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Do you know that most people, without realizing it automatically operate from a series of subconsciously driven programs that cause them by default to feel and behave like dependent, small, helpless and needy children? Do you know this makes them unattractive, unsuccessful in relationships, feel ... Views: 11
Do you know that all relationship conflicts arise because of unconsciously held co-dependent patterns held by each partner? Do you know such patterns are rooted in early negative relationship experiences stored in the subconscious mind as negative memories or rejection, abuse, abandonment, ... Views: 16
Do you know many individuals feel like needy, dependent, weak, vulnerable, helpless, frightened children inside? Do you know this "personality state" robs them of their self confidence, inner strength, courage, ability to trust and assert themselves, and ultimately of any real success or ... Views: 29
Do you know that all needy behaviors have an underlying cause that can immediately and easily be discerned, unearthed and deleted from your life? Do you know that such behaviors are based in old negative memories from your past that are stored in your subconscious mind and which serve as ... Views: 30
Do you know that the main reasons individuals have trouble with relationship breakups is because they interpret such events as rejection, abandonment, being unlovable, unwanted, inadequate, worthless, unattractive, and as the harbinger of perpetual loneliness?
Do you know that all of these ... Views: 46
Do you know that even the most emotionally confident individuals harbor, somewhere deep down, a fear of rejection? Do you know this fear has a life of its own and often hijacks individuals into behaviors that appear needy, weak, desperate, manipulative, self destructive, self negating, self ... Views: 47
Do you know that neediness hijacks the mind and causes one to make choices based on feelings of insecurity, fears of being abandoned or rejected, jealousy, etc.? Do you know this not only makes one feel and appear unattractive it also leaves them feeling out of control and unable to discern ... Views: 60
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love". For instance, how many times have you heard yourself ... Views: 55
If you were truly honest with yourself behind all of those things you do to distract yourself i.e. sex, work, drugs, recreational pursuits, relationships, and so on there is lurking a deep sense of emptiness within that many would characterize as part of the human condition. In fact it is this ... Views: 33
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a major impediment to ever having or sustaining a successful and healthy relationship? Do you know most people who find themselves unconsciously sabotaging their relationships harbor this fear deep within them? Do you know that this fear often arises ... Views: 33
Do you know that being a needy and dependent person can make one feel defective, deficient, weak, inadequate, worthless, insecure, vulnerable, anxious, depressed, jealous, unattractive, and can lead to negative controlling and manipulative behaviours that can make one repulsive to others thereby ... Views: 30
Each time you affirm your true, authentic self, every cell in your body cheers “Yes!” When you negate yourself, it has negative biological consequences. To build self-esteem and affirm your true self, try this:
Take action to meet your needs.
Express who you really are.
Think good thoughts ... Views: 54
In a recent article I mention that the second most important factor that feeds the need to rescue others is fixed by early emotional trauma that gets re-evoked in the rescuer by their partner's self sabotaging behavior.
Let me elaborate on how this works so that it is clearly ... Views: 63
So here you are, in a new relationship and you unconsciously hold many expectations of your new partner that you hope will be met. How wise is it to have expectations at all? Some would say that expectations are their way of assessing whether the relationship is on track and right for them. That ... Views: 42
If you subscribe to some form of religion it is likely that you have more than once found yourself praying to your God for help of some kind. What is the nature of the help that you have been asking for?
Well in most cases it likely has the quality of asking your God to help remedy a problem ... Views: 50
Do you know that the fear of intimacy is a permanent impediment to having a successful and fulfilling relationship? Do you know it drives self sabotaging behaviors that irreparably damage one's most prized relationships?
Do you know that one of the more significant drivers of this fear is ... Views: 37
Do you know that many people harbor the need to be accepted by others? Do you know this need enslaves you, your self esteem, self confidence, sense of normalcy as a person, and your life to the whims of others? Do you know that means you are not living your life but a life dictated to you by ... Views: 41
Many relationships end miserably. Why is that? Well it's largely because the foundation upon which such relationships are initially based is inherently faulty. Let me explain.
If you ever stop to reflect on the underlying reasons why many individuals enter relationships in the first place you ... Views: 76
What does it mean to be or feel like a whole person?
Well if you've felt it you already know. Most however have never felt it.
If the latter is you it essentially means that you feel afraid of and avoid facing all the challenges in your life in some way.
In other words you feel ... Views: 48
Do you ever find yourself needing to prop up your self esteem by making overtures to yourself when in the company of others?
Do you feel driven by an ever present force to make sure that others like you or think well of you? Do you ever feel insecure when you are left out of things and try to ... Views: 32
Do you know that needy behaviours regularly hijack even the most confident of individuals and leave them feeling unattractive, weak, foolish, inadequate, clingy, and prone to being rejected by their partner? Do you know such behaviours are generated and driven by subconsciously stored programs ... Views: 49
Do you know that many people feel continually attracted by toxic relationships that are destructive emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically? Do you know this attraction is actually another form of addiction, much like that to food, cigarettes and drugs?
Do you know the force that ... Views: 52
Do you know that many people are addicted to toxic relationships that involve emotional and physical abuse, infidelity, betrayal, rejection, humiliation, manipulation, control, jealousy, clingy and smothering behaviors and so on?
