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Unplugging From Your Ex-Spouse - By Carolyn Ellis- You CAN Mend Pain from the Past and Create the Love of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Nanette GeigerYou have ended a non-functioning relationship that does not work for you anymore. It was difficult to stop the relationship, because it wasn't horrible, although your heart wished to be truly fulfilled in love. Currently you find yourself being lonesome and have a difficult time shutting the door ...
Views: 7(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Divorce Tips For Women - Six Ways to Embrace Your New Life and the New You - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseAre you tired of the slump that has recently become your life since undergoing a divorce? Join the club. However, instead of sulking on the couch and cursing the whole institution of marriage, why not do something about it? Take back your life and make it better than ever! 1. Exercise - exercise ...
Views: 4You must read the article to rate it. - A Nine Step Guide to Getting Out of Divorce Unscathed - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseAlthough it may not be possible to go through a divorce completely unscathed, it is possible to get out without any permanent battle wounds. You just need to have a plan of action: 1. First of all, accept the inevitable. Divorce usually does not happen overnight. However, if you have tried ...
Views: 4You must read the article to rate it. - Determining Your Own Self-Worth After Getting a Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseSelf-worth is what helps a woman define how valuable she is as a human being. This can only be calculated in a woman's own heart, as it should never be attached to the opinions of others. Nor should her self-worth be attached to a role that she plays in life or even her paid job or career ...
Views: 4You must read the article to rate it. - Post-Divorce Confidence - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseYour confidence has likely suffered because of your divorce. This isn't unusual and you shouldn't feel like you are alone. You committed yourself to your marriage, and your hopes and dreams followed. To now be faced with its ending is a devastating blow that often leaves women feeling exhausted, ...
Views: 4You must read the article to rate it. - Tried and Tested Finance Tips to Triumph Over Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseWithout a doubt divorce is never a leisurely walk in the park. It certainly wasn't for me. Both parties experience feelings of loss, fears for the future and finance concerns that can overwhelm even the friendliest of divorces. However, it is the finance concerns that will take center stage ...
Views: 3You must read the article to rate it. - How to Deal With Disappointments After Failed Marriages - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseMuch disappointment is brought about by leaving a marriage. It takes a lot of time and thought to commit to marrying someone, and most critiques of failed marriages do not see the trials that a woman undergoes to prevent the breakdown of what she hoped would last. The words "till death do us part" ...
Views: 4You must read the article to rate it. - Relationship Help for Single Working Mothers - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Nanette GeigerSusan from North Carolina came to me because she's afraid that she'll never get a new husband because she thinks nobody wants to walk into an already established family. If this rings true for you or a person you know, you may believe that, but it is just not so. I know of women who have toddlers, ...
Views: 11(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Helping Children Through Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Virginia McCormackWhen you made those vows in the beautiful dress with the man you couldn’t wait to spend the rest of your life with, divorce was the farthest thing from your mind. When he sat with you in labor and then watched in awe as a miracle was placed in your arms, you weren’t thinking about ...
Views: 12(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Divorce to Remarriage: What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa Johnson50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren't they? But why are they this high? 50% of first marriages end in divorce I'm not even going to make a guess at the reason for this. ...
Views: 11(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Divorce to Remarriage: Meeting the Kids - How to Impress Them Not Depress Them - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa JohnsonDating after divorce can be tricky. But introducing that special someone to your children is even harder. Let's cover the 4 most important steps to take in that first meeting between your new partner and your children. 1. Don't introduce them too early - Be sure this is a committed relationship ...
Views: 8You must read the article to rate it. - Whether You Stay or Walk, Love Well - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, OCTOBER 23, 2009 Whether You Stay or Walk, Love Well (SET ITAL) I hate to give up on our relationship, but to stay feels like giving up on my dreams. (END ITAL) To walk away from what we hoped -- and promised -- would last forever is ...
