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- Innocent Bystanders Who Aid and Abet Parental Alienation Syndrome - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetIn Parental Alienation Syndrome, courts, attorneys, police, social workers, therapists, and friends often assume that what the presumably frightened alienating parent is saying is true. People may believe fabrications by the alienator because the kinds of abuse the alienator claims DO and are ...
Views: 1755(6 votes) - Post Divorce Dating - for Beginners - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeIt is very difficult making the transition from married to single. Post Divorce trauma can take years to overcome without the help of a coach or counsellor. Many people handle the emotions and rejection by withdrawing. Others step out into dating, often for the wrong reason. They are trying to ...
Views: 1290(3 votes) - Malicious Divorce Syndrome - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetDivorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children. A syndrome of divorce-related hostilities that affect children has been ...
Views: 8010(10 votes) - ***HOW TO DATE AFTER A DESTRUCTIVE MAN - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,If you return to the dating scene after you’ve been with a destructive man and think you don’t need to plan, then I guarantee that you will end up picking your default dude, or should I say, your default dud. If you are not being intentional in picking your new mate, that is exactly what you ...
Views: 7576(4 votes) - Malicious Divorce Syndrome: How to manage - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetDespite years researching and treating this topic, I find it to be poorly understood but extremely destructive both to parents and to children of divorce. Parents who have lost their child through alienation have sometimes described it as worse than the death of their child because, for the ...
Views: 1848(9 votes) - ***Women = Targets: The Perspective of Abusive Men - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,Women who end up with destructive, abusive, toxic men, have tested 88-95% higher in certain traits than other women. It is no accident or bad luck that you landed a guy that creates chaos and harm in your life; it means you have been found by a destructive guy. Before they know it, women get ...
Views: 9925(6 votes) - A “How to” Guide to Prevail against Parental Alienation: Lessons from “Huckleberry Finn” - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetThe Parental Alienation Syndrome, introduced by forensic psychiatrist Richard Gardner, carries the connotation of the mother as the predominant alienator. I have seen both mothers and fathers alienate their children from the other parent. I have therefore introduced the term malicious divorce ...
Views: 2171(7 votes) - "I Fear the Holidays: It is the Worst Time of the Year!" - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninThe holidays season should be a time of family get-togethers, love shared, and relatives and friends brought up to date. Holidays are supposed to be the reification of that contradiction in terms: mass or group intimacy. Instead, for victims of family violence and abuse, the holidays are ...
Views: 2248(2 votes) - ***Chaotic Love & Kids? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,One of the hardest things to know as a parent, is when to call it quits with our partner. We tolerate more than we should from each other so that we can keep it together for the sake of the kids, yet they see us growing more distant and miserable each day, with no resolution or peace in sight. ...
Views: 1524(3 votes) - ***Hanes Rejects Sheen~Sort Of - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,On January 6, 2010, HANES dropped Charlie Sheen as their advertising star. Yeah HANES! I am going to stock up on tighty-whities just to show my support for your decision to ditch the disordered wife-beater who has a history of disgraces against women. This deserves attention as the message ...
Views: 1868(4 votes) - ***Senator Elect Scott Brown Confirms It: Chivalry Is Dead - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Thank you Scott Brown, newly elected Senator of Massachusetts, for offering up your daughters at your victory speech last night. First, as a Republican, you shocked the political world by taking the seat, then you shock everyone else with your outrageously inappropriate “wit”. It appears we ...
Views: 1440(4 votes) - ***Two Traits Destructive Men Look For - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,When dealing with a bad guy, your requests, desires, and feelings have to play second to other things in his life. In the beginning, he will put his new gal in low priority as a test of her willingness to bend to his wishes, to see if she will cut herself out at her own expense and pain. ...
Views: 4074(1 vote) - 3 Ways To Get Your Ex To Talk To You - Get Your Ex Back Now! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2013 from Uadiale JohnWhen a relationship breaks up it is very common for one of the partners to realize that the feelings they had were much deeper than they realized and that they would be prepared to do just about anything to get back together again. This can of course be difficult if certain things were said ...
