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- Relationships: Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are Focusing On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that having needs is part of being human, and this means that everyone has them. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. A Difference Experience When someone does feel comfortable with their needs, it will ...
Views: 1279 - Self-Compassion: Why Are Some People Compassionate Towards Others But Not To Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across as having a caring manner, they can be seen as someone who is good to be around. The people who spend time around them are likely to appreciate how they respond to their worries and concerns. There can also be how they respond in their chosen career, and this could mean ...
Views: 1279 - “Mindfulness Was A Waste Of Time!” - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2010 I had tried a healing technique that didn’t really have much of an effect on me, and this made me look for something else. Towards the end of this year, I got in touch with someone who I had met around a year before. The reason for this was that I heard that they had created their ...
Views: 1279 - Compassion: Do Human Beings Have Selective Compassion? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a paper or to watch TV, there is the chance that certain things will draw them in. When it comes to a paper, they may look through the back pages before they look through the front pages, or they might not even look through the front. Their primary interest will be what is ...
Views: 1278 - Consumerism: Do You Ever Think About Where The Stuff You Buy Comes From? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain times during the year when someone can buy more than they usually do, and while this can be a time when other people are in the same position, this is not always the case. For instance, if it was Christmas, there are going to be plenty of other people who are also buying a lot ...
Views: 1278 - Intimacy: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that human beings need in order to survive, and the same could be said when it comes to their ability to thrive. For example, food is something that everyone on this planet needs. If someone doesn’t receive the food that they need, their time on this earth will ...
Views: 1276 - Relationships: Can Breaking Up Make A Relationship Better? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship that is going as they would like it to go, there is also the chance that this is not the case. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they believe it is time for them to move on. Unhealthy This could be a sign that they don’t feel ...
Views: 1276 - Racism: Can Racism Be Caused By A Lack Of Intellectual Development? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that could be said about today’s world is that it is a time where people are standing up for each other, and it doesn’t matter where someone is from or what they look like, for instance. This has meant that certain people, who didn’t have a voice before, now have the chance to speak up ...
Views: 1275 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Behaving Like A Petulant Child When It Comes To The Presidential Election Result? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNow that the presidential election has ended, it has given people the opportunity to focus on something else. Therefore, if someone was caught up with what was taking place; their life may have gone back to how it was. Alternatively, the whole experience may have had a big effect on them, ...
Views: 1275(1 vote) - Corrective Information: Can New Information Allow Someone To Grow? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is at a point in their life where they are unable to move forward, it can be necessary for them to look for new information. Through taking this approach, it can give them the chance to see what they need to do differently. Normal One could find that this is just part of ...
Views: 1273 - “I Didn’t Feel Safe Enough To Cry!” - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first started to face the emotional pain that was within me, in 2013, I didn’t feel comfortable expressing my emotions. So, when I was working with a therapist, it was a challenge for me to express what was going on for me. What didn’t help was that I had chosen to work with a female ...
Views: 1272 - Critical Thinking: Are Some Universities Making People Mentally And Emotionally Weak? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone stays up to date with the news, they may have heard about the kinds of things that have been taking place at universities around the world. One could read news papers, watch TV, and use social media to stay up to date with what goes on at these institutions. A Closer Look For ...
Views: 1271 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Use The Word 'Privilege' To Shame Others? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperSocial media has given people the ability to share their views with the world, and this can take place without the need for someone to reveal their true identity. Someone can then say just about whatever they want and they won’t need to worry about the consequences of their actions. If they ...
Views: 1271 - Critical Thinking: Is Someone Self-Absorbed If They Are Always Outraged? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are plenty of people who are offended just about every time they go online, and, the same thing can take place when they are in the real world. This can be because they have seen something has had an effect on them directly, or it might be due to another reason. Two ...
Views: 1271 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to think about the people they have been with throughout their life, they might think about the different moments that they have shared with them. This could then be a time when they will see that they have had more good than bad moments in this area of their ...
Views: 1271 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Attract People Who Are Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can have the tendency to end up with people who they are dependent on, there are others who can attract people who are dependent on them. As a result of this, someone can feel as though they have no control, or as though they have all the control. A Weaker Position If ...
