We are currently looking for an Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to "Divorce". If you have expertise in Divorce and your own website and/or product for this topic, please review this form for complete details. The Official Guide Position is part of our Premium Placement Package
After a relationship break down the painful event remains stored in each partner as a memory that has embedded within it energy that hinders one's ability to return to a new relationship easily or at all. For many this outcome feels severely limiting. Did you know that such an outcome is not ... Views: 21
When a relationship collapses for whatever reason most people take it quite hard and fall prey to many seemingly "normal" feelings such as sadness, grief, anger, regret, rage, a deep sense of loss, low self worth, feelings of emptiness and loneliness, fears of being alone, low self esteem and so ... Views: 18
Reinventing yourself is not about getting rid of old ways and ideas. It is about taking away what you need from them; heartbreak, sadness, being stepped on and lied to, and creating a brand new person who sees their self a lot more clearly.
The energy around a situation or circumstance is ... Views: 48
It goes without saying that divorces are intricately complicated and intensely personal. They can be necessary or unwanted; devastating or invigorating. Regardless of the reasons why a couple elects to divorce, or the range of emotions it can produce, it’s a life changing experience that ... Views: 38
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 51
Do you know that the length of time it takes to completely get over a breakup can be anywhere from 3 years to forever? Do you know that this time period can be shortened to a matter of days to weeks? Do you know that the single greatest impediment to letting go of the negative feelings ... Views: 52
Are you afraid to fully open up to your partner sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually? Does this create an insurmountable barrier between the two of you? Is this barrier manifesting itself as self sabotaging behaviors that push him/her away ad leaving you feeling frustrated, angry with ... Views: 67
Well, you got through your divorce, settled in to your new life as best you can, and now you are in your first important, post-divorce intimate relationship.
You’re excited and relieved — yet also wary. You wonder if this new relationship is a go? Your doubts are not unfounded. After all, ... Views: 57
Your divorce is final, and you are glad, sad, excited and scared all at the same time.
You love your nights to yourself — for a while — and then you wonder if you can ever be optimistic about finding love again.
The good news is that this roller coaster of feelings and doubt is ... Views: 77
Do you find yourself saying or doing things that habitually undermine your chances of relationship success? In other words are you repeatedly sabotaging your relationship? Do you know why? Do you want to stop? Here's your chance.
In many cases when self sabotaging behaviors seem to erupt in ... Views: 93
Is it not striking that so few good relationships exist these days? So much so that we as a species seem to have resigned ourselves to believing that human beings simply cannot have healthy relationships. Unfortunately this view has only come into vogue because we have yet to appreciate the real ... Views: 108
If you've experienced the grief and sadness of rejection, being cheated on etc., that creates a broken heart I'm afraid that scar will be there for the rest of your life and will affect in some significant way your ability to be fully trusting, open and intimate as your true self with all future ... Views: 91
Relationships: Three Tips to Getting your Marriage Back on Track
Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help.
1. Don’t hold a grudge.
Talk about what’s bothering you in a rational way. ... Views: 151
Do you know that many new relationships are haunted by the specter of old failed relationships? Do you know that old emotional baggage from past breakups invariably lead to unresolved feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, mistrust, resentment, sadness, failure, and a fear of intimacy, to name a ... Views: 113
Do you know that neediness in the form of clingyness, jealousy, feelings of insecurity, fears of being alone, fears of abandonment and rejection, the need to do surveillance, the tendency to manipulate and control, and even to blackmail, to name a few are highly destructive not only to your ... Views: 121
Are you an adult child of divorce? If so I'm sure you're familiar with the consequences of carrying within you the memories of your parental divorce. If not let me highlight them for you so you can find a way to release them once and for all.
The consequences of carrying these memories within ... Views: 121
If two individuals are intent on trying one last time to make their relationship work then there is a way.
A relationship is just like a person. It stores within it the sum total of all the memories that make it up. After all when individuals talk about their relationship what do they talk ... Views: 119
So you've just finalized your divorce and you're looking forward to a life without your Ex.
You are however still carrying the scars that goes with a history of at best a sad relationship and at worst a traumatic one.
Most people believe that they just have to live with this history and ... Views: 103
Do you know that one of most significant contributors to failed relationships is self sabotaging behaviors driven by feelings of low self esteem and self worth? Do you know that low self esteem is rooted in subconsciously stored emotional baggage in the form of negative memories of abandonment, ... Views: 136
Anger is a common emotion experienced by individuals whose relationship has recently ended. Many would like to be able to dispense with such feelings but instead find themselves caught in the endless loop of having to fuel the anger by reminding themselves of the hurts, deceptions, lies, abuse ... Views: 118
Any unsuccessful relationship leaves residual feelings of sadness and grief. Now as so-called "normal" human beings we are expected to bear these feelings. Many therapists will tell you for instance that having such feelings is a normal part of the process, a normal part of living.
In this ... Views: 119
If you've ever experienced some form of negative or what some refer to as abusive events in your relationships you may have, if you're older or experienced enough, also noticed that the such events have a tendency to repeat themselves. Why is this?
Well in order to understand this one must ... Views: 100
Stories can create your reality. Which reality will you choose?
What kinds of stories do you tell yourself?
Here are a few common examples of stories:
• I can’t lose weight!
• I’ll never find love!
• I’m too old, fat, thin, stupid, short, tall, etcetera!
Stories are the collection ... Views: 149
3 Tips to Maintaining Your Sanity During Divorce
Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce.