Views: 927(1 vote) - A Bully is a Bully by Any other name is a Bully - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2010 from William WuThe problem of bullying is huge and is now coming under the severe scrutiny of society. People often tend to think about the young child bully when one brings up the subject of the bully. People may conjure up the image of a big, mean, strong boy who threatens and taunts another smaller socially ...
Views: 2147(2 votes) - Anger can be explained, there is no excuse for rage, ever - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2011 from Philippe MoisanAnger happens daily. There are many situations that can make it come out. Here are a few examples : 1. A driver just passed right in front of you 2. You get hit from behind while standing in a bus 3. Your child breaks something precious 4. Somebody just put you down 5. ...
Views: 1372(1 vote) - Beware of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Eva EvansIt is generally believed that love addiction is not as serious as other types of addictions like drugs, gambling or sex. And it might be true; however, love addiction can be easily compared to emotional disorders and obsessions that may often lead to a crime (i.e. a crime of passion). Suicides, ...
Views: 2464(2 votes) - Can I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back? One Thing You Must Know! - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from John Vicki"I think we need some time apart..." Is that how your girlfriend ended it? Or did she completely break up with you? Whatever the case, the bad news is that she broke up with you. You can’t put it into a holding pattern or “save it”, test run, or any of that unreasonable act guys might attempt ...
Views: 3112(1 vote) - Child Molester or Pedophile - Is there a difference and what drives them? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2013 from Roni Weisberg-RossSexual abuse of children is not a new problem, nor have the statistics changed. “1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 14; 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 16.” (Hopper, J. (1998). Child Sexual Abuse: Statistics, Research, & Resources. Boston, MA Boston University ...
Views: 2469(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on May 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 895(2 votes) - Domestic Violence - Something Can be Done - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2010 from Michelle ElaawarWhat makes sufferers of Domestic Violence stay in a violent relationship? Many sufferers feel they have nowhere else to turn. After being with a violent and abusive partner, they have such low self-esteem they can’t fathom what it feels like to deserve something better. The memories of ...
Views: 1034(1 vote) - Ex Keeps Turning Up At My House: My Ex Popped Up At My House - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2019 from Lyra NoaEx Keeps Turning Up At My House: My Ex Popped Up At My House How can you know what your ex really feels towards you? If you have no idea, here are three telltale signs your ex still wants you back. Of course there are many more but these three will tell you instantly what your ex is really ...
Views: 175(1 vote) - Free Interesting Podcasts on Serious Issues - by Submitted on May 01, 2011 from Vincent TreacyEach week whilst working with Onda Cero, one of Spain's national broadcasters, I had a forum called Serious Issues when my guest was psychologist, Steve Ashley. I found myself very often at a very different point of view when discussing issues with Steve and found our discussions most ...
Views: 1521(1 vote) - Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance received the following letter: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomena which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a seemingly ...
Views: 942(2 votes) - Friends With Benefits With An Ex: Friends With Benefits After Breaking Up - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaFriends With Benefits With An Ex: Friends With Benefits After Breaking Up According to a recent poll, 48% of people surveyed said they remained friends with their ex partner. And 18% of those surveyed said that they tried, but it didn't work. Can you really be friends with an old flame? Find ...
Views: 191(1 vote) - He Said, She Said: Apologies - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2013 from nancy traversWhy is it so hard for some men to utter those healing words, “I’m sorry”? And why is it so important to a woman to hear them? It seems men and women look at apologies from different perspectives. Some women, when they apologize, feel really good that they’ve made a positive effort to mend the ...
Views: 782(1 vote) - He Won't Talk To Me After Breakup: Why My Ex Boyfriend Ignores Me Completely - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Lyra NoaHe Won't Talk To Me After Breakup: Why My Ex Boyfriend Ignores Me Completely Having your relationship end is heartbreaking enough, but when your ex refuses to speak to you, this is really devastating. No matter how hard you try, you are met with a brick wall. There are very good reasons why ...
