Master the Mindset – Talk Back to Your Fear

Your body is a resource of untapped potential. Your mind has the ability to stop you or propel you forward. Where is your mindset?

People don’t want to acknowledge fear. Your fear will keep you stuck. Making excuses, procrastinating and putting off uncomfortable things is easy to do. Instead of speaking about your fears what if you spoke to your fears? Speaking back to that fearful voice brings you one step closer to taking back your power. How would you be different if you developed a positive mindset?

There are three innate fears in infants including sudden motion, loud or abrupt noises, and sudden approach. As you get older those fears diminish. What did they get replaced with?

Avoidance, many times, is a learned response to a specific event that occurred earlier in your life. Developing fear is a way of protecting yourself and staying safe. It works and has purpose.
Some fears are fluid. They come and then go. Others remain.

Although fears have purpose, many times they are not based on logic. When you continue to have a fear, then you begin to take actions to avoid being triggered. Avoidance keeps you from moving forward. It actually keeps you focused on the very thing that you are trying to avoid.

You spend a lot of time doing things because you don’t want to be triggered by fear. That is a negative mindset. The actions you take are based upon avoidance. You do things to avoid having something possibly happen to you. This will keep your subconscious tuned into your fear although you feel like you are making every effort to avoid that feeling. The avoidance attracts more negative.

The key is making the choice to release the fear and what you have been resisting. Once you can do that you will increase the ability to be drawn toward your goal. You will feel lighter and empowered. Choose to take action because you know that you will be better.

If you had one fear that you would want to release, what would it be? Consider how long you have lived with this fear. Create the opportunity to say anything you want about your fear. What have you been holding onto? This could include resentments, anger, sadness or feeling trapped. Choose to let go of the fear. What would you say? Are there things that you always wanted to say, but never had the ability to verbalize? Make the choice to find your voice and talk back to the fear. Take charge and release the thoughts and emotions that feed your resistance.
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While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).

Set up: Even though I have this fear and it keeps me from doing things, I deeply love and accept all parts of myself.

Even though I spend time thinking about what I don’t want to do and will avoid things that are uncomfortable for me, I choose to continue working toward my goals.

Even though I do certain things that appear positive, sometimes they are really to avoid my fears, and I can choose to release my fears when I am ready to moving forward with confidence and poise.

Eyebrow: I have been stuck with this for too long now.

Side of Eye: This fear has a grip on me and I don’t know how to release it.

Under Eye: I avoid doing some things because I am fearful.

Nose: This fear is a burden.

Chin: This fear overshadows me.

Collarbone: This fear affects my self confidence.

Under Arm: This fear has been around for too long.

Head: I will tackle this fear when I am ready to with confidence and courage.

Eyebrow: I know that this fear served a purpose.

Side of Eye: This fear helped to protect me at one time.

Under Eye: I have hidden behind my fear long enough.

Nose: I am getting ready to release my fear because it does not help me at this time in my life.

Chin: I appreciate how my fear has protected me for this long.

Collarbone: I know things about myself due to my fear.

Under Arm: My fear is due to the thought of something happening.

Head: I will face the fear when I am ready and choose to change my thinking to one of confidence and courage.

Eyebrow: I choose to feel confidence and courage around this situation.

Side of Eye: I choose to realize that the fear is based on a thought and I have the ability to change my thoughts.

Under Eye: I choose to know that I can do anything that I put my mind to with confidence and poise.

Nose: I know what to do to keep me safe.

Chin: I am a resilient person.

Collarbone: I can look at this situation as a challenge and develop a new strategy to deal with this.

Under Arm: I have the choice to change and to release what does not work for me anymore.

Head: I will choose to release my fear when I am ready to with confidence and ease.

The fear can be seen as a challenge. You step back and look at all of the angles. Find as many different ways to look at your fears as possible. How would someone else look at this situation? Take time to decide the best way to change your thinking about the fear. The fear is based upon a thought and way of looking at something. That thought is uncomfortable. Is there a different way to think about the situation that is not as uncomfortable? Choose the best strategy for overcoming this obstacle.

Activity: If you had a friend talk to you about something fearful what response would you give to help your friend? List all of the responses that you can think of, no matter how silly it seems. Number the best three. Choose one of those three to try for yourself to see if you can change how you look at what is causing the fear.