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Are you having trouble finding commitment in a relationship? I have heard of many people who are very unhappy with a current association or situation in their life. It is not what they want. These people continually go around asking others for their opinion as to how to get the conditions ... Views: 2675
Have you been asked by friends or close to you, "Is your wife cheating?"When the husband is faced with such question, it cannot be easy for him to accept the fact whether it is really true or not.The issue of wife's infidelity is less likely unacceptable comparing to husband's because as of ... Views: 2673
Cheating is a sure-fire way of ruining a relationship whichever way you look at it. Of course it’s no longer news that when someone cheats on a partner, trust is lost and there is always little chance of getting it back. While this may be an all-too familiar concept for most people, the only ... Views: 2656
If you think that your spouse may be cheating on you then you are living in a constant feeling of being off balance. You can neither move forward in your life, nor even change direction because you haven’t determined an ending to what is happening right now. You can’t get counseling, or work on ... Views: 2642
Taken men are more prone to outside enticements, because of so many reasons. One of those reasons why men can’t keep their pants on is because some women have problems saying NO to them. One can’t help but wonder, what pathetic incident happened in a single woman’s life that made her go for ... Views: 2634
By now you've probably heard the sordid details of Tiger Woods alleged affairs with cocktail waitress Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin.
The scandal comes as a bit of a surprise to his many fans, especially considering his ... Views: 2625
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my taste. I'd ... Views: 2614
Sometimes a marriage comes to the point where you are truly considering whether or not it’s worth it to stay in the marriage. But, it’s important that you don’t act too quickly. Marriage is more than just two people in love; it’s also a legal contract that should sometimes be held up just ... Views: 2606
Janelle is having a difficult time knowing what she can believe lately. She is well aware that her boyfriend, Paul, is a very social guy. He was popular in high school and college and now he is still a favorite among his co-workers.
Paul stays in touch with a lot of people from his past ... Views: 2583
In a recent article by JD Dean Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend there appears a reference to a well know incorrect saying;
"You can't have your cake and eat it"
Why is this incorrect?
Simply, you can have your cake and you can eat it, it is just that there will be no cake left.
However, ... Views: 2583
Dealing with an affair in your marriage is probably one of the most difficult thing any couple will have to cope with. There are obviously many relationship problems that need to be worked out, but one thing I find many women deal with after an affair is the feeling that they have no ... Views: 2571
Infidelity is a breach of faith and occurs in a number of contexts (e.g., in religious contexts). Also called cheating: 'any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship'. What constitutes an act of infidelity varies between and within cultures. It does not depend ... Views: 2559
My clients call me with a variety of anxiety-based questions (many of which I’ve discussed in previous articles): Does my anxiety mean that I don’t love my fiancé enough? How do I know that I’m making the right decision? Is there someone out there who’s better for me? Does the fact that I’m not ... Views: 2555
The emotional wreckage that comes after the discovery of an affair, makes it tough for couples to work towards rebuilding their marriage after infidelity has occurred.However your marriage after an affair can also become a relationship that is stronger and more loving than it was before. Read on ... Views: 2534
A question asked me by a disillusioned young lady I used to work with. A friend of hers had just had a terrible experience and she was looking for some answers. She was clearly disturbed and contemplating the troubling likelihood that someday, the same would happen to her. Even though it wasn’t ... Views: 2529
Not getting enough attention, spouse cheated, unable to talk about it, feeling uncertain about the future and losing trust. Among these symptoms, many people who are going through this tough situation are wishing for it all to go back to the way it once was.
But now you must stop and consider ... Views: 2513
It can be really difficult learning how to rise above cheating. You do not have a desire to see the marriage end. In point of fact neither does your spouse.
