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- Identification: Can Someone Hold Onto Their Story If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons that someone can look for answers and reach out for support is because they are unable to move forward. What this could mean is that they don’t feel worthy and deserving of having what they desire. There is then going to be where they are and where they want to be, but ...
Views: 312 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone doesn’t need to be a psychologist to realise that something isn’t right if a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself. The average person is likely to be able to see that he is living in a way that is not serving him. But, although this is something that can be ...
Views: 312 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels worthless, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, by not having a felt sense of worth, their life is likely to be anything but fulfilling. In general, they could have the tendency to please others and ignore their own needs and feelings as ...
Views: 312 - Aggression: Can A Man Reject His Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a car won’t go anywhere without power, a man is also not going to get very far without being connected to his own power. When it comes to what will provide him with the power that he needs, his aggression is going to play a big part. Now, this is something that will give ...
Views: 311 - Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Live In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to live a life that is in alignment with who they are, they will need to have a good connection to their own body. The reason for this is that this part of their being will provide them with the guidance that they need. Their feelings, needs, preferences and desires will be found ...
Views: 311 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parents False Self Stop Them From Being Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter trying to get through to one of the parents or the parent that abused them for quite some time and not getting very far, it might be clear that they are wasting their time. This could be something that they have been doing for a number of months, if not years. But, no matter how hard ...
Views: 310 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Real Virus? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been paying a lot of attention to the mainstream media over the last two years, there is the chance that they will have a certain view of the Coronavirus and all the variants that have and are likely to appear as time goes by. As far as they are concerned, this virus and its ...
Views: 310 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Parentified Woman End Up With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being in a relationship for quite some time, a woman may come to see that she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother. As a result of this, it will be clear that he is not available. Naturally, due to how consumed he is with his mother’s needs, he won’t have much time for ...
Views: 310 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Disloyal For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should feel comfortable is for a man to pay attention to his own needs and to live his own life. However, although this is what should feel comfortable, it doesn’t mean that it will be. Instead, a man can have the tendency to be there for his mother and to do what he can to meet her ...
Views: 310 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To See Their Needs As A Burden? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too ...
Views: 310 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Have Inherent Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was told that they have inherent worth, it might be something that sounds good but that could be about as far as it will go. If they were to think deeply about this, they could question how this is so. This could be due to the fact that they don’t feel good about themselves or ...
Views: 310 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Carry Too Much Pain To Be Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can soon have the need to talk to one or both of their parents about what took place. They can hope that this will end up being a time when their experiences will be validated and remorse will be ...
Views: 309 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone ...
Views: 309 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Unavailable If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he generally finds it hard to be himself around women. There are then going to be moments when this is not the case, but this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. Upon closer inspection, he may see that this is how ...
Views: 309 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Castrated? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, what could soon stand out is that he neglects himself and doesn’t stand his ground. So, it will be as though he doesn’t have needs or have the ability to protect himself. But, although ignoring his own needs and ...
Views: 309 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Example Of How Alienated A Human Being Can Be From Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to express himself and live a life that is worth living, he will need to be connected to himself. This will involve him not only being connected to what is taking place in his mind but also to what is taking place in his body. His body is, after all, the seat of his true ...
Views: 309 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they are often out of touch with their needs. Or, perhaps, to be more specific, they are often out of touch with certain needs. This can mean that they will typically be aware of their survival needs ...
Views: 309 - Needs: Can Someone See Their Needs As A Burden If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could come across as though they are needless and this could take place without them being consciously aware of it. Therefore, they won’t choose to hide their needs from others, this will just be what typically happens. What this is also likely to mean is that they will ...
Views: 309 - Relationships: Can Someone Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are men who say that all women are the same, and, on the other hand, there are women who say that all men are the same. And, thanks to the platforms that are available online, both men and women can express their views about the opposite sex. Not only this, they can come ...
Views: 309 - True Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Self Expression With Being Isolated? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual that has their own needs, feelings, thoughts and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. Consequently, it will be normal for them to hide ...
Views: 309 - Alone: Can Someone Feel Deeply Alone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal is for someone to either feel alone or to be out of touch with how they feel and not feel anything. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Alternatively, they could spend a lot of time around others and not a great deal of time by themselves. ...
Views: 308 - Hopeless: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have very little motivation or desire to do anything. They might simply not see the point in doing much. This can be how they typically experience life and they might rarely if ever feel a strong need ...
Views: 308 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Anxious Around Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels edgy. And, if he was to look even closer, he may find that this is usually how he feels when he is around a woman or women. Furthermore, in order to handle what is going on for him and feel more ...
Views: 308 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Also Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is seen as a ‘mother-enmeshed man’, it is not going to be a surprise for someone to come to the conclusion that he is this way due to how his mother treated him. Therefore, if his mother had treated him differently during his formative years and treated him differently now, he would be ...
Views: 308 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 307 - Happiness: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Happy All the Time? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can come across as happy or at the very least, as though everything is fine. Due to this, the people in their life could describe them as a ‘happy person’, and, because of this, they might feel uplifted after they have spent time in their presence. However, while this is ...
