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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How to Choose the Best Partner for Life (and Make Other Important Decisions) - by Submitted on May 05, 2004 from Susan DunnHow to choose the best partner for life? Let’s use the investment analogy. Here’s how it works. I’m a fan of Warren Buffett, the world’s greatest investor. He took $100 and turned it into a multibillion-dollar company. In the latest Forbes “richest ...
Views: 3704(2 votes) - Even Ralph Kramden Used Self Talk - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle Becourtney"Pins and needles, needles and pins; it's a happy man that grins." These classic words were made famous by Jackie Gleason in his role as Ralph Kramden in the 1950s TV sitcom, The Honeymooners. So why in the world was America's favorite bus driver so intent on repeating this phrase whenever he ...
Views: 3703(2 votes) - Relationships, Boundaries, and Facebook - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2011 from nancy traversSocial networks have injected an interesting new aspect into our lives and relationships. Today, we’re all living very publically. We’re our own paparazzi and gossip magazine, updating the web with every little thought, piece of drama, and embarrassing picture of friends. Our boundaries are very ...
Views: 3701 - Rising Above Betrayal – 3 Tips on How to Overcome Betrayal - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Betrayal is one of the uglier things in life, but sometimes it cannot be helped. Have you ever been betrayed by someone? It could be some acquaintaince you wouldn’t mind losing in your life, but it could also be a close family member, a best friend, or a partner. Whether ...
Views: 3700(2 votes) - Writing Your “Relationships-Autobiography” Enables you to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilWriting one’s autobiography has become trendy these days. Old people write their autobiographies, looking-back at their life, to “leave something” for the next generations in their family. As they work on their autobiography they “look-back” at their life, remember the high points and ...
Views: 3700(1 vote) - Is Anyone Really Winning? Competition in Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2010 from Gail Barker"I win!!!" When was the last time you heard this phrase -- or used this phrase -- in the context of your primary relationships? I'm not talking about any scenario that inherently involves a sport or a game; in other words this article isn't about your hockey team-mates, or your tennis ...
Views: 3695 - Exactly How to Get a Guy Hooked On You: How to Keep Him Hooked Forever - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2017 from James UadialeExactly How to Get a Guy Hooked On You: How to Keep Him Hooked Forever Were you taught to be sweet, kind and demure to make a man love you? Have you been acting as nice as can be and guys still aren't flocking to be with you? Do you sometimes think you should vamp it up, but you just don't ...
Views: 3694 - Chinese Astrology - All Out of Love - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2019 from Alvin YapIn Chinese Astrology, the birth chart of a person allows us to determine the quality of spousal relationship through an intricate destiny analysis. One of the branches of Chinese Astrology known as Four Pillars of Destiny or BaZi can reveal the luck of marriage of a person. In Ba Zi, the ...
Views: 3691 - *** It's All About Love! - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is life REALLY all about? It's all about love! But what does this mean? Most people, when thinking about love, think about BEING LOVED. But, as an adult, the deeper soul's journey is not about being loved - it is about BEING LOVING. For small children, the main focus is on being loved, ...
Views: 3688(3 votes) - Got Closure? How to Move Forward Powerfully and Positively - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Lissa CoffeyEach of us experiences some kind of loss in this lifetime. People come and go from our lives, whether by choice or circumstance. How we cope with these events affects how we move forward, how we see the world, and how we feel about our lives. I’m not the only person to have been through a ...
Views: 3688(5 votes) - Hinting is not clear communication - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Donna LeeUnfortunately, I hear it often from clients and random conversations with friends and other people that they want to consider a person to be clueless or even stupid because that person did not understand them hinting about an issue. Many people do hint and actually think that people that they ...
Views: 3687(1 vote) - Rekindle An Old Flame – Subliminal Messages Can Help - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2011 from Nelson BerryDid you lost what you now realize is the love of your life? Or have you recently come across an old flame you realize you still love? Finding or getting back together with a lost love is the goal of many individuals out there. A lot of people just have this one person they can’t seem to get ...
