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- Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They’re Not Enough For The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile each gender has the same value, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels this way. One can believe that men/women are worth more and this is then going to cause them to feel less than the opposite sex. This could stop one from being able to have an intimate relationship on one side and on ...
Views: 1572 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can be in a position where they are able to express their true-self, and on the other side, they can be in a position where this isn’t the case. At the same time, one could also find that it is possible for them to do this from time to time. But if this is the case, it is ...
Views: 1571 - Relationships: Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance. And when it comes to the former, it could relate ...
Views: 1571 - Star Wars: Does Star Wars Provide The Ultimate Escape? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask someone if they had heard of ‘star wars’, there is a strong chance that they will say yes. Now, this could be because they watch a lot of films, but at the same time, this might not be the case. What this comes down to is how popular this franchise is and as a result of ...
Views: 1571 - Forgiveness: Does Forgiveness Happen Through Force? - by Submitted on May 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is harmed in some way by another person, it has been said that they can hold onto how they feel or they can forgive them. If one holds onto how they feel, it could be said they will continue to suffer. Not only will they have gone through a tough time as a result of the other ...
Views: 1568 - I Hated Women! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for the media to blame all men for everything and for all women to be portrayed as innocent victims. This is all part of what is known as ‘identity politics’, where everyone is put into a group and no one is seen as an individual. Someone is then a victim ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Is Being Indifferent A Great Way To Destroy A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent. Nature For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Is It A Waste Of Energy For Someone To Try And Find Out Why Their Relationship Came To An End? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship and it was to come to an end, they might be only too happy that they are able to move on with their life. For a number of weeks or even months, they may have been thinking about how much better their life would be if they were both to go their separate ...
Views: 1568 - Idealisation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Idealise Others? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people who are in the public eye, there are others who are behind the scenes. One could be in the public eye because of what they do or it could be because they just wanted to be famous. Therefore, it is something that takes place directly or it is something that takes ...
Views: 1563 - Regret: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Have Regrets? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes a certain action or a number of actions that don’t lead to the outcome that they desired, there is the chance that they will later come to experience regret. And while there is nothing that one can to do to change what took place, they will suffer nevertheless. This is ...
Views: 1562 - Self Control: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Self Control? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperControl is something that everyone not only wants, but needs to a certain degree. To have no control would make life a real challenge and could make one question their will to live. This doesn’t mean that the control in question here is the control of others. The type of control this relates ...
Views: 1562 - Relationships: Does Your Partner Try To Stop You From Seeing Your Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in a relationship, they are likely to have less time to spend with their friends. This is because when they are with someone, they are going to spend a lot of their time with them. And as they are going to be an important part of their life, it could be said that this is to be ...
Views: 1560 - Career: Is It Important For Someone To Find The Right Career When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the average person spends most of their life at work, and this shows why it is so important for someone to do something that is fulfilling. If they don’t, this one area is likely to have a negative effect on every other area of their life. Point of Focus When they ...
Views: 1558 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a garden in front of their house that they wanted to protect, it might be a good idea for them to put a fence up. This is not to say that the fence would need to go all the way along, as it would be important for them to have a gate put it too. Through having a gate put in, it ...
Views: 1557 - Empathy: Is Empathy Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who find it easy to empathise with others, there others who are not in the same position. What this shows is that although everyone is a human being, it doesn’t mean that they operate in the same way. Still, it could be said that this is not the only difference, ...
Views: 1555 - Higher Power: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Higher Power? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to identify with something larger than themselves, there are others who are unable to do so. When this is possible for someone, they are likely to feel connected, whereas, if this isn’t possible, they might feel disconnected. This might be a ...
Views: 1555 - The Media: Does The Media Cause Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how people feel, the mainstream media can play a vital role. This is because so many people are plugged into the media and how their views of reality are defined by it. However, it is not just someone’s perception of reality that will be created for them, how they view ...
Views: 1555 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to tell someone that they are leaving their job or a relationship, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would know what they are talking about. When they think about what one is doing, they might imagine them saying goodbye to their colleagues or walking away from the ...
Views: 1552 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find That Other People Are Never There When They Need Them? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one needed something, they may find that there is someone who they can call on to be there for them. In fact, there could be a number of people who would be only too happy to support them. And the reason they have this outlook is going to be because these people have been there for them ...
Views: 1551 - Food: If Something Tastes Good Does It Mean It Is Good? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is no longer necessary for someone to go to another country in order to eat a certain type of food. The only thing they need to do is to go to a populated area and they should soon find what they are looking for. If they don’t, it may be a sign that they need to go somewhere ...
Views: 1550 - Self-Sabotage: Do Some People Sabotage Their Life In Order To Stay Loyal To Their Family? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to move forward and achieve success, and then there are others who are unable to do this. And when one experiences life in this way, it could cause them to go down a number of different paths. They could end up looking externally for the answers, and seeing ...
Views: 1550 - Boundaries: Do People Need To Have Good Boundaries When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries, there are others who don’t have them, and this is going to cause them to experience life differently. However, although one doesn’t have them, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can simply carry on with their life and continue to put ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - Loss: Is It Possible To Get Over A Loss? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s fast-paced world, there is often the need for instant gratification, and when something doesn’t happen straight away, it can lead to all kinds of problems. This can be a time when someone will experience a strong emotional reaction, and the sooner they get what they want the sooner ...
Views: 1548 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Who Have Empathy End Up With People Who Don't Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to empathise with others, they might expect to attract people into their life who are the same. But while they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is what will take place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who are the completely opposite, ...
