How To Save A Marriage The Right Way?

People marry when they fall in love and want to be together forever. The fairy tales – which they have been told as children – still remained strongly in their minds even though they are not applicable in reality. Here are my tips on how to save a marriage the right way?

Firstly, you should show that you should show concern for your spouse even he or she is in a bad mood. Unless your spouse does not allow, you should always hug and kiss before leaving for work and after coming back from work.

Secondly, you need to develop a sense of humour and being able to make your spouse or anyone laugh. Since most of our time is spent on work or studies, we need to cheer each other up. If you are not a natural in this, go and read some books or do online research for jokes.

Thirdly, you need to ask yourself these questions and what you should do below.

1. What Will You Do When Facing The Brink Of Divorce?

If you listen to your spouse just because he or she insists, it is as good as giving up your marriage and giving in to his or her demands.

But then again, it is entirely your choice. If your spouse no longer cares about you like what he or she used to in dating, it makes no sense in keeping this loveless marriage.

If you have children, that will be worse as you and your spouse need to fight for their custody. All these require additional lawyer fees on top of your divorce proceedings.

In a nutshell, you can either do everything you can to win back your spouse’s trust and keep your marriage or accept your spouse’s demands – which can be unreasonable – and divorce for good. But to do this requires understanding your spouse’s main concern before taking action.

2. What Are Common Emotions Felt When There Is Marital Crisis?

Speaking of children, broken marriage and divorce has negative effects on them.

Not just when they are young but also when they grow up, start dating and getting married. According to a book I read about why couple divorce, one of the main reasons is fear and uncertainty.

Let’s put it this way. If you and your girlfriend come from broken families or divorced marriages, chances are your marriage may end up in the same fate though I may proven wrong by some couples.

Still how you want your marriage to be like is in your hands. Though your spouse also play a part, you still need to take initiative to make it work the way you want. Because this will be the root foundation of your marriage and family.

The last thing you want is your children getting affected, mixing with the wrong company out of loneliness or facing the same situation when they marry.

3. How Do I Save My Marriage After My Husband Committed Infidelity?

Being a guy myself, I can understand most guys have desire and lust for beautiful, sexy and young women. Whether you agree with me or not as a woman, these characteristics are a natural part of our homogenes and will never go away even if they are married or become old.

Henceforth, the word pervert is invented by women since they cannot really understand men.

Asking and confronting your husband is not the best solution even though it seems to be an ideal solution. Because statistics have shown that over 90 per cent of men will deny the truth.

Since that is not working, you may need to use other measures.

A. First hire a private investigator to confirm and obtain the evidence as sufficient reasons should you decide to divorce.

B.. Upon obtaining the evidence, you should inform your family as well as your in-laws. Most women use this as a first measure which is a huge mistake since they do not have proof and are being accused of making up stories.

4. What Are The Guidelines I Should Follow To Keep My Marriage?

If you and your spouse are both Christians, things will be a lot easier. You can consult with your cell group, church leaders and pastors for good advice. Finally, you and your spouse pray together either by yourselves or with your cell for God’s divineness.

If not, things will be more complicated.

Though you both need marriage counselling, you can only benefit if you tell the marriage counsellor what he needs to know rather than what you want him to know. If you and your spouse are not being honest or do not reveal what you think is an ugly secret, even the best counsellor cannot help you.

Like I said many times in my previous articles, marriage is not just about expressing love for each other verbally but by action. One of which is accepting your spouse the way she is and admitting your faults which is never easy with most men since they have a big ego and do not be treated like kids.

Most of the time, the marriage breaks down due to couple not accepting and blaming each other. If this problem is not dissolved since they decide to keep it as their dirty secret, it can potentially destroy their marriage and children lives.