Views: 1271 - Environment: Does Someone Need To Live In A Peaceful Environment If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what takes place in the world, it could be said that one has very little, if any, control. However, this is generally not going to be the case when it comes where they live. In this environment, they are likely to have far more control, and the amount of control they have ...
Views: 1270 - Hollywood: Are The Actors Who Talk About Politics Going To Cause Hollywood To Lose A Lot Of Money? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, actors did most of their talking in the films that they were in, and there would have been what they said in interviews, for instance. This would have related to the talk shows that they were on and the magazines that they were featured in. Other than these options, the people ...
Views: 1270 - Hope: Is Hope Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is going through a challenging time in their life, they may hope that that this will soon change. What this could show is that one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go, or there might be a number of areas that are like this. Another Factor In addition ...
Views: 1270 - Letting Go: Can The Past Exist In Our Body? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to say that they want to let go of the past, and this is likely to be due to the fact that it is holding them back in some way. Therefore, the sooner they are able to do this the better their life will be. A Number of Options Fortunately, it ...
Views: 1270 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Selfish For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who feel comfortable putting their needs first, there are others who don’t. Even so, this doesn’t mean someone will be aware of this even though this is the case. Instead, they could simply have the tendency to focus on other people’s needs, and this is ...
Views: 1270 - Social Media: Is Social Media A Waste Of Time? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about how they used to spend their time before social media was invented, they might find it hard to remember. What this could show is that it has become a normal part of their life. And as it is so easy to use social media, it can be easy to see why this might be the ...
Views: 1270 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Have In Our Life Who Only Accept Us When We Do What They Want? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what their friends are like, they could start to think about how they accept them for who they are. It is then not going to be necessary for them to play a role, and it could be said that this is how it should be. The alternative would be for one to be in a ...
Views: 1268 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are Rescuing Others? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being there for others, there are some people who can’t help but extend themselves. It might not matter what is taking place in their life, as they can be happy to put it to one side. What someone else is going thorough is going to be seen as something that is far more ...
Views: 1268 - “This Guy Was Masculine!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I started a new job in the beginning of 2010, it took me a while to settle down. One of reason for this was that before I started this job, I had gone on holiday to Bali and Australia and I had been on a healing course in Belgium just before I headed over there. In addition to this, I ...
Views: 1268 - Intimacy: Why Do Some People Open Up To People Who Will Shame Them? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be in a position where they are around people who they can open up to, there is also the chance that this is not the case. When one can relate to the former, it could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember. Having said that, there is also the chance ...
Views: 1266 - News: Should Someone Always Pay Attention To The Same News Source? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the urge to find out about what is taking place in the world, there is a strong chance that they will have a certain news source that they go to. This could be a source of information that they have followed for most of their life. Since the beginning of their life, they may ...
Views: 1265 - “He Is A Real Healer!” - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2016, it was clear that I was only getting so far; in fact, it was as though I was actually getting worse, not better. I had worked with people, but some of the changes that I had made didn’t last and I was only getting so far. What also stood out was how I needed to be ...
Views: 1264 - Letting Go: Is Life Too Short To Hold Onto The Past? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that human beings don’t live forever; there comes a point in everyone’s life when their time will come to an end. When it comes to when this will be, it can depend on a number of different factors. Due to this, it is often said that life is too short to waste time; each ...
Views: 1263 - Social Media: Does Social Media Define How We See People? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone who they talk to on social media, a number of different associations may come to mind. For example, they could think about how they care about the planet, or that they are very knowledge when it comes to a certain area, for instance. There is also chance ...
Views: 1263 - "She Had A Big Impact On My Life!" - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere was a moment in the beginning of 2013, when I didn’t know why something was taking place. I had been in relationship for a few months and I didn’t completely understand why the woman I was with was behaving in a certain way. I had the need to find out about what might be going on, ...
Views: 1262 - Relationships: Should Someone Ask Themselves Why They Want To Cheat? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way as there are thoughts that one shouldn’t follow through on, there are also going to be urges that they will need to overlook. As if one tried to fulfil every need that was within them, it would end up causing them a lot of problems. A Big Difference For example, one could ...
Views: 1262 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Only Attract Women Who Are Dependent On Them? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kind of women that men are attracted to, it could be said that there is not one type. There is what is spoken about in the media, for instance, and then there is what takes place in reality. If one was to read an article about what kind of woman a man is attracted to, ...
