“How Can I Heal My Sadness”

This weekend I had a man text me the following question. “How do I heal my sadness? I am too busy to socialize with anyone.”

Here is What I Answered:

We all have the time to socialize and be around people, and to give love and help others… it’s all a matter of priorities. It’s a choice to dive into work and hide, thus we don’t have to express our feelings. That way we stay numb and don’t feel anything.

And He Answered Back—“What about people who take advantage of me?”

Dr. Haider - There will always be those who take advantage of our good nature. There are 4 kinds of people, those who want to help and love us. Those that don’t care about us, those who would do harm, and those who are only interested in causing havoc in everyone’s life. You have a sixth sense about all these people. You know right away if a person cares about you and wants to be your friend. For all the others, give them respect, but keep your distance and send them love from afar.

And He Answered Back — “Is it OK to talk behind a person’s back?”

Dr. Haider — No… Only be loving and kind, talking about someone behind their back is not loving and kind. And this behavior brings about more negative karma and lowers our vibration and thus brings about sadness. Keep good thoughts in mind, see the good in people no matter what happens. That way good karma will come to you and your vibration will be uplifted… and you will eventually find happiness. Being truthful, full of peace, full of light, full of contentment, these are vital in order to find true happiness.

And He Answered — “But I don’t want to get hurt”

Dr. Haider - Until we understand our emotions as thoughts that come and go… we will have hurt feelings. And because of this… it’s important to Forgive - Forget - And Move on with life. Even in loving relationships with a spouse there will be disagreements and hurts that can do damage to our relationship if we hold onto these negative emotions. It’s imperative to forgive. For every one of us has done things we are not proud of. And everyone wants to be forgiven… so it’s up to us to forgive.

And finding great friends is like going through a big box of apples, some are green, some are perfect, and some are overripe, but eventually, we find apples that are just what we need. Don’t throughout the whole box of apples just because the box contains a few overripe and green apples.

Life is a reflection of who we are deep down inside. If we are angry, then the whole world will reflect back anger. If we are sad, the whole world will reflect back sadness. So it’s up to us to change our ways and find new ways of being and happiness from within. And thus the world will reflect back love and kindness.

And He Said — “But people annoy me”

Dr. Haider — That’s because you are angry inside, and the world is a powerful reflection of who you are deep down inside.

But all of this chit chat means nothing, it will not soak into your unconscious mind and change your sadness and anger. I recommend you take the following FREE 10 Day Vipassana Meditation Retreat… even the food and lodging is free. I know for sure that about the 4th or 5th day you will have a powerful breakthrough that will change your life forever. I have seen this 1000 times. See Link - http://www.dhamma.org/en/about/vipassana 

And He Said— “Thank You Dr. Haider, So Much! I will sign up right away”

Dr. Haider — All Will Be Well My Friend - Many Blessings.

And so this man decided to take the FREE Mediation Retreat and change his life forever. And I know for sure things will be great.

Many Blessings to Everyone!

Dr. Paul Haider