Views: 307 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man is going to be only too aware that his physical body was created and birthed by his mother, but it might not occur to him that his self-image was largely created and birthed birth by her too. One reason for this is that he might not even think about how he sees himself. But, even if he ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Waste Her Life Trying To Understand A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman has been in a relationship with a mother-enmeshed man, she is unlikely to be in a very good way. Not only can she be in a lot of pain but she can also have a number of questions. Perhaps she was with a man like this for a number of months or maybe her time with him lasted even ...
Views: 307 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disembodied? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to live in their head and to have a weak connection with their body. In fact, this part of them can be seen as simply being there to support their head. By having the tendency to live in this way, it can mostly be as though they are nothing more than an ...
Views: 306 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 306 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Run Away From Their Own Inner Darkness? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that planet earth is the plane of duality and this can be noticed by the fact that there are usually two parts to everything. For example, there is hot and cold, up and down, and fast and slow. There is also “good” and “bad” in the world, and, just as these two things exist ...
Views: 306 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Search For A Mother Figure If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man didn’t receive the love and nurturance that he needed from his mother during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will have simply been able to move on from what happened. Physically, as well as mentally, he will have grown, but emotionally, he is likely to be ...
Views: 306 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Aggression? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother could come across as very easy-going and passive. He is then going to create the impression that he is happy to be there for others and his mother, in particular, and he won’t have much oomph. As a result of this, he is not going ...
Views: 306 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Wasting Her Time With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may want to be with a man who is available, she may find that she has ended up with one who is anything but available. This will be a man who is super focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs. As a result of this, he is likely to be emotionally unavailable ...
Views: 306 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have been given life and will have the rest of their life ahead of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to make the most of the life that they have been given or appreciate that they have more years to live. Instead, they could generally see life as a burden and be ...
Views: 306 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need For Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that are in tune with their need to be loved and those that are not. When someone is not in tune with this need, they might have been this way for most if not all of their life. As a result of this, they won’t be in tune with this need and this will be something that they are ...
Views: 305 - Self-Expression: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Voice? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to what is taking place inside them and this information directs their life, they are going to freely express themselves. Their life is then not going to be a reflection of how other people want them to live or how they think they want them to live. Moreover, when ...
Views: 305 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to do what they don’t want to do. They may see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Thus, instead of asserting themselves and saying no when they don’t want to do ...
Views: 304 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Try To Rescue Women? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be drawn to women who are not in a good way and want someone to look after them. This can mean that if he is not in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he is likely to have a number of female friends who are. At the same time, even if he is in a ...
Views: 304 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hate Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man had the ability to live forever, it could be said that it wouldn’t matter if he spent most of his life doing things for his mother. Naturally, there would come a point in time when his mother was no longer around and he would be able to concentrate on his own life. However, as he ...
Views: 304 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Unconsciously Tying To Be Loved By Her Parent If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, what might soon come to mind is that this is not the first time that she has been in this position. She might see that her previous partner was the same. That might be as far as it will go, or she could see that this is something ...
Views: 304 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose Himself When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he might be very different to how he was before. When he was single, he might have been aware of certain needs and done what he could to take care of them. However, although he will still have needs, he could typically act as though he doesn’t have any or ...
Views: 304 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Face Their Darkness If They Want Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, there are feelings that are seen as “good” and feelings that are seen as being “bad”. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to deny certain feelings and to embrace others. To go one step further, they could view themselves as a “good” person who only experiences “good” ...
Views: 304 - Drive: Can Someone Unknowingly Be Driven By Their Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is highly driven, they can be seen as having high self-esteem and as an example of how to live. They are then going to have it together and be a well-adjusted human being. Thanks to how driven they are, they might have made a lot of progress in at least one area ...
Views: 303 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Dominated By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone’s life can be an expression of their needs and feelings, it can also be an expression of the needs and feelings of others. When it relates to the former, this will be their real self, and, when it relates to the latter, this will be their unreal self. Naturally, when someone’s ...
Views: 303 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Repress His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he rarely if ever gets angry, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. What this can mean is that it is normal for him to be walked over, taken advantage of and not stand his ground. This could be something that he experiences each week if not every ...
Views: 303 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel That He Is Betraying His Mother If He Ends Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to end up in a relationship with a woman who he is very fond of and is starting to love, it doesn’t mean that every part of him will be on board with this relationship. Along with the part of him that feels that he is doing the right thing, can be another part that feels as though ...
Views: 303 - Sense Of Badness: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Disowned Sense Of Badness If They Were Abused As A child? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they have the tendency to feel bad about themselves, their life is unlikely to be very pleasant. It is then going to be normal for them to be in a very low place and their life could be very unfulfilling. And, as they rarely feel good about themselves, it ...
Views: 303 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they generally don’t feel the need to be around another or others. They could find that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are likely to spend a lot of time by ...
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