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Codependency is a condition in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with an abusive addiction (such as to a narcotic substance or alcohol).
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- A Typology of Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Sam VakninTypology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to ...
Views: 15You must read the article to rate it. - Tips to Stop Enabling - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Beverley GlazerThere are very fuzzy boundaries between helping and enabling. If you’re enabling, you think that you’re helping, but what you’re doing is anything but helpful. Here's some information so that you don't confuse the two. Helping When you help someone you are doing something that they ...
Views: 42(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Finding Personal Power Under Verbal Attack - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2009 from Pixie StevensonHave you ever been verbally attacked and found yourself at a loss for words? Or have you become defensive and found yourself drawn into a verbal volley that left you drained emotionally and energetically? Finding Personal Power Under Verbal Attack Every verbal attack is either an attempt ...
Views: 27You must read the article to rate it. - The Harm of Enabling - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2009 from Camille StrateRegardless of our chosen field, or the manner in which we use your gifts, most of us have come across people in our lives who absolutely refuse to take responsibility for their actions, their situations, their own lives. It could be a family member, a dear friend, a co-worker, even a spouse. These ...
Views: 25(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Children of Insanity - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Paul HoodI have been looking at a book by Claudia Black, “My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has A Disease” (A Child’s View: Living With Addiction, full of pictures and writing by children), and remembering the children of addiction, and the mentally ill. I have seen five-year-olds acting like little adults, ...
Views: 40(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Codependency: The Dance - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCThe "dance" of codependency requires two people: the pleaser/fixer and the taker/controller. This inherently dysfunctional dance can only happen with one partner who is a codependent and another partner who is a narcissist (abuser or addict). Codependents do not know how to emotionally disconnect ...
Views: 45You must read the article to rate it. - HEALTHY OPPOSITES - Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Donna M TorbicoFor ACoAs- (Adult-Children of alcoholics, abusers, abandoners & other narcissists) ACoAs know how they would like their life to be: TO have a fulfilling career, loving relationships, less pressure, a little fun... and they try, struggle, obsess - but not much changes. They become more & more ...
Views: 71(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - How To Know What Boundaries Are? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Mara FisherMany books have been written on the subject of boundaries. Is it possible to be an I and still be a We? Where do I end and my partner begin? Many of us have been pondering this notion. How do I get close without getting lost while in a committed relationship? Many believe that the lack of ...
Views: 68(4 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Personal Empowerment: A Path to Joyful Creation - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Karen MehringerRecently, I joined a group of women to journal, meditate and share about our intentions for the New Year. It was suggested that we come up with one or two words to describe our deepest intention underlying all of our desired outcomes. The words that I chose were…“Joyful Creation.” More than ...
Views: 55(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Don’t Wait for Someone or Something to Make You Happy - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Kimberley CohenEarl Nightingale said, "Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and ...
Views: 65(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - *** Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is Emotional Dependency?Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, ...
Views: 279(5 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Energy Therapy Healing: Does It Work On Relationships? - by Submitted on May 26, 2009 from Donna BurickRelationships are a part of life that never seem to go smoothly. Dealing with other people can be difficult, no matter how much you care about them. Energy therapy healing offers you a way to help you deal with relationships and even improve upon them. This type of therapy is often combined with ...
Views: 165You must read the article to rate it. - Stay Afloat with Healthy Boundaires - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Grace KerinaWhen folks around you make waves with their alien communication styles, fervent demands, or weird displays of power, you need healthy boundary skills that pop to the surface like a life preserver. Your imagination can roar to the rescue and save the day. To keep a grip on the real you when the ...
Views: 164(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - From Anger to Love - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Terri Amos-BrittAnger. No one likes the feeling. Your body tightens. Your blood pressure heightens. You feel out of control. Have you ever asked yourself why you get angry? The tendency in our world is to think that someone or something has made us mad. The truth, however, is that our anger comes from being ...
