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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Depressed? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the mask that a mother-enmeshed man is likely to wear, he can create the impression that he is happy and is pleased with his life. Behind the facade that he presents to the world, though, will be what is actually going on for him. If he was to be with himself and embraced how he really ...
Views: 120 - Therapy: Is Exercise A Replacement For Therapy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for exercise to be seen as something that is not only far more effective than therapy but as something that is far cheaper too. Like mindfulness, then, it is often seen as a panacea. Based on this outlook, no matter what someone is dealing with or what is ...
Views: 120 - Critical Thinking: Are “Primitive” Parts Of The World An Expression Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about different parts of the world, they might think about how there are certain places that are “civilised” and certain places that are “uncivilised”. When it comes to the countries that are, over the years, some of these countries have tried to change the countries that ...
Views: 119 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Avoid Relationships After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to take care of her needs, it will mean that his life revolves around her. It won't matter that he will have his own needs and life to lead. Nevertheless, although this is what will be going on, the man might not even be aware of the fact ...
Views: 119 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Body? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe ideal will be for a man to be both in touch with what is going on within him and what is going on without. This will allow him to be there for himself and to be there for others. If he is unable to be there for himself, it won’t be possible for him to truly be there for others. What this ...
Views: 119 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 118 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual, with their own needs and feelings, when they are around others they could have the tendency to lose touch with these inner aspects. As a result of this, they will act more like an extension of others. Instead of expressing who they are, then, their true ...
Views: 118 - Critical Thinking: Is The Pandemic A Manifestation Of What Is Held In The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOn one level, there is what is going on in the world and the impact that this is having on humanity. Of course, it wouldn’t be accurate to say that everyone has and is being affected in the same way. There are those who have lost a lot and those who have gained a lot. For example, it has been ...
Views: 117 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Not Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can cross a woman’s mind, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is entangled with his mother, is if he can see that he is not living his own life. By being on the outside, so to speak, she will be able to clearly see what is going on. As opposed to putting his own ...
Views: 117 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Him To Be Attracted To The Wrong Women? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, if he was able to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to end up with women who are unhealthy. There is the chance that he is currently with a woman who is like this. If he isn’t, it might be easier for him to realise what it was about ...
Views: 117 - Relationships: Can Someone Fear Human Contact If They Had An Intrusive Caregiver? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could often struggle with is feeling alone and isolated from others. During this time, they could be desperate for human contact and hope that they will soon spend time with another or a few others. However, if this was to take place, it doesn’t mean that their whole ...
Views: 117 - Self-Ownership: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it could be said that their early years are well and truly behind them. In other words, they are an adult now and what took place in the past is irrelevant. However, although it may seem this way, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. There is a chance ...
Views: 117 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Feel Safe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man could live in a country that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that he will feel safe enough to be in his body and to feel at ease. Consequently, he could spend a fair amount of time feeling anxious and on edge. Along with this, there could be moments when he is in a shut ...
Views: 116 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unconsciously Trying To Fulfil His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTo the outside observer, it can make no sense whatsoever as to why a man would neglect his own life and focus on his mother’s life. Clearly, by behaving in this way, he won’t be able to meet most of his needs. For him to do this, he will need to take a step back from his mother and spend ...
Views: 116 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Healthy Sense of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a mother-enmeshed man will probably need to do is to get back in touch with all of his needs. The other part of this is that he will need to realise that his needs are not bad and that they are important. Currently, he can be in a position where he is not even aware of most of ...
Views: 115 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Drop His Nice Guy Mask? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he focuses on his mother’s needs and neglects most of his own, he is unlikely to have a strong connection with his own feelings. What this comes down to is that he will probably be out of touch with his own body, which is where most of his needs and feelings will ...
Views: 115 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are All Mother-Enmeshed Men The Same? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a certain term is used to describe someone, then it can mean that they fit a certain criterion. In this case, the term that has been used will be appropriate and it won’t be a sign that they have been mislabelled. When it comes to a man who has been described as a mother-enmeshed man, ...
Views: 115 - Repressed Pain: Can Repressed Pain Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn many countries around the world, the mind is often the focus when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional problems. If, then, someone is not in a good way internally, they are likely to end up trying to change what is going on up top. This can be due to what they have learned online ...
Views: 115 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Sovereignty? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body. By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. ...
Views: 115 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust A Woman If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to trust will not only allow someone to go about their day-to-day life it will also allow them to live a fulfilling life. The reason for this is that, on one side, without it, they wouldn’t even leave their bed, let alone their home. And on the other, it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 114 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother Have A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly involved with his mother and neglects his own life, it could be said that while one of them will be getting something from this arrangement the other person won’t be. The man’s mother will have someone there to take care of her needs and her son, the ...
Views: 114 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Mans True Self Gone Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to live a life that is in alignment with who he is, he will need to be connected with his true self and feel comfortable expressing who he is. When it comes to his true self, this will relate to his needs, feelings and wants and most of these will be found in his ...
Views: 114 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a man, who is entangled with his mother, can be like his mother's slave, it may seem as though he will only be free if she passes on. Based on this, once this has taken place, he will be free to live his own life. Now, there is the chance that a man in this position will also feel this ...
Views: 114 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their last relationship, what they may find is that they started to lose themselves when they first started meeting the other and had more or less completely lost themselves once they were together. There is the chance that this has taken place on more than one ...
Views: 114 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 114 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Domesticated If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him. The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, ...
