ TONIGHT with AJ Hammer (January 7, 2010), talking head Brooke Anderson stated: “...Charlie Sheen has had a bad boy reputation for a long time, so people aren’t shocked when he does something out of line, but, if these domestic violence allegations are true, he does need ...
Views: 1719(3 votes) - ***Trait-Traction: The Real Danger For Women - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,A destructive man has to get traction with a woman in order to establish power and control. His ability to gain momentum when he meets you is based on how you perceive his contact, how you interpret his communication, and how you respond to his gaze. If you are on his radar, or already in ...
Views: 2334(3 votes) - Avoid Dangerous Dating Personalities - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeWhen coaching post divorce, one of the first things I do is introduce clients to the different types of people they will run into. It is vital to understand that some people have baggage. Also, some personality types just do not mesh. In the past people dated from work or social settings. There ...
Views: 2278(3 votes) - How Parental Alienation Syndrome Brainwashes the Child - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetIn Parental Alienation Syndrome, one parent brainwashes or programs the child to turn against and vilify the other parent. It is difficult for many people to understand how an alienating parent could implant information that may be directly at variance with what the child had previously ...
Views: 5373(6 votes) - Innocent Bystanders Who Aid and Abet Parental Alienation Syndrome - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetIn Parental Alienation Syndrome, courts, attorneys, police, social workers, therapists, and friends often assume that what the presumably frightened alienating parent is saying is true. People may believe fabrications by the alienator because the kinds of abuse the alienator claims DO and are ...
Views: 1582(6 votes) - Post Divorce Dating - for Beginners - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeIt is very difficult making the transition from married to single. Post Divorce trauma can take years to overcome without the help of a coach or counsellor. Many people handle the emotions and rejection by withdrawing. Others step out into dating, often for the wrong reason. They are trying to ...
Views: 1181(3 votes) - Malicious Divorce Syndrome - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetDivorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children. A syndrome of divorce-related hostilities that affect children has been ...
Views: 7565(10 votes) - ***HOW TO DATE AFTER A DESTRUCTIVE MAN - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,If you return to the dating scene after you’ve been with a destructive man and think you don’t need to plan, then I guarantee that you will end up picking your default dude, or should I say, your default dud. If you are not being intentional in picking your new mate, that is exactly what you ...
Views: 7316(4 votes) - Malicious Divorce Syndrome: How to manage - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetDespite years researching and treating this topic, I find it to be poorly understood but extremely destructive both to parents and to children of divorce. Parents who have lost their child through alienation have sometimes described it as worse than the death of their child because, for the ...
Views: 1683(9 votes) - ***Women = Targets: The Perspective of Abusive Men - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,Women who end up with destructive, abusive, toxic men, have tested 88-95% higher in certain traits than other women. It is no accident or bad luck that you landed a guy that creates chaos and harm in your life; it means you have been found by a destructive guy. Before they know it, women get ...
Views: 9555(6 votes) - A “How to” Guide to Prevail against Parental Alienation: Lessons from “Huckleberry Finn” - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetThe Parental Alienation Syndrome, introduced by forensic psychiatrist Richard Gardner, carries the connotation of the mother as the predominant alienator. I have seen both mothers and fathers alienate their children from the other parent. I have therefore introduced the term malicious divorce ...
Views: 2009(7 votes) - "I Fear the Holidays: It is the Worst Time of the Year!" - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninThe holidays season should be a time of family get-togethers, love shared, and relatives and friends brought up to date. Holidays are supposed to be the reification of that contradiction in terms: mass or group intimacy. Instead, for victims of family violence and abuse, the holidays are ...
Views: 2083(2 votes) - ***Chaotic Love & Kids? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,One of the hardest things to know as a parent, is when to call it quits with our partner. We tolerate more than we should from each other so that we can keep it together for the sake of the kids, yet they see us growing more distant and miserable each day, with no resolution or peace in sight. ...
Views: 1404(3 votes) - ***Hanes Rejects Sheen~Sort Of - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,On January 6, 2010, HANES dropped Charlie Sheen as their advertising star. Yeah HANES! I am going to stock up on tighty-whities just to show my support for your decision to ditch the disordered wife-beater who has a history of disgraces against women. This deserves attention as the message ...
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