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The Narcissist in Custody Battles
Presentation made by Sam Vaknin
Author of “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited”
In the 11th Annual and First International
Battered Mothers Custody Conference
HOW NARCISSIST SEES HIS CHILDREN
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In California, there are three ways to end a marriage: divorce, legal separation, and annulment. At Peace Talks we want you to know your options and we will focus on legal separation in this article. The process for a legal separation is similar to filing for a divorce, but there are some ... Views: 26
Alas, the recent break-up of a nine year relationship was painful enough. But when my ex-partner’s daughter indefinitely suspended (if not permanently ended) weekly 3-5 minute Skypeing and my periodic visiting with her 3 ½ year old daughter (i.e., my ex’s grandchild), because the mother felt ... Views: 0
Guilt is a painful, uncomfortable and often lingering emotion that many individuals I work with suffer from. You will learn about John and Dana’s experience today, and at the end are my 3 secret tips to letting go of guilt.
Take John’s case, after many years of endless agonizing and ... Views: 65
You wouldn’t believe the amount of husbands and wives that come up to me and say “Nicola, how do I get my Spouse to Change? ”If you are trying to save your marriage by desperately attempting to change your partner to no avail - STOP!
Want your partner to exercise more? Stop social media? ... Views: 85
Let’s face it co-parenting after divorce isn’t easy. Many children of divorce go through a roller-coaster of emotions like their parents do when the family splits. Children may isolate. Have angry outbursts. Refuse to eat. Cry. Say horrible things. Throw tantrums. But what do you do if they ... Views: 78
Divorce is a word that we see and hear everywhere. In our daily lives divorce attorneys solicit their services in commercials, billboards, print media and flyers. Television shows and films trivialize divorce as it's cloaked in steamy affairs, romanticized depictions of fragmented families and ... Views: 80
What’s are your spouse’s most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? When was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago?
One of the most annoying things about ... Views: 84
During the period of a peaceful divorce and emotional confusion, we sometimes say and write things to our partners that are offensive and inappropriate. Instead of clearly communicating our thoughts and calming down the situation, we respond with critical, judgmental words that inflame passions ... Views: 70
When going to court to finalize your divorce case it is the culmination of months, maybe years, of a strained domestic relationship and marital discord. When you go to court for a jury trial or bench trail you need to leave your emotions at home if you want to have a possible favorable outcome. ... Views: 76
Divorce is seen as a hazard to social life which seems to have taken all societies in its grip. The last century has seen increased divorce rates and it is true throughout the world. Especially in Europe and western countries people are finding it difficult to be married for a long time. ... Views: 93
Getting divorce can never be a pleasant experience when you are emotionally hurt. It is also not possible to be completely ready for it. But divorce is not something that happens overnight. It is a process that starts with misunderstandings and conflicts that are very difficult to agree upon. As ... Views: 94
Every relationship in the world is essentially built on emotions. Love, affection, passion and belongingness are the base of all kinds of relationships. The reason for break in relationship is because people get emotionally hurt for one reason or the other. Divorce is nothing but the result of ... Views: 72
The divorce rate in the Europe and specifically in the UK has been on a rise in the past few decades. Sociologists are of the opinion that this is not good for human society in the long run. People are taking the institution of marriage lightly and this can eventually affect all kinds of ... Views: 73
Society, at least as it was when I was a young adult, expected that women should and would get married. In fact, women still didn't really even have to worry about having a career - as long as we married and had a man to take care of us. And heaven help us if we made it into our mid to late 20's ... Views: 127
Hmmm, I know, you're thinking, "how can anyone be married to a single man?". Yep, crazy. I would never have believed it possible either, then one day I realized that that is how I was able to best describe my marriage!
Really! When I said "I do" I thought that meant that we (my husband and I) ... Views: 129
I know, I know. Everyone expects to have sex on their honeymoon, right?! That's what you hear your whole life. Sex on your wedding night - to finally consummate the relationship, then sex, sex, sex and more sex throughout the entire honeymoon. After all, this is the person you've been saving ... Views: 110
Divorce is like a wild fire that keeps encroaching on every part of a person’s life, till he or she is completely devastated. Never can a divorce process be termed as happy or a pleasant experience unless someone is willingly walking out of a marriage and gaining a lot of fortune out of it. ... Views: 68
Divorces will always evoke a variety of emotions ranging from anger and fear to doubt and sadness. Whatever you may currently be experiencing, it is important to remember that these feelings will pass and you must get proactive about your future. Anyone who is currently going through this legal ... Views: 120
If falling in love can be compared to heaven then getting divorced can definitely be compared to a living hell on earth. The couple has to go through emotional turmoil during the pre-divorce conflict and during the divorce procedure. But there is no solution for this as it is a part of the deal. ... Views: 73
Divorce is a detailed legal procedure and one needs to keep a lot of things in mind before agreeing on the terms and conditions. As you decide to separate from a person with whom you have spent a good amount of your life, there are lot of things you share and own together. So while parting you ... Views: 72
Divorce is a utterly emotional occurrence and it can turn your life into complete chaos. People feel a flood of emotions of betrayal, separation, depression, guilt and so on. The problem begins when the couple start having problems much before the actual divorce process. The reasons could be ... Views: 66
Divorce is a painful and devastating event for many couples. It can be a crucial turning point in the lives of all members of the family including the couple as well as the children of the relationship. A divorce will affect many aspects of daily life because of the extreme emotional as well as ... Views: 66
One of the most giant problems in western society is the increasing divorce rate from year to year. What was considered as a very harsh decision and one of the last ones when it came to family life, divorce has now become a very common this in the modern society. Depending on the country and the ... Views: 67
