For many people, Valentine's Day, is the day when you feel sad, depressed, neglected or alone if you are single. However, with so many failed relationships, nasty break-ups, or unhappy unions, some singles are seeing this time as a time to embrace their solitude. Ann Landers once said, "It is better to be alone, than wishing you were." As a single person, why not use this time to focus on the benefits of being single rather than regretting what you think you are missing.

Here are some perks you may recognize:

1. Freedom. As a single person, you can do what you want when you want. You are not accountable to anyone.
2. You don't have to compromise or negotiate.
3. You have the time and energy to focus on other areas of your life, like your
career, health, friendships, or self-improvement goals.
4. No in-laws. There are no obligations to spend time with people you may not appreciate.
5. Your space is your space. You can decorate it any way you like.
6. You can be neat or sloppy without worrying about comments from your partner.
7. There are no emotionally unhealthy, co-dependent needs to deal with.
8. Your money is your money.
9. You can go out with friends, drink and not worry about coming home late.
10. You don't need to stress about what your partner's friends think about you and if you fit in.
11. You don't have to wonder if you are settling.
12. Your time is your own.
13. You don't have to worry about breaking up with your partner.
14. You can create and visualize the details of what your future relationship should be.
15. Make a list of the things that are positive in your life today and work towards reducing your negative self-talk and destructive patterns.

If you mistakenly buy into the myth that you need a partner to be happy, being single can be lonely at times. If, however, you look on this time as an opportunity to work on yourself, appreciate what you already have and make a plan to be an even better you, just imagine the kind of partner you will be attracting into your life. thanks, in part, to being single on Valentine's day.

Author's Bio: 

Rhonda Rabow, M.A. is a psychotherapist with over 25 years experience in the counselling field. Her specialty is empowerment. She uses a solution-focused approach and offers short term counselling with long term results. Rhonda has recently published her first e-book called "Discover the 3 Secrets to living happily ever after." She also writes a FREE newsletter once a month filled with helpful suggestions and tools to improve relationships. She offers counselling on a face-to-face basis, as well as telephone counselling.

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