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Do you know that most relationships wind up on the rocks because the individuals in them act out, much against their own freewill, negative self destructive patterns that were pre-programmed deep in their subconscious minds early on in their lives?
Do you know those patterns are rooted in ... Views: 23
Do you know that a broken heart from a previously failed relationship is one of the greatest impediments to a) having another relationship and b) having a successful relationship? Do you know this is because the pain associated with the broken heart never actually goes away it only gets buried ... Views: 28
What is the emotional impact of divorce on children who experience it?
Well some are:
1. The emotional shock of losing the family structure and home.
2. The wrenching guilt that comes with having to choose between parents.
3. The deep fear of feeling and/or being abandoned by a ... Views: 29
It has been shown that carrying the scars of parental divorce can significantly increase the probability of you experiencing a divorce in your life. Does this make you feel frustrated or limited? If so I want you to know that there is a way to not only beat the odds but actually change ... Views: 31
Do you know that the main reasons individuals have trouble with relationship breakups is because they interpret such events as rejection, abandonment, being unlovable, unwanted, inadequate, worthless, unattractive, and as the harbinger of perpetual loneliness?
Do you know that all of these ... Views: 46
Dating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date!
You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes:
1. Pay Attention!
You Have Things to ... Views: 56
Do you know that many people harbor an addictive needy inner child inside that is responsible for feelings of loneliness, the inability to be alone, feelings of immaturity, feelings of low self worth and self esteem, poor self confidence, manipulative and controlling behaviour patterns, envy, ... Views: 46
If You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This
Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ... Views: 63
Every couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with ... Views: 64
Divorce usually happens because individuals exhibit relationship habits that are destructive to their partner, to the relationship and therefore to themselves.
Such habits include some of the following:
1. Being too needy.
2. Being too controlling.
3. Being too dependent.
4. Being ... Views: 51
If you are in the midst of a divorce I'm sure there is a great sense of confusion and cloudiness to your thinking largely brought on by the emotional pain of sadness, anger, grief, fear, emptiness, loneliness and so on that pervade your entire being at this time. This pain is likely affecting ... Views: 54
Do you know that feelings of low self worth are a major driver of the fear of intimacy that causes one to feel ashamed, vulnerable to rejection, anxious, inhibited, insecure, dependent, needy, unworthy, and unlovable? Do you know this fear causes one to withdraw physically and emotionally, ... Views: 52
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ... Views: 82
4 Real Ways To Make It Work
Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help.
1. Give your blended family a chance to bond.
Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ... Views: 69
In Puspha Pal Singh's well written article "3 Deadly Mistakes People Make In Relationships - You Must Be aware Of These Before It's Too Late" the 3 mistakes outlined are:
1. Not being clear with goals,
2. Being too demanding and
3. Not spending enough quality time with one's ... Views: 74
Do you know that one of the major factors leading to conflict in relationships is the mismatch that exists between partners in their ability to earn an independent financial living?
Do you know that this mismatch comes about when individuals of different genders are not allowed to fully ... Views: 80
Do you know that early experiences of abandonment behave like a curse worse than death when one is trying to establish a successful and healthy relationship in their adult life? Do you know that the negative memories of abandonment remain stored deep in the subconscious mind and from there ... Views: 65
Do you know that most people pick the same "kind" of unhealthy partner over and over and never realize it until their life is spent and they are too old? Do you know this unhealthy dating pattern is rooted in early childhood relationships you had with important caretakers (usually parents) often ... Views: 98
Do you know that neediness, like an automatic self sabotaging program, takes over as one is trying to portray one's best self in a relationship and causes their best efforts to fail repeatedly and disastrously?
Do you know this often leaves one feeling helpless, weak, lacking self ... Views: 70
Do you know that bad relationship choices are driven by old unmet emotional needs that often undermine one's ability to make healthy, self respecting and discerning choices in relationships (and other areas of life)?
Do you know these unmet needs are generated and supported by old emotional ... Views: 84
How To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent
Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting.
1. Be a Grownup.
I know you’ve probably had a tough time, but you’re a parent, and your child’s ... Views: 64
Doesn't it seem that life was so much easier when there were no IPhone’s, IPad’s, IPod's, texting , IM’s, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn? Now everyone has smart phones, e-mails and voice mail. Add the pressure from work, the economy, money issues and the housing market and it’s no wonder our ... Views: 17
Do you know that neediness is one of the greatest impediments to healthy and successful relationships? Do you know that the majority of people feel emotionally needy and they acquired this through early life conditioning that remains stored inside of them much like an old outdated computer ... Views: 106
Do you know that many individuals who are coming out of an unhealthy relationship situation often find themselves quickly re-entering similar negative and often abusive relationships?