Views: 3687 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Attracted To Abusive Men? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some women out there, it can seem as though they have a sign on their forehead that says ‘’abusive men only’’. And this is due to their experience of only attracting men who are abusive. It may even go further than this and a woman could come to the conclusion that all men are the same. ...
Views: 3685 - Are You The Preserver Of Life Or The Condemner Of Death - by Submitted on May 21, 2012 from David SamuelPeople who fight for preservation of a species, often neglect what preservation of life requires, which is in many cases, the end of another life. Humans are the only creature who can choose an alternate food source. Lions cannot become vegetarians as much as elephants can become ...
Views: 3684 - Getting Over Your Ex Girlfriend - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Chris Roberts'It's over' two little words are what were needed to end your relationship with your sweetie. You just can't get over your ex girlfriend. Your world collapses and you are under great pressure to even beg her to come back to you as ever. You would do anything and everything at this situation to ...
Views: 3684 - ***"I Just Want to Explain" - Explaining as a Form of Control - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Margaret Paul"My husband never lets me explain anything to him. It's so frustrating! He makes these statements that are blaming and attacking and then he won't listen to me when I'm trying to explain.""Why do you want to explain?""I NEED to explain because he is not seeing things ...
Views: 3683(3 votes) - How to Save Your Marriage if You Think Your Spouse Is Cheating - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Angie LewisWhat I am about to tell you is NOT a new concept, although you will not get this kind of advice very often when dealing with a cheating spouse because most people don’t think adultery is fixable. But I am here to tell you that you can heal from the affects of adultery and be a better spouse for ...
Views: 3681 - A Letter To My Ex Girlfriend That I Still Love - Cute Ways To Get Your Girlfriend Back - Press Release - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldA Letter To My Ex Girlfriend That I Still Love; How have you been treating your woman? Do you treat her like a jerk which in turn made her leave you? If you think you want to get her back you may be making a mistake. If she already left you for the way you treated her why should she take you ...
Views: 3679 - Breakup Avoidance in Three Easy Steps - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Andrew HunterEven when a breakup is warranted, it can be messy and painful. Things often are said that are later rued, and both people usually are hurt. Breakups rarely leave friendly relationships in their wake - the residue of a breakup can be every bit as acrimonious as that of a nasty divorce. Breakups ...
Views: 3676(7 votes) - 3 Ways To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - This Is Guaranteed to Work! - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Phillip TomAre you finding it difficult to reconcile with your ex girlfriend? Although the situation is easier said than done, the ways to get your girlfriend back are in point of fact very simple. Here are 3 different techniques to accomplish this, read them over and you are going to be able to come ...
Views: 3673 - Getting My Ex Back By Following A Strategy - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoIf you are searching for steps to getting an ex back then you are going to need to do a few different things. The first thing to do isn't to stalk them, call them a dozen times, or send them many messages. They don't want to be bothered when they are endeavoring to cool down from a fight, or ...
Views: 3673 - Men and Women: How to Coexist and Be Happy Together - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2010 from Julian SaganIt is practically impossible to find a phenomenon that both men and women would have the same views about. We remain a mystery for one another and essentially live in two isolated realities that only rarely intersect. How can we better understand our other half in everything, including intimate ...
Views: 3661(1 vote) - How To Stop Blocking Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Mark Ivar MyhreAre you blocking relationships too? Somewhere early in life I decided I did not live in a safe world because the people in it could hurt me. And the closer someone got to me, the more likely they could (and would) inflict pain on me. I saw only one solution to this problem. I just can't ...
Views: 3653 - I Can't Get My Ex Back After Cheating - What You're Doing Wrong? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Charles UadialeI can't get my ex back after cheating.I am aware that I have done a lot of wrong things sometime ago and presently I wish to correct my mistakes. Is there anything I’m not doing right? What is stopping me from getting through to my ex boyfriend? Do I deserve getting him back for cheating ...
