Confidence For Adult as a Child Blamed For Everything a Parent Felt

From my inbox, I receive the following on a regular basis. I hope it helps you or yours.

It goes something like this: I have always felt unworthy because of all that was said to me while growing up. My mother always used to be unhappy and would take it out on me, telling me that I am the reason why everything went wrong in her life. Years later, I still can't get rid of those bad feelings of feeling unloved and unworthy.

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This is a tapping suggestion to help you along.

Imagine (or get) a picture of you as a child, typically at the time that your mother was blaming you for everything.

Imagine (or actually look) at that picture. As you do, imagine that you can be with that little girl and help her. Ask her if it is OK to help her feel better.

If she says no, then just tap as follows...

Setup on the Karate Chop, say it even if you do not mean it:

Even though my little me does not want me to help her, maybe she feels it won't make a difference, I still love her anyway."

Reminder phrase on all the other points:

"I love her anyway and always will"

If little you wants you to help her, take her to a safe place, maybe your home, or ask her where she wants to be. Ask her where she feels comfortable. Then look at her as you tap on her behalf and ask her to join in if she wants. Setup on Karate Chop:

"Even though your mother blames you for everything, she has emotional problems and has no right to blame a young girl for her own problems. She needs help, but you cannot help her. You are only a young girl, I love you very much. The problem is not your problem, it is your mother's problem. You are still a super duper girl. I love you anyway."

Reminder on all the points:

"Even if you don't believe me, that's OK. But the problem is not your problem, it is your mother's problem."

Again look at her as you tap on her behalf and ask her to join in if she wants. Setup on Karate Chop:

"Even though your mother blames you for everything, she has emotional problems and has no right to blame a young girl for her own problems. She needs help, but you cannot help her. You are only a young girl, I love you very much. The problem is not your problem, it is your mother's problem. You are still a super duper girl. I love you anyway."

Reminder on all the points:

"I love you and accept you just the way you are, even when you do not accept yourself or feel loveable."

Again look at her as you tap on her behalf and ask her to join in if she wants. Setup on Karate Chop:

"Even though your mother blames you for everything, she has emotional problems and has no right to blame a young girl for her own problems. She needs help, but you cannot help her. You are only a young girl, I love you very much. The problem is not your problem, it is your mother's problem. You are still a super duper girl. I love you anyway."

Reminder on all the points:

"You are a very special girl."

Again look at her as you tap on her behalf and ask her to join in if she wants. Setup on Karate Chop:

"Even though your mother blames you for everything, you are worthwhile. I love you very much"

Reminder on all the points:

"You are a very special girl. I love you very much."

If tears come, ask her if she would be OK with you hugging her. If yes, hug her and tap on her till her tears dry and she feels more loved. Remind her that you love her. Remind her that she is worthwhile. Remind her that you accept her just the way you are.

When you finish, ask her where she wants to go to rest in a safe place, use your imagination. This could even be on a different planet, where love is everywhere. A new place she has never encountered before. Thank her for holding this trauma for you all this time. Promise her that any time she needs you again later, you will be there for her.

Repeat this exercise with little you at different ages, in different pictures. If you cannot visualise, draw the picture and look at it. A stick drawing is fine. You don't have to be an award-winning artist.

Repeat over weeks if necessary. Let that young girl grow happy and loved. The past is behind us. It is just a memory. It is just energy. We can change it to a better memory and clear our energy blocks. Then we can feel better in the present. All that matters is the present. When you clear this past energy, you are free to enjoy each moment as it comes.