Do you know that this pattern is largely driven by feelings of rejection, abandonment, low self worth, low ... Views: 125
Men, Women and the Fear of Emotional Commitment
Do you ever wonder why you find yourself repeatedly sabotaging your relationships? Well the most likely cause is an underlying Fear of Emotional Commitment. What's at the root of this fear and how can one completely eliminate it?
Emotional ... Views: 109
Don't Let Divorce Muddy Your Marriage - 3 Tips
Are you remarried? Are you trying to make this new relationship work. Dr. Romance offers three tips to help this new marriage work better than the first one.
1. Understand your baggage.
You both have leftovers from earlier ... Views: 102
Do you know that all self sabotage in relationships arises from an internal hijacker that many refer to as their "inner child"?
Do you know this hijacker a) is not you rather poses as an imposter that tries to unconsciously convince you that it is part of you so that it can continue to ... Views: 84
Have you ever been abandoned in a relationship? If so and you are still carrying the memories of the abandonment then your relationship life is at risk of repeating this same event again and again. Why and what can be done about it?
The memory of the abandonment gets stored within you along ... Views: 96
Save Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps
Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage.
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other.
Share your ideas and issues about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of ... Views: 135
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 181
3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today
Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped.
1. DO ... Views: 176
Do you know that choosing to have healthy relationships requires self esteem, self worth, self respect and the ability to make discerning choices? Do you know that many lack these because of old negative emotional relationship baggage stored within that generates self destructive needy patterns ... Views: 148
The fear of intimacy is responsible for a great deal of the self sabotage that individuals engage in while in relationships.
If you've ever experienced it I think you'll recognize that it seems to happen almost automatically and as if you have little control over it. Unfortunately after the ... Views: 128
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 131
Are you afraid to fully open up to your partner sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually? Does this create an insurmountable barrier between the two of you? Is this barrier manifesting itself as self sabotaging behaviors that push him/her away ad leaving you feeling frustrated, angry with ... Views: 140
Do you know that the length of time it takes to completely get over a breakup can be anywhere from 3 years to forever? Do you know that this time period can be shortened to a matter of days to weeks? Do you know that the single greatest impediment to letting go of the negative feelings ... Views: 129
Dear Dr. Romance:
My husband and I have been happily married for 9 years, and we have a good sex life. We love each other very much,and want to grow old together.
He served two wars in Iraq. About two years ago, I started being concerned about his sexual behavior relating to men. He used to ... Views: 171
In a recent article entitled "Need Disguised as Love" I make the point that individuals generally confuse love for something that is actually driven by need.
For instance, "the need to be needed", "the need to not be alone", "the need to be validated", and "the need to be taken care of" ... Views: 149
Do you know that healing a broken heart after a breakup can only happen if the memory of the event is completely and permanently erased from your mind? Does this sound preposterous to you? Does this sound impossible? Does this arouse skepticism and doubt about whether you should read further? ... Views: 121
What does self pity have to do with abuse?
Well many of you may not see the direct connection unless you've been subject to a partner who has found themselves in it from time to time.
Self pity is usually resorted to when an individual feels victimized by someone or some situation. They ... Views: 115
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviours, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 153
The fear of abandonment manifests itself as excessive worry that those close to you will leave you, as feelings of insecurity, anxiety, feelings of unworthiness, panic, fear of being alone, dread, over possessive or controlling behaviors, manipulative behaviors and so on.
As I think you can ... Views: 132
Now although that may sound like a strange title it is more common than you think. Let me explain.
Self sabotage is essentially when an individual engages an old conditioned habit or way of being that undermines their success, integrity, self esteem, self worth, self confidence, their ... Views: 126
Two Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce
Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a ... Views: 153
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean.
In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not ... Views: 192
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ... Views: 138
Infidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child
It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child.
1. Unless you can settle with ... Views: 163
Do you know that narcissistic individuals seem to exude a sense of self confidence and self importance that attracts, or rather “lures”. individuals who often have low self confidence, self esteem, self worth and are usually very needy and vulnerable? Do you know that such individuals look to ... Views: 150
Do you know that neediness is the result of old emotional baggage stored within in the form of negative memories of abuse, rejection, neglect, humiliation, bullying, failure etc.? Do you know that these memories create the familiar nagging feeling of emptiness that many people have inside them? ... Views: 258
7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members
If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your ... Views: 201