Views: 1262 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Cause People To Have A False View Of The World? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to talk about the world, there is a strong chance that the mainstream media will have played a part in what they have to say. And this could be a time where one will talk about what is currently taking place in their own country, as well as what it is like in other countries. The ...
Views: 1262 - Therapy: Why Are Some Techniques More Popular Than Others? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what music people like, there are styles that are more popular than others. And within each style, there are musicians that plenty of people know about and musicians that very few many people know about. In the same way, certain approaches are more popular than others when ...
Views: 1261 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons why one can have relationships that are not very fulfilling, and one can play a part is if they have the tendency to end up with people who are not available. So when they are in a relationship, it can be as if they are with someone who is not really there. ...
Views: 1260 - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Dependent On Men? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman is an individual, she will be able to pay attention to her own needs and feelings. Not only this, she will have good boundaries, meaning that she will generally have a strong sense of herself. What this will do is allow her to live a life that is in alignment with who she is, as ...
Views: 1260 - “My Gums Were Bleeding!” - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2010, I was all fired up, and this was partly because I had recently been on a course. When I was on this course, I met some great people, and I wrote down some of the things that I wanted to achieve. But after the days and weeks passed, my mood gradually changed; in a ...
Views: 1260 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Lose The Ability To Think Clearly When They’re Part Of A Movement? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not going to be hard for someone to find a movement to join, and this is down to the fact that there are so many. Now, this is not to say they didn’t exist in the past; what it comes down to is that the internet has made it easier to find out about them. Two Ways If ...
Views: 1258 - Critical Thinking: Is There An Attack On Femininity? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, it has been pointed out that masculinity is under attack. What has added even more weight to this is that the American Psychological Association (APA) has said that ‘traditional masculinity’ is a problem. So, regardless of whether the word ‘toxic’ or ‘traditional’ is ...
Views: 1257 - Social Media: Does Social Media Control How Some People Feel? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who use social media from time to time and then there are others, who use it practically all the time. If one only uses it on the odd occasion, it is not going to be seen as a big part of their life. A Big Difference Therefore, if it was no longer possible for them ...
Views: 1257 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Always Say That Other People Are Sexist? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of problems in today’s world, and it could be said that some of these problems are more important than others. Still, that doesn’t meant that the amount of attention a problem receives will depend on how important it is. In the same way that the person with the loudest ...
Views: 1256 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can behave in a certain way when they start dating someone, they can end up behaving in a completely different way as time goes by. Therefore, although they are still the same person, it will be as if they have become someone else. Oblivious When something like this ...
Views: 1256 - Body Shaming: Is It Naive For Someone To Expect Everyone To Accept Their Appearance Online? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone uses social media, they can share many different parts of their life, and along with this, they can share different parts of their body. However, while they can do this, it doesn’t mean that they will decide to share everything. Instead, one can choose to only share certain ...
Views: 1255 - Celebrity Endorsement: Can A Celebrity Ruin Their Career By Endorsing A Presidential Candidate? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has achieved a certain level of fame, there are a number of things that they can do. On one hand, they could use it to increase their income; with their being a number of ways that this can be done. A Good Idea In addition to what this will do to their bank balance, there ...
Views: 1255 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Act Moral In Order To Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there is what one says and, on the other, there is what they actually do. Now, while it is easy for one to say something, it is not as easy for them to actually do what they say. It is for this reason that it is often said that actions speak louder than words, and this is then ...
Views: 1255 - Therapy: Why Do Some Therapists Want To Save Others? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are so many things that one can do, and this can cause them to be overwhelmed. This is why it is not always a ‘good’ thing for one to have more things to choose from. Having more choice can make it even harder for one to know what they want to do; whereas if they ...
Views: 1255 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
Views: 1254 - False-Self: Is It Normal For Someone To Create A False-Self When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one sees themselves, it could be said that the ideal will be for them to have a positive self-image. If this is in place, it is naturally going to be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. Another Experience Yet, although this is going to be the ideal, ...
Views: 1254 - Relationships: Can Self-Development Condition People To Believe That They Need To Be Perfect To Have A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is used to having relationships that are not very fulfilling, they could begin to wonder what is going on. As a result of this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a lot of pain. However, even though this is the case, the main thing is that they have taken ...
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