Do you know that many of these people repeatedly make bad ... Views: 49
Do you know that all co-dependent patterns are rooted in old emotional baggage which can now be rapidly, permanently and completely deleted from the subconscious mind much like old computer files can be erased from a computer hard drive? Do you know this means that even if you have been ... Views: 39
Have you ever noticed that no matter how hard a needy person tries at having a relationship their "neediness" always sabotages their most concerted efforts? Have you ever wondered why some people are needier than others or in fact why people are needy at all? What's more, have you ever wondered ... Views: 60
Do you know that neediness is not normal, healthy or even human? Do you know that individuals are literally "programmed" in early life into a debilitating state of neediness that then destroys all chances of having a fulfilling relationship life in adulthood? Do you know that the underlying ... Views: 46
Do you know that early experiences of abandonment behave like a curse worse than death when one is trying to establish a successful and healthy relationship in their adult life? Do you know that the negative memories of abandonment remain stored deep in the subconscious mind and from there ... Views: 65
Do you know that co-dependent needy behaviour can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviours, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 55
Do you know that neediness is one of the greatest impediments to healthy and successful relationships? Do you know that the majority of people feel emotionally needy and they acquired this through early life conditioning that remains stored inside of them much like an old outdated computer ... Views: 106
We all know when a so-called "needy" individual is in our midst. They feel "sticky" and seem to drain one's energy. If this is you then you're are probably feeling insecure, lonely, in need of validation or love, in need of being taken care of, feeling afraid or vulnerable and so on. This is a ... Views: 62
Do you know that all self sabotage in relationships arises from an internal hijacker that many refer to as their "inner child"?
Do you know this hijacker a) is not you rather poses as an imposter that tries to unconsciously convince you that it is part of you so that it can continue to ... Views: 84
Do you know that one of the most significant reasons individuals find themselves a) sabotaging their relationships or) being unable to actually have a fulfilling relationship is because of an unconscious fear of intimacy?
Do you know this fear is often the result of subconsciously stored ... Views: 84
Do you know that many people sabotage their relationships because of a fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, fear of being rejected or abandoned, feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and neediness just to name a few?
Do you know all this negativity is generated by old emotional baggage ... Views: 122
Have you ever been abandoned in a relationship? If so and you are still carrying the memories of the abandonment then your relationship life is at risk of repeating this same event again and again. Why and what can be done about it?
The memory of the abandonment gets stored within you along ... Views: 96
At a recent conference where I was presenting I learned that many individuals in the audience had or were experiencing the following feelings:
1. A feeling of emptiness.
2. A feeling of meaninglessness in their lives.
3. Feeling defective i.e. that there was something wrong with ... Views: 74
Do you know that feelings of jealousy are a) not a sign of how much you love someone b) make you a potentially controlling, needy, unattractive person and c) has the tendency to destroy your relationships?
Do you also know that these negative feelings were actually imprinted "into" you as a ... Views: 99
Do you know that neediness manifests in many destructive ways i.e. as feelings of insecurity and jealousy, controlling behaviours, the fear of being alone, the fear of rejection or abandonment, the fear of intimacy, the fear of commitment, the need to do surveillance or spy on your partner and ... Views: 77
Do you know that needy behaviours are a) pre-programmed into you and b) can be permanently deleted from your subconscious mind? Do you know this deletion can leave you feeling completely and permanently confident, resilient, carefree, spontaneous, able to be your true authentic self, peaceful, ... Views: 51
What is your definition of a true friend?
Well most start with: someone who is there when you need them, someone who really cares, someone who will listen when no one else will, someone who is empathetic and understanding etc.
Such criteria are usually based on the premise that "when I'm ... Views: 125
Are you one of those people who feel lonely and craves the need for social interaction. If so you likely know that not only does this make you unattractively "needy" to others, it also jeopardizes your chances of ever feeling happy and inwardly peaceful. What's at the root of these "loneliness" ... Views: 140
Codependency is learned – learned inaccurate information that you’re in some way not enough, that you don’t matter, that your feelings are wrong, or that you don’t deserve respect. These are the false beliefs that most codependents grow up with. They may not have been told these things directly, ... Views: 119
Good relationships run smoothly and enable you to enjoy your life, work, and activities beyond the relationship. You’re not always worrying or talking about it. Like a smooth-running car, you don’t have to keep repairing it. You may have disagreements and get angry, but you still have goodwill ... Views: 129
Do you know many individuals find themselves so irretrievably stuck in emotionally abusive relationships that often they literally become "numb" to the toxic consequences of their situation? Do you know this "unconsciousness" is perhaps the single most important factor keeping one stuck in and ... Views: 74
What is an "Authentic Relationship"?
Well simply it is one in which both partners are "authentically themselves"!
Does such a species exist on this planet yet? I would like to think so however I would like to expound on how there can be many more.
Let me start by addressing the garden ... Views: 136
If you harbour feelings of jealousy have you ever considered the consequences to you and your relationship of doing so? Have you also ever considered the deeper root causes of these feelings? You might be surprised that they are creating the very outcome you most fear, rejection and loneliness. ... Views: 142
Do you know that one of the underlying causes of toxic relationships is the fear of abandonment? Do you know this fear causes one to become needy, controlling, manipulative, bullying, jealous, insecure, vulnerable, anxious and unattractive, to name a few, thereby making them and their ... Views: 135
Do you know that the reason many people are addicted to toxic relationships is because they feel emotionally incomplete and empty inside? Do you know these feelings desperately drive one to look to a partner for love, validation, security, care taking, self esteem, self worth, a sense of ... Views: 130
Do you know that neediness is the result of old emotional baggage stored within in the form of negative memories of abuse, rejection, neglect, humiliation, bullying, failure etc.? Do you know that these memories create the familiar nagging feeling of emptiness that many people have inside them? ... Views: 124
Do you know that old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories of abandonment, rejection, heart break, humiliation, abuse, bullying and failure etc., are responsible for unattractive needy feelings and behaviors? Do you know that those memories make one feel inadequate, vulnerable, self ... Views: 160
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a key factor in the demise of many relationships? Do you know that it can make individuals insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative, needy, smothering, and that all of these inevitably cause the very thing they fear, abandonment? Do you know that ... Views: 117