Views: 170(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Being as Good to Yourself as You Are to Others - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Kari SamuelsIn the Intuitive Development class that I teach, I often ask people to close their eyes and listen to their hearts instead of listening to their thoughts. So often we get wrapped up in all of our responsibilities and worries that we don’t even know what our own needs are. We know what our ...
Views: 148You must read the article to rate it. - Karma, Balance, and Why Being “Nice” Isn’t Always Good - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Kari SamuelsIf you ask most people about what karma is, they will most likely respond with references to “good” and “bad” deeds. Most people strive to be the best they can be for themselves and others. We want to be good. And yet, most of the clients who I see in my intuitive counseling sessions have ...
Views: 167(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Signs of Codependency - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckWhat is codependent behavior? When you try to define codependent you may see many definitions that essentially refer to the same problem: an excessive caring for another person that borders on psychological obsession. Is there such a thing as a person being too caring? Don’t all people desire ...
Views: 272(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Looking for Codependent Help on the Web? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckBefore seeking help with conquering codependency, you must first understand the condition and identify if you really have a problem with it. Codependency is defined as a group of behaviors related to the idea of excessive care taking. While loving someone too much should not be reason for ...
Views: 159You must read the article to rate it. - Healing Codependency In and Outside the Home - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckUnderstanding codependency characteristics first involves understanding where this behavior comes from. Like any pattern of behavior, codependency is learned from family members. Codependency is a survival characteristic, one that is used as a coping mechanism with stressful situations. Much ...
Views: 172You must read the article to rate it. - Coping with Codependent Parents - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckParents want what is best for their children. If a mother and father do their best to raise their child, offering strong guidance and attentive parenting, then it is a job well done. However, letting go of that parental authority can be a challenge, particularly when the child grows into a young ...
Views: 268(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Codependency: Don't Lose Yourself in Others - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckCodependency can often cause individuals to lose themselves in their relationships. They ignore their own feelings, needs and problems. Instead, they choose to obsess over the person that they "love." They are obsessed with the other person's feelings and needs. Although you would think that ...
Views: 187You must read the article to rate it. - Can Codependent Behavior be Treated with Medication? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckCodependent behavior is not actually classified as a disorder by most doctors or the medical association. It is listed as a group of behaviors that are maladaptive. This indicates that the codependent person ignores the problem, such as stressful thoughts and circumstances, and attempts to forget ...
Views: 187You must read the article to rate it. - Are Codependency Traits Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckThis is an interesting question, because there are some mental health professionals, as well as family heads, that believe codependency is a myth and that there is nothing wrong with “excessive care.” The belief is that while some people may find overbearing family members or friends ...
Views: 149You must read the article to rate it. - Am I Codependent? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckIf you are looking for codependency information then you may have noticed that the definition of codependent can imply many different behaviors and symptoms. The essence of the codependent definition is that a person will demonstrate excessive caring, to the point that it is inappropriate or ...
Views: 175You must read the article to rate it. - Boundaries without Borders - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2009 from leeanne harrisWhen the latest family crisis prompted my father to call and request that I make several keys for my family so my place could serve as a refuge at any given time-I froze. My compliant child self rammed my oncoming no down my throat rendering me speechless. Feigning some feeble excuse, I got off ...
Views: 94You must read the article to rate it. - Got Anger? Cut Cords of Attachment - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Rose RosetreeAnger kills. Usually it doesn't result in a homicide. It causes (or contributes to) illness, obesity, depression, and other health problems. What may help most is something you may never have heard of. I'm Rose Rosetree, author of "Cut Cords of Attachment," the first book in English on this topic ...
Views: 126You must read the article to rate it. - Co-dependency: Half a Loaf of Self - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Dr. Jane BoltonThe term 'co-dependency' was initially used to describe a person who was dependent on another person who was an alcoholic, or addicted to another substance. Over time, it has been discovered that co-dependents have common characteristics that have nothing to do with substance ...