Views: 3653 - Closing the Communication Gap in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2010 from Rachel MohebanIsn’t it interesting how even when you and your partner speak the same language, you don’t always understand what he/she is saying? Let me explain by way of example… Wife: I really wish you would come home earlier from work. She means: I feel lonely and neglected and I would love for us ...
Views: 3650 - When You See Your Ex With A Downgrade - What To Say When You See Your Ex - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldWhen you see your ex with a downgrade; Have you and your ex-boyfriend been considering coming back to each other? This could be a pretty exciting feeling for you while remembering the good times you had together. Many couples have reunited and gone on to have a successful relationship. What ...
Views: 3650 - Five Very Important Questions to Ask Yourself After a Breakup - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaEvery breakup comes along with its own different set of mental ordeal. What precisely brought about the separation involving Andrew and Linda would likely have basic resemblance with what caused the breakup involving Julia and Frank, however, each has a number of unique attributes which needs to ...
Views: 3646(5 votes) - Words of Encouragement After a Breakup - Make Your Relationship Work - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2012 from Patrick UadialeYou'll hear all kinds of words of encouragement after a breakup. What you choose to do with them is completely up to you. It's a good idea if you take them to heart and appreciate them in the spirit they were given: out of love for you. Breakups aren't easy for anyone. Whether you were on the ...
Views: 3645 - Will Ex Boyfriend Come Back to Me - The Secret to Get Him Back! - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Phillip TomIf you recently broke up with your boyfriend, probability is that you are asking yourself, "Will ex boyfriend come back?" You perhaps think about him always and wonder whether or not you are going to ever feel the same way about someone else. This kind of despair can be extremely lonely and ...
Views: 3642 - How to Be Romantic After a Break Up - Apply The 5 Easy & Meaningful Steps To Be Romantic After A Break Up - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Johnny WayneSo you've broken up with the person you love and you want them back. Really, how can you be the same person giving the same romance after a break up? It does not simply apply that when you will get back again, same romance can be given; it is actually hard to do it especially when it took a ...
Views: 3641 - ***Should You Try To Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships can be saved, but not all!” And our corollary has always been – “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, ...
Views: 3639(30 votes) - Revealed! The Secret Language of Women - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Kim SarrasinThe differences between men and women and lack of quality, in depth information about the opposite sex is the root of much frustration and heartbreak. It's my passion and biggest mission in life to get you in great shape and start having great relationships. It isn't very hard to accomplish ...
Views: 3636 - Marriage Exercises that will Save Your Marriage! - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2011 from Gery WriterAll relationships have humps in the road, but exactly how are you aware when you’ve broken an axel? The great news is that if the marriage hasn’t stopped, then your partner is still looking for divorce alternatives. Unfortunately, before you can fix your relationship, you should know what’s ...
Views: 3635 - Break Up Advice - How To Fix A Break Up With Your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend - Relational Skills - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldBreak up advice; Stipulation you were in what you thought was a close relationship with a man or woman who unexpectedly dumped you, you may find out later that you want to get him or her back. How to fix a break up with your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend; Maybe you think this relationship was ...
Views: 3634 - Clear Signs Of Reconciliation After Separation: How Will My Husband Act If He Wants To Reconcile With Me - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2021 from Carmen JimenaClear Signs Of Reconciliation After Separation: How Will My Husband Act If He Wants To Reconcile With Me Sometimes in the heat of the second, couples settle to go their separate ways and ask for a separation. Its neither a break or a divorce, but more like time off. This will allow both ...
Views: 3634 - What is a White Knight? - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsWhite knights have a compulsive need to rescue, but how and why they rescue can be quite varied. The following is an overview of the basic characteristics common to all white knights. There are also four subtypes: the overly empathetic white knight, the tarnished white knight, the terrorizing/ ...
Views: 3630 - The Best Place to Meet a Single Military Man or Woman - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2012 from Ema HarperMany people say that military men and women make great partners in life. Their nearness to risk, danger, and unpredictability are said to help give military men a better grasp at reality. Greg Zorraya, author of an article entitled “Cupid’s Arrow Lands in a War Zone,” published in USA Today ...