The particular dilemma you're having is coping with feelings which unfortunately seem to have captured control of your life. ... Views: 2489
Infidelity affects 8 out of 10 marriages in this country. This is a shocking statistic! What happens between the time the marriage vows are spoken and that first episode of cheating? It's an assumption, of course, but I don't think that 80% of the people who get married intend to cheat or ... Views: 2485
Sometimes you can find out that you have made a mistake where you will end up cheating on your loved one. In such a case many things will come to your mind. Among the worst things that will always pass through your mind is feeling guilty. Remember cheating is an act that will make you restless ... Views: 2480
When you find out your partner had an affair, it can seem as if the world stopped and you are frozen in the feelings of pain and hurt in the aftermath of betrayal.
As the reality settles in, you might be confused and conflicted about whether or not to take back your mate.
You might be ... Views: 2476
The Dance of Guilt
What is guilt? Have you ever realized how you react to guilt? Most of us do what I call the dance of guilt. Life is so much about moving towards or moving away from anything and everything. When we feel guilty we often retreat into the moving away from stance. We withdraw ... Views: 2475
A statement constitutes a lie only if at least one of the interlocutors knows it to be untrue, yet insists or assumes that it is true. If all the parties involved in the exchange know that the statement is false or if none of them know whether it is false or true, then it is fiction or an act of ... Views: 2468
Part II What Can Past Life Regression Do for Us?
The emotional reactions associated with past life events which are most often seen in therapy, involve emotional residues of the fear based emotions such as anger, resentment, revenge, fear, guilt, remorse; and distortions of love manifesting ... Views: 2449
Being cheated on is one of the most damaging things a person can ever experience. It can feel like an all-out attack on your softest, most vulnerable spots. There’s really no gentle way to put it – infidelity is the most intimate betrayal imaginable.
The upshot is that the experience of ... Views: 2435
Being dumped is an agonizing experience, but you must get over it if you want to continue your life without regret. Here's five questions you should ask yourself to make you understand your own worth and get over the break up.
When you’re trying to get over being dumped, everything seems to ... Views: 2432
Chris Young finally phoned Nicki Vee as a last ditch attempt to save her 25 year marriage. She wondered whether the 'Ultimate, Intimate Relationship Weekend' at the 'Happy House', that she had heard about, could be the thing that could put it right. Nothing else had worked. She described her ... Views: 2428
It has been going on for quite some time. You started as a joke, sexting an old flame you had not seen since college, but what was a joke at first has become a very intense activity you are involved in regularly now. You went from sexting your old friend to doing it with strangers you met on the ... Views: 2426
Twenty First Century has brought us cell phones, computers, internet and emerging everyday new technologies. People around the world have accepted and embraced these changes, without which it's impossible to imagine our life today. World has changed drastically, and if we want to admit it or ... Views: 2416
How To Get Your Husband Back From His Mistress: How To Get Your Husband To Leave The Other Woman
Your husband is treating you not as good as before and you found out the worst truth about him, he cheated on you. You felt angry, sad and disappointed. "How can he do that to me when I still love ... Views: 2414
This is a big subject but I have a few ideas I’d like to share from my workshops and from my studies of cultural anthropology.
I believe men’s nature is to have multiple partners. Polygyny (the practice of having more than one wife at a time) is preferred by 85% of the cultures today. Think ... Views: 2402
Let’s discuss one particular use of technology, sexting – sending lewd pictures and texting sexually explicit messages over the phone – in the context of relationships. A case of a public figure caught sexting has recently brought the use of this technological communication to everybody’s ... Views: 2401
Is It Possible To Stay Lovers For Life?
