Conversational Hypnosis Techniques: How My Cousin Used A Crayon To Win A Friend

Conversational hypnosis techniques can come in handy in everyday situations. Some time ago, one of my cousins started attending kindergarten school. As expected, the little girl was scared out of her mind. She was a very shy child, and worried about her classmates and whether she would make any friends or not. Naturally, I reassured her that kindergarten is going to be exciting and fun. “You’ll make friends in time,” I said.

Her first day wasn’t very successful, I reckon. I asked her whether she made any friends and she just shook her head. However, the next few days following that seemed to be better. My cousin was happier and she was no longer afraid of going to school. I asked her if she had made any progress and she very happily recounted the story of how she made her first friends.

It turned out that my cousin unwittingly used one of the universal conversational hypnosis techniques in school, particularly reciprocity. Apparently, one of her seatmates didn’t have a red crayon to color the roof of a house in his coloring book. My cousin then offered the boy her own red crayon to use. During recess, the said boy sat with her and they talked about their favorite television shows.

The Law Of Reciprocity

The law of reciprocity is one of the many conversational hypnosis techniques available to anyone of any age. Even my cousin was able to harness its power although I’m pretty sure she has no idea what reciprocity means. But what does it do and how does this work?

The principle of reciprocity states that if a person gives another person something of value, then the latter would be honor-bound to repay that person something of equal value. This law goes by many names but its nature remains the same.

When my cousin lent the boy her red crayon, she was also offering him friendship. The boy, in turn, gave back his own gesture of friendship by sitting with her during recess. They’ve become really good friends since then - a proof that the law of reciprocity can also lead to long-term arrangements.

How To Use This Conversational Hypnosis Technique

So how do you use this method of persuasion for yourself? Surely, you’re no longer in kindergarten and making friends isn’t as difficult as it used to be…

One of the more profitable uses of the law of reciprocity is in business. For example, you can introduce a bead supplier to a business contact who has need of beads. Technically, you don’t have anything to do with their business but by introducing these two together, you did them both a favor. You gave the bead supplier business and you gave the person who needed beads a useful contact. Sooner or later, they will find a way to help you out as well.

Conversational hypnosis techniques, such as the use of reciprocity, are deeply rooted in human nature. We might not always be aware of what they’re called, but that doesn’t stop us from harnessing them.