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If a man is attracted to women, it doesn’t mean that he will feel comfortable being this way. In this case, part of him will feel attracted to a woman and another part of him will experience resistance.
By being this way, he is going to experience a lot of conflict when it comes to this area ... Views: 94
Having the need to be seen is a normal part of life; this is part of being an independent human being. Nonetheless, someone can have such a strong need to be seen that it consumes them.
As a result of this, if they are not doing what they can to receive attention, they can be thinking of ... Views: 90
Just because someone is now an adult and their developmental years are thing of the past, it doesn’t mean that they have truly moved on from this stage of their life. However, if this is the case, they might not be consciously aware of it.
The signs that reflect that they haven’t moved on ... Views: 95
Although someone can feel emotionally empty, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, what they can be aware of is their need to attain, achieve and experience different things.
They can then be someone who describes themselves as driven and this could be how a number ... Views: 72
What someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that when they are around others, they have the tendency to lose touch with how they feel. This is then going to be something that just happens as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do.
As ... Views: 92
Even though human beings live on the same planet, what is clear is that they are not all having the same experience. Not only are there going to be different experiences that some people have in one country and some people have in another, but there will be differences that people experience in ... Views: 97
In order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to freely express themselves. And, to be able to do this, they will need to have a felt sense of safety.
By feeling safe in their own body, they will be able to listen to their needs and feelings and then allow what is ... Views: 100
Even though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. The reason for this is that, in general, they could look towards others to make decisions for them, to stand up for them and for guidance about how to live their life.
Based on this, when it comes to how they ... Views: 108
While there are those who lack the ability to observe themselves and need to take the time to develop this ability, there are those that don’t. When someone has this ability, it could show that they have spent a fair amount of time meditating.
Then again, this could be something that they ... Views: 98
One thing that someone can experience, that’s if they have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, is a lot of rage. In fact, they can feel so mad that ending one or both of their parent’s life could enter their mind.
Due to how they feel, it could be as if they ... Views: 82
Although someone could live in a country and an area that is relatively safe, based on how they live, it will be as though this is not the case. This is because they could have the inclination to isolate themselves from others.
If so, they could only go out when they need to do so, such as ... Views: 94
In general, someone’s inner world could be somewhere that is not very harmonious. If so, they might rarely experience positive feelings and find it hard to feel good about themselves.
To use an analogy: their inner world can be like the inside of a house that is in a state of decay. ... Views: 124
If someone was to see that their early years were not very nurturing, it could take a little while until they feel ready to share what happened with others. As for why it has taken them a little while to see this, this will most likely be due to their conscious mind forgetting all about what ... Views: 107
If a woman has been with at least two men who were heavily caught up in their mother’s world, she could be totally confused and well and truly fed up. In all likelihood, she is likely to want to be with a man who is available.
But, although she will want to be with a man who is like this, she ... Views: 95
There is the chance that someone could work somewhere that is not very supportive, for instance. As a result of this, they could often feel worthless and even humiliated when they are at work.
Along with this, they could be in a relationship that is not much better, with this also being a ... Views: 106
In general, a man could spend a lot of time being in a passive state and not feel the call to do a great deal. By being this way, he is typically only going to take action when he has to or when he is encouraged to do so.
When it comes to the former, this will relate to when he has to go to ... Views: 117
If someone has problems with their ‘mental health’ and they were to reach out for support, there is a strong chance that what is taking place in their mind will be the area of focus. Therefore, their thoughts, beliefs and even behaviour are likely to come under the microscope.
It could be ... Views: 102
Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to believe that who they are begins and ends with their conscious mind. This is likely to be an outlook that is supported by the society that they live in.
Therefore, it wouldn’t be right to say that they just randomly came to this conclusion as they ... Views: 111
Although someone will have been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that they will see their life as a gift. Thanks to how they generally experience life, it could be seen as a curse and as something that they have to endure.
What this can show is that they have the tendency to experience ... Views: 67
When it comes to a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother, it can be hard for someone to understand what is going on. He is going to be undermining himself, so this is to be expected.
They can wonder why a grown man would be so focused on his mother and deprive himself in ... Views: 116
One of the things that can soon stand out, when it comes to a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother, is that he acts as though he is purely an extension of her. As opposed to being a separate from her, then, he will be a part of her that is not physically attached to ... Views: 116
If a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it might appear as though he has chosen to be with way. After all, he will be an adult so it’s not as if he won’t have a choice when it comes to how he behaves.
Not only this, but if he was asked about this, he could also say that ... Views: 125
Physically, someone will be separate from others, but that doesn’t mean that they will act as though they are separate from them. Instead, they could have the tendency to act like an extension of others.
What this means is that they will typically be a follower as opposed to a leader and will ... Views: 119
From the outside, someone will look like a whole human being; however, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to act like one. What this comes down to is that they could live on the surface of themselves.
Therefore, instead of being connected to their body and in tune with their needs and ... Views: 77
Although someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. The main reason for this is that they could find it hard to be by themselves, with this being a time when they typically feel all at sea emotionally.