Views: 466(1 vote) - How Long Should Marriage Vows Last? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Elsabe SmitI recently wrote an article in which I explained that any relationship has a natural duration, after which it ends – unless the people in the relationship hold on to the relationship for dear life. This raised a question about marriage vows. Divorce statistics prove to us time and again ...
Views: 2136(1 vote) - How to Approach My Ex Girlfriend - Make Her Yours Again! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2016 from Michael UadialeYour girlfriend just broke up with you and now your feelings have turn into feeling very alone. What should you do now? This is all depending a pond you. You should start by figuring out if you want your ex girlfriend back or not. If you find that you have no ambition to try to get your ex ...
Views: 1946(2 votes) - How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Expert Advice For Women - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Charles UadialeIf your boyfriend not quite long ago let you knew he needs a break or some space, your major intention is to get your ex boyfriend back. Whether it was his fault or yours doesn't count, the only thing you can think of is, you want him back. Here is an expert advice for women whose relationship ...
Views: 3352(2 votes) - How To Get Your Ex-Husband Or Ex-Boyfriend Back In Your Arms Fast - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2013 from Uadiale JohnFrom time to time we all think about the good old days with an ex-boyfriend, and how things could have turned out differently. In some situations, with a really great guy, it's actually worth not just thinking about it, and actually getting out and doing something positive to make it ...
Views: 783(1 vote) - How to Live with and *Understand* an Angry Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Rabbi Shlomo SlatkinOne of the most common yet challenging issues I see when working with couples is anger. Anger is one of the most powerful and most destructive human emotions. The long-term damage it can have on a marriage can be irreparable as it tears apart the trust and safety in a relationship. Here are a ...
Views: 1139(1 vote) - How to Save Your Relationship Even If You've Broken Up - Win Back Your Ex Boyfriend Now! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Charles UadialeYou are about to find out the initial move on how to save your relationship. It doesn't really count if you are separated, divorced, or just broken up - this article very much applies to you. When a break up occurs, it is at all times preceded by clear signals. A good number of us don't focus ...
Views: 780(1 vote) - How To Talk To Ex Girlfriend After Long Time: My Ex Won't Talk To Me And I Want Her Back - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaHow To Talk To Ex Girlfriend After Long Time: My Ex Won't Talk To Me And I Want Her Back Talking to your girlfriend after your break up can be quite unnerving. But if you know what to do then the task becomes easy and you can be a smooth operator. Here is what you need to do when you want to ...
Views: 196(1 vote) - I Want to Get My Relationship Back! Stunning Ways to Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2011 from Charles Uadiale"I want to get my relationship back," is a phrase said by a lot of people from time to time. When you break up with your boyfriend you will be left frustrated. Either relief is going to wash over you for the reason that you are going to feel free of the anxiety and conflict that saturated the ...
Views: 2546(1 vote) - Is She Toxic To You And What To Do About It - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2011 from Frank RobinsWhat are some signs that you may be in a toxic relationship? You'll be able to tell because of the impact being in a toxic relationship does to you. You're probably not aware of it but your body is. It will affect you emotionally, physically and psychologically. What happens is you change ...
Views: 985(1 vote) - My Boyfriend Wants More Space - What Do I Do? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Charles UadialeWhen a woman is saying this she feels panic. When your boyfriend whom you love approaches you and let you know that he needs more space it is confusing. That is particularly true if you two have been getting along well. Regrettably, we can't see inside the heart of a guy as a result even if you ...
Views: 3774(1 vote) - Our Universal Family - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Jo-Anne CutlerFrom the generous outpouring of compassion and support for the people of Haiti to the theme of the top grossing Golden Globe best motion picture, Avatar, the message is clear – we are all connected as human beings – one universal family. The experience of profound devastation and continuous ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - Psychological Tricks to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back After A Breakup! - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Charles UadialeFor several years even centuries relationships has been studied by expert psychologists and doctors to know the actual problems in the relationship and get better from there. It looks like relationships are aspect of nature that is what everybody passing through. However the main issue in the ...
