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What is an affair? What constitutes cheating? Infidelity? These are very personal definitions. Most people have their own version of what constitutes what. Here is a definition I have adapted from experts in the field that works well: An affair involves one of the partner’s passion being ... Views: 28
It is very painful to experience betrayal in our relationships. I am primarily referring to betrayal by loved ones. This is the most painful betrayal. Betrayal may happen in many different forms and can be experienced by anyone at anytime during their life time
Betrayal might take place in ... Views: 19
Thirty years of marriage counseling and twenty-five years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don’t need to squabble, argue, ... Views: 92
Do you know that a relationship breakup can damage one's self esteem and self worth to the point that it can take 3 to 5 years, or more, before the individual regains enough courage to re-enter the dating scene? Do you know this is unnecessary time wasted? Do you know that it is possible to ... Views: 107
The dog ate the cord to your laptop battery, which fortunately wasn’t plugged in at the time--who knows how many volts run through those things, your dog could have been twitching for hours--but meanwhile, you’re without your computer.
You have an important presentation at work in a couple of ... Views: 118
One of the best pieces of relationship advice I can give is to work on your relationship with yourself first and always... Your inner world dictates what happens around you and how others react to you.
The kinder your inner critic becomes, the kinder you are to your partner and everyone else ... Views: 146
Do you know that many people harbor a fear of abandonment from past breakups that makes them needy, jealous, controlling, insecure, unattractive, ultimately sabotages their relationships and leads to more feelings of abandonment? Do you know this vicious cycle can now be permanently stopped ... Views: 121
What if you made this Valentine’s Day more than a day about hearts and flowers? What if you made this Valentine’s Day about expanding your love, taking it beyond whatever wonderfulness you now experience to something even more amazing?
It’s doable, you know. And all it takes is giving your ... Views: 147
It May Be Time To Finish Unfinished Business
Embracing a Psycho-Spiritual path in order to release past wounding is the overarching premise of this article. I say that “It May Be Time” with all due respect because I don’t know where you are on your own sacred journey. Those of you who are ... Views: 199
The past is far from the ideal place to set up residence, but I've been living in it for quite a while now. The past is a familiar neighborhood, and I am afraid it might be hard to leave, but leave it I must if I want to start actually living before an alarming death rattle comes up through my ... Views: 259
Do you know that failed relationships are invariably the result of old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind and associated with negative beliefs/feelings such as: the fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, low self worth, low self confidence, I'm unlovable, I'm inadequate, I'm needy, ... Views: 185
Forgiveness Strengthens The Capacity To Choose
The beauty of the New Year is already upon us! It ‘s the perfect time for personal reflection on the year’s ups and downs along with it’s challenges and triumphs. It’s an opportunity to affirm what went well and feel grateful for that. Perhaps ... Views: 201
Almost everybody has at least one past relationship that they can't seem to let go of. There's always that one love that left under unpleasant circumstances, that one person whom you still long for. While these feelings are by no means uncommon, they can have some very adverse effects on other ... Views: 209
Do you know that all relationship conflict arises because old emotional "buttons" are re-triggered which sets off an "emotional storm" rooted in earlier negative relationship experiences of abuse, humiliation, betrayal, rejection, abandonment, etc. stored as negative memories in the subconscious ... Views: 218
There are many "heroic" tales about individuals, who after having been victimized, turned to revenge to right the wrong. In our society such acts are revered and the individuals who undertake them are considered heroes. I would like to suggest however that an individual who needs to get revenge ... Views: 186
Sometimes it seems impossible to shake a feeling. Perhaps, it’s a feeling of dread or something missing, which makes us feel off-balance or slightly funky. We may look outside of us for the answer.
The answer is actually within us, which should be a relief. Either our emotional state is ... Views: 104
Let's face it, infidelity causes deep personal pain, but your spouse's affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
In fact, I hope the information I share with you here will help you save your marriage and help you rebuild the trust you need to fully recover from this painful ... Views: 215
Spiritual acceptance comes about in as many different forms as there are people who experience it. There is no one way that it comes about. But, generally, the experience is sudden or gradual.
First, let’s clarify the difference between acceptance and spiritual acceptance.
Sportscaster ... Views: 54
After one has been cheated on by their partner it is essentially impossible to return to a state where one can openly and genuinely love again. The pain shuts down the Heart and along with it goes one's experience of loving feelings as well. Is there a way to go beyond the anger and resentment ... Views: 276
Do you know that feelings of betrayal stemming from an unforeseen affair by your partner can not only lead to the end of your relationship but "also" to the end of your relationship life?
Do you realize that such an event, which is often traumatizing can leave such a deep scar of betrayal, ... Views: 218
When we are in the non-physical (spiritual realm) we are totally aligned with the pure and true energetic vibration that can only bring pure joy. I find it interesting that our spirits choose to come into the physical form full well knowing that we will begin to be influenced by our ... Views: 87
Birth: July 18, 1918 at 2:54pm (not documented but best time available) in Umtata, South Africa
South Africa The Good News / www.sagoodnews.co.za [CC-BY-2.0], via Wikimedia Commons
Mandela was a lifetime activist for the establishment of a fair and non-racial ... Views: 316
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your article "Attitude Adjustment" and some of the things you said really resonated. In recent years, I have found myself developing more and more resentment toward my wife (who thinks very differently than I do). I want to dissolve ... Views: 316
Maricopa resident Teresa Hamilton still remembers how hopeless she felt watching her purse sink to the bottom of her family’s swimming pool.
