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- Relationships: Can Someone Push Love Away If They Were Mistreated During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that although they want to be in a loving relationship, they have pushed at least one person away who was like this. It might have taken them a little while to see this, though. The reason for this is that for a little while after, they might have believed that they ...
Views: 395 - Disempowered: Can A Man Be In A Disempowered State If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal for a man is for him to feel powerless and helpless, and this can mean that he will often feel low and even depressed. What will be clear from this is that he will rarely if ever feel strong and powerful. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything ...
Views: 394 - Inner Insecurity: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Deeply Insecure? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. The main reason for this is that they could find it hard to be by themselves, with this being a time when they typically feel all at sea emotionally. If they are around another or others, ...
Views: 394 - Law Of Resonance: Is The Law Of Resonance The Antidote To The Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a victim mentality, they are essentially going to believe that they have no control over their life. What will be in control of their life will be the situations, circumstances and events that they find themselves in and the people with who they cross paths with. In other ...
Views: 394 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is The Bond That A Mother-Enmeshed Man Has With His Mother Based On Trauma? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, it is going to show that he is out of touch with himself. However, how he lives will most likely be what is normal and thus, he probably won’t even realise that this is the case. Based on how he ...
Views: 394 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they struggle to feel good about themselves, their life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be. For one thing, they are seldom going to experience positive feelings. As a result of this, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling low and they ...
Views: 394 - Helpless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just ...
Views: 393 - Critical Thinking: Is The Media Using Humanities Creative Energy To Manifest A Certain Reality? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to find out about what is taking place around them and in the world at large, they could end up looking towards the mainstream media. Most likely, this is what they will have done for most of their life. It is then not that they have taken a deeper look into this source and ...
Views: 392 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Just Randomly End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been with at least two men who were heavily caught up in their mother’s world, she could be totally confused and well and truly fed up. In all likelihood, she is likely to want to be with a man who is available. But, although she will want to be with a man who is like this, she ...
Views: 392 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lost Touch With His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may realise, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he is not very balanced. The reason for this is that he may see that he finds it hard to stand his ground and take action. In general, he may find that he allows other people to walk over him and he only does things if ...
Views: 392 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Man Weak If He Is Enmeshed To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and unable to live his own life, other people could end up commenting on his behaviour. This is something that his partner could do, assuming that he is in a relationship. She could often tell him that although he spends a lot of time focusing ...
Views: 391 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust A Woman If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to trust will not only allow someone to go about their day-to-day life it will also allow them to live a fulfilling life. The reason for this is that, on one side, without it, they wouldn’t even leave their bed, let alone their home. And on the other, it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 391 - Relationships: Can Someone Need To Learn To Be Interdependent If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in a relationship, it may occur to them that how they have behaved for so long is not serving them. The reason for this is that for as long as they can remember, they may have tried to do just about everything by themselves and rarely expressed their feelings. They will ...
Views: 391 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have A Relationship To Realise He A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be strange if a man has the tendency to focus on his mother’s needs and to be there for her. He will be ignoring his needs and his own life, so this should be something that stands out. However, although he will be out of balance, what is going on won’t be ...
Views: 390 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, that’s if he was to get into a relationship, is that he is out of touch with how he feels. Prior to this, it might not have even occurred to him that he was this way. This would have just been what was normal and he may have been this way for as long as he can ...
Views: 390 - Past Life: Can Being Ostracised In A Past Life Play A Part In Why Someone Feels Unworthy Of Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they don’t feel worthy of life, it could be said that this will be an achievement. Now, coming to this conclusion won’t mean that their life will simply change but what it will mean is that they will be aware of what is going on and they will be able to do something ...
Views: 390 - Critical Thinking: Has A Large Part Of Humanity Outsourced Their Perception Of Reality To The Media? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a lot of people who looks towards the mainstream media to inform them about what is taking place in the world. In fact, this will be the main source that they look towards to keep them up to date about what is happening ‘out there’. When someone is in this ...
Views: 389 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs Around Women If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves around women, what he may find is that he has the tendency to hide his needs. When this takes place, he will create the impression that he doesn't have any. Or, if this doesn't take place, it will be as though he only has a few ...
Views: 389 - Personal Reality: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Personal Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though human beings live on the same planet, what is clear is that they are not all having the same experience. Not only are there going to be different experiences that some people have in one country and some people have in another, but there will be differences that people experience in ...
Views: 389 - Trauma: Is There A Difference Between Adult Trauma And Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to think about both an adult and a child experiencing something that is deeply distressing and was then asked to decide which one would be harmed the most, they are likely to say the latter. They could say that as the child is not as developed it is bound to have ...
Views: 389 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A Lot Of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man, who is entangled with his mother, behaves, it can be as if he is his mother’s parent. So, regardless of whether or not he is actually a parent, he will certainly act like one. As a result of this, he will spend a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother and ...
Views: 388 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him. The seeds that were planted will have grown ...
Views: 387 - The Mirror: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Realise That Their Outer World Is A Reflection Of Their Inner World? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf an area of someone’s life is not how they want it to be, they can see themselves as being “unlucky.” What is going on is then going to be out of their control and there will be very little, if anything, that they can do about it. When it comes to what area of their life this is, it could ...
Views: 387 - Critical Thinking: Has A Large Part Of Humanity Outsourced Their Emotional Experience To The Media? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the modern-day world, there are numerous sources that are trying to gain people’s attention. And, thanks to the invention of the Smartphone, it is perhaps easier than ever before for them to do this. As a result, it is no longer necessary to have someone sit down to watch ...
