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Let's face it, infidelity causes deep personal pain, but your spouse's affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
In fact, I hope the information I share with you here will help you save your marriage and help you rebuild the trust you need to fully recover from this painful ... Views: 89
After one has been cheated on by their partner it is essentially impossible to return to a state where one can openly and genuinely love again. The pain shuts down the Heart and along with it goes one's experience of loving feelings as well. Is there a way to go beyond the anger and resentment ... Views: 120
Do you know that feelings of betrayal stemming from an unforeseen affair by your partner can not only lead to the end of your relationship but "also" to the end of your relationship life?
Do you realize that such an event, which is often traumatizing can leave such a deep scar of betrayal, ... Views: 75
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Mandela was a lifetime activist for the establishment of a fair and non-racial ... Views: 118
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your article "Attitude Adjustment" and some of the things you said really resonated. In recent years, I have found myself developing more and more resentment toward my wife (who thinks very differently than I do). I want to dissolve ... Views: 162
Acquired Situational Narcissism can be induced in adulthood by celebrity, wealth, and fame. But, it may also occur in a variety of other situations. Codependents, aiming to fend off gnawing abandonment anxiety, can resort to and evolve narcissistic and even psychopathic behaviours and traits in ... Views: 116
FORGIVE | FORGIVING | FORGIVENESS
Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, who's sins are covered.
Blessed is the man to whom the Lord does not impute iniquity and whose spirit there is no deceit.
Forgiveness - a big word with lots of meaning, but for many people - not ... Views: 118
You're divorced, but you still see your ex. How do you handle it? Here are three tips to help.
1. Treat your ex as politely as you treat your friends or co-workers.
Don’t be as familiar as you used to be. A little less familiarity will generate a little more respect. Say “Hello”, ... Views: 272
You made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ... Views: 149
WANT A GREAT LOVE RELATIONSHIP? FORGIVE.
People often will ask me how to create a lasting, loving relationship. They want to know how to find one or how to keep one. Maybe they have loved and lost, maybe they have loved and left. Either way, people are looking to find a romance that makes ... Views: 162
It is imperative to realize and live in the gift of the present moment if you wish to create the life you desire. Living in the NOW requires letting go of two things; one is the past that keeps you tethered via your unreleased emotions to people, places, things and experiences you have no ... Views: 133
Recently, some friends are hanging around confiding to me issues about break ups, make ups, and some were asking if their relationship is worth pursuing. I came to a point doubting myself if I were in the position to handle their ques and give them advise since I had just gone through a major ... Views: 290
“LOVE AFTER LOVE
The time will come when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome, and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back ... Views: 179
It's never easy to be "dumped" by someone you love, especially if the relationship has been going on for a long time. Sure, you find yourself wondering when will the pain end and wishing everyday for your ex to realize that the relationship's worth another try. And I'm sure every single day, you ... Views: 209
We have all been hurt by the things others have said or done (notice I didn’t include “to me/us” at the end of that sentence).* Very often, we say or do things that are inconsiderate or hurtful to the other party. Sometimes, we commit an offense by failing to do what we need to. Whether ... Views: 173
How much does that word take up space in your life? Have you ever found it difficult to forgive someone? Are there things or people you feel like you will never forgive?
Or, on the other side, are you sometimes worried that other people will never forgive you?
An ... Views: 181
Things go wrong in relationships from time to time; this is a fact which everyone simply has to come to terms with. No relationship is ever perfect, but to make yours as close to being perfect as possible you need to be able to work through the little or big problems that may occur between you ... Views: 106
Sorry can be one of the most important words to use in a relationship, often more important that those three words that fill relationships. Saying sorry, if you really mean it, takes a lot of courage and shouldn't be treated as a small thing because it isn't, it shows a lot of dedication to both ... Views: 136
I was just this morning reading an article by Wendy Squires on the “Mamamia” FB page, where she addressed her need for what I call downtime.
This quote is useful & I don’t know who wrote it but it sounds like a practicing psychologist
“The key difference [between introverts and extroverts] is ... Views: 236
Forgiveness is oftentimes misunderstood and difficult to put into action. For some, when another offends or betrays them, moving beyond the anger and the need to get even can feel impossible.
Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of all anger, pain, bitterness, and negative feelings ... Views: 213
Dr. Romance writes:
A couple of years ago, I had some difficult dental work. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some post -traumatic stress reactions – bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset – after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, ... Views: 191
It’s not a good sign when the first news of the day means dealing with death. But it got me thinking about the huge impact forgiveness can have in our lives. My father’s brother passed away the other night while I was out celebrating the 4th of July with friends.
The two brothers were ... Views: 140
Dear Dr. Romance,
I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ... Views: 206
What is forgiveness?
Can I really forgive all those people who cut me off, bullied me, cheated on me, talked behind my back, physically assaulted me, judged met, or made me feel significantly less than?
Don't I owe it to the universe to balance the scales of justice? Shouldn't I take the ... Views: 280
Dear Dr. Romance:
i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ... Views: 277
"Loving let live" is said to be one of the prevalent dying words we would only hope to hear for the rest of our lives. Unfortunately life will only exceed our greatest desires to be unified and reborn again when we have unwillingly departured our existence on earth. The equivocal spellbound of ... Views: 376
Dear Dr. Romance:
I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it.
