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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he generally finds it hard to be himself around women. There are then going to be moments when this is not the case, but this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. Upon closer inspection, he may see that this is how ...
Views: 297 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Dysfunctional View Of Love If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being brought up by an abusive mother, a man was able to realise that his early years were dysfunctional and then to reach out for support, he might not end up in a relationship with an abusive woman. He would then have been through hell but there would be no reason for him to replay ...
Views: 297 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience A Conflict Between His Thoughts And Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man, who is entangled with his mother, is not aware of the fact that he is this way, he is likely to be out of touch with most of his needs and feelings. By being this way, he will have no trouble being there for his mother and focusing on her needs. This is likely to just be ...
Views: 297 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be In A Boundaryless State If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may find is that he rarely feels comfortable standing his ground and asserting himself. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for him to be walked over by others. He could be used to saying yes when he would rather say no, ...
Views: 296 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Search For A Mother Figure If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man didn’t receive the love and nurturance that he needed from his mother during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will have simply been able to move on from what happened. Physically, as well as mentally, he will have grown, but emotionally, he is likely to be ...
Views: 296 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Waste Her Life Trying To Understand A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman has been in a relationship with a mother-enmeshed man, she is unlikely to be in a very good way. Not only can she be in a lot of pain but she can also have a number of questions. Perhaps she was with a man like this for a number of months or maybe her time with him lasted even ...
Views: 296 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Hasn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Outgrown His Need For A Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could wonder, if they were to come across a man that is overly caught up with his mother, is why he behaves in this way. He will be a man, not a boy, so there is going to be no reason for his life to revolve around her. As this is the case, his life should come first and his ...
Views: 296 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Face Their Darkness If They Want Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, there are feelings that are seen as “good” and feelings that are seen as being “bad”. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to deny certain feelings and to embrace others. To go one step further, they could view themselves as a “good” person who only experiences “good” ...
Views: 296 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 295 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Real Virus? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been paying a lot of attention to the mainstream media over the last two years, there is the chance that they will have a certain view of the Coronavirus and all the variants that have and are likely to appear as time goes by. As far as they are concerned, this virus and its ...
Views: 295 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone ...
Views: 295 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Also Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is seen as a ‘mother-enmeshed man’, it is not going to be a surprise for someone to come to the conclusion that he is this way due to how his mother treated him. Therefore, if his mother had treated him differently during his formative years and treated him differently now, he would be ...
Views: 295 - True Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Self Expression With Being Isolated? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual that has their own needs, feelings, thoughts and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. Consequently, it will be normal for them to hide ...
Views: 295 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need For Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that are in tune with their need to be loved and those that are not. When someone is not in tune with this need, they might have been this way for most if not all of their life. As a result of this, they won’t be in tune with this need and this will be something that they are ...
Views: 294 - Critical Thinking: Is The External Chaos A Reflection Of What Is Taking Place Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, and for a little while now, there is a lot of upheaval in the world. A number of years ago, a virus, which was said to have first been identified in an outbreak in Wuhan, soon spread all over the world. And, just as things were starting to return to a ‘new normal’, ...
Views: 294 - Fame: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have a strong need to be known by a lot of people. Thanks, in a part, to modern-day technology, there is a myriad of different ways in which someone can achieve this goal. However, in the past being known by a lot of people was largely seen as ...
Views: 294 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 294 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Run Away From Their Own Inner Darkness? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that planet earth is the plane of duality and this can be noticed by the fact that there are usually two parts to everything. For example, there is hot and cold, up and down, and fast and slow. There is also “good” and “bad” in the world, and, just as these two things exist ...
Views: 294 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man is going to be only too aware that his physical body was created and birthed by his mother, but it might not occur to him that his self-image was largely created and birthed birth by her too. One reason for this is that he might not even think about how he sees himself. But, even if he ...
Views: 294 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Have Inherent Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was told that they have inherent worth, it might be something that sounds good but that could be about as far as it will go. If they were to think deeply about this, they could question how this is so. This could be due to the fact that they don’t feel good about themselves or ...
