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Ideally, someone’s early years would have been a time when they were supported and given what they needed to grow and develop. Providing this took place, one should be able to support themselves now that they are an adult. One will then be classed as someone who is self-sufficient or self-reliant, with them having the ability to stand on their own two feet. At one stage they will have been a dependent child, while at another they will be an interdependent adult. How Does This Look?

Question: I used to be a very confident person. I was self-assured, socially adept, and believed in myself. I am now 35, have a wife and child and a good career. Last year I was laid off from my job. Even though I got a new job right away at the same level, I lost my sense of confidence and have been besieged with self-doubt and worry. When I try to regain my sense of authority and leadership it just isn’t backed by any conviction or power. I feel like I can no longer make a

Self-ImagennMaking radical changes can induce anxiety and panicky feelings because you’re stepping out of your comfort zone. We want familiarity. When you start making changes, you’re not familiar with these new feelings and it makes you want to retreat back inside your shell where it feels safe even if it means keeping the same old dissatisfied feelings because at least they’re familiar to you.nnIf you keep your same self image as you have now of someone who “just do

Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of nself-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters naway in our heads. n nAnd, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled n“The Fear of Being Fabulous” we received a request nfrom a participant who said:n n“I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps nyou from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I'm stopped nby my head talk.”n nHere’s our answer . . . n nFirst,

In recent weeks, a lot of ‘activists’ have been holding up traffic and laying on the ground, amongst other things, in order to get their point across. To these people, it is crystal clear that the planet is not in a good way, which is why they are going out of their way to get this point across to as many people as possible. Naturally, not everyone has responded positively to what these people have been doing. One reason for this is that these people have caused a number of disruptions, making it hard for some people to get to work. The Greater Good

Did you have a dream of what you wanted to do when you grew up? Did you live these dreams through your imagination and make believe play as a child. Are you living those dreams now? Unfortunately when we grow up those dreams seem impossible, and we end up doing things that are far from where we dreamed we would be. How does that happen? Often it is because self doubt and a low self esteem keep us prisoners. Many people don't fulfill their dreams because they don't feel as the

Whether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This could be a time when they will hear the word ‘trigger’ or ‘triggered’ at least once. Before this word become part of some people’s everyday vocabulary, it was generally only heard in a certain context. The Meaning

If one sees themselves as someone who is capable, it is naturally going to have a positive effect on their life. Through having this view, it will allow them to take the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. Thanks to how they feel about themselves, they will believe that they have what it takes to fulfil their needs. Being this way is also going to help them to keep going when the ‘going gets tough’. A Strong Core

Although a lot of what one needs to survive, and even thrive, will come from others, it doesn’t mean that their survival is dependent on one person or a group of people. What this then means, is that one is not going to need to please one person or a group of people in order to survive. One can live their life and express who they really are without worrying about whether or not another person will approve of what they do or say. If they do or say something that does lead to a negative reaction from someone else, they will know that this won’t lead to their demise. One Example

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." Ralph Waldo Emerson, nineteenth-century American self-help pioneer. Ask yourself this question what is confidence? And a number of various answers may come to your mind. Such as confidence is the knowing that you are capable of doing something. In other word a belief in yourself and your abilities. A few more answers that might come to mind are that confidence is a feeling of empow

When I heard the quote above by Carl Jung, I had a clear idea about what he was talking about. My interpretation of what he said is that unless someone is able to talk about what they have been through, they will end up harming others. This is not to say that they will end up killing millions of people as they could cause harm in other ways. Undoubtedly, when it comes to ‘evil’ there are many ways that it can manifest. A Few Examples

Many people ask me what’s the single most important component in one’s life success? My answer is undoubtedly always a resounding “SELF CONFIDENCE.” I know I know, that’s so cliche you say! But sorry folks, it’s the truth. No doubt about it, self confidence is a massive factor in anyone’s success personally and professionally and otherwise.rnWhy you ask? Great question young grasshoppa. Self Confidence is that magic fairy dust that David sprinkled on himself bef

Gaining confidence is something that we all may feel the need to do some stage in our lives. In our minds we have a picture of ourselves and a perceived idea of our strong and weak points. This self image that we have of ourselves begins at childhood, and develops as we get older. This image isn’t always how we would like it to be and can have an effect on gaining confidence if you suffer from low self esteem. The cause of low self esteem has never been pin pointed, and var

What someone may find, that’s if they were to get into a relationship, is that they start to lose touch with who they are. So as the weeks and months go by, they will be nothing like they were in the beginning. Or to be more precise, they will be nothing like the person they were when they first met this person. As a result of this, their life is also likely to be very different to how it was before. Part of It

My son, Vignesh turns six tomorrow. Two years back when i had some serious illness i had to visit the doctor every other day.I used to take my son with me to the doctor. As i was recovering from the illness, one day out of the blue he asked me " Appa(Dad) why do you go to the doctor again and again? Tell him to give you something so that you dont ever have to go back to him........" It cheered up all the patients in the hospital. I also had a hearty laugh.... But that night a