If they are around another or others, ... Views: 129
If a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and ignores most of his own needs, he is going to be very loyal to his mother. However, although being loyal is often seen as being a good thing, behaving in this way is not going to be serving him.
Even so, it doesn’t mean that they will ... Views: 105
Just because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it.
For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ... Views: 113
If the average person was asked to think about both an adult and a child experiencing something that is deeply distressing and was then asked to decide which one would be harmed the most, they are likely to say the latter. They could say that as the child is not as developed it is bound to have ... Views: 108
In general, someone could prefer to spend time by themselves and when they are around others, they could have the tendency to lose who they are. When they are in their own company, then, they could have a fairly strong connection with their inner world and feel free to do just about whatever ... Views: 94
Right now, someone could be in a relationship that is not very fulfilling, and there could be a number of reasons why this is. Now, this could be because they are with someone who is incredibly abusive but, then again, it might not be this severe.
Instead, they could be with someone who ... Views: 111
If someone was to get into a relationship, what could soon stand out is that they don’t have a good connection to their needs and feelings. Before this, they might not have realised how disconnected they were.
But, now that they need to be in touch with both of these elements, it will be ... Views: 90
After having recently lost a parent, someone could find that they are now experiencing a number of different feelings. There can also be a sense of shock around what has happened, with them finding it hard to accept that they will never see this parent again.
When it comes to how they feel, ... Views: 134
A lot is said about how important it is to forgive another but, in comparison, very little is said about how important it is to forgive oneself. It could be said that one reason for this is that if someone blames another, it will be easy to spot; whereas if they blame themselves, this won’t be ... Views: 101
Although someone is made up of at least three parts, so their thinking, emotional and instinctual self, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. The reason for this is that they could come across as though they only possess the first self.
Therefore, they could come across as though they are ... Views: 85
If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother, it is likely to mean that he will neglect himself. The reason for this is that he only has so much time and energy and if these two resources are being directed towards his mother, he will have less ... Views: 109
Although someone might not ever climb down into a hole, it doesn’t mean that they won’t ever feel like they are in a hole. They could often have moments when they feel they are deep in the ground.
Not only this but when they are in this hole, they could feel as though they will never get out ... Views: 171
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to hide themselves. As a result of this, how they generally come across won’t reflect who they truly are.
This will mean that a number of their needs and feelings will rarely ... Views: 100
What could be normal is for someone to continually end up with people who are unable to truly be there for them. When they are in a relationship, then, it could be as though they are with a child as opposed to an adult.
There is a chance that they are currently in a relationship with someone ... Views: 141
In general, someone could find it hard to get things done and they could spend a lot of time sitting around. When they do take action, it could typically be because they feel that they have to.
For example, this could show that they have to go to work or have run out of food. Behind actions ... Views: 107
After getting to the stage where they can see that they are not in a good way, someone can look for a way to change their life. There is a chance that they have been this way for quite some time.
Either way, they will have taken a big step by becoming aware of what is going as if this hasn’t ... Views: 137
At the height of the pandemic, it wasn’t possible for a lot of people to live as they usually would. This was a time when so many people had to isolate themselves from others and were only able to go out for the basics and perhaps to work, that’s if they were a key worker, for instance.
As ... Views: 101
What could stand out, that’s if someone was to step back and reflect on their life, is that they give a lot but they don’t receive much back. After this, they could find that they don’t believe that they deserve to have what they need and want.
Due to this, it is not going to matter how much ... Views: 109
Although a man may have the desire to be in a loving relationship, it doesn’t mean that he will believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he might have had this desire for quite some time and not been able to make much progress.
He could look back on his life and see that he ... Views: 110
If someone has a strong need for human contact, it can seem as if they would be aware of it. However, even if they do, this could still be something that they are typically unaware of.
What this means, then, is that this need will generally be outside of their conscious awareness. But, while ... Views: 97
Even if someone feels emotionally empty, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. The reason for this is that this could just be normal, which is why it won’t be something that stands out.
However, while this may be the case, they could still be aware of the effects of being ... Views: 114
If someone ends up having therapy, it could be due to a number of reasons. For example, they could find that they suffer from anxiety, often feel depressed and/or find it hard to experience intimacy.
Now, regardless of what is going on for them, this could be something that has troubled them ... Views: 96
Whether someone has just started to work on their wounds or has been doing so for a little while, they are going to want their life to change. As to why they are engaging in this work, it could show that they were deeply deprived during their early years.
If so, this may have been a time when ... Views: 114
If the average person was asked to explain why the world is the way that it is, they could say that it is because of the people at the top. So, when it comes to the reason why so many people are struggling to survive and so many resources are in the hands of the few, for example, this will be ... Views: 157
Although the ideal will be for someone to be able to experience positive feelings on a regular basis, it doesn’t mean that this will be something that they are able to relate to. It could typically be a challenge for them to feel good.
In general, they could feel bad, guilty, ashamed and ... Views: 83
What someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they rarely reveal themselves. This is going to mean that their true self, so their needs and feelings, will typically be covered up.
When they are around others, then, they are largely going to put on an ... Views: 87