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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Boundaries: Why Can't Some People Take No For An Answer? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being successful, it is often said that one shouldn’t take no for an answer and that they should keep going. As if they were to give up after they experience negative response, they are not going to get very far. It is then going to be in their best interest to be ...
Views: 10079 - ***The Silent Treatment - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulResearch indicates that children would rather be yelled at than ignored. When prisoners are being punished, they are put in isolation, because being isolated is one of the harshest punishments there is - other than physical abuse.The silent treatment is a form of punishment, a way to attempt to ...
Views: 10047(5 votes) - Do Little Things Bother You About Your Dating Partner? It Might Really Be About You - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Janice BennettThe guy you're dating tends to be a little less than punctual. The woman you're seeing isn't the neatest when it comes to her pocketbook, or her apartment. And it bothers you. A lot. So what do you do about it? You do what you've done before - you end the relationship. But if you find that ...
Views: 10035 - Getting My Ex Back Patiently - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoThe key is to accepting that when you actually love somebody patience is born. Love has importance. The matter of the truth is, are you prepared to stand by the true meaning of love and winning back your ex? Love is a dynamic incentive far beyond people actually realize. It allows us to stand up ...
Views: 10003 - How to Date Chinese Women and Use Chinese Dating Etiquette to Your Advantage! - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Sam ReevesWhen dating Chinese women there are some kinds of Chinese dating etiquette you should probably be aware of and follow. You don't want to make one embarrassing mistake that will make her think twice about dating you again. I've found since my time living in China the rules of dating etiquette are ...
Views: 9995 - You’re Ready To Get Married, But He Isn’t… What’s Going On? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Kara Oh“Often a man gives up his dreams: dreams of being a bachelor and dreams of the work he desires. Not only is he giving that up, but, if marriage and family have been your priority, you’re getting your dreams fulfilled.” Men Made Easy We laugh and joke all the time about how men don’t want to ...
Views: 9958 - Get My Ex Girlfriend Back - 5 Things You Must Avoid To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2011 from Gaurab BorahWhat Not To Do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back? "I want to get my ex girlfriend back, I need to save our relationship." Perhaps this may be the idea in your head around this difficult time of your life. First, one must admit that your relationship is over. For now you cannot do anything to ...
Views: 9948(1 vote) - Dating Games Men Play - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeThis article is inspired by a dating forum where a lengthy conversation caught my attention. It amazed me how many people fear doing the wrong thing. The same questions continually pop up in the forums, and in coaching sessions. Can a woman ask a man out? What is the proper etiquette when ...
Views: 9931(2 votes) - The 2 Types of People You Will Meet: Givers and Takers - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2008 from Kyle YamamotoAfter meeting thousands of people, we feel that people can be categorized into 2 distinct groups... Social Value Givers and Social Value Takers The phrases "giving value" vs. "taking value" are popular and are often used terms in the self-development community. What's missing is the ...
Views: 9926 - On the Brink of Breaking Up? What To Do Next - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Donna Marie ThompsonOn the Brink of Breaking Up Your Relationship? If you are now facing rocky times in your relationship, you could very well be on the brink of a break up. What can you do to bring it back? The first step is to take inventory - what is going on in your relationship and why? It is critical ...
Views: 9917 - Secrets of How to Make Him Adore You: What Makes a Man Adore a Woman - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2017 from James UadialeSo you want to know how to make him adore you? It's something a lot of women wonder about once they've met a man they believe just may be the one for them. Although some people may tell you that there's nothing you can do to draw a man closer, they're wrong. There's actually plenty you can do to ...
Views: 9889 - Will I Get My Ex Back - Rebuilding a Relationship After a Breakup! - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2011 from Charles WealthSo you are experiencing a break up and have tried all you can to reconcile with your ex. It seems the more you try to reunite with them, the more they tend to pull away even further. You just hope you could get over your ex but even that seems impossible, because you still have strong feelings ...
