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- Relationships: Do Some People End Up With People They Are Not Attracted To In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can end up with someone who they are attracted to, they can also end up with someone who they are not attracted to. If they were to end up with someone they are attracted to, it could be said that they will be a lot happier. A Meal One way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1407 - Higher Power: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Higher Power? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to identify with something larger than themselves, there are others who are unable to do so. When this is possible for someone, they are likely to feel connected, whereas, if this isn’t possible, they might feel disconnected. This might be a ...
Views: 1405 - Sexualised Behaviour: Does Women’s Sexualised Behaviour Cause Aggression In Men? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some things have stayed the same over the years, there are other things that have radically changed. For instance, it could be said that today’s world is far more permissive than it used to be. And this can be seen with how children are raised and how sex is generally viewed. It wasn’t ...
Views: 1404 - Relationships: Is Being Indifferent A Great Way To Destroy A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent. Nature For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in ...
Views: 1403 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for one to hear about how they shouldn’t be a people pleaser. This may have been something one has come through reading books on self development, or they may have heard about it after reading articles online, for instance. But if this wasn’t the case, it ...
Views: 1402 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1400 - Intimacy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Levels Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to share who they are with others; they need to be seen and heard. When this happens, one will share what is really taking place for them and not what they think someone wants to hear or what will make them look ‘right’. However, in order for someone to ...
Views: 1399 - Relationships: Do You Always Blame Other People For Your Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed. Conflict Conflict is then ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Defining Who You Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between. And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn’t ...
Views: 1398(2 votes) - Aggression: What Can Happen When Men Reject Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across as happy, they are likely to be accepted by the people around them. However, if they were to come across as aggressive, they may not receive the same level of approval. Now, this is not to say that this is black and white as it can all depend on the context, but ...
Views: 1397 - Self Worth: Do You Alternate Between Feeling Really Good And Really Bad? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be for one to experience a balanced sense of self worth, this is not always what takes place. Instead, one might experience life in such a way that they feel up one moment and down the next. This is not to say that one won’t have moments where they don’t feel up or ...
Views: 1396 - Inner Child: Can Someone Heal Their Inner Child Through Mourning Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has mental and emotional challenges, or if they have relationship problems, they can end up looking for ways to work on their inner child. This is going to be a sign that they have come to the conclusion that their childhood is having an effect on their adult life. The reason they ...
Views: 1395 - The Will To Live: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Having The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had their eye on a new car and they were to take it for a drive, they are likely to find out that it drives well. Along with how it drives, it is also likely to be a comfortable experience. So if they are currently driving a car that is on its way out, this experience is going to be ...
Views: 1395 - Blame: If Someone Always Blames Others Does It Show That They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are people that take responsibility for just about everything, and on the other hand, there are others that avoid taking responsibility for just about everything. And while it could be said that the first option is better than the second option, they are both going to lead to ...
Views: 1394 - Sexualized Emotions: Can Someone Sexualize Their Own Emotions? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, someone can mistake thirst for hunger, and there are a number of reasons as to why this tales place. As a result of this, one can end up eating when they are not even hungry. The Outcome If one finds it easy to gain weight, and this was to happen on a regular basis, they ...
Views: 1394 - Boundaries: Do People Need To Have Good Boundaries When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries, there are others who don’t have them, and this is going to cause them to experience life differently. However, although one doesn’t have them, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can simply carry on with their life and continue to put ...
Views: 1393(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Attract People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance. As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this ...
Views: 1393 - Forgiveness: Does Forgiveness Happen Through Force? - by Submitted on May 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is harmed in some way by another person, it has been said that they can hold onto how they feel or they can forgive them. If one holds onto how they feel, it could be said they will continue to suffer. Not only will they have gone through a tough time as a result of the other ...
Views: 1390 - Fear of Loss: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Loss? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things in life that one can’t avoid and experiencing loss is one of those things. No matter what one looks like, where they are from, or what their gender is, for instance, it is not going to be possible for them to avoid this experience. However, ...
Views: 1388 - Happiness: Is Being In Touch With Our Needs An Important Part Of Being Happy? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that people want in today’s world, and one of those things is to be happy. But although this is what people want, it is not always that they receive. Someone can feel as though it is impossible for them to fulfil this need and that they would have more chance finding the ...
Views: 1388 - Relationships: Is Looking Good Enough To Attract The Perfect Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about having a relationship, it is often their priority to find the perfect partner. And this can be someone who has qualities and features that are relatively easy to find and go on to include what could be seen by some as, impossible to find. It could be that one has ...
Views: 1388(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others When Their Relationships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there is the chance that it will last until their life comes to an end (or until their partner passes on). There is also the chance that it won’t last this long, and this is due to a number of different factors. For one thing, people move around more than ...
Views: 1388 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Think That They Always Know Best? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments when one is in a position where they do know what is best, there are also going to be moments when this is not the case. It could be said that this is simply part of being human. If, on the other hand, one was perfect, then there would be no reason for them to have ...
Views: 1388 - Moving Forward: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stopping You From Moving Forward? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that human beings have an inherent need to grow and to move forward in life. And what one person sees as being a sign of growth is not necessarily what another person sees as a sign of growth. But while there are going to be differences, what most people are going to agree ...
Views: 1386 - Practice: Does Practice Make Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are often born with a certain ability or a number of abilities and these will vary from person to person. Other people may enable one to realise what they are good at or one may have to get in touch or ‘find’ what they are good at themselves. Once one realises what they are it ...
Views: 1386 - Food: If Something Tastes Good Does It Mean It Is Good? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is no longer necessary for someone to go to another country in order to eat a certain type of food. The only thing they need to do is to go to a populated area and they should soon find what they are looking for. If they don’t, it may be a sign that they need to go somewhere ...