Views: 96You must read the article to rate it. - Adults Abused as Children - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Licia GinneDr. Jasquith says that tyranny is sometimes expression of the maternal instinct. If that's a mother's love, I want no part of it. -- Bette Davis as Charlotte Vale in "Now Voyager" The experience of having lived (or living) in trauma is probably the number one reason that brings people to ...
Views: 213You must read the article to rate it. - Changes in the World of Therapy Over the Last 30 Years - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Jason SafferIn my view, as I look back over the last 30 years of being a therapist, I notice how much more human and humane therapists have become and how much more personal the therapy process has become. The momentous impact of more humanistically and transpersonally-oriented therapies has actually ...
Views: 93You must read the article to rate it. - Thanksgiving Tradition: Highlights Of An Alcoholic Home - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2008 from Kerri Pomarolli“Will you stop it?” I nervously repeated to my brother John. “Stop it; I just want to get home before someone sees us.” We were schlepping a huge wire shopping cart filled with a big bird, a big dead bird, and all the accoutrements for the next day’s Thanksgiving dinner. The sign on ...
Views: 86You must read the article to rate it. - Relationship Addiction and Co Dependency Counselling - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2008 from Rosemary Grace BrooksRelationship addiction is becoming recognised more and more as a serious problem requiring careful co-dependency counselling. Co-dependency in general terms means two parties in a relationship based on a mutual dependency. Most relationships have a mutual level of healthy dependency. However, some ...
Views: 162You must read the article to rate it. - Let Your Articles Go And Spread The Word (Of Your Website) - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Ankur BhardwajWhat if I showed you some simple ways and tactics that will help you to generate more traffic from your articles? These 3 simple steps when applied will help you to get all the free traffic you will ever need to promote your website from article marketing. Make sure you apply all these 3 steps in ...
Views: 96You must read the article to rate it. - How To Live With A Compulsive Spender - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Gloria ArensonIs there someone in your life who is spending compulsively, and you feel frustrated and angry with him or her? You don’t understand why they do what they do, and you can’t understand why they can’t just use a little more willpower. Perhaps you have tried bribery, threats, punishment, rewards, ...
Views: 119You must read the article to rate it. - Codependency Symptoms - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2008 from Carla ValenciaI come from a family with a codependent mother. I am neither judging her nor blaming. But identifying codependency symptoms in her helped me a lot to overcome low self esteem. Codependency definition : Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioural condition that is learned and ...
Views: 333(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Honor The Rhythm Of Life - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Dr. Dennis Merritt Jones“We too often leave our souls behind. Caught up in urgency, we forget what is truly important in life. Pushed on by the demon of haste, we forget our souls—our dreams, our warmth, our wonder. From this viewpoint, it is clear how patience is a part of kindness, for how can we be kind if ...
Views: 89You must read the article to rate it. - The healing power of beauty, nature and orderliness - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2008 from Cathy RoysJesus was always drawing attention to nature...because he saw a power for restoration and healing in it that humans have lost touch with. “Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of ...
Views: 85(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - What Are Boundaries And Why Are We So Messed Up If We Don't Have Them? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2008 from Cathy RoysFor those having been instilled with good Boundaries they may seem as natural as breathing, a way of being in the world that is consistent and makes sense. For those less fortunate poor boundary development can be crippling to ones whole life. In essence a boundary is a personal line in the sand ...
Views: 144You must read the article to rate it. - Is It Empathy Or Codependcy? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2008 from Deanna ReynoldsQuestion: “I’m very sensitive. I can easily feel other people emotions. But, often, it feels as though I’m just bombarded and sometimes I don’t know where my emotions stop and another’s begin. I just have strong empathy abilities, right?” Answer: Maybe. In my ...
Views: 115You must read the article to rate it. - How Living For Giving Is Unforgiving - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnconditional giving is a state that we all aspire to. We hope to be a giving person without any agendas from the perspective of why we give or what we want in return. Yet, frequently there are emotions at work that we are not aware of that motivate us to over-give to others, be it with our time, ...