Views: 4568(1 vote) - Should I Be Friends With My Ex If I Want Him Back: Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Lyra NoaShould I Be Friends With My Ex If I Want Him Back: Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend If you were to ask someone whether or not you should be friends with your ex boyfriend. Often a banal response would be: "Your ex is an ex for a reason." Suggesting that you shouldn't be friends ...
Views: 240(1 vote) - Signs My Ex Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For Me: Signs Your Ex Wants You Back But Won't Admit It - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaSigns My Ex Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For Me: Signs Your Ex Wants You Back But Won't Admit It That's a very common question among women after a break up. When you still love your ex it's not easy to let go of him. You dream of a renewed future with him and a second chance at love. As much ...
Views: 237(1 vote) - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You and What to Do About Them - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Charles UadialeIf you were to look up the words "emotional torture" in the dictionary, you would most likely get a definition that included being in love with a man who has broken up with you. Even worse, if you were in a long term relationship with your boyfriend and have come to realize how important he is ...
Views: 4084(1 vote) - Some Common Signs Of Cheating In A Relationship - Watch Out For These! - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2012 from Charles ScholarThere are some common signs of cheating in a relationship. Working late nights, frequent company function, more meeting, more often going out with friends and many such signs may be a cause of concern. Few Common Signs of Cheating In A Relationship The unaccounted money can be a sign of ...
Views: 1166(1 vote) - Surviving The Loss Of A Child - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Ivette AttaudEverything happened so fast. That morning I was strangled to near unconsciousness by my abusive husband because I wouldn’t get an abortion, and that night I’m in the emergency room at Fort Bragg being admitted in pre-term labor. The doctors tried to stop the labor, but it was all in vain – the ...
Views: 1696(1 vote) - Ten Tips Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineTen Ways to Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization One of the greatest fears of those in recovery from narcissistic abuse is re-victimization. People feel powerless against the covert mind control used by narcissists to trap unknowing victims. Knowledge is power. Awareness is protection. ...
Views: 936(1 vote) - The Charlie Sheen Media Saga: Is Violence Against Women Really Okay? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Anthony MoraPerhaps the strangest aspect of the whole Charlie Sheen media storm, at least from my perspective, is that the furor has been about his drug use and his tirades against his producer. Don’t get me wrong, those aren’t good things, but physically and verbally abusing women seem like activities ...
Views: 1261(1 vote) - The Cycle of Battered Person Syndrome - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from William Heads– Battered Person Syndrome [BPS], sometimes known as “ battered woman syndrome,” is a form of emotional trauma which has been intensely studied since 1970, when the first book on the subject appeared. As I have read through the various lists of symptoms, cyclical dynamics, and aftereffects of ...
Views: 529(1 vote) - Top 3 Ways to Teach Your Child to Accept Children Who Are Different - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2019 from Laura St JohnYour children are going to encounter other children who are different than them. Here's three ways to teach your children to accept other children. 1. Understanding: We all have situations. There are always underlying circumstances that people are going through that they don’t outwardly ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Verbal Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Trina SonnenbergVerbal abuse is probably the most common form of abuse exercised today, but it is also one form of abuse that is not publically recognized. Children experience verbal abuse at the hands of their parents, school mates and others; growing up thinking it is a normal way to behave. As adults, they ...
Views: 842(1 vote) - Verbally Abusive Mothers: What Can Happen When Someone Is Verbally Abused By Their Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete ...
Views: 1616(1 vote) - Why and How to Grow Wings - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Emma ViglucciI read a while ago, and found it applicable to many areas of our life, that we can handle as much as the span of your wings. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that God, the Universe, doesn’t bestow (good or bad) onto you more than you can handle? We can use this concept well in our growth, ...
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