Views: 1383 - People Pleasing: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they’re pleasing other people from time to time, it is unlikely to have a negative effect on their life. However, when one pleases other people as a way of life it is going to have a negative effect on their life. And while it is harming their life and stopping ...
Views: 1381 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to tell someone that they are leaving their job or a relationship, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would know what they are talking about. When they think about what one is doing, they might imagine them saying goodbye to their colleagues or walking away from the ...
Views: 1380 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1380 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Feel Comfortable Around People Who Are Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one ends up with people who are not right for them, it can be a sign that they end up with people who are self-centred. This is then not going to be something that has taken place on one occasion; it will be a regular occurrence. So when they end up in a relationship like this, it is not ...
Views: 1379 - Teaching: Do Some People Become Teachers In Order To Feel Superior To Others? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that everyone on this planet is a teacher on one hand and student on the other. Based on this, it is a two way process, and if one doesn’t have this outlook, they are likely to be out of balance. In this case, one could believe that other people are here to learn from them ...
Views: 1379 - Relationships: Do You Push People Away When They Trigger Your Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings. The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ...
Views: 1379 - Relationships: Do Some People Put Up With Dysfunctional Relationships In Order To Avoid Their True Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who end up in relationships that are fulfilling, there are others who don’t. This is going to mean that not everyone is going to know what it is like to be in a fulfilling relationship. Unfulfilling When one is used to being in relationships that are not as ...
Views: 1378 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Lose Respect When A Man Expresses His Emotions? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how important it is for men to open up about how they feel and to embrace their inherent vulnerability. It could be said that it is a good thing that this has been taking place. However, although a lot of men have been exposed to this message, it ...
Views: 1378 - Responsibility: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile is it one thing to feel responsible for one’s own life, it is another thing altogether to feel responsible for other people. Even though one is not responsible for other people, it doesn’t mean they feel this way. That is unless they have a young child or children for instance and then ...
Views: 1378 - Empathy: Is Empathy Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who find it easy to empathise with others, there others who are not in the same position. What this shows is that although everyone is a human being, it doesn’t mean that they operate in the same way. Still, it could be said that this is not the only difference, ...
Views: 1376 - Instant Gratification: Is Your Need For Instant Gratification Sabotaging Your Success? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, people not only want to have something straight away, they are also encouraged to have this outlook. It would be easy to see these two aspects as being separate, but part of the reason why people have this outlook is because of the society they live in. When it comes to ...
Views: 1375 - Relationships: Can Rescuing Others Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels comfortable with their own feelings, it will give them the ability to open up to others. In fact, it could be said that it will be normal for this to take place, and this is going to mean that their relationships are likely to be far more fulfilling than they would be if this ...
Views: 1375 - Star Wars: Does Star Wars Provide The Ultimate Escape? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask someone if they had heard of ‘star wars’, there is a strong chance that they will say yes. Now, this could be because they watch a lot of films, but at the same time, this might not be the case. What this comes down to is how popular this franchise is and as a result of ...
Views: 1375 - Career: Is It Important For Someone To Find The Right Career When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the average person spends most of their life at work, and this shows why it is so important for someone to do something that is fulfilling. If they don’t, this one area is likely to have a negative effect on every other area of their life. Point of Focus When they ...
Views: 1374 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Create Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one level, it could be said that there is the intellect, and on another level, it could be said that there is the emotional body. However, although these are two aspects that all human beings have, it doesn’t mean that everyone embraces both sides. There are going to be some people who ...
Views: 1373 - Relationships: Does Your Partner Try To Stop You From Seeing Your Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in a relationship, they are likely to have less time to spend with their friends. This is because when they are with someone, they are going to spend a lot of their time with them. And as they are going to be an important part of their life, it could be said that this is to be ...
Views: 1373 - Regret: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Have Regrets? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes a certain action or a number of actions that don’t lead to the outcome that they desired, there is the chance that they will later come to experience regret. And while there is nothing that one can to do to change what took place, they will suffer nevertheless. This is ...
Views: 1372 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Leaving A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have relationships that they want to be in, they can also have relationships that they don’t want to be in. This doesn’t mean that one will no longer spend time with these people though; as they might still spend time with them. In this case, one is not going to be ...
Views: 1372 - The Media: Does The Media Make People Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the media allows people to be informed about the world they live in, they also allow them to be misinformed. And at times, it is going to be hard to know whether it is the former or the latter that is taking place. One might come to the conclusion that this is because some human beings ...
Views: 1372 - Internet Dating: Can Internet Dating Make People Believe They Are More Attractive Than They Are? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile social media has allowed people to stay in touch with their ‘friends’ no matter where they are; internet dating has given them the ability to find someone no matter where they are. As a result of this, it is no longer necessary for one to go out in order to find someone to have a ...
Views: 1371 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Need To Be Rescued? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across a magazine or a newspaper, for instance, they may be told that if they are a man, they will be attracted to a certain type of women and vice versa. For example, when it comes to women, it is likely to say that their hip to waist ratio is important, and for men, it could ...
Views: 1371 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Depression? - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is easy for someone to end up being obsessed when it comes to their appearance. The need to look good is nothing new, but what is new is the pressure that someone can experience through using social media. They no longer need to be around people; the only thing they need ...
Views: 1371 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are pros and cons to most things in life and social media is no different in that respect. It has allowed people to connect to the people they know and are close to and it no longer matters where in the world they are. One no longer needs to remain out of contact with someone for too ...
Views: 1371 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Worthy When They Are Successful? - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can feel worthy as a result of they are, other people can only feel worthy as a result of what they do. In the first case, ones worth has been internalised, and in the other, their worth is based on external factors. So the first person can just be and feel valuable without ...
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