Views: 9875 - 5 Obvious Signs (Once You Know) That Your Partner is Not Loyal - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen it comes to finding a long-term partner and entering into a loving, respectful, and dedicated relationship, you want to find someone who is loyal. Although most individuals look for loyalty, almost demand it, and certainly want it in a relationship, it’s not a trait that is talked about ...
Views: 9853 - What Do I Do after My Wife Had an Affair? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Jacob Elichmann"My wife cheated on me; I'm struggling to cope with her affair and I can't get the images out of my mind! What do I do?" Do you feel nothing but rage when you imagine your wife breaching your love and trust with another man? Perhaps just knowing that your wife is cheating has left you in ...
Views: 9844 - Relevance and Usefulness of the No Contact Rule in Winning Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaImmediately following a break-up, there is often a degree of pressure between the partners involved. This can often be as a consequence of the pain and anger concerning the breakup in general. During this period, whatever you do or say directed at winning your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back ...
Views: 9826 - What Do Men Find Most Attractive In Women? The Answers Revealed - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2009 from Michael LeeWhat do men find most attractive in women? That is the quintessential question, right? What is it about the opposite sex that attracts men like bees to honey? If you’re a woman, you might find yourself wondering these very same things. Well, luckily, I’m here to give you some answers. What ...
Views: 9813(3 votes) - What is a Karmic Soul Mate? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2006 from Dorothy ThompsonOne of the most interesting, yet baffling, things about life is that out of all the people in the world, a few fortunate ones will touch our lives in a special way and leave lasting impressions. One such person is your karmic soul mate. While other soul mates come into your life for intimate ...
Views: 9806 - When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons... - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from June CookNothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. It seems ironic that the one you love could make you so insane. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less ...
Views: 9802(1 vote) - ***3 Signs of True Confidence - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Valeria ChubaIf there is one thing in this world everyone wants to have more of, it’s confidence. Men and women everywhere wish they could be more assertive, self-assured and secure. Confident people make it all look so easy. There is something magnetic and enviable about their unshakable sense of self. ...
Views: 9800(2 votes) - How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Beg For You Back - Make Him Beg For You Back - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Patrick UadialeIf you're still crazy in love with your ex boyfriend and you want to make him beg for you back, you've come to the right place for advice on making that happen. There's a part of a woman that feels victimized after she's been dumped by her ex. The feeling of rejection can be overwhelming. All ...
Views: 9796 - Respect In Relationship - 7 Ways To Gain It - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2010 from Johnny WayneTo have respect in relationship means to be able to value each other, and understand to accept each other wholly by who you are, and not by what you are. So when you are belittling each other, you are not living with respect at all. Love without respect is useless. With love, there is respect, ...
Views: 9788 - Have the Strength to Walk Away When he Wants to Be Friends With Benefits - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2011 from Sarah MichaelsI wanted to share some dating advice with you all on a reader’s response to my article “Don’t Be His Friend” where I shared Christian Carter’s advice on how to avoid the “friends with benefits” trap. Hello, I was recently reading your article titled "Don't be his friend." I find myself ...
Views: 9786 - Get Inspired with 10 Powerful John Gray Quotes - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from John GrayJohn Gray helps men and women understand, respect and appreciate their differences in both personal and professional relationships. John’s books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, was the best-selling book ...
Views: 9761(1 vote) - Rebuilding Your Relationship To Rekindle The Passion - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Katarina PhangThere comes a point in almost any successful relationship where things calm down and cool off. There is no longer a major spark between the partners. They get comfortable in their relationship and develop a routine. They no longer find as much time to spend together. Often, this is not due to a ...
Views: 9733(7 votes) - The Love Game - Masculine Women Feminine Men (Part 2) - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Yangki Christine AkitengWhen it comes to the mating game, all men and women sub-consciously look for clues to each other's masculine and feminine qualities. But I wish they just stopped there. No! They test each other's qualities to the dizzy limit. A woman who as a girl-child was encouraged to express too much of ...