Views: 386 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Is Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is on this planet to live his own life, if he is emotionally entangled with his mother, this won’t take place. Instead, just about his whole life can revolve around her, with him neglecting himself in the process. This whole scenario can make absolutely no sense whatsoever to ...
Views: 385 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Be Loyal To Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and ignores most of his own needs, he is going to be very loyal to his mother. However, although being loyal is often seen as being a good thing, behaving in this way is not going to be serving him. Even so, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 384 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Wear An Invisible Straight Jacket If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many needs and one need, a need that is a key part of what will allow them to live a fulfilling existence, is their need to express themselves. This need will include being able to behave how they want to behave, to say what they want to say and to be creative. Each of these ...
Views: 383 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Abandon Himself If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have been given life and his life is important, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. In general, he could act as though both he and his life are not important. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling and he could typically ...
Views: 383 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Dehumanise Their Ex? - by Submitted on May 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone’s relationship has come to an end, they could experience a number of different feelings. So, they could have moments when they feel angry and moments when they feel very sad. At other moments, they could feel very little, with them being in an emotionally shut down state. And, ...
Views: 383 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Past Life Cause Him To End Up With The Family That He Had? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting his own life, a man may end up feeling used and betrayed. This is perhaps after he has denied that he is too focused on his mother and is being used. The reason for this is that coming to terms with what is going on ...
Views: 382 - Self-Blame: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Engage In Self-Blame If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone’s inner world could be somewhere that is not very harmonious. If so, they might rarely experience positive feelings and find it hard to feel good about themselves. To use an analogy: their inner world can be like the inside of a house that is in a state of decay. ...
Views: 382 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on May 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look like an adult, it doesn't mean that they will feel like one. In fact, a lot of their feelings and needs can have more to do with a child than an adult. Even so, it doesn't mean that they will be aware of this as how they experience life can just be what is normal to ...
Views: 381 - False Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Focus On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs to fulfil and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that this is what will typically take place. In general, they could overlook their own needs and lead a life that has very little to do with who they are. Still, this could just be what is normal, meaning ...
Views: 381 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Looking For The Love That He Missed Out On As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a mother enmeshed man will have missed out on the love and nurturance that he needed very early on, it doesn’t mean that he will no longer have these childhood needs. No, these unmet needs will have stayed inside him and they will have a big effect on his life. However, even though ...
Views: 381 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Repetition Compulsion Cause Someone To Feel Totally Powerless? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel powerful and often feel powerless. This can show that their life is not how they want it to be and they don’t feel as though they have the ability to change it. As a result of this, it could be said that how they ...
Views: 381 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman could soon find, if she is with a man who is enmeshed to his mother, is that he is emotionally available. When she first met him this might not have stood out but it will now be crystal clear. At this point, she might not say anything to him, hoping that it will only be a matter ...
Views: 380 - Superiority Complex: Can Someone Believe That They Are Superior To Others If They Are Carrying Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain feelings that someone can acknowledge, there are others that they can avoid. For example, if they were to experience anger, they could allow themselves to feel this feeling. However, if they were to experience toxic shame, they could end up pushing this feeling out ...
Views: 380 - Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Disordered To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parent/s about what took place. However, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to receive what they are looking for. When it comes to what they ...
Views: 379 - Being Seen: Can Being Seen Be Painful If Someone Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to hide who they truly are. They may even say to themselves that they often wear a mask around others. What this is going to mean is that even if they are aware of their needs and ...
Views: 378 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Experience Conflict With Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that, in general, his relationships with women have been anything but harmonious. Therefore, when the ‘battle of the sexes’ is mentioned, he probably won’t find it hard to relate to what is being spoken about. When it ...
Views: 378 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hide His Needs In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, that’s if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he ignores his needs when he is in a relationship. As a result of this, he will act as though he doesn’t have needs. He can find that he is focused on his partners' needs and does what he can to ...
Views: 378 - True-Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take ...
Views: 377 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the ...
Views: 376 - Conditional Love: What Can Happen If Someone Experienced Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on May 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that there are at least three types of love that a child can experience during their early years. There is value love, outcome love and love that is promised but never delivered. When it comes to the first type of love, a child will only be loved when they adopt certain ...
Views: 375 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Earn The Right To Exist If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend most of their time doing things. Therefore, they will rarely if ever take the time to relax and recharge. But, if this was pointed out to them, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to accept this. For example, they could say that life is too short ...
Views: 375 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to truly embrace life, they will need to be connected to their emotional self. The reason for this is that, through having this connection, they will know what they need to do and they will be able to connect to others. Without it, then, they will struggle to know what it ...
Views: 375 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Start Saying ‘No’ To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt is incredibly important for a man to not only have the ability to say yes and no, but to really mean it when he says each word. Having this ability will allow him to listen to and protect himself. However, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he may find that he doesn’t know ...
Views: 375 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to end up in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she could struggle to understand what is going on. It could seem strange as to why a grown man is so focused on his mother. As he is a man, not a boy, there is going to be no reason for him to ...
Views: 375 - Law Of Resonance: Can Positive Thinking Make It Harder For Someone To Attract What They Want? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving a positive mental attitude is often seen as a key part of what will allow someone to live a life that is worth living. As a result of this, someone can do their best to stay positive at all times. This will involve having positive thoughts and feelings and doing what they can to avoid ...
Views: 374 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Realise Their Abusive Parents Were Deeply Wounded In Order To Move Forward? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise. However, although they will want to progress ...
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