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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: I believe he is a good man at heart - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage 3 years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass. I was confused and did not act until one Friday night he did not come home to sleep. He came back that Saturday night and ...
Views: 1350(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't bear to think of life without her - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am unusually confident that you can help me.Well I hope you can anyway. I am 18 years old, I live in England, and I am a lesbian. A year ago,I escaped from a extremely abusive and violent relationship with a woman that I was with for two years.There was an extreme age ...
Views: 1355(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't find a way to talk to him - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: K so there is a guy in one of my classes that I kinda like but he doesn't know me. I can't find a way to talk to him cause I can't ask him to help me with a question cause he is in front and it would look obvious asking him when there are so many smart people around me. We are ...
Views: 873(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just over one year ago, my girlfriend cheated on me. It wasn't the standard 'met a guy, went to his place' kind of thing, she did it via the internet. He had her cell number but she swears they never talked (though she admits he left voicemails). Everything seemed fine with ...
Views: 2633(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Tina Tessinap>Dear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ...
Views: 1789(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. So ...
Views: 1005(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't live like this any more - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent ...
Views: 1101(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't have the strength to file for divorce - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have been separated for almost 2 years now but don't have the strength to file for divorce. In part this is because I feel bad (I decided to separate because I was unhappy) and he has no immediate family in the US, but also because of our daughter ...
Views: 1105(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Know How To Choose a Man - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You give good advice and I really like the articles you have here. I wish I could apply it to my life. I have married and divorced twice and i always tell myself "I don't know how to choose a man". But is it the man or me who is wrong? I don't know. Now, I have a ...
Views: 830(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know if this is retaliation - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "The One Who Got Away." While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar. About 8-9 mos ago, I ran into a high school crush on a social media site – I took the first leap, and shot her a "hey how you ...
Views: 1067(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't like this game - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem with this girl I like who's four years younger, we've been friends for a year. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. One week after they broke up, I went out with her. We had some drinks, and started making out. I asked her how long she had ...
Views: 1121(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't think I want to be in this relationship after all - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ...
Views: 698(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to be the victim of any Jezebel - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a gentle young graduate of about 30 years. Throughout my staying on the campus, I decided not to enter into any real relationship that could eventually lead to marriage (I mean I had nothing in common with girls). Now, I need a life partner, wish must be a graduate like ...
Views: 968(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't ...
Views: 676(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I dont know what bipolar is but I wonder about him. - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating a guy for 3 years now. He still lives at home with his parents he is very polite we go to church together. He bought our rings last year and we were going to get married this year. I cancelled for this year. I dont know what bipolar is but i wonder ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel almost embarrassed about being a virgin at my age - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your blog while searching the internet for help for women In dysfunctional relationships. . Your language and spiritual, yet non judgmental approach really resonated with me. I am an ethnically mixed woman in my thirties. My parents ...
Views: 1074(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like I am a maid and a sex toy not a wife - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Me and my husband just recently celebrated our 20 year anniversary. I bought my husband a small gift and when I ask what he got me- he told me I was not worth getting anything. This really hurt, my husband does not show any kind of affection or consideration for other ...
Views: 1506(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a damned freak. - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My entire adult life, I have gone out to all the places you're told to go to meet someone special. Nothing. I never even get asked out. It's like I'm invisible, and my life has wasted away because there's not a damn thing I can to do to 'make' someone ...
Views: 735(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a fool - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instructions, and got the truth. You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ...
Views: 900(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like we have to sneak around and hide - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This ...
Views: 889(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I find her volatile and aggressive - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ? My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though I'm ...
Views: 854(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I googled him, he has a criminal record - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: A year ago I broke up with a guy who then stalked me. I finally got rid of him, and then I found out he had a criminal record. I googled him, and found out he lives just a few miles away. and he is currently in jail for four separate DUIs, resisting ...
Views: 1392(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I grew up with a mother who said hateful things - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I really need your help. Could you please recommend one of your books for myself. I grew up in a home with a mother who was famous for saying hateful things that she didn't mean when she was mad. Lately I am doing the very same thing. I am newly married and I love my ...
Views: 1316(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I guess we don't separate the "math" from the "emotion!" - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "How to Avoid Financial Infidelity" about couples fighting over finances: I am totally on board as I think what you share is phenomenal. The challenge is my approach I suppose as my wife is almost NEVER on board. I guess we don't ...