For twenty years Sharyn Wolf, LCSW has been a marriage counselor and psychotherapist practicing in Manhattan New York City. She is considered a relationship expert whose advices and suggestions have supposedly helped married couples to build successful ... Views: 2398
Infidelity…. Unfaithfulness…. Extra-Marital Affairs…. If we watch any talk show, listen to psychiatrists, doctors and sociologists, follow up on celebrities’ news; cheating and being cheated on is a “talk of a town”. Why we as a society are so fixated on it? Why do we have a tendency to ... Views: 2391
More and more guys are turning out to be a cheater, which is why most girls are now wondering what drives guys to become one. Was it something to do with having a nagging girlfriend, a terrible sex life, or was it just their way of evading boredom? Find out the real reasons why, by reading these ... Views: 2388
In my thirty odd years of working as a relationship expert, life coach and agony aunt most of my clients have been women who have been upset because of the broken promises and commitments of a man they trusted. Very often it has seemed to them that their whole World has come to an end because ... Views: 2378
Recovering from infidelity is never going to be easy. Whenever a violation of trust has occured there is always caution on the part of the victim.
This is competely understandable. There is no definitive way to overcome infidelity, but there are lots of possible sollutions. The first ... Views: 2375
For those discovering suddenly that they have a cheating man at home, obsessive thoughts are what you have to deal with after the initial shock and devastation. One of the haunting questions is: Why did he cheat on me? Why do cheaters cheat? Is she better than me? Will he cheat again? How do I ... Views: 2370
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Discovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go?
Dr. Romance shows you how to decide.
When you get ... Views: 2364
There's always going to be conflicts in a relationship whether you like it or not. Having an enjoyable relationship depends on how good you are at handling conflicts. And poorly handled conflicts can have disastrous effects.
Below are key things you need to keep in mind if you want to master ... Views: 2354
Have you been contemplating having an affair? Not getting your needs met with your current partner? Chances are you are feeling ignored, not desired, not listened to, taken for granted, or not important. Perhaps you are craving a combination of these elements?
Typically both men and women who ... Views: 2352
Dear Dr. Romance
I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instrudtions, and got the truth.
You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ... Views: 2347
Okay, let’s get past the fact that in our greatest moments of weakness or weirdness most of us may have inadvertently looked through our guy’s bedside table (for hand lotion!) while he was otherwise occupied, or casually inventoried the dry cleaning receipts, straw wrappers and lint in his ... Views: 2340
Your spouse cheated on you and you finally found out. You are feeling that the whole world is falling down around you and despite all these negative and painful emotions you still want to save your marriage after affair. You may have different reasons why you would want to rebuild your marriage, ... Views: 2323
Satisfying relationships are built on a foundation of safety and trust that you won’t be hurt physically or emotionally. Whether you trust too little or too much is influenced by your past, but once trust is broken, your sense of safety is in jeopardy. You feel insecure and may begin to question ... Views: 2315
The Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families
Handling a Sensitive Situation
Dear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom,
My father has been married numerous times and he consistently has terrible taste in women. Most recently, I ran into my current “stepmother” at a restaurant having a romantic dinner with ... Views: 2284
If you are actually considering trying to get your ex-girlfriend back, then you continue to have hope. I have put together 5 easy steps to achieve success. Breaking up might be heartbreaking but don't stay stuck in this moment. There is a great lesson to be had whatever whose mess up it was. ... Views: 2267
Why, when most people believe in monogamous marriages, and that affairs are "wrong", are so many couples struggling to recover from infidelity? Most people do not intend to have an affair and most couples never would have believed that it would happen to them. Affairs happen in the marriages of ... Views: 2265
Michelle called me from San Francisco. She had found my website about the private marital therapy weekend intensives I do for couples in crisis.
Several days earlier, Michelle had admitted to her husband, Tom, that she was having an extramarital affair. The affair was with an old boyfriend ... Views: 2262
The need to seek revenge on wrong- and evil-doers is as ancient as Mankind. But people attempt to address their grievances in three ways:
1. Punitive-moralistic
The aim of this type of vengeance is to restore justice and, with it, the victim’s view of the world as orderly, predictable, ... Views: 2258
Infidelity in marriages is one of the worst forms of betrayal. Sadly, couples often can’t figure out the difficult task of getting over infidelity, thus it is one of the leading reasons for divorce all over the world.
Let’s take a look at why infidelity surviving seems so impossible. ... Views: 2244