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- Helpless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just ...
Views: 378 - Inner Insecurity: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Deeply Insecure? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. The main reason for this is that they could find it hard to be by themselves, with this being a time when they typically feel all at sea emotionally. If they are around another or others, ...
Views: 378 - Critical Thinking: Has A Large Part Of Humanity Outsourced Their Emotional Experience To The Media? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the modern-day world, there are numerous sources that are trying to gain people’s attention. And, thanks to the invention of the Smartphone, it is perhaps easier than ever before for them to do this. As a result, it is no longer necessary to have someone sit down to watch ...
Views: 377 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Unconsciously Look For Love If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, it doesn’t mean that they have well and truly put this stage of their life behind them. Nonetheless, there is the chance that they have completely forgotten about this stage of their life. Or ...
Views: 377 - Relationships: Is A Man Destined To Sabotage His Relationships If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up. Now that it has ...
Views: 377 - Mother Wounds: Does A Man Need To Heal His Mother Wounds In Order To Become A Man? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what it means to be a man, there are a number of different views. For some people, it will relate to someone who is mentally strong, is able to provide and can lead, while for others, it will relate to someone who is in tune with his feelings, cares about others and takes ...
Views: 376 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lost Touch With His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may realise, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he is not very balanced. The reason for this is that he may see that he finds it hard to stand his ground and take action. In general, he may find that he allows other people to walk over him and he only does things if ...
Views: 376 - The Mirror: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Realise That Their Outer World Is A Reflection Of Their Inner World? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf an area of someone’s life is not how they want it to be, they can see themselves as being “unlucky.” What is going on is then going to be out of their control and there will be very little, if anything, that they can do about it. When it comes to what area of their life this is, it could ...
Views: 376 - You Are Worthy - by Submitted on May 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel worthy of having what they need and want, it might no matter what they do. They can then have the tendency to work really hard but it won’t change how they feel. This can mean that they will rarely have what they need and want and will often ...
Views: 376 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is The Bond That A Mother-Enmeshed Man Has With His Mother Based On Trauma? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, it is going to show that he is out of touch with himself. However, how he lives will most likely be what is normal and thus, he probably won’t even realise that this is the case. Based on how he ...
Views: 374 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust A Woman If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to trust will not only allow someone to go about their day-to-day life it will also allow them to live a fulfilling life. The reason for this is that, on one side, without it, they wouldn’t even leave their bed, let alone their home. And on the other, it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 374 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs Around Women If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves around women, what he may find is that he has the tendency to hide his needs. When this takes place, he will create the impression that he doesn't have any. Or, if this doesn't take place, it will be as though he only has a few ...
Views: 374 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Is Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is on this planet to live his own life, if he is emotionally entangled with his mother, this won’t take place. Instead, just about his whole life can revolve around her, with him neglecting himself in the process. This whole scenario can make absolutely no sense whatsoever to ...
Views: 374 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A Lot Of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man, who is entangled with his mother, behaves, it can be as if he is his mother’s parent. So, regardless of whether or not he is actually a parent, he will certainly act like one. As a result of this, he will spend a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother and ...
Views: 373 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, that’s if he was to get into a relationship, is that he is out of touch with how he feels. Prior to this, it might not have even occurred to him that he was this way. This would have just been what was normal and he may have been this way for as long as he can ...
Views: 372 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Past Life Cause Him To End Up With The Family That He Had? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting his own life, a man may end up feeling used and betrayed. This is perhaps after he has denied that he is too focused on his mother and is being used. The reason for this is that coming to terms with what is going on ...
Views: 372 - Trauma: Is There A Difference Between Adult Trauma And Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to think about both an adult and a child experiencing something that is deeply distressing and was then asked to decide which one would be harmed the most, they are likely to say the latter. They could say that as the child is not as developed it is bound to have ...
Views: 372 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Man Weak If He Is Enmeshed To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and unable to live his own life, other people could end up commenting on his behaviour. This is something that his partner could do, assuming that he is in a relationship. She could often tell him that although he spends a lot of time focusing ...
Views: 371 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him. The seeds that were planted will have grown ...
Views: 371 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they struggle to feel good about themselves, their life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be. For one thing, they are seldom going to experience positive feelings. As a result of this, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling low and they ...
Views: 370 - Developmental Trauma: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to be motivated. Therefore, if they do feel the urge to do something, it might not be long until this is no longer the case. Thanks to this, it is going to be a challenge for them to stick to things and ...
Views: 369 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Repetition Compulsion Cause Someone To Feel Totally Powerless? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel powerful and often feel powerless. This can show that their life is not how they want it to be and they don’t feel as though they have the ability to change it. As a result of this, it could be said that how they ...
Views: 369 - Superiority Complex: Can Someone Believe That They Are Superior To Others If They Are Carrying Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain feelings that someone can acknowledge, there are others that they can avoid. For example, if they were to experience anger, they could allow themselves to feel this feeling. However, if they were to experience toxic shame, they could end up pushing this feeling out ...
Views: 369 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Wear An Invisible Straight Jacket If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many needs and one need, a need that is a key part of what will allow them to live a fulfilling existence, is their need to express themselves. This need will include being able to behave how they want to behave, to say what they want to say and to be creative. Each of these ...
Views: 368 - False Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Focus On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs to fulfil and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that this is what will typically take place. In general, they could overlook their own needs and lead a life that has very little to do with who they are. Still, this could just be what is normal, meaning ...