Views: 9705 - ***How To Deal With A Narcissist - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2010 from Judith OrloffAs a psychiatrist, I strongly believe that it is important to know about the narcissistic personality so you can have realistic expectations when dealing with coworkers, friends, or family members who may have some of these qualities. In “Emotional Freedom” I describe how to recognize a ...
Views: 9690(3 votes) - Signs She's a Player - Find Out If She's Just Going to Break Your Heart - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from Mark TaylorGirls can be pretty complicated and tricky - and the worst part is getting involved with a player. Women can do lost of tricks to have us twirled around their fingers and the more you get wrapped up with your emotions, the more they can get the better of you. Well, it's not say saying that ...
Views: 9673 - Learn Why It's Impossible To Fail At Love - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaLearn How It’s Impossible To Fail At Love Dr. Brenda Shoshanna Usually relationships start out wonderfully. Everyone’s thrilled. They feel that finally they’ve found the “one”. Then as time passes, as problems come up and old patterns start re-appearing, they ...
Views: 9656 - Reconnect with the Ex? What You Need to Know Before You Give it Another Go - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanAfter a relationship ends, it's all too easy to second-guess the decision to split up. And while reconsidering doesn't necessarily mean you should reunite, what happens if you and your ex DO decide you'd like to give the relationship another go? Maybe the time away from one another has shown you ...
Views: 9653(3 votes) - Tips on Feeling More Secure in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondPity or genuine desire for connection? Watching Tom rapt in conversation with their guests made Roxy feel left out and unimportant. Almost as if he heard her wish, Tom asked her for her opinion of the movie they were all talking about. She could hardly speak. She didn’t want to be brought in ...
Views: 9651 - How To Get Close To Someone You Like In 3 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2012 from Michael LeeKnowing how to get close to someone you like may spell the difference between being with the person of your dreams and watching them get away. Sometimes, people become really shy and awkward in the presence of the ones they like that they can’t talk to them or even approach them. This is a ...
Views: 9622 - How To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back After Telling Me She Needs Some Space - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversHow To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back After Telling Me She Needs Some Space; How can I get my ex girlfriend back when she needs space? Probably the biggest question guys ask themselves, especially with women-led breakups, because most involve something to do with needing more space. A complete ...
Views: 9609 - Suddenly Single: How to Reinvent Yourself After Heartbreak - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanWhether you just got out of a relationship, or have been struggling to heal your broken heart for some time now, figuring out how to move on can be confusing, fear-inducing, and downright uncomfortable. Not only do you have to let go of your past, but you’ve got to be willing to embrace the ...
Views: 9606(6 votes) - Why Korean Women Make the Best Wives - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Jenny TranThere has been a recent upsurge of Western men using online dating sites to find their woman of their dreams, but not an American woman--an Asian woman. Yes, the many stories are true about men in the United States choosing their brides from Asian countries, particularly Korea. Is there ...
Views: 9600 - Back In To Your Arms After The Affair: Signs He Is Sincere And Ready - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSo here’s the deal- after he left you for another woman and caused you tremendous emotional torture; He has the guts to stand in your front door crying like a baby and asking for your forgiveness. While he’s there in front of you shaking his head for his stupidity and looking like an idiot, you ...
Views: 9576 - Eight Ingredients for a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2004 from Andrew WilliamsEight Ingredients for a Lasting Relationship Maintaining a good, wholesome relationship can be difficult. The question of how to best understand something as complex as human relationships has long occupied the minds of our greatest poets and philosophers and until now, this quandary has ...
Views: 9573(2 votes) - My Wife Fell Out of Love With Me – Does This Mean Your Marriage Is Now Doomed? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Jason NelsonAlright, so you’re saying my wife fell out of love with me, and you’re hurting. It does hurt, I know that. You’re feeling like your world is falling apart. You’re wondering how you’re ever going to be able to live without her again. You’re even wondering what you could have, or should ...
Views: 9573(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Does Holidays with His Ex and Kids - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found one your article "Dr. Romance: Setting Boundaries with Your Ex" on Divorce360.ccm and wanted to reach out to a professional that is an expert with Divorce, families and integrating a new partner. I am single, 30, never been married, no kids. I am dating a divorced ...
Views: 9571(1 vote) - How To Get Your Ex Back - Why Won't My Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Talk to Me - I want my ex back - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreI want my ex back; Why Won't My Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Talk to Me - Find Out The Real Reasons-New Ideas; Why won't my Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend talk to me? This is not what you expected to happen. After the break up you knew that things would be tense and awkward for a while, but you ...
Views: 9545(1 vote) - Does My Ex Girlfriend Still Love Me - Signs She Isn't Over You Yet! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Charles WealthAre you asking, does my ex girlfriend still love me? So, you loved you girlfriend like crazy, however the relationship ended due to some reasons. Did she dump you or did you dump her? What led to the break up really doesn’t matter. What is more important at the moment is that you are left ...
Views: 9537 - Heroes and Role Models: The People We Admire - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from James KrehbielI think that it is important to make a distinction between some heroic figures that we value and the role models that have impacted our lives. What are the characteristics that differentiate heroes from people who have acted as role models for us? How do heroes and role models affect our ...
Views: 9532 - How to Seduce Your Ex Boyfriend - Ideas You Can Try To Win Him Back - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Charles UadialeOne of the best strategy to get your ex boyfriend back if you’ve in recent times broken up him is to become skilled at how to seduce him. You stand a high possibility of getting your ex boyfriend back into your arms If you learn how to seduce your ex boyfriend, as you’ve taken the steps ...
Views: 9528 - ***Can't Say "No" to People? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhat are you afraid of if you say "No" to people? Here are some of the things my clients have told me regarding their fear of saying no: "I'm afraid of hurting their feelings. Then they will get angry at me and I will feel like a bad person." "I'm afraid of ending ...
Views: 9526(2 votes) - Relationship Advice on Mens Mother Complex - Rape of the Heart - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Richard ColeInsights For Marriage Counselling This article describes a common relationship pattern where men have closed down their “ability to feel’. The origin of this pattern is the man attempted to fill his father’s role when he was a boy. He attempted to meet his mother’s needs at the cost of his ...
Views: 9526(1 vote) - How To Win Someone’s Heart - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Greg BakerEver tried to penetrate the tough guy facade? Or been turned away by the ‘I don’t need you or anyone else’ face? There is a secret to winning someone’s heart. This article does not guarantee that you will it merely equips you with the best tools to do so. It does not matter if the situation ...
Views: 9524(1 vote) - Do Not Engage - Dealing With Your Bipolar Partners' Angry Outbursts - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2009 from Kathleen Hennessey Buchanan"I will not engage; I will not engage; I will not engage. No matter what mean, cruel or hurtful things he says, does or accuses me of, I will not engage." I can't tell you how many times that verse has gone through my head, since my husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder II, ...
Views: 9511(2 votes) - 5 Interesting Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Still Wants You Back - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaHave you recently broken up with your ex girlfriend? Are you still finding it challenging believing that she's gone? Is it still hard believing that your lady was an individual who couldn't live without you, but fully gone right now? Have you been considering trying to get your girl back again ...
Views: 9507(1 vote) - Physical Attraction Signs from Women - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2013 from Jenny TranNon-verbal communication is much more effective than anything anyone can actually say to you. The problem most men have is the inability to read and understand the lost art of non-verbal communication. Women, when attracted to you, will emit signs of physical attraction, sometimes without even ...
Views: 9493 - The Seven Stages of a Romantic Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoThere are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, there are thoughts and feelings telling you what to do and when to do ...
Views: 9493(4 votes) - When He Stands You Up: Guy Stood Me Up What Should I Do - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2017 from Banks RobertWhen he stands you up what's the best thing to do? That's one of the most common dating questions there is. Sadly, most of us have had to deal with this at some point. We're breathlessly waiting to see our guy and he never shows. No call, no apology, nothing. The next time we see him he ...
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