When I came home ... Views: 257
Does it seem like you’re running in circles when it comes to your love life? Well, you’re not the only one. I have come across a lot of ladies who seem to find themselves running around in circles. They keep getting themselves into the same situation over and over again and have no clue why. ... Views: 172
By Terry Weber
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I'll always remember the attack on Pearl Harbor on December 7th, 1941. Even now, seventy-two years later, I am still aware of the many ways that attack forced the "sleeping giant" that was the USA; to become today's major advocate of worldwide ... Views: 175
Guilt is good. Yes! Guilt actually encourages people to have more empathy for others, to take corrective action, and to improve themselves. Self-forgiveness following guilt is self-essential to esteem, which is key to enjoyment of life and relationships. Yet, for many, self-acceptance remains ... Views: 217
I received the following in an email:
“There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into ... Views: 193
You love to tease her, you like to tickle her. You mischievously puzzle her when she asks you how much you adore her. You make her greedier when she simply craves for your love and affection. You love to treat her like a queen during those intimate moments. Well, we know why you have landed up ... Views: 396
I’m sure you’ve been told how important it is to practice forgiveness. You may have even been told that forgiveness is vital for healing, and you may even know that lack of forgiveness hurts you much more than the other person. But forgiveness is way more than any of these; it is ... Views: 180
"To err is human; to forgive, divine."-Alexander Pope
This parable stars two children; however, if we adults examine our hearts closely I think we'll find bits of William and Hannah hiding somewhere deep inside them.
William and Hannah were next door neighbors which served them well, since ... Views: 394
“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you’re riding through the ruts, don’t you complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live!” ~ Bob Marley
“Blame no one. Forgive yourself and others. ... Views: 265
Betrayal is a common occurrence. Research shows that a large proportion of partners betray their “loved ones”. A person thinking that his/her partner is “unique”, “special” and “exceptional” might stop thinking it after finding the partner has been unfaithful. After all, he/she has become “just ... Views: 286
I’ve been urging you to practice forgiveness. I asked that you forgive white society for their transgressions against us and I asked that you forgive yourself for getting caught up in the negativity that they have heaped upon us and turning it in on yourself.
But this begs the question, just ... Views: 242
In my last article, I told you that it is time to forgive those who have harmed us. I spoke not only of this generation, but the generations that lead to this generation. That’s a lot of work. It is challenging work. It is also rewarding work. But be aware that it is still work ... Views: 205
Let’s face some facts. We have made tremendous progress in reducing the torments of discrimination and isolation and oppression as results of racism. However, there is still a very long way to go. We are still imprisoned more often, less well educated, dying faster, more underemployed, more ... Views: 207
Have you ever danced with someone who was in total control, who knew exactly when to turn and step to create a flowing movement of beauty and grace? When you allow the other person to lead, you accept their guidance and give up control. And together, you create a joyous sequence of steps that ... Views: 187
Be willing to forgive self. Willingness is the first step in forgiving ourselves. The act of self forgiveness helps us to let go of the past. This is essential as we continue to heal our past and move forward in our new life.
The Oxford English dictionary defines forgiveness as such: “to ... Views: 177
There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do, and calms both of you down, which allows your discussion move on without ... Views: 281
We've all heard the phrase "opposites attract." But what happens when that happy union of opposites starts to rub you the wrong way?
At my Soul Blazing Sanctuary, I often work with couples where one person is very intellectual and not interested in social activities, while the other person is ... Views: 161
Frequently I help my clients work through problems with their grown children. Sometimes, an offspring is angry about something, and the parent is at a loss for what is wrong or what to do about it. These struggles often have their seeds in things that happened long ago, when the child was young. ... Views: 307
Having a broken heart is one of the most painful experiences in life and when it happens it seems that you will never get over it. How to heal a broken heart seems even more challenging than the actual heartbreak experience because it is prolonged and re-lived over and over again. The knot in ... Views: 437
One of the most important things a person can do for their relationship evolution is cutting cords that still bind them to previous relationships and prevent them from completing those relationships in the highest of ways. Most people do not realize that when you have a relationship with someone ... Views: 486
Left unchecked, there are a handful of pretty normal bad habits that can turn into relationship killers.
The patterns of communication listed below can start innocently enough. You probably just don’t know any better. And for a while these cycles let out some tension and can be laughed off ... Views: 729
Isn’t it Time to Stop the Bio- Mother ~ Stepmother Animosity?
Your stepchild’s Bio-Mom (BM) will always be a part of your life.
Over the years you will both attend graduations, sporting events, family celebrations, marriages, births, grandchildren, illness or death of a mutually ... Views: 465
Your partner has said or done something that really makes you furious. You are outraged. You are hurt to the core. You cannot believe it! If your partner cared for you, they would never have behaved in such a way.
The person you have just started to date does not return your call in a ... Views: 291
“There is in every true woman's heart, a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity, but which kindles up and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.” ~ Washington Irving
When you hold on to a grudge, or regret, you are holding on to negative ... Views: 263