Views: 61You must read the article to rate it. - When You Decide To Be Codependent No More, You Won't Want Emotionally Unhealthy People In Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Diane England, Ph.D.Could your codependency or another emotional issue be the reason you want someone back who left you? When you are codependent, you are typically looking outside yourself for definition or a sense of self. It might be through material things or the roles you play in life, for example. You might also ...
Views: 254(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Codependent No More-So You're Not Covering Up for Your Alcoholic Spouse this Holiday Season, Isn't that Right? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2007 from Diane England, Ph.D.How does having an alcoholic spouse affect your holiday season? Is this a time of year you dread because you have to attend parties with a partner whom you fear will get drunk and then behave badly? In fact, do you turn down invitations when you’d prefer to be socializing and celebrating the ...
Views: 140You must read the article to rate it. - Have A Pleasant Family Holiday Season In Spite Of Your Narcissistic Husband's Behavior - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2007 from Diane England, Ph.D.Are you dreading the holiday season, believing you can not have a pleasant family holiday, because your narcissistic husband has a way of making you feel nothing you have done is good enough? Or, perhaps he despises this time of year and wants you and the kids to join him in his misery? Well, I ...
Views: 149You must read the article to rate it. - Is Codependency Turning You Into Someone You Never Intended To Become? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Diane England, Ph.D.Who is the author most identified with the concept of codependency and the codependent? I suspect it is Melody Beattie. She herself was a recovering alcoholic and drug addict when, while working in a treatment facility in Minnesota, she was asked to hold groups for spouses of their alcoholic and ...
Views: 198You must read the article to rate it. - Establishing Boundaries - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2007 from Lori KlauserCodependents sometimes seem almost misplaced. You seem to have a hard time relating to whom you truly are and for that reason you have a hard time setting boundaries. You have a hard time saying no to people and you let people cross the line of what should be your boundaries and hurt you. You tend ...
Views: 150You must read the article to rate it. - Karmic Imprints - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2007 from Nicole LavoieWhat is karma? The literal meaning of karma is action, and it has been used in many different ways to define the levels of human interaction, to define the nature which is manifesting in one's life. Action is usually founded on projection, assumption, misunderstanding; and therefore karma is ...
Views: 114You must read the article to rate it. - How loved one can help in a Medical Crisis… - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from Steve HefferonWhat you are about to read is directed to those who suffer from back pain and those who love them. Much of what I'm going to tell you can be useful in all aspects of your life and for any difficult situation you may face. When dealing with serious back pain, you have to realize that your ...
Views: 77You must read the article to rate it. - Don't Block the Flow - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2007 from SelfGrowth.com adminIt is a child-like state that results in having one’s self-worth dependent on external validation. It’s about living from the outside in, molding oneself to fit around others’ lives instead of directing the course of one’s life from internal clues, hopes, dreams, wisdom, and power. . . The ...
Views: 86You must read the article to rate it. - Hot and Cold Love Addicts: A Lethal Combination - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2007 from SelfGrowth.com adminA lot has been written about love addiction and yet it is still a misunderstood disorder. For instance, many people believe that love addicts only run hot —passionately pursue someone who is unavailable like in the movie Fatal Attraction. However, many love addicts also run cold ? appear aloof ...
Views: 549(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - SUPER WOMAN - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert NajemyKaterina is very conscientious, a hard worker and reliable in all cases. At work and at home, she can be depended on to get things done. She often stays overtime, usually alone at the office, in order to get her work done. When she gets home, she immediately immerses herself in cooking, ...
Views: 83You must read the article to rate it. - Life After Betrayal: A Practical Guide - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2007 from Lynda BevanSTEP 1 BETRAYAL Betrayal comes in different guises. Different types of betrayal: • When a partner deceives you • When people lie to you • When someone cheats and robs you • When people gossip behind your back • When children trust their parents not to hurt them • When you are let down ...
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