Views: 294 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on May 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they may hope that what they went through will be validated by them. This could be seen as part of what will allow them to move on from what happened. However, even if this need is there, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 293 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone See Themselves As An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to act like an individual as an adult, who has their own needs and feelings, they will have needed to have had a childhood that was at least somewhat nurturing. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have felt like an individual when they were born; this was a sense that ...
Views: 293 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Rebel By Raising Their Consciousness? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to change their society or even the world, there are a number of things that they could end up doing. For example, they could take part in a protest, sign a petition and/or vote for a certain politician/party. Alternatively, if they were happy to break the law, they could ...
Views: 293 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Carry Too Much Pain To Be Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can soon have the need to talk to one or both of their parents about what took place. They can hope that this will end up being a time when their experiences will be validated and remorse will be ...
Views: 292 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel, with their true feelings also being a mystery to them. Therefore, not only will the people in their life not know what is going on for them, they themselves are also not going to know what is going on for them. This can mean that they ...
Views: 292 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Unavailable If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, ...
Views: 292 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Feminine Aspect If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, a man will have a masculine aspect, and, on the other, he will have a feminine aspect. But, although he will have two sides to this nature, it doesn’t mean that this is something that will stand out. He could generally come across as though he is only made up of the masculine ...
Views: 292 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Not Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can cross a woman’s mind, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is entangled with his mother, is if he can see that he is not living his own life. By being on the outside, so to speak, she will be able to clearly see what is going on. As opposed to putting his own ...
Views: 292 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have been given life and will have the rest of their life ahead of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to make the most of the life that they have been given or appreciate that they have more years to live. Instead, they could generally see life as a burden and be ...
Views: 292 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 291 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Sabotage His Life If He Has The Need To Be Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is finding it hard to move forward in life, he might find it hard to believe that this could be due to what took place during his early years. As far as he is concerned, what took place at this stage of his life could be in the past and that’s the end of it. The reason why his life ...
Views: 291 - Hopeless: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have very little motivation or desire to do anything. They might simply not see the point in doing much. This can be how they typically experience life and they might rarely if ever feel a strong need ...
Views: 291 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Anxious Around Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels edgy. And, if he was to look even closer, he may find that this is usually how he feels when he is around a woman or women. Furthermore, in order to handle what is going on for him and feel more ...
Views: 291 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Try To Rescue Women? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be drawn to women who are not in a good way and want someone to look after them. This can mean that if he is not in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he is likely to have a number of female friends who are. At the same time, even if he is in a ...
Views: 291 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hate Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man had the ability to live forever, it could be said that it wouldn’t matter if he spent most of his life doing things for his mother. Naturally, there would come a point in time when his mother was no longer around and he would be able to concentrate on his own life. However, as he ...
Views: 291 - Relationships: Can Someone Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are men who say that all women are the same, and, on the other hand, there are women who say that all men are the same. And, thanks to the platforms that are available online, both men and women can express their views about the opposite sex. Not only this, they can come ...
Views: 291 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Imprisoned By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that ...
Views: 291 - Drive: Can Someone Unknowingly Be Driven By Their Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is highly driven, they can be seen as having high self-esteem and as an example of how to live. They are then going to have it together and be a well-adjusted human being. Thanks to how driven they are, they might have made a lot of progress in at least one area ...
Views: 290 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Neglecting Himself? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could find strange, if they were to spend a fair amount of time around a mother-enmeshed man, is that he is not aware that he is neglecting himself. So, they might have asked him why he is not taking care of a number of his needs and he might have dismissed what they ...
Views: 290 - Alone: Can Someone Feel Deeply Alone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal is for someone to either feel alone or to be out of touch with how they feel and not feel anything. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Alternatively, they could spend a lot of time around others and not a great deal of time by themselves. ...
Views: 289 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Having The Vaccines For Protection And Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMost likely, someone will live in a country where a vaccine is seen as the best way for them to protect themselves from the virus. Or to be more accurate, it is seen as the only way for them to do this. Also, it wouldn’t be right to say that they will just need one vaccine, as there will be a ...
Views: 289 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to have deeper connections with others, they will need to share how they feel. If they were to purely share what they have been doing and their views, for instance, this wouldn’t take place. This is not to say that being this way wouldn’t allow them to form connections with ...
Views: 289 - Fear Of Death: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Die? - by Submitted on May 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a strong fear that