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How To Deal With Dominating Husband: How To Stop A Controlling Husband Do you have a controlling husband who is driving you crazy in every aspect of your life? If you are dealing with a power-hungry guy there are a number of reasons why he might be acting like a spoiled bully and the following information should be helpful to you. There are varying degrees of the controlling husband and to illustrate some of their tendencies I've described them as follows; Slightly Controllin

Marty tells me in a phone session,"Susan is always criticizing me. How do I get her to stop?" Fiona tells me in a phone session,"Jeff is often withdrawn. I feel so angry about this." It's always easy to see what your partner is doing that you don't like, but it's generally very challenging to see your end of a dysfunctional relationship system. However, your end of the system is equal to your partner's end, as we attract people at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health. What does this mean?

"Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing." Rollo May Empathy. This pleasant-sounding attribute—like the overlooked compliment—is one of the most important skills we can acquire. Through empathy, we gain recognition and understanding of another person’s desires, of their beliefs and their emotions. Often described as standing in another person’s shoes or looking through the other’s eyes, empathy connects us human-to-human. Why

Have you ever found yourself angry with people you care about and didn’t seem able to stop yourself? Do people who love you tell you that you have anger management issues? Have you lost some important relationships or created problems for yourself at work because you couldn’t seem to control ...

Do you ever find yourself getting more and more angry and frustrated while trying to explain what is bothering you? Perhaps you feel like others are not really listening to you or trying to understand things from your perspective. In such circumstances, you may end up raising your voice or becoming verbally or even physically abusive.

The single life has its ups and downs and being single could either be the most exciting part of a person’s life, or the loneliest part of life for someone. On one hand, you are free to date who you want and could potentially have fun doing so. Unfortunately, this time for some is not exciting as people feel lonely and yearn for that special love. Some folks are alone by choice while others are single by circumstance. Delve a little deeper into the fun and not so fun side of being single. What is the fun side of being single?

As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 37 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear ...

Do exes come back; What does it take to win back the love of your ex? Getting them to fall in love with you again can be awkward depending on why you separated in the first place. Once you have figured out why your ex left you will be better able to figure out how to get them back. When you still love your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend; A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio) you can check it out, meanwhile let's build the foundation.

Who would you be and how different your life would be if you could embody a state of absolute self-love? That means loving ALL about yourself: the past, the present, your shadow self, your thoughts (including those you are grateful no one knows about), your mistakes and your emotions. There is a direct correlation between the degree and depth of your capacity to love yourself and your self-esteem, self-worth, self-valuation, your self-confidence and even your sense of self-po

It may be appalling to watch high school students or college kids getting wasted. And it's easy to wonder how grown adults can cling to a habit as destructive as alcoholism. But drinking in excess has an important role in our culture. For many people, alcohol plays its first important role as a social lubricant. People who are shy discover their outgoing side under the influence of alcohol. People who feel the need to fill every moment of silence with talk can suddenly find peace by being quiet. Uncoordinated individuals dance, and folks who lack a sense of humor are able to laugh.

"Love has nothing to do with fai ess. Love is Love." --Susan Page, Why Talking is Not Enough "It's not fair!" How often have you heard this from young or adolescent siblings? I grew up as an only child, so I was never indoctrinated with the concept of fai ess. Not growing up with it, I ...

"What's the matter with you?" "How could you do that?" "Explain yourself, young lady/young man." "Why are you dressed like that?" "Why are you late again?" "What did you do to your hair!"

Ups and downs are part and parcel of relationships. It’s usual for two people to start seeing each other as they are content with each other. But it’s not always easy to keep the happy times forever in a relationship. It’s not easy to make a relationship work sometimes, but with the right mindset you can succeed by looking at these 4 factors. To say sorry is a key factor. Mistakes are inevitable in any relationship, whether it be you or your partner. The mistake could b

Research into good marriages indicates that the most important choice healthy couples make is to have good will toward each other. This may seems like a simple requirement, yet many couples have anything but good will toward each other. Instead, they make it far more important to: Attempt to ...

Here we explore why Pisces is also the sign of self-sacrifice, and what this really means in terms of our spiritual journey. As the last of the 12 Zodiac signs, and 12 developmental stages in human consciousness, Pisces is the most mysterious of all, and the most difficult for us to comprehend from our current state of consciousness.

It has never been a happy journey for a lady who just broke up with her guy. Most of the time the breakup causes some kind of trauma to the lady that keeps her wondering day after day until a breakdown occurs (illness). But at this point in time it is better not to worry about getting him back, because if you can follow these techniques here, then you can draw your ex boyfriend back in a faster way without worrying to much. This is also the right time to get in contact or chi

Have you ever had an argument with someone - a partner, spouse, close friend, child, parent or other relative, or a business associate - that started small and spiraled into an intense conflict? Have you ever scratched your head, wondering how it got so out of control? Let's take a look at what ...

I recently received the following request: "Hi Dr. Paul -- I would be interested in an article that talks about having needs vs. being needy. I was brought up to be ashamed of my needs. I was supposed to be self-sufficient. As a result, I am ashamed of neediness and often don't recognize my own needs. I also don't know how to tell if others are "being needy" or simply expressing a need.