Views: 368 - Law Of Resonance: Can Positive Thinking Make It Harder For Someone To Attract What They Want? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving a positive mental attitude is often seen as a key part of what will allow someone to live a life that is worth living. As a result of this, someone can do their best to stay positive at all times. This will involve having positive thoughts and feelings and doing what they can to avoid ...
Views: 368 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have A Relationship To Realise He A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be strange if a man has the tendency to focus on his mother’s needs and to be there for her. He will be ignoring his needs and his own life, so this should be something that stands out. However, although he will be out of balance, what is going on won’t be ...
Views: 368 - Relationships: Can Someone Push Love Away If They Were Mistreated During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that although they want to be in a loving relationship, they have pushed at least one person away who was like this. It might have taken them a little while to see this, though. The reason for this is that for a little while after, they might have believed that they ...
Views: 366 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on May 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look like an adult, it doesn't mean that they will feel like one. In fact, a lot of their feelings and needs can have more to do with a child than an adult. Even so, it doesn't mean that they will be aware of this as how they experience life can just be what is normal to ...
Views: 365 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to end up in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she could struggle to understand what is going on. It could seem strange as to why a grown man is so focused on his mother. As he is a man, not a boy, there is going to be no reason for him to ...
Views: 365 - Past Life: Can Being Ostracised In A Past Life Play A Part In Why Someone Feels Unworthy Of Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they don’t feel worthy of life, it could be said that this will be an achievement. Now, coming to this conclusion won’t mean that their life will simply change but what it will mean is that they will be aware of what is going on and they will be able to do something ...
Views: 365 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to truly embrace life, they will need to be connected to their emotional self. The reason for this is that, through having this connection, they will know what they need to do and they will be able to connect to others. Without it, then, they will struggle to know what it ...
Views: 364 - Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the point where they can no longer continue to live in the same way, someone could take a step back and reflect on their life. During this time, they could come to the conclusion that their life is not in alignment with who they are. This is not to say that there won’t be ...
Views: 364 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Abandon Himself If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have been given life and his life is important, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. In general, he could act as though both he and his life are not important. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling and he could typically ...
Views: 363 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Start Saying ‘No’ To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt is incredibly important for a man to not only have the ability to say yes and no, but to really mean it when he says each word. Having this ability will allow him to listen to and protect himself. However, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he may find that he doesn’t know ...
Views: 363 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Be Loyal To Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and ignores most of his own needs, he is going to be very loyal to his mother. However, although being loyal is often seen as being a good thing, behaving in this way is not going to be serving him. Even so, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 363 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hide His Needs In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, that’s if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he ignores his needs when he is in a relationship. As a result of this, he will act as though he doesn’t have needs. He can find that he is focused on his partners' needs and does what he can to ...
Views: 363 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Use Hope To Defend Themselves Against Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not going well, it can be normal for someone to hope that things will soon change. If they didn’t feel this way, they could feel helpless, and this is not going to allow them to feel good or to see a way forward. However, it wouldn’t be right to say that experiencing hope is ...
Views: 361 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Looking For The Love That He Missed Out On As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a mother enmeshed man will have missed out on the love and nurturance that he needed very early on, it doesn’t mean that he will no longer have these childhood needs. No, these unmet needs will have stayed inside him and they will have a big effect on his life. However, even though ...
Views: 360 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman could soon find, if she is with a man who is enmeshed to his mother, is that he is emotionally available. When she first met him this might not have stood out but it will now be crystal clear. At this point, she might not say anything to him, hoping that it will only be a matter ...
Views: 360 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the ...
Views: 360 - Self-Blame: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Engage In Self-Blame If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone’s inner world could be somewhere that is not very harmonious. If so, they might rarely experience positive feelings and find it hard to feel good about themselves. To use an analogy: their inner world can be like the inside of a house that is in a state of decay. ...
Views: 360 - What Are You Focusing On? Where Is Your Energy Going? What Are You Creating? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment that someone wakes up until the moment they fall asleep, their attention will be on all kinds of things. And, it could be said that even when they are asleep, their attention can still be on different things thanks to the dreams that they may have. When they are awake, they ...
Views: 360 - Loss: Can Someone Feel Guilty After A Parent Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having recently lost a parent, someone could find that they are now experiencing a number of different feelings. There can also be a sense of shock around what has happened, with them finding it hard to accept that they will never see this parent again. When it comes to how they feel, ...
Views: 358 - Critical Thinking: Are Human Beings Being Victimised By Their Own Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the mainstream media gives exposure to a story where someone has been mistreated, there is a strong chance that this person will be seen as a victim. What took place won’t have had anything to do with them. This is something that can also take place when someone has been mistreated and ...
Views: 357 - Passivity: Can Someone Be Passive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find it hard to get things done and they could spend a lot of time sitting around. When they do take action, it could typically be because they feel that they have to. For example, this could show that they have to go to work or have run out of food. Behind actions ...
Views: 357 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Realise Their Abusive Parents Were Deeply Wounded In Order To Move Forward? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise. However, although they will want to progress ...
Views: 356 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Experience Conflict With Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that, in general, his relationships with women have been anything but harmonious. Therefore, when the ‘battle of the sexes’ is mentioned, he probably won’t find it hard to relate to what is being spoken about. When it ...
Views: 356 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Getting Close To Others With Being Annihilated? - by Submitted on May 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one will have the need to form close connections with others, it won’t have been possible for them to do so. Thus, the need will then be there but they won’t have been able to fulfil it. What they could find is that their life has been this way for as long as they can remember. And, ...
Views: 356 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life is that they are rarely connected to how they feel or their needs. When this takes place, it could be as though part of themselves has disappeared. Therefore, they are not going to be able to operate ...
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