Views: 30(4 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - The Rocky Road to Recovering from Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2009 from Annie O'NeillDivorce is one of the most traumatic things that can happen to you. Coping with the loss of a partner is incredibly hard and quite often friends and family won’t understand what you’re going through. Whether you’re the ‘dumper’ or the ‘dumpee’ (I apologise for the horrible terms ...
Views: 16(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Do we pretend Divorce is an easy option? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2009 from Annie O'NeillThere was an article in the Daily Mail (Femail - onliine) today - 'Yes, of course, divorce shatters lives. So why DO we pretend it's an easy option?' by Yasmin ...
Views: 12You must read the article to rate it. - RELATIONSHIP CHECK UP - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2009 from Sadie SheafeThere are very few guarantees in life but one is certain, everything changes: day changes to night, morning to evening and summer to fall. People of course are no exception; we physically change from young to old. There are times we change for the better and at times the changes are ...
Views: 22(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Thinking of Leaving? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Adele CornishI regularly receive emails from men and women worldwide who are seeking advice on their blended family. These come to me here in New Zealand, a small but famous country southeast of Australia. Sometimes these emails are from individuals saying they want to leave their relationship. Here I will ...
Views: 41(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Survive A Break Up The Easy Way - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2009 from Tim ryanThe majority of people at some point in their lives will go through the ugly experience of a break up. This is always a difficult time and the stress can cause physical symptoms such as nausea, sleeplessness, over or under eating to name but a few. So how can you get yourself from feeling all the ...
Views: 33(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Overcoming Self Esteem Issues after a Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseYou never thought this would happen to you; when you signed the marriage certificate and said your vows in front of your friends and family; when you walked down the aisle in your stunning white dress and kissed your husband at the altar; when you danced your first dance as man and wife and enjoyed ...
Views: 25(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - The Pain of Divorce- What to Expect and How to Move Forward - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseDivorce can cause a lot of unwanted stress, unwanted pain and unwanted disappointment. However, one of the best ways to overcome this pain is to identify the feelings and work past them. Whether you are the one who did the leaving, or whether your husband left, you will experience pain, anger, ...
Views: 26(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Dealing With Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Pat BurnsDivorce is traumatic. Having been through it personally, I can speak to the fact that even if you are ending a terrible marriage, there is still trauma and grieving. You may not be grieving the reality of your marriage, but rather grieving the death of all your hopes and dreams..what you hoped ...
Views: 26(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Broken Heart Advice: Coping Tips When You Just Can't Let Go - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsBreaking up or getting a divorce might have been your idea. It could be that you, your partner or both of you were caught in destructive behaviors that could only be stopped by ending your relationship. Maybe there was abuse of some kind involved. Or perhaps the troubles in your relationship ...
Views: 71(6 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - What's The Purpose? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Mike PrudhumeWhat's The Purpose? Maybe you ask yourself this! At least I did, until I was sitting there wondering, can there be anything I can do to change the way my relationship is going? I am going to share a little about my own current situation and what I am doing to make my relationship work. Maybe this ...
Views: 33(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - How to forget your old relationship - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from M.Farouk RadwanHow to forget someone you love Long ago when it used to take me more than three days to forget about someone I used to do the same wrong practices people do when they get into a relationship but as I read a lot about psychology I discovered that forgetting someone you love would take a maximum of ...
Views: 40(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Using the Married Filing Joint Status during Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2009 from David KaneAn area that needs to be examined while you are going through the divorce process is determining the tax filing status that will be the most advantageous to you. During the pre-divorce year(s), you have a couple of options that can increase or reduce your tax liability depending on which filing ...
Views: 41You must read the article to rate it. - How To Stop A Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2009 from Sean CauzeeYou may see that a divorce is right around the corner. You are thinking of learning how to stop a divorce before it happens. You may think that your alone in this type situation; but your not,there are many. You have tried everything you know how to do to keep the relationship from falling ...
