In Your Relationships, How Much Do You Know about the Evolution of Emotion?

The Evolution of Emotion: What it is and how it can be one of your best tools in achieving success in relationships.

Human emotion, in terms of the Personal Prophesy philosophy, is a very complex subject. Emotions, after all, come in all shapes and varieties: There are those that we find ourselves experiencing right now as we live in "the moment," those we have experienced for quite some time and those we are only just beginning to feel as we move toward the future.

Most people don't realize there is an "evolution" attached to the emotions they feel. They aren't aware that what they feel today isn't necessarily how they will feel tomorrow or in the many tomorrows to come.

People tend to want to live and express their emotions in a steady, unchangeable world. This just isn't possible when you consider that our lives are now and always will be in a constant state of flux.

I often suggest to those I conduct intuitive readings for to try to imagine themselves standing in a wind tunnel in terms of the lives they are living. I ask them to envision the future as the wind blustering toward them, and the past is the wind wafting behind them.

When you are able to view your life in this fashion, you are able to understand that the "you" standing in this wind tunnel experiencing the inconstancy of the present is significantly influenced by the change the "winds" of the future brings your way nearly every minute.

Our emotions are the same - compelled by the past to thrive, and yet they are driven by the future to change. It's how we deal with them in the present that makes all the difference in the world.

Emotions, whether you are aware of it or not, are always in a state of change. They are either becoming stronger or they are disintegrating, becoming entirely different emotions as we live our lives.

Consider, for example, two people who have enjoyed what they always perceived to be a happy, loving, and committed relationship for a substantial amount of time.

Suddenly, in the midst of all that happiness, they find themselves reaching a critical point of conflict. Regardless of the circumstances involved (yes, even including infidelity or another serious breach of faith), this couple breaks up.

He goes his way, and she goes hers. She's hurt and he's angry - or vice versa. It really doesn't matter in terms of Personal Prophesy. All that matters is that they have suddenly chosen to take separate paths toward the future. Their emotions will quite naturally undergo change in the process as well.

With the passage of time, he will undoubtedly find himself becoming less angry. He will either choose to spend this time apart on his own, or he will become involved with a new partner. As his emotions "evolve," however, he will find himself thinking about and inevitably missing at some point in time that woman he loved and angrily left.

She may feel hurt and dwell on her pain for quite some time. She may even run from partner to partner, attempting to escape the pain she feels. But in time, her own emotions will "evolve" to the point where she realizes she didn't want a new partner for herself in the end at all.

Time - and the experience of being apart - eventually holds the power to bring this man and woman back together. A whole new level of understanding has occurred where their emotions are concerned. Their emotions evolved to the point where they were ready to embark on a positive new beginning together.

When we first experience an intense emotion like falling in love, it is an emotion still very much in its infancy. We are awed and overwhelmed by the experience. It is a beautiful, new feeling in our lives. We tend to view life as if we were looking through newborn eyes and, as a result, we are caught up reveling in the splendor of the moment.

Then we begin to gravitate toward commitment. We feel so captivated, so sure this is the partner we want for the future, that we idealistically consume our time making plans and sharing the dreams, hopes, and wishes that seem to harmonize quite naturally with those of our beloved.

But once we become settled and feel secure in that commitment, reality begins to set in. We find ourselves having disagreements, engaging in arguments and perhaps evaluating the worth of the relationship in general as a result of those disputes.

Emotion is obviously evolving within the context of that relationship.

Those genuinely in tune with their emotions will have a relatively easy time adjusting to the evolution their emotions undertake. They have gained the wisdom and enough foresight to know that relationships don't exist in a vacuum and that change is an essential part of life. They will put forth great effort to keep a relationship thriving, even in the midst of change.

Those who aren't in tune with their emotions might shield themselves with the comfort of denial: "I'll just pretend these problems aren't happening and they will go away." Or they may run from the relationship entirely, and the evolution of their emotions will inevitably make them realize that while they can run, they will never be able to hide from the truth their own hearts speak to them.

As you engage in loving relationships, the best piece of advice I can offer is to always be prepared for change. It will occur, whether you are consciously ready for it or not.

Your relationships are evolving even as you are reading these words and that sense of "evolution" can be your best friend or your worst foe, depending on how adaptable you are in terms of your relationships.

If you have a partner who you believe truly loves you, allow that partner enough space in which to grow and change emotionally. Realize that today is not yesterday in terms of your relationship, that you are both striving in your own way toward a satisfying love-filled tomorrow.

If you are enduring the aftermath of a painful break-up or coping with one about to occur, remember: What that partner leaving you feels today won't be the same emotions he or she feels in the days yet to come.

Try your best to let this partner go with the knowledge that you love him or her and only want the best for this person in the end. By doing so, you leave an important door open. This individual may quite likely walk through that door once his or her emotions have evolved to the point where it is realized much you mean and how much this person yearns to share a meaningful, committed future with you.