Views: 3628(1 vote) - Why REAL Love Goes Beyond Falling in and Out of Love - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessMAIN QUOTE You'll discover that real love is millions of miles past falling in love with anyone or anything. When you make that one effort to feel compassion instead of blame or self-blame, the heart opens again and continues opening ~ Sara Paddison DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS Once ...
Views: 3626 - ACT With Love: NAME Your Feelings - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsNAME your feelings If you want to handle your feelings effectively, NAME them. NAME is an acronym for: N – Notice A – Acknowledge M – Make space E – Expand awareness Let’s go through these steps for handling your feelings, one by one. STEP 1: NOTICE When strong feelings show up, the first ...
Views: 3624 - Why Do You Get SOOOOOOOO Angry? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Telka Arend-Ritter“It’s only fair when I yell at you, she said to me once. You had a better Childhood.” Brian Andreas Consider the last time you felt angry. What set you off? Traffic. Stress at work. Long waiting lines. High phone bill. The mess at home. Computer problems. He was drunk. ...
Views: 3624(1 vote) - How to Forget an Ex Boyfriend Fast and Move On With Your Life! - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2011 from Michael UadialeA lot of women who just broke up want to know how to forget an ex boyfriend fast. It can be difficult to get through daily life and regain happiness because you still have lingering feelings for him. There are some simple things you can carry out to accelerate the process and forget your ex ...
Views: 3621 - You're Obsessed with Your Ex Boyfriend - How to Win Him Back - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from John OnyekaWhen you wake up in the morning he is the first thing that enters your mind and he is the only one who you think about all day long. It is hard since even if the two of you had a failed relationship, you are still in love with him. You may have even attempted to move on without him however it ...
Views: 3617(1 vote) - ***Fear of Anger - Yours and Others - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Margaret PaulAre you terrified of others' anger? Are you afraid to open to your own anger for fear of getting out of control?If you grew up in an angry or violent home, there is a good possibility that you have a fear of both your own anger and others' anger.Fear of Others' AngerI grew up with a very angry ...
Views: 3613(1 vote) - Get Your Ex Back Now - It's Never Too Late! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from John OnyekaHave you someone ever told you that you can get your ex back now? Or came across some offers and ad somewhere that offers that? The hitch with offers and ads like that is they don't spell out what they signify by now. Do they mean that if you buy now they can get you started today to get your ex ...
Views: 3612 - ***"What Are They Thinking About Me?" - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2010 from Margaret Paul"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do."--Eleanor RooseveltWhy should most people be thinking about you? They are far more concerned with what you are thinking about them to spend time thinking about you!Right now, take a moment to ...
Views: 3611(1 vote) - ***Crazy Firemen's Dance - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Barbara SteppHow many times have you've heard someone say (not yourself, of course), "I'm angry"? When people identify themselves with an emotional response, this is not only ludicrous, inaccurate, and stupid; it's also extremely crappy hypnosis. When they do that, the deletions are there other than ...
Views: 3607 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong feelings for him and ...
Views: 3607(1 vote) - The Metrosexual Man vs. The Cowboy - What DO Women Want? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2004 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanHe always looks perfectly put together. He can be in a t-shirt and jeans or heading out to a black-tie event. His hair never has a bad day. His nails are clean and buffed. His clothes are perfectly pressed and exquisitely coordinated. He smells like flowers and spice. Is he gay? No, he's the new ...
Views: 3604 - How to Win His Love Back - Tips to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Fall in Love With You Once More - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Charles UadialeWe are all aware of the lines regarding the way love doesn't simply come by day after day, therefore once you end a relationship with a man that you still love so much, it can make you become haunting and desperate in your feeling. You would start thinking of the good times you spent together, ...
Views: 3599 - Healthy Boundaries = Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkRelationships are a beautiful thing but they can also be challenging. I love a cartoon that reads as follows: “Relationships: a mess worth making.” It very well illustrates how many times relationships can be messy or unhealthy. The main cause of unhealthy relationships? Unhealthy boundaries. ...
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