Views: 113 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Rage Towards His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOnce a man gets to the stage where he realises that he is emotionally entangled with his mother, he could end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage. He could see that not only was he used during his younger years but he has continued to be used. For so long, this won’t have stood out and ...
Views: 113 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hate Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man had the ability to live forever, it could be said that it wouldn’t matter if he spent most of his life doing things for his mother. Naturally, there would come a point in time when his mother was no longer around and he would be able to concentrate on his own life. However, as he ...
Views: 113 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Disloyal For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should feel comfortable is for a man to pay attention to his own needs and to live his own life. However, although this is what should feel comfortable, it doesn’t mean that it will be. Instead, a man can have the tendency to be there for his mother and to do what he can to meet her ...
Views: 113 - Critical Thinking: Is The Feminine Seen As Being Inferior To The Masculine In Today’s World? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn most, if not all societies around the world there is typically a focus on the doing, so taking action and getting things done. As a result of this, the other side of this, the being, is rarely given much consideration. It is often as though the only thing that matters is achieving things ...
Views: 112 - Helpless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just ...
Views: 112 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Trapped In An Invisible Prison? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother is likely to look as free as just about anyone else. He will then have the ability to behave however he wants to behave and to live the life that he wants to live. At times, it could even appear as though he is in control of ...
Views: 112 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience, and this means that they are not bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, a man can be in a position where he has the need to hide most of his needs. This can be something that typically takes place without him even being aware of what is ...
Views: 112 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Having Boundaries With Being Disconnected From Others? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way a fence protects a garden, boundaries protect a human being. Not only will they stop someone from taking on responsibilities that are not theirs but they will also stop them from being mistreated. Unlike walls, they will allow one to let the right people in and experience ...
Views: 111 - Developmental Trauma: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to be motivated. Therefore, if they do feel the urge to do something, it might not be long until this is no longer the case. Thanks to this, it is going to be a challenge for them to stick to things and ...
Views: 111 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Castrated? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, what could soon stand out is that he neglects himself and doesn’t stand his ground. So, it will be as though he doesn’t have needs or have the ability to protect himself. But, although ignoring his own needs and ...
Views: 111 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is It Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Out Of His Mother’s Mirror? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, a mother-enmeshed man will want to be in tune with and to freely express himself. However, although this is so, he will feel compelled to focus on his mother needs and to behave how she wants him to behave. He will then appear to have the ability to behave how he wants to behave, ...
Views: 111 - Critical Thinking: Do “Conspiracy Theorists” Need To Understand That They Are Not Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to the conclusion that the mainstream media, along with other sources, is not there to actually inform, someone can end up looking towards alternative sources for information. Fortunately, there is far more information available than there was in the past and so it is far easier for ...
Views: 110 - Emotional Support: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Feeling Emotionally Supported? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone’s emotional self will allow them to feel connected to life and others, and to feel supported. Clearly, then, this part of them will serve a very different purpose to their mental self. This part of them will give them the ability to think, plan, reflect and understand how they feel. ...
Views: 110 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why a man would be so focused on his mother. He can spend most of his life doing things for her and even if he isn’t, he can be thinking about what he can do for her. By being this way, naturally, he is going to severely neglect himself ...
Views: 110 - Mother Enmeshed Man: Why Would a Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs and feelings is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with them. As a result of this, it could be normal for him to overlook them. There can be moments when this is something that he is aware of and moments when this is something ...
Views: 109 - Being Seen: Can Being Seen Be Painful If Someone Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to hide who they truly are. They may even say to themselves that they often wear a mask around others. What this is going to mean is that even if they are aware of their needs and ...
Views: 108 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Disconnected From His Need For Human Connection If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperUnsurprisingly, human beings need human connection in order to be at their best. This is something that will have an effect on someone’s mental, emotional and physical health. The reason why it is not a surprise is that human beings are interdependent; they are not independent. This, however, ...
Views: 108 - Needless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Needless? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone is interdependent and therefore needs others, it doesn’t mean that they realise this. If they were told this, they could say that they don’t need others and are happy being by themselves. So, by being this way, they are going to see themselves as being independent and ...
Views: 108 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Deny That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused during their early years, it doesn’t mean that what they went through will be validated by the parent who mistreated them. No, what they went through as a child could end up being denied. To take one step back, though, they may have suffered for a ...
Views: 107 - Critical Thinking: What Would A Repression-Informed Society Look Like? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for the average person, and even for those who are working in the area of ‘mental health’, to believe that they, along with their fellow human beings, only have one mind. They are then going to have a conscious mind and a physical body and that will be all they are. As a ...
Views: 107 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That He Can Live His Own Life? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly caught up in his mother’s life and neglects his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life. This is because most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother. However, although his life is unlikely to be very ...
Views: 107 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Sexualise His Emotional Needs If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has a high sex drive, he might not be too concerned about being in a relationship. His priority could just be to share his body with other women and this could be something that he wants to do on a regular basis. Then again, sharing his body with an endless amount of different women ...
Views: 107 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Betrayed By His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and he was to become aware of this, it will be a big achievement. The reason for this is that being this way will have just been what was normal for most of his life. As a result of this, he won’t have been able to see what was going on. So, ...
Views: 107 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Attracted To Unavailable Women If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has often been drawn to women who are not available. In fact, he could find that he is primarily drawn to women like this and is rarely if ever is drawn to women who are available. When it comes to the relationships that he’s had, ...
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