Few things in life are as difficult to recover from as divorce. This is especially true when there are children involved. Whether you wanted it or not, there are things you have to tackle if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life after your divorce. While the road to happiness may seem ... Views: 85
Divorce is a traumatic and difficult experience. And despite the often heard phrase "amicable divorce," that is the rare exception and not the rule. But once you’ve decided that divorce is the right choice, there are ways to make the process less painful and help yourself begin to build a new ... Views: 111
People all around us love to maintain their relationships in its most healthier manner, and they used to follow various tips and techniques to manage it in the perfect way. There are various factors which play their crucial role in determining the success of any relationship, and one such ... Views: 192
There is no better feeling than loving and being loved, and nobody can argue that. Sooner or later, most of us want to find that perfect person who is not only going to keep us warm at night, but who will be a constant part of all our plans and goals. Nonetheless, many relationships and ... Views: 129
When it comes to custody decision, mothers have always been the primary candidate for residential custody, while fathers only get visiting rights. The situation often gets reversed in case mother is “not good enough” to be able to take care of the child according to the investigation done by ... Views: 119
The first step in making it work again with an ex is to remember and understand the reasons behind your break up in the first place. If you decide to make it work again with your ex, the question would then be if you could get past the reason for the initial break up. Once you’ve made up your ... Views: 209
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Some patients develop codependent behaviors and traits in the wake of a life crisis, especially if it involves an abandonment and resulting solitude (e.g. divorce, or an empty nest: when one’s children embark on their own, ... Views: 189
It can take years for the wounds of a divorce to heal. Many people feel sad, lonely and hurt after a divorce. They may also suffer from low-esteem. Fortunately, there are ways you can rebuild your self-esteem after a divorce. Below are some tips for increasing your confidence:
Set One Goal ... Views: 155
Signs Your Relationship Is Going To Fail!
The fact you’re reading this article right now is no coincidence. Your subconscious, Your Spirit, is trying to protect you from a future disaster. Before you say I do, before you move in, before you introduce this future mistake to your friends and ... Views: 231
Narcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor in 6 Steps
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
You have been abused, maltreated, harrassed, and stalked.
You feel that you fell prey to a narcissist or psychopath.
But, you must move on from victim to ... Views: 256
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ... Views: 299
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my daughter in law . I I love her. She and my son had a relationship for more than fifteen years and were married for six. They have two preschool age children. I always thought My daughter-in-law and I got along, but now we can only ... Views: 287
There's a lot of misinformation about divorce, and Dr. Romance would like to clear up some of the confusion.
Here are 11 things people will not tell you about divorce.
1. Divorce will not make you happier, unless you’re leaving an abusive relationship.2. Divorce sometimes seems ... Views: 313
Often you lose two things in a divorce: your marriage and what feels like a piece of your identity. Marriage has a funny way of making two people seem inextricable, two sides of the same coin to use a cliché. But then somewhere in the marriage, its sanctity fell apart and you’re left wondering ... Views: 234
Dear Dr. Romance:
I hope you don't mind me writing you but I came across an article that you said: "The best interest of the child also could preclude a mom from gaining custody," says Dr. Tessina. "If a judge doesn't deem that the mother meets the ... Views: 304
Many people feel trapped in a relationship, yet fail to do anything about it.
The reasons for staying stuck are numerous, including assuming it’s better for the children to stay, illness or lack of physical mobility or stamina, financial restrictions, fear of retaliation, fear of being ... Views: 226
Dear Dr. Romance
I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex ( civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries ... Views: 425
Sustaining intimacy and fulfillment in a romantic relationship can be challenging. Often couples find themselves lacking true connection with each other as the daily routine of their lives take over.
Intimacy is a creation that has to be cultivated and tended to. When we take time to ... Views: 432
(A simple way to let go with dignity)
"The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa
If schools had offered a course called "Breaking up is hard to do", I suspect we all would have enrolled. Why aren't we taught these difficult challenges ... Views: 441
Maintaining long-term relationships can be a complex undertaking that requires significant time and attention. When things begin to go wrong, partners can take proactive steps to get the relationship back on track. These efforts can often make the difference between strengthening the partnership ... Views: 462
Divorce - it's a word that makes me cringe every time I hear it. Mine was thirty-two years ago (not of my choosing) and was one of the most painful periods of my life. Two people brought together in love take a sacred vow to love, honor, and cherish one another for eternity. No one ever says, ... Views: 562
Dr. Romance asks: Should you date someone who is divorced? Does it mean the person can't commit or trashes relaitonships?
It's possible that those things are true, but let's look on the positive side. What are the perks of people who have already been through ... Views: 609
I was reminded by a commercial many years ago (which will of course date me from the 60's LOL!). There was singer Ella Fitzgerald with a high pitch voice near a wine glass. The commercial showed the glass shattering. Next was a view of a cassette tape player (hopefully I am not the only one ... Views: 564
How many times have we gone on vacation or somewhere away, have an amazing time only to return home wishing we were back? I don't know about you but it has happened to me countless times. Why does this phenomenon occur in our lives and what does it mean? When we are in a different place, ... Views: 538
Most couples can name several ways in which they’re opposites: neatness versus sloppiness; extroversion versus introversion; being high-strung versus laid-back preferring city versus country living, etc. And I'm sure you have something in mind that's specific to you. It’s true that quite often ... Views: 570
If your relationship were afire, is it still burning strongly? Flickering? Smoldering? Does it need kindling? A log? Or has the last spark of it burned out to the point where it's even too late for more oxygen? After all, your relationship at one time had to be on fire in order for it to burn ... Views: 634