Views: 40You must read the article to rate it. - Is it possible to stop hating your ex so you can co-parent in peace? YES! - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Rene Ashton1. Do you want to change? You need to answer this honestly. Do you want to change? If you’re thinking, “Of course I want him/her to change!” That is not what I asked. You cannot change your ex. Try as you may. Manipulate as you may. Punish, kick, scream, whatever your tactic, it ...
Views: 51(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - HOW TO GET OVER YOUR PAST (AND PAST YOUR HURT) By Mort Fertel - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Mort FertelHas your spouse neglected you? Rejected you? Emotionally abused you? Are you struggling to get over the pain of an affair? If you're having marriage problems, the chances are good that you need to put some hurt behind you. It's one of the most common questions I get. "Mort, I want to ...
Views: 52(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Does Divorce Have To Have A Negative Impact On Our Kids? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Shelley StileGoing through a divorce where there are children involved is an anxiety-provoking scenario with much worry on the past of the parents as to what negative effects the divorce will have on their kids. I firmly believe that it isn’t so much the divorce but how you choose to handle the divorce that ...
Views: 45You must read the article to rate it. - Finding the Truth in the Unexpected Happening - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from ray borjaLet's face it, throughout our lives we do the best we can do based on what we feel we are capable of. We do our best to get things right. We ate our vegetables, studied hard in school, learn to love, got married to our sweetheart, went out and got a good jobs. We then raised smart kids, and saved ...
Views: 49(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Are You Ready for Love Again - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Meghan GehanAfter a divorce or break-up of a significant relationship, you may wonder when the time is right to “get back in the game” of dating. Begin too soon and you will destine yourself to repeat the mistakes of your past. Wait too long and you may find yourself settling for the familiar (but ...
Views: 51You must read the article to rate it. - Dating after Divorce: The first steps - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Annie O'NeillThe first and most important thing to do before you start dating again is to learn to love yourself. If you are not happy with yourself you cannot expect someone else to be able to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. If you do not love yourself, ask yourself why and make some changes in ...
Views: 49(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Life after Divorce: Will I Ever Love Again? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Annie O'NeillThe short answer to this question is probably yes. However you have to adjust to your situation and work your way through the emotions of splitting up before you will be able to move on. The end of a relationship is always tough whether or not it was your decision to end it. You may need to ...
Views: 50(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Just When You Thought Your Life Was the Worst... - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Shaun WuJohn was standing at the roof top of his 9th-storey apartment, slowing walking to the edge. He then looked down. He saw people walking around, cars zooming here and there. The first drop of tears, trickled down from his eyes. In his mind, he thought back. He felt his life was terrible, in fact ...
Views: 48You must read the article to rate it. - Alimony versus Child Support Payments - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from David KaneWhat is Alimony? Alimony is also often called spousal support. Alimony payments are used to provide the spouse that is making a lower-income with funds to cover expenses that are not provided for through child support or through the division of property. Many factors come into play when ...
Views: 46(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Life’s been giving us wake up calls - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from ray borjaSo here we are caught up in the midst of an upheaval in our lives. Our marriage is dissolving. Our house is no longer our home. The light of our relationship that once was a beacon in our lives leading us into the safe shores of contentment, has burnt out. And we are left alone, arms crossed over ...
Views: 57(4 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Tips to Reassuring Children after Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseDivorce is not something anyone plans for. When you get married, you make wedding plans, not plans for leaving your marriage. Furthermore, it’s not something anyone wants to go through. However, divorce happens. In fact, one out of every two marriages ends in divorce. Unfortunately divorce can be ...
Views: 40(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Not Your Fault – Don’t Let Guilt Bring You Down After Finally Leaving a Marriage You Have Worked Hard to Save - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Vanaja GhoseThe entire institution of marriage works not only on love, but also on a wider social belief of what a so-called healthy and normal person must do. One of the main reasons that women consider marriage to be such a key and necessary part of life experience is because of society’s expectations. ...
Views: 58(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Functional and Dysfunctional Families - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Carl H. Shubs, Ph.D.Let us consider the functional family as one that works. It works for everyone in the family, not just some of the people. It is not perfect, but it is good enough. It is good enough so that the people in the family feel loved, valued, recognized, and appreciated. In the functional, good enough ...