Following on from the other articles that I wrote on this theme, I wanted to cover another subject that is often spoken about. So, just as someone can be told that ‘they just need to love themselves’, for instance, they can also be told that they just need to embrace their true-self. When someone is told this, it could show that they are not living a very fulfilling life and/or that they have a strong need to please others. The key will be for them to embrace who they are. A New Start

Two of the most important people in human history were brothers with a pretty extraordinary dream. Their names were Orville and Wilbur. These two brothers shared the last name of Wright. They were the same Wright brothers who invented modern day flight, as we know it. On the morning of December 17, 1903, the brothers decided to give their flying machine a test run. They notified a number of newspapers ahead of time so that everyone would be able to read of their accomplishmen

If someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The time in their life that should have built them up would have undermined them. As a result of this, their adult life could be one big struggle, with them having moments when they wonder why they were even born. The Past Is Present

Have you ever felt bad about yourself? Most people have at some point in their life, including the most exceptional of characters. It’s part of the human experience. A person that regularly experiences negative feelings such as, self-hate, guilt, shame and embarrassment is commonly referred to as having low self esteem . One of the main problems with breaking out of these emotional habit patterns is that a person with low self esteem tends to ‘beat themselves up’ with o

Although someone might not realise that they were neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be firmly behind them. Their physical appearance will have changed and they might even live in a totally different environment, but their adult life could have a lot in common with their early years.

If someone was to hear that their friend is going through a tough time, they could give them a call or go to see them. No matter what they do, this could still be a time when they will listen to what they have to say and offer their support. Conversely, if they are in a relationship and their partner is going through a challenging time, they could also respond in a similar manner. In both cases, one is not going to try to take charge or to take responsibility for what another person is going through. Boundaries

Self confidence is the key to success Self confidence is a balance of a positive self image, self respect and an inner belief in yourself. Your perception of yourself is critical to how you live your life. This perception is based on how you see yourself, feel about yourself, and how you believe other see you and feel about you. It is these perceptions that lay down the foundations of whether you life will be one filled with happiness and success, or struggle and failure A be

Nowadays, there are so many things to focus on; in both the real world and the virtual world. If someone lives in a big city, practically as soon as they leave their house their senses could be overloaded. There can be adverts on the side of taxis, buses, above buildings and on billboards. And if they were to get on a bus or a tube, there will most likely be even more adverts for them to look at. One Step Back

If you feel good, you could believe that it is due to what is taking place exte ally. Likewise, if you feel bad, you could also believe that it is due to what is taking place exte ally. In both cases, you won’t have played a part in how you feel, and you will be nothing more than a passive observer of what is taking place. Therefore, in order for you to feel good, the exte al world will have to be a certain way. The Norm

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”n— Maxwell MaltznnA reader from the Middle East wrote to me recently asking how he could improve his low self-image. He said, “it ruins my social and professional life.” He wanted to know what techniques he could employ to solve this lifelong problem. nnI felt somewhat inadequate in my reply to him and resolved to write about my own struggles to improve self-esteem in hopes it will be helpful to

Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of nself-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters naway in our heads. n nAnd, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled n“The Fear of Being Fabulous” we received a request nfrom a participant who said:n n“I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps nyou from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I'm stopped nby my head talk.”n nHere’s our answer . . . n nFirst, you’ll know it’

Toxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? 19/7/20200 Comments If someone was to inca ate as a bird, there would be certain things that would be part of their experience. The only way that they would change this is by denying their nature or ending their life. If they were to deny their nature, their life as a bird would be harder than it needs to be. One would be working against themselves as opposed to working with themselves, creating unnecessary problems in the process. The Other Option

If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, it can be as if they need to move in order to stay alive as if they don’t, something bad will happen to them. Two Experiences

In order for someone to find out about if something is true or not, it will most likely be vital for them to have access to a wide range of information. When this takes place, it will be possible for them to come to an accurate conclusion. Simply having access to a lot of information won’t be adequate; the reason for this is that all this information could be the same. So by having access to a number of different sources, one will be able to filter through what is right and what isn’t. The power of Contrast

We all search for ways to improve our self-esteem. You see people like Trump, or movie stars, and see them being so secure in themselves, it has to be the money. But you’re wrong. Self-esteem has nothing to do with money and everything with what you do and did. So let me give you 7 steps to build a belief in yourself which cannot be shattered. rnSTEP 1: Observe your thoughtsrnThe first and most important step is to learn to observe your thoughts. And specifically, every tim

If someone was to find out that a friend or a family member was going through a challenging time, they could end up reaching out to them. This could be a time when they will ask them about what has been going on. The other person could tell them that their partner is not treating them very well or that they have just broken up with them. Then again, one could say that they are not being treated well at work or that they have lost their job. Support

What’s stopping you from being as confident as you would like? When asked sometimes people say that it is the memories of what others have said and done in the past. The following article invites you to play with what’s written here and if you want modify any of it to see how it makes a ...