1. Know your rights:
If you’re even considering divorce, spend the money for one consult with a reputable, good attorney (preferably, recommended by a friend who went through ... Views: 117
Why do most relationships fail? Is it because of a fear of commitment, a fear of being honest, a fear of intimacy, the result of co-dependent neediness, etc.? Well would you be surprised that many of these are only the surface veneer to a much deeper problem that each individual presents with ... Views: 142
Relationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse
Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex.
1. Choose your battles.
One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ... Views: 157
Do you know that feelings of abandonment and rejection haunt both partners when there is a breakup? Do you know these feelings undermine one's self esteem, self confidence, self worth, make them feel undesirable, unlovable, fearful of further rejection/abandonment and severely limit their ... Views: 137
Do you know that a relationship breakup can damage one's self esteem to the point that it can take 3 to 5 years, or more, before the individual regains enough courage to re-enter the dating scene? Do you know this is unnecessary time wasted? Do you know that it is possible to completely erase ... Views: 120
If you have ever experienced betrayal you'll know its scars continue to get in the way of being able to engage in healthy, emotionally open and intimate relationships with others. Do you know that it's now possible to completely and permanently erase the memories of these events leaving you free ... Views: 146
Do you know that feelings of inadequacy which make one feel unattractive, unlovable afraid of true emotional intimacy, unworthy, vulnerable to rejection, withdrawn, inhibited, like an imposter and emotionally unavailable ultimately lead to the demise of one's most valued relationships? Do you ... Views: 142
Relationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce
As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go:
1. Your partner keeps going out of ... Views: 201
Feelings of Rejection are one of the most pervasive dark forces that destroy relationships. Where do they come from and what can one do about them?
Feelings of Rejection are likely at play whenever one is unable to fully trust others to like, love, appreciate and or accept them. This creates ... Views: 165
Have you recently been rejected or abandoned by an ex? Perhaps it isn't so recent but you are still suffering from the wounds of rejection and hurt from a failed relationship. Perhaps it all seems to amount to an indelible scar on your heart that will negatively affect your future happiness. ... Views: 147
The heartbreak of a breakup can leave painful scars on the Heart that often must be defended at all costs. Unfortunately this undermines one's courage to open themselves up again to a new potential lover in the same unbridled and authentic way. Sadly this leads to inauthentic or falsely ... Views: 140
Do you know that the fear of being alone is responsible for deep feelings of neediness and emptiness that many individuals live with daily? Do you know that this fear undermines one's self confidence, self worth, self esteem, the freedom to make freewill choices, opens one up to manipulation, ... Views: 138
Do you know that relationship breakups are the single most toxic event that shuts down one's Heart and therefore the ability to love again? Do you know that leads to isolation, feeling disconnected from others and the world, feelings of loneliness, anger, resentment, despair and a pessimistic ... Views: 186
3 Must Do's If You Want To Break The Cycle
If you're the adult child of a divorce or simply trying to improve your marriage, here are three tips to help you cultivate a good relationship with your partner.
1. Weekly State of the Union discussion.
This is not an argument or complaint ... Views: 210
I am often astounded at how many "relationship" coaches resort to the idea of psychological trickery as a strategy to get one's ex-partner back! There are one hundred and one reasons why is this not only "not" a great idea it's also a death knell for any chance of having a healthy, satisfying ... Views: 213
Do you know that your relationship conflicts are determined not by external inter-relational factors but by deeply buried internal "emotional landmines" that control you and cause you to be "out of control" whenever something happens in your relationship that triggers them and leaves you ... Views: 182
When couples get married they never think they will be among those who get divorced. Yet a hefty percentage of marriages do end in divorce, so some of these people who can’t imagine divorce on their wedding day will certainly face that prospect eventually. Psychologists have identified behaviors ... Views: 167
Do you know that most relationships wind up on the rocks because the individuals in them act out, much against their own freewill, negative self destructive patterns that were pre-programmed deep in their subconscious minds early on in their lives?
Do you know those patterns are rooted in ... Views: 187
Do you know that a broken heart from a previously failed relationship is one of the greatest impediments to a) having another relationship and b) having a successful relationship? Do you know this is because the pain associated with the broken heart never actually goes away it only gets buried ... Views: 215
What is the emotional impact of divorce on children who experience it?
Well some are:
1. The emotional shock of losing the family structure and home.
2. The wrenching guilt that comes with having to choose between parents.
3. The deep fear of feeling and/or being abandoned by a ... Views: 187
It has been shown that carrying the scars of parental divorce can significantly increase the probability of you experiencing a divorce in your life. Does this make you feel frustrated or limited? If so I want you to know that there is a way to not only beat the odds but actually change ... Views: 188
Do you know that the main reasons individuals have trouble with relationship breakups is because they interpret such events as rejection, abandonment, being unlovable, unwanted, inadequate, worthless, unattractive, and as the harbinger of perpetual loneliness?
Do you know that all of these ... Views: 267
Dating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date!
You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes:
1. Pay Attention!
You Have Things to ... Views: 234
Even though parents argue as to the best residential schedule, choice of school, faith, holiday time, Christmas and extra-curricular activities, these issues are simply not as predictive for the outcome of children of separated parents as conflict alone.
More to the point, the greater the ... Views: 35
Working with parents whose marriages are on the cusp of failure or already separated parents fighting it out over the care of their children is a challenging proposition for the mental health professional.
Whether acting in the role of couple therapist, mediator, assessor, arbitrator or ... Views: 32
Do you know that many people harbor an addictive needy inner child inside that is responsible for feelings of loneliness, the inability to be alone, feelings of immaturity, feelings of low self worth and self esteem, poor self confidence, manipulative and controlling behaviour patterns, envy, ... Views: 186
If You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This
Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ... Views: 217