The summer sun was bearing down, and her alcoholic and drug-addicted husband had just returned home intoxicated and looking for a fight.
Hoping to ... Views: 60
Believe it or not, a ‘happy ever after’ is possible! Despite the high rate of separations and divorces these days, you really do have a fighting chance at having the fairy tale ending. The good news is your relationship does not have to be perfect for it to work. The bad news is that when the ... Views: 57
Good morning my friends….
Here we are ready to face another day of giving and making a difference. We started our day very early this morning. I’m not sure why we all woke up so early but I have great expectations for this day. Let’s get started –
It’s been put on my heart to speak ... Views: 68
Acquired Situational Narcissism can be induced in adulthood by celebrity, wealth, and fame. But, it may also occur in a variety of other situations. Codependents, aiming to fend off gnawing abandonment anxiety, can resort to and evolve narcissistic and even psychopathic behaviours and traits in ... Views: 210
FORGIVE | FORGIVING | FORGIVENESS
Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, who's sins are covered.
Blessed is the man to whom the Lord does not impute iniquity and whose spirit there is no deceit.
Forgiveness - a big word with lots of meaning, but for many people - not ... Views: 223
Breakups… heartbreak… we’ve all been there before, and it’s one of the most painful things in life.
Sometimes, though, relationships can end prematurely. Whether it’s because one person simply wasn’t ready to commit, or because some external factor -- a job offer, a few years at a faraway ... Views: 64
You're divorced, but you still see your ex. How do you handle it? Here are three tips to help.
1. Treat your ex as politely as you treat your friends or co-workers.
Don’t be as familiar as you used to be. A little less familiarity will generate a little more respect. Say “Hello”, ... Views: 392
You made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ... Views: 242
WANT A GREAT LOVE RELATIONSHIP? FORGIVE.
People often will ask me how to create a lasting, loving relationship. They want to know how to find one or how to keep one. Maybe they have loved and lost, maybe they have loved and left. Either way, people are looking to find a romance that makes ... Views: 262
It is imperative to realize and live in the gift of the present moment if you wish to create the life you desire. Living in the NOW requires letting go of two things; one is the past that keeps you tethered via your unreleased emotions to people, places, things and experiences you have no ... Views: 211
[update: 12/2013 - more school shootings have occurred, making this inspiring story just as relevant now as it was a few months ago]
A twenty year old man, Michael Douglas Hill, entered a Georgia school (8/20/13), ready to kill himself and to shoot innocent children. A woman at the school, ... Views: 309
Recently, some friends are hanging around confiding to me issues about break ups, make ups, and some were asking if their relationship is worth pursuing. I came to a point doubting myself if I were in the position to handle their ques and give them advise since I had just gone through a major ... Views: 489
“LOVE AFTER LOVE
The time will come when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome, and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back ... Views: 285
It's never easy to be "dumped" by someone you love, especially if the relationship has been going on for a long time. Sure, you find yourself wondering when will the pain end and wishing everyday for your ex to realize that the relationship's worth another try. And I'm sure every single day, you ... Views: 327
We have all been hurt by the things others have said or done (notice I didn’t include “to me/us” at the end of that sentence).* Very often, we say or do things that are inconsiderate or hurtful to the other party. Sometimes, we commit an offense by failing to do what we need to. Whether ... Views: 271
How much does that word take up space in your life? Have you ever found it difficult to forgive someone? Are there things or people you feel like you will never forgive?
Or, on the other side, are you sometimes worried that other people will never forgive you?
An ... Views: 266
Things go wrong in relationships from time to time; this is a fact which everyone simply has to come to terms with. No relationship is ever perfect, but to make yours as close to being perfect as possible you need to be able to work through the little or big problems that may occur between you ... Views: 179
Sorry can be one of the most important words to use in a relationship, often more important that those three words that fill relationships. Saying sorry, if you really mean it, takes a lot of courage and shouldn't be treated as a small thing because it isn't, it shows a lot of dedication to both ... Views: 217
I was just this morning reading an article by Wendy Squires on the “Mamamia” FB page, where she addressed her need for what I call downtime.
This quote is useful & I don’t know who wrote it but it sounds like a practicing psychologist
“The key difference [between introverts and extroverts] is ... Views: 344
Forgiveness is oftentimes misunderstood and difficult to put into action. For some, when another offends or betrays them, moving beyond the anger and the need to get even can feel impossible.
Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of all anger, pain, bitterness, and negative feelings ... Views: 295
Dr. Romance writes:
A couple of years ago, I had some difficult dental work. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some post -traumatic stress reactions – bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset – after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, ... Views: 281
It’s not a good sign when the first news of the day means dealing with death. But it got me thinking about the huge impact forgiveness can have in our lives. My father’s brother passed away the other night while I was out celebrating the 4th of July with friends.
The two brothers were ... Views: 224
Dear Dr. Romance,
I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ... Views: 300
What is forgiveness?
Can I really forgive all those people who cut me off, bullied me, cheated on me, talked behind my back, physically assaulted me, judged met, or made me feel significantly less than?
Don't I owe it to the universe to balance the scales of justice? Shouldn't I take the ... Views: 397
Dear Dr. Romance:
i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ... Views: 365
"Loving let live" is said to be one of the prevalent dying words we would only hope to hear for the rest of our lives. Unfortunately life will only exceed our greatest desires to be unified and reborn again when we have unwillingly departured our existence on earth. The equivocal spellbound of ... Views: 522
Dear Dr. Romance:
I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it.
When I came home ... Views: 353