Simply put, self-esteem means placing a value on oneself, on one’s performance. We’re constantly estimating our self-worth—usually based on whatever happened five minutes ago. Strange how if someone looks at us funny, our self-esteem can suddenly plummet. Self-esteem is less stable than any stock market – it vacillates wildly, nothing but peaks and valleys, with no plateaus, no slow but steady ascents.nnThat is, unless you learn how to promote healthy self-esteem. Sel

If someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being. What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At the same time, even if one does see themselves as an empowered human being, it doesn’t mean that they won’t feel like a victim from time to time. Back On Track

Many psychotherapists tell us that our current difficulties are a direct result of our childhoods. As a result many people “blame” their parents for any upsets or suffering they experience as adults. When you eliminate a belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process it becomes quite clear that what happened to you as a child has no impact at all on you as an adult. What runs your life today is the meaning you are giving those childhood events. This is not merely a semantic diffe

For some people, their early years were a time when they received what they needed to receive in order to become a resilient, integrated and secure adult. Thanks to what took place during this stage of their life, their adult years may be pretty ‘normal’. So, they could have gone through the education system, even gone to university, and ended up with a fairly good job. Along the way, they may have met someone who was right for them. The Beaten Track

If someone was a neglected as a child, there will have been the pain that they went through for many years while they were younger and, now that they are an adult, there can be all the pain that they experience. What took place will have happened a long time go, that much is clear, but time alone won’t have allowed them to truly put what took place behind them.

If someone was to watch an old black and white film, they could describe it as being a bit one-dimensional. There will be two colours, black and white, and there will even be some grey, but that will be it. After this, they could end up watching a film that has recently been released, with it being clear how much of a difference there is between the two. They will notice the colours that have been mentioned above and they will notice so many others. Two Experiences

While it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are.

If someone was to see that they were abused as a child, they can struggle with two questions. Firstly, they can wonder why their own parents treated them so badly, and secondly, they can wonder why their parents would repeat what was done to them. These two questions can consume their mind a little while after they have started to heal themselves. The reason for this is that for a number of years, they might not have even realised that they were abused. Protection

One thing that is likely to stand out for someone who has lived in the western world for at least fifty years, is how sexualised it has become. The reason it will stand out so clearly for someone like this is because they would have been around before it was this way. They will be able to compare how it was, with how it is, and this will allow them to see things that a lot of younger people are unlikely to see. For people like this, what is going on will just be normal. Criticism

It has been said that a key part of someone being able to function at their best is for them to have fulfilling relationships. And, as they are an interdependent human being, this is not exactly a shock. Taking this into account, it will be vital for one to have strong bonds with others if they want to be at their best. This doesn’t mean that they will need to have an army of people around them, though. Quality over Quantity

In recent years, it has been said that men have become more feminine and women have become more masculine. Naturally, this is a generalisation and doesn’t apply to every man/woman in the western world. And when something like this is said, it could simply be an observation that someone has made, or it could be something that they lament. One way of looking how men’s and women’s behaviour has changed would be to say that it is a good thing. Growth

Nowadays, mental and emotional problems receive a lot of coverage in the media and there are plenty of people that talk about them on social media. Therefore, what is taking place is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, mental and emotional problems were rarely spoken about and, if someone was trying to work on their issues, they would often be labelled as someone who was working with a ‘shrink’. It was then not that they were doing the right thing by reaching out; no, it was as if they were doing something that was shameful. A Lot Has Changed

When the term ‘extreme views’ is mentioned, all kinds of things could enter someone’s mind. They could think about what they last heard from the mainstream media, or what they last heard from the alte ative media. Then again, their mind could give them clear examples of extreme views without them needing to think about anything they have heard about recently. This is not going to be a surprise considering the fact that, for many years now, a lot has been said about this topic. A Lot of Exposure

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In an ideal world perhaps, every adults early years would have been a time when they were given what they needed to develop in the right and were prepared for the real world. This would mean that their caregivers did what they were supposed to do. Their caregivers wouldn’t have seen them as beings who were there to meet their needs and thus, forfeited their parental responsibilities. To paraphrase the words of Kahlil Gibran, they would have realised that while they came through them, they were not from them. Planet Earth

Confidence is not only a skill it is a choice. How to have confidence? It is a choice to walk, talk and act with confidence despite how you feel or what others say. To have confidence is to be at ease in any situation. To be prepared and capable to take all the hits as they come and still smile while doing it. The beauty of confidence is that if you don't have to possess it to walk with it. All you need is the know how and a bit of perseverance to make sure that in all insta