Views: 748(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I had never questioned him about other ladies - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a couple of years into my relationship with many problems. I met my guy online ...
Views: 701(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I had to pay for everything - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ...
Views: 1053(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ...
Views: 1549(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have become quite the online Romeo - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Hi, I read a few of your articles. I always find your info helpful and interesting I have been divorced now going on 6 years, I am man in my early 40s, and have been internet dating consistently. Yikes! I never have trouble getting the ...
Views: 2497(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hurt by every guy I have dated - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a new relationship for a few months. I haven't dated for a couple of years on the advice of my therapist. I met a really nice guy on an online dating service which was totally out of my character. He is a really nice guy (Thank God) He lives in a different state ...
Views: 1140(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have cheated on my husband 3 times - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've heard you on the radio, and I've been married the same length of time as you. We've known each other since grade school. I have cheated on my husband 3 times. He still wants to stay married and rebuild trust but he's got major depression and ...
Views: 1755(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never met him and he lives in another country - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I stumbled upon your article ...
Views: 763(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have no support structure - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 48 years of age, never married but would definitely like to. I am doing the online dating thing for a while now and so far no success. I am currently speaking to a gentleman who lives in another state; but given he is currently a pilot he ...
Views: 1235(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have questioned bisexuality with him and he becomes furious - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for about 25 yrs. 14 yrs ago, I realized that other men around my husband make him much happier than i could. He laughs and i can tell he likes it, He keeps a very long 10-12 hr days working, very dedicated to work, but he drives to ...
Views: 1182(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have strong feelings for my boss - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Dr. Romance, I have strong feelings for my boss, he's 10 years older than me. I cannot explain why I have these feelings or why I think of him ....He's still my boss kinda, I'm working on a new mission and have a different boss now, its not the same. I miss my boss, I wander if he misses me ...
Views: 983(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong feelings for him and ...
Views: 3685(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have strong feelings for my plastic surgeon - by Submitted on May 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong ...
Views: 908(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't spoken to my maternal grandparents in 5 years - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm not sure if you're willing or able to help, but I've been looking online for a solution to my problem for a while now. As of yet, I've come up empty handed. My situation is that I'm 21 years old and haven't spoken to my maternal grandparents ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't told anyone i'm in this relationship out of fear - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I want to thank you for the article you wrote "Age Differences in Relationships" I've been dating a guy that is 6 years younger than me (he's 20 and i'm 26) for about 10 months now and I've felt so guilty that i'm "robbing the crib" or a "cougar"...I haven't told anyone ...
Views: 1062(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want a way to resolve the yelling. - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been together with my wife for about 3 years now. We have worked on many issues in our marriage and resolved most of them, however there is still one issue that has not been resolved. It seem that little mistakes I make such as not taking out the trash when it smells ...
Views: 984(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want to bring joy and spice in their life - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As I am approaching middle age, my kids are graduating from high school, I am a single woman, kept a youthful image, found myself many times attractive to older married men, I have been saying no, but now I feel free to say ...
Views: 1577(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I keep telling him not to push me. - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I find your articles very interesting. I have a minor problem with my husband. he keeps telling me that I don't listen and that I am stubborn. I admit my mind goes blank sometimes because he expects a lot from me and treats me like a teenager. I keep telling him ...
Views: 872(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I love a deaf girl with all my heart - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart. The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it. They keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so ...
Views: 904(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I love him to death but if I can't find a solution - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My name is Michelle i am 18 years old.. I was reading "How Not to Fight"; and everything that you talked about not doing during a fight I tend to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we tend to fight a lot about the smallest things that you could ...
Views: 1030(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need a man to stand behind me - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm an Iraqi woman in my forties. I am divorced & I have a daughter in her twenties. I read your article "Age Differences in Dating". 3 months ago I fell in love with a man a few years older than my daughter. At first I didn’t know ...
Views: 1295(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need something to break the ice! - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:What to say in this situation? OK so there's this girl in my art class that i really want to talk to and get to know! Problem is she sits at a different table then me and i just plain don't know what to say to her! I'm a senior and she's a sophomore! What should I say ...
Views: 886(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I realize that jealousy may be the main culprit - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your website impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ...
Views: 752(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I really wish I could go back in time and fix this. - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We ...
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