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- True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Will Die If They Reveal Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, that’s if they were able to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that they are typically out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. Thus, instead of paying attention to what is taking place within them and allowing this information to play a big ...
Views: 743 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through. The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ...
Views: 742 - Relationships: Does Our Unconscious Mind Define Who We End Up With? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges that someone can have in today’s world is ending up with people who are not right for them. This can mean that they end up in relationships with people who are simply not a good match, or it can mean that they have the tendency to end up with people who are ...
Views: 742 - Success: Is Focus An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to modern day technology, it is extremely easy for someone to find something that will consume their attention. They no longer need to go into a crowded place or to watch TV, for instance; the only thing that they need to do is to use their device. And, even if they only have a few ...
Views: 741 - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Will Only Be Loved If They Need Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to support themselves as an adult, it is likely to cause them to experience a fair amount of frustration, to say the least. This could mean that they don’t have a job or that the job that they have doesn’t pay them enough. If this is how their life has been for a ...
Views: 741 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to feel good about themselves and to live a life that is worth living, it will be necessary for them to be in touch with their inherent worth. When this connection is in place, they will be able to feel good about themselves without needing a reason. Therefore, they won’t ...
Views: 740 - You Need To Stop Caring About What Others Think! - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said by people in the self-development world is that it is important not to care about what other people think. This is not the only area where this is said, though, as there are plenty of pages on social media where quotes are shared that have the same message. ...
Views: 740 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Feel Guilty After Their Abusive Parent Passes On? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had parent who was abusive during their early years, it can be hard for them to get on with them now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that this parent could be in denial when it comes to what took place all those years ago. Or, this parent could make out that one ...
Views: 739 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need For Validation Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone was to get to a point in their adult life where they realised that this is what took place, they may experience a strong need for their experiences to be validated. It might seem strange as to why it took them so long to realise that ...
Views: 738 - Surrendering: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Surrender? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is often believed that there are two ways to be in life, and one of these ways is often seen as good and another is often seen as bad. The first is to take action and to take life by the horns, which is the good way, and the second option is to be lazy and to sit around doing ...
Views: 738 - Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Want Or What You Don't Want? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of last month, I wrote an article title ‘Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Don’t Want?’ Since that time I have been thinking more about this topic and, as a result of this, I decided that I had more to share. This article could be seen as a follow-up or it could be seen ...
Views: 737 - Does The Past Only Exist In Our Head? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I came across a quote that had been placed on a picture, and this was a quote that had received a lot of positive feedback on a social media site. The ‘law of attraction’ was also mentioned underneath it. Part of this quote basically said that the past only exists in our ...
Views: 737 - Healing Journey: How Can Someone Know If They Are Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes the first step on their healing journey and looks into what they can do to experience life differently, they may have suffered for many years. As a result of this, they may want their life to change more or less overnight. If the pain that they are in is unbearable, it is ...
Views: 737 - Is Your Story Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I was reading something that went into how our story can allow us to lead a fulfilling life or it can do the opposite. This was something that I had heard about a number of years before, but after hearing it again, it reminded me of how powerful our story is and it made me ...
Views: 737 - Self-Knowledge: Can Self-Development Stop Someone From Developing Self-Knowledge? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, self-improvement is a big part of so many people’s lives, and perhaps the internet is the primary reason why this is so. The internet has made this type of information readily available, and this has made it easier for people to promote this type of lifestyle. For example, people ...
Views: 737 - Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Own Success? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim. On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are ...
Views: 737 - The Media: Are You Buying Into The Mainstream Media's Story? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the mainstream media doesn’t need to prove that what it is selling is the truth, the only thing it is needs to do is to gain people’s attention. By doing this, it will have an effect on what people think about and, of course, what they don’t think about. There are going ...
Views: 737 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone Feel Like A Victim If They’re Out Of Touch With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn both mainstream society and the self-development world, it is not uncommon for the focus to be on the conscious mind. In both of these areas, what is taking place in this part of ones being can be the only thing that matters. For example, let’s say that someone wanted to improve their ...
Views: 736 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Want People To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is easier than ever before for someone to find out about what is taking place in the world. They no longer need to turn on a TV or a radio, for instance; the only thing that they need to do is to use their Smartphone. Through having a device like this, they will be able to ...
Views: 736 - Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt might be hard for someone to comprehend how another person could be out of touch with their body and live on the surface of themselves. As far as they are concerned, this could be seen as something that is not possible. They could think that as their body is connected to them, there is no ...
Views: 735 - Trauma: Can ‘Staying Present’ Be Another Way For Someone To Avoid Their Trauma? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they need to ‘stay in the moment’, ‘be present’ or to ‘live in the now’. Experiencing life in this way is often seen as the answer to most of life’s challenges. Now, there is no denying that life is going to be a lot harder for ...
Views: 735 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Drawn To Politics? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy for someone to come to the conclusion that more people are into politics than ever before. One reason for this is that so much of what is spoken about on social media relates to this area. If someone was to engage in black and white thinking, they could even believe that ...
Views: 734 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That The People Who Talk About Tolerance Are Often The Most Intolerant? - by Submitted on May 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with the word diversity, tolerance is another word that is often mentioned by politicians and celebrities. It doesn’t stop there though as there are plenty of people who talk about how important is it to be tolerant. For example, if someone is at university or has been there, they ...
Views: 733 - You Are The Light At The End Of The Tunnel! - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was talking to my friend Wain about how important it is keep gong and not to give up. After this I think I said that if we do this, the light at the end of the tunnel will appear. He went on to share something that one of his friends had said to him around his ...