Views: 60(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Dating After Divorce – What to Do - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Darshana HawksIt is daunting to consider dating after experiencing divorce, especially after spending ten or more years with someone. By implementing the tips in this article, I am certain you will become more comfortable and even enjoy dating because dating is a process and can be structured to fit your needs. ...
Views: 57(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Couples Splitting Up Should Try Mediation First - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Erin JohnstonMost couples separating or divorcing find that they are in a period of high conflict. Some have experienced constant arguments and fights for months or years; some are reacting to a sudden change of heart. Regardless of the circumstances and presentation conflict between the between the ...
Views: 48(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Recipe for Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Katy AllgeyerYou’ve heard the expression “love sickness”? The term goes back a long way and many greater writers than I (Shakespeare's Sonnet 147 comes to mind) have covered the symptoms brilliantly. It hits most of us at some stage of life--we think we're in love and we've found "the one", the ...
Views: 47(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Divorce Preparation – Assessing Your Financial Condition - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from David KaneOne of the situations that we see in many family situations is where one spouse is the primary caretaker of the financial obligations for the family. That person may have been in charge of paying the bills, setting up the investment accounts, making investment decisions (stocks, bonds, real estate, ...
Views: 47(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - How To Get Relationship Counseling - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Sara ApplesEveryone of us at one point or another may need relationship counseling. Some people think that relationship counseling is for couples, while in reality all couples-to-be, family members, employees with their employers, and clients with their professionals can make use of it during troubling ...
Views: 46(2 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Splitting Individual Retirement Accounts During Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2009 from David KaneAn area where many individuals get into tax trouble is when splitting their Qualified Retirement Accounts (QRPs) and Individual Retirement Accounts (IRAs). Once you have come to the revelation that your assets must be split you may be tempted to start the process by making pre-divorce transfers ...
Views: 50(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Pitfalls Parents Should Avoid When Telling Kids About Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Rosalind SedaccaFacing divorce and stymied about how to tell your kids? Wondering how it will affect them? Worried about hurting them with the news? When’s the best time to talk? What to say and not say? What they will say? Not sure just what to confide? Well you’re not alone. There’s no doubt this ...
Views: 56(4 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - Moving Beyond Mind Games - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I am single, and ever since college I have been in love with a girl whom I have tried to be with through the four years since graduating. Even though she married someone else, she would say she still wants to be with me and be intimate with me. I believe her, but have thought about ...
Views: 65(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - But I Just Need Some Closure! - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia Gonzalez-BazThe grief you cry out from draws you toward union. Your pure sadness that wants help is the secret cup. Rumi One of the hardest things for someone going through a breakup is fighting those relentless urges to contact the ex. "I just need some closure. I need some answers; I want ...
Views: 56(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Breakups and Divorce from the Perspective of Family Constellations - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia Gonzalez-BazHappiness has a very short attention span, it forgets what came before. Unhappiness, on the other hand, has a very long memory. Bert Hellinger “Sexual relations create a deep and binding bond. When a man takes a woman as his woman; and a woman takes a man as her man, sexual consummation ...
Views: 54(1 vote)You must read the article to rate it. - Pain from a Break-up Resolved with EFT - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia Gonzalez-BazAs part of her ongoing "Life Makeover" psychotherapy process, Mia brought up her severe neck and shoulder pain in a session. I asked several questions regarding the pain, including when it had started. She said ten years ago. I then asked: What had happened ten years ago? Mia's eyes immediately ...
Views: 57(3 votes)You must read the article to rate it. - How Does Divorce Affect Children? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2009 from Jody MaleyWhen I got divorced the people I was thinking of the most were my two children and how this would affect them. Like alot of parents who get divorced, I stayed in a very unhealthy relationship for the kids. I know, what was I thinking??? My youngest was only five at the time and he fared ...
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