Views: 1548 - Meaning: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A More Meaningful Life? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough pain is part is life and can’t be avoided, the western world and the countries influenced by it, are largely focused on eradicating pain. Pain is then something that has no purpose or reason for existing and therefore has to be removed. There are all types of pain that one can ...
Views: 1547 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly painful experience. And this doesn’t even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ it was. So this means that someone can have the desire to get back with their ex and ...
Views: 1546 - Empathy: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to empathise with another person, they will be able to put themselves in their shoes, so to speak. This is not to say that they will have the same experience, but they will have a sense of what the other person is going through. Understood As a result of this, the ...
Views: 1542 - Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Success? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst growth and progress are what many human beings seek, it doesn’t mean that this is what always takes place for them. There are some things that one might be able to achieve without too much trouble and others things that can always seem to remain out of their grasp. And while this ...
Views: 1542 - Needs: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Put Other People's Needs First? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is a challenge for some people to put their needs first and this is going to mean that they have a pattern of putting the needs of others first. This may mean that one takes care of their needs after, but it could also mean that one’s needs are not met. And while being selfless is often ...
Views: 1541 - Blame: If Someone Always Blames Others Does It Show That They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are people that take responsibility for just about everything, and on the other hand, there are others that avoid taking responsibility for just about everything. And while it could be said that the first option is better than the second option, they are both going to lead to ...
Views: 1540 - Loss: Why Would Someone Idealise Another Person When They Pass On? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old someone is, there is a strong chance that they have experienced loss at one point or another. In fact, this could be something they have experienced on a number of occasions. What this shows is that it is not necessary for one to reach a certain age before they lose someone ...
Views: 1539 - Teaching: Do Some People Become Teachers In Order To Feel Superior To Others? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that everyone on this planet is a teacher on one hand and student on the other. Based on this, it is a two way process, and if one doesn’t have this outlook, they are likely to be out of balance. In this case, one could believe that other people are here to learn from them ...
Views: 1539 - Boundaries: Is Having Open Borders A Good Idea? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted travel to another country, there is a strong chance that they would need to have a passport. In addition to this, they may also find that they need to get a visa. This could be something that doesn’t bother them, and they are then not going to have the need to think about ...
Views: 1538 - Relationships: How Can Someone Experience The Desire To Be In A Relationship When They Have Had So Many Bad Experiences? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear. What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ...
Views: 1537 - Relationships: Do Some People End Up With People They Are Not Attracted To In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can end up with someone who they are attracted to, they can also end up with someone who they are not attracted to. If they were to end up with someone they are attracted to, it could be said that they will be a lot happier. A Meal One way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1536 - Aggression: What Can Happen When Men Reject Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across as happy, they are likely to be accepted by the people around them. However, if they were to come across as aggressive, they may not receive the same level of approval. Now, this is not to say that this is black and white as it can all depend on the context, but ...
Views: 1535 - Intimacy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Levels Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to share who they are with others; they need to be seen and heard. When this happens, one will share what is really taking place for them and not what they think someone wants to hear or what will make them look ‘right’. However, in order for someone to ...
Views: 1534 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Worthy When They Are Successful? - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can feel worthy as a result of they are, other people can only feel worthy as a result of what they do. In the first case, ones worth has been internalised, and in the other, their worth is based on external factors. So the first person can just be and feel valuable without ...
Views: 1534 - Child Abuse: Do Parents Lack Empathy When They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written. I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ...
Views: 1533 - Permission: Do We Need Permission In Life? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may have the desire to act in a certain way or to achieve a certain goal, there can be challenges that get in the way. And one of those challenges is the need to gain permission from others. Now, this is not necessarily something that one looks for at a conscious level, it could be ...
Views: 1533 - Relationships: Can Rescuing Others Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels comfortable with their own feelings, it will give them the ability to open up to others. In fact, it could be said that it will be normal for this to take place, and this is going to mean that their relationships are likely to be far more fulfilling than they would be if this ...
Views: 1532 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ...
Views: 1532 - Criticising Others: Do Some People Criticise Others To Make Themselves Feel Better? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that someone can do to change how they feel, and it could be said that some of these things are going to be better than others. For example, if one was to reach out for chocolate whenever they need to change their mood, it could set them up to experience negative ...
Views: 1531 - Fear of Loss: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Loss? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things in life that one can’t avoid and experiencing loss is one of those things. No matter what one looks like, where they are from, or what their gender is, for instance, it is not going to be possible for them to avoid this experience. However, ...
Views: 1531 - Practice: Does Practice Make Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are often born with a certain ability or a number of abilities and these will vary from person to person. Other people may enable one to realise what they are good at or one may have to get in touch or ‘find’ what they are good at themselves. Once one realises what they are it ...
Views: 1526 - Letting Go: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on. However, this is not something that always takes ...
Views: 1525 - Social Media: Are Some People Emotionally Dependent On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked about how social media benefits their life, they may say that it allows them to connect to others. This is likely to be the kind of answer that a lot of people would give them. And as it is so easy to connect with other people through using it, it is to be expected that ...
Views: 1525 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Like A Victim When They Have Done Something Wrong? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are going to be moments in everyone’s life when they do something wrong. When this takes place, one could see if there is anything they can do to put it right. The Next Step If it becomes clear that they can do something about what has taken place, they might ...
Views: 1524 - “This Guy Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an article that I wrote a few months ago, I spoke about someone who I met whilst I was at a spiritual shop a few years ago. His name was Ian Baillie, and this was someone who was into past lives. At the time, this was not something that I knew much about, but I was open-minded and keen to ...
Views: 1524 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Defining Who You Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between. And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn’t ...
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