Views: 733 - Powerless: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they feel powerless. As a result of this, they are going to be looking for a way to change how they feel so that they can change their life. Part of them, then, is going to realise that they are not powerless, which is ...
Views: 732 - Healing: Can Someone’s Adult-Self Heal Their Wounded Child-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone is likely to find is that there are times in their life when they react. When this takes place, something inside them will have been triggered and they will do something that they wouldn’t usually do. Therefore, instead of responding to something; it will have been as though they ...
Views: 731 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Climate Change’ Just Another Way For The Establishment To Enslave Humanity? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent weeks, a lot of ‘activists’ have been holding up traffic and laying on the ground, amongst other things, in order to get their point across. To these people, it is crystal clear that the planet is not in a good way, which is why they are going out of their way to get this point across ...
Views: 730 - Isolation: Why Do Some People Lose The Desire To Be Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings are social creatures and this is something that is hard to deny. Not only do human beings need others in order to survive, they also need others in order to thrive. Still, this doesn’t mean that every human being on this planet will be able to accept this, ...
Views: 730 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Different Survival Modes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune. Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ...
Views: 729 - Relationships: Can Someone Project Their Parent/s Onto Other People? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone perceives another person and the experiences that they have with them, it might not seem as though they are having much of an effect. One is then just aware of what this person is like and when they spend time with them, they won’t be playing a part, ...
Views: 729 - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Support? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are not their own island, it means that they need others in order to survive, let alone thrive. So, regardless of whether it relates to emotional or financial support, it will be provided by other people. But, even though there will be people on this planet who find that the ...
Views: 728 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Be Made To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship that is abusive, they can find that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. So, through spending so much time around someone who undermines them, the good feelings that they had will have just about disappeared. Before this took place, they may have ...
Views: 727 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Toxic Masculinity’ The Problem? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of days ago, a brand released a short film that was aimed at men, and this was there to remind men of their “toxic masculinity”. In addition to this part, it showed men how to act in a more civilised way. In the past, this company would share adverts that were radically different, ...
Views: 726 - Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing. One will then have lost ...
Views: 723 - Developing Self-Belief Doesn't Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they lack self-belief, they may look into what they can do to develop it. Then again, they could merely put up with what is taking place and do their best to carry on as normal. The reason for this is that they may believe that there is nothing that they can ...
Views: 722 - Self-Worth: Do Some People Have To Develop Their Self-Worth Even Though They Were Born With It? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are born with inherent worth, meaning that this is not something that they need to develop or even earn. At the same time, what is often spoken about is what someone can do to develop their own self-worth. Upon hearing both of these views, one could end ...
Views: 722 - Child Abuse: Did Your Parents Make Out That You Were Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about what takes place when a child is abused, they could say that they will be physically harmed or verbally put down. Alternatively, they could say that they will be neglected. Then again, one could mention all of these things, meaning that it won’t just relate ...
Views: 721 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Forcing Some People To Face Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time now, the world has been moving forward and it seemed as though nothing could stop it. Now, though, due to the coronavirus, the world is rapidly coming to a standstill. Of course, the world was moving before and it is still moving now; what has changed is that a lot of the ...
Views: 721 - You Just Need To Embrace Your True-Self! - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFollowing on from the other articles that I wrote on this theme, I wanted to cover another subject that is often spoken about. So, just as someone can be told that ‘they just need to love themselves’, for instance, they can also be told that they just need to embrace their true-self. When ...
Views: 721 - Emotional Wounds: How Can Someone Heal Their Childhood Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The time in their life that should have built them up would ...
Views: 720 - Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being. What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At ...
Views: 720 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Humans Behave Like 'Sheep'? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes in ‘conspiracy theories’, they can describe those who go along with what the mainstream media comes out with as being ‘sheep’. Unlike these people, one will think for themselves. One is then not just going to go along with what this source sells, they will do their own ...
Views: 719 - Toxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperToxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? 19/7/20200 Comments If someone was to incarnate as a bird, there would be certain things that would be part of their experience. The only way that they would change this is by denying ...
Views: 719 - Do The Things That Empower You - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as someone can need to eat certain things to function at their best, they can also need to do certain things to be able to feel empowered. As a result of this, if they don’t do certain things, they won’t be able to feel strong and alive. However, if someone has felt disempowered for a ...
Views: 717 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Focus On Other People’s Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people’s problems. When this takes place, they could end up being seen as ...
Views: 717 - Sense Of Safety: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, feeling safe is a normal part of life and something that they take for granted. This doesn’t mean that there won’t have been moments in their life when they have felt unsafe. Throughout their life, there may have been numerous moments when this was the case, yet a moment ...
Views: 717 - Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop Extreme Views? - by Submitted on May 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term ‘extreme views’ is mentioned, all kinds of things could enter someone’s mind. They could think about what they last heard from the mainstream media, or what they last heard from the alternative media. Then again, their mind could give them clear examples of extreme views without ...
Views: 716 - Emotionally Shut Down: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause To Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to go through a challenging time, is that they end up losing touch with their emotional self. Perhaps they have just experienced a break up or lost a loved one. This wouldn’t have been something that one chose to do; it would have been something that ...
Views: 715 - Self-Worth Is Not Something That Is Developed Overnight - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, they can look for a way to change how they feel. They could be in a very desperate place, which may mean that they will try just about anything if it promises to change their life. So if they were to come across a book that said that their life ...
Views: 715 - Critical Thinking: Does The Sexualised Western World Make It Hard For Men To Focus? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is likely to stand out for someone who has lived in the western world for at least fifty years, is how sexualised it has become. The reason it will stand out so clearly for someone like this is because they would have been around before it was this way. They will be able to ...
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