One Attractive Quality A Man Wants Is.... "Emotional Maturity" rn rn Most men don't understand the feelings that women have. They don't understand what the feelings are. And they don't understand where they come from. rn rn What's the largest negative stereotype out there that men put on women… The big awful one I hear is that lots of women are "crazy". "Man, that girl was CRAZY. Good thing I foundrnout before I got too involved!" rn rn It's not nice that a man wouldn't hav

Effective and mutually beneficial relationships do not need to be complex or difficult to develop and maintain. Often times when relationships or marriages fail it’s because one or both partners just give up. In successful relationships, both members work at building and growing the relationship every day.nnBut, where do you start? How can you have a healthy relationship? Even though the answers are somewhat dynamic – meaning it depends on the circumstances and the people

Hi Dr. Neder: My problem is that I don’t want to play the dating game and I don’t know how to avoid it. I’m not interested in the type of relationship that’s a sort of fragile peace treaty after a war of conquest. When I consider what’s involved in the dating ...

For most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend. If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well known or well liked, most of your relationships will be shallow. They will come and go like a butterfly, flitting here and there without any real purpose or substance. The need to be liked is very powerful. But it is often a shallow victory to be considered with the 'in crowd'.

Most of my lovely couples come to me in relational angst when their bag of long standing coping “tools” has run aground and they have nothing left with which to communicate their feelings and needs in a healthy way. Many couples just cope, rather than experience deeply fulfilling and nourishing relationships, because they feel, it’s “ better not to rock the boat…”, “it’s easier this way….” “I can’t bear the thought of losing my husband/wife, so I’ll doing anything…..” “well we have kids and so we must stay together…”

How Long Should I Give My Husband Space: When To Reconcile After Separation Do you want to save your marriage today and stop a potential marriage separation or divorce? Do you feel as if your marriage is lacking spark or you just can't get it right? Do you fear a marriage separation or divorce is the only answer? With one in three marriages ending in divorce, consider what effect is has on you and your family and whether or not you want to become another divorce statistic? Ha

Everyone laughs when I tell them that I wrote Codependency for Dummies. But codependency is no laughing matter. It causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans, both in and out of relationships. I know. I spent decades recovering. There are all types of codependents, including caretakers, addicts, pleasers, and workaholics, to name a few. They all have one thing in common: They’ve lost the connection to their core. Their thoughts and behavior revolve around someone or something exte al, whether it’s a person or an addiction.

Tips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your conce or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...

Men and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings. Women have a tendency to over-generalize statements, using words like ALWAYS and NEVER. Women sometimes say to men, “You ALWAYS do this,” or “You NEVER do that.” The use of these words is not meant to be taken literally, ...Men and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings.

We are inherently social beings, and feeling emotionally connected with another is one of the great joys in life. Yet, all too often, we feel lonely around another or others, wanting to connect and not knowing how. We may have learned numerous dysfunctional or unsatisfying ways of connecting, and wonder why we still feel lonely around someone when we are trying so hard to connect. Emotional connection is an experience of the heart, not of the head. While you may feel a certain kind of connection when you are in your head, this form of connection may leave you feeling unsatisfied.

My Husband Is Not Turned On By Me Anymore: I Don't Turn My Husband On Anymore - Change This Now! Sex between the two of you was more than passionate; it was orgasmically explosive. He couldn't seem to keep his hands off you and you felt completely irresistible during the beginning of your marriage. And knowing exactly what to do to spice up your marriage and save it from a sexual affair seemed to be easier than ever! Suddenly, your husband stopped having sex with you less and

Many adults are often surprised at how their relationship with siblings changes after parents die. Family traditions stop or change and many siblings find that they feel less connection to their brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews. Parents are often the glue that hold family traditions, ...

When one matures, the passion for Truth becomes greater than all other passions. Spiritual thirst is stronger than any desire, fear or mental conditioning. If the normal, however strong, human wants and fears, attachments and weaknesses, activities and identifications were stronger than one's deep spiritual thirst; then no one could begin, let alone stay on, forget about the completion of a spiritual path and becoming enlightened.

It has been seen from our experience in working with couples who have been married for a long time that there are certain things that are required to be done and a few things that should not be done to keep the relationship going. We have given below some of the things, based on our experience, which couples should not do. On the face of it the suggestions might look very simple, but a lot of disciplined effort is surely required to implement the same. Ultimately, the outcome

What do you believe about failure? The ego wounded part of ourselves, the left-brain part of ourselves that has been programmed with many false beliefs, often believes that: "If I fail, I am a failure." "If I fail, I am stupid." "If I fail, no one will like me or value me." "If I fail, then ...

Positive words are not enough to guarantee that a relationship will be successful, but negative words can quickly guarantee that even a great relationship is heading for trouble. Speaking positively about one’s partner as well as speaking positively about committed relationships in general is a common trait that you will find among long term happy couples. While we often credit happy couples with speaking positively about their relationships because they are happy, I would

Are you a Christian going through a divorce? Are you struggling with getting your mind off your spouse? Do you find yourself thinking about your spouse obsessively trying to figure out what he/she is doing and thinking? Do you wonder what your spouse thinks about you? Do you want to make your spouse see your point of view? Do you think more about your spouse than yourself? If you answered yes, it is time to take your focus off your ex and put it onto yourself. These tips will help you do that:

Christmas is almost here and you get to decide who you want to be. I don't mean if you want to be Santa Claus. I mean what kind of person do you want to be? Do you want to be a person who chooses your actions according to your fears of rejection, of getting hurt, of ridicule, or of being taken advantage of? Or do you want to be a person who chooses your actions from your deep desire to be a kind, loving, caring person?

Dealing with a bad breakup can be one of the worst things you’ll experience in your life. However, there are things you can do to deal with a break up. Time is a great healer, but if you need that extra push in the right direction then follow these tips: Coping With Break Up Tip #1 To start with, take some time for yourself and learn to enjoy being on your own. Chances are, it would be very tough right now to see your ex-girlfriend, so make sure you keep your distance. Go o

Staying in an unsatisfying relationship might be driven by many fears, one of which is THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE.You convince yourself that it is better to have a partner and be in a relationship, albeit not a satisfying one, rather than being alone. The problem is that you the give up on your quality of life and hinders any possibility of finding a better intimacy. EXCUSES AND RATIONALIZATIONS TO STAYING IN AN UNSATISFYING RELATIONSHIP When you stay in such an unsatisfying relationship and are afraid to make a change, you look for excuses and rationalizations to justify yourself:

One of the biggest on-going problems for couples is how to reduce the hurt feelings that can result from arguments and disagreements. The fall-out from a no-holds barred “kill your opponent” verbal altercation can last for decades.nnI have worked with numerous couples in counseling who have struggled with forgiving each other for damaging words they have said during a fight. Many times, the fallout from an argument or shouting match is left to accumulate like toxic dust o

In my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Susan, 38, sought my help because she was in two relationships at the same ...

Katie had not been in a relationship in ten years, and she was scared to death. In her last relationship, she had lost herself completely and then felt devastated when her boyfriend of three years left her for another woman. After working on herself emotionally and spiritually for a number of ...

Before you can have successful relationships with others, you must master your relationship with yourself. Here’s a radical challenge: Make it a goal to fall back in love with yourself. When I say that to a roomful of people in my seminars, I usually hear lots of nervous giggles. Even the thought of “falling in love with me” seems extreme, and many people reject the idea. But before you can offer others the gifts of happiness, joy, purpose, and fulfillment, you have to

In the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling ...

________________________________________ Betrayal is one of the hardest things to go through, and it is vitally important that you deal with it in a way that doesn’t cause you even more pain. ________________________________________ It is devastating when someone whom we believe cares about us betrays us – lies, cheats, breaks a sacred promise, hurts us behind our back, steals from us, turns others against us and so on. The Steps to Healing From Betrayal 1. Releasing the feelings rather than staying stuck with them

Husband Said Hurtful Things I Can't Get Over: What To Do When Your Husband Says Hurtful Things Do you sometimes feel you might be in a verbally abusive marriage? Is your husband nice, kind and polite on a certain social level, but the way he treats you in private leaves you wondering if it's not abuse? Have you tried talking to him about it and you got nowhere? It invariably happens in every relationship at one time or another. We say something a little nastier than we'd orig

Ways To Make Your Ex Boyfriend See How Much He Needs You; The moment your boyfriend breaks up with you is a terrible time in your life, but the next day can be even worse. That's when the shock begins to wear off and you realize exactly what has happened. You have lost the only man you can ever love. He doesn't want you anymore. Maybe your ex boyfriend is in some other girl's arms right now. These are the thoughts that drive your emotions to a peak and makes you go crazy. A c

Feeling Taken For Granted In Marriage: How To Stop My Husband Taking Me For Granted One of the main factors contributing to the downfall of long-term relationships or marriages is being taken for granted. After a while, all of the things that made you feel special, wonderful, and unique are now simply accepted as standard features in your relationship. Sometimes it comes to a point where even a small lapse from your usual behavior is held against you. Although this is not the

Being in a relationship with someone who you share a strong bond with is one of the most fulfilling experiences you can have during your lifetime. It brings out feelings of love, closeness and intimacy between you and your partner that very few can compare to. The problems you face tend to not seem so challenging and you see most things in your life in a more positive light. However, the feelings you had at the beginning of the relationship may start to become less intense wi

Does it seem to you that you're always the one in your relationship being flexible, giving and self-sacrificing? If it does, you're not alone. Many men feel like they bear the brunt of the work. They keep the yard mowed, go to work everyday, change the oil in the car, watch the kids and are expected to be ready with cards, flowers and romance at the drop of a hat. Many women feel as if the bulk of the load is dropped on their shoulders.

When couples begin to have problems, their first instinct is often to look at what they're not getting. They recognize that they're not happy and that they don't have the level of marriage intimacy that they want or need. This leads to introspection and wondering what it is that's missing. While this can certainly be a worthwhile endeavor if it means finding core problems and corresponding solutions, but often taking one simple step can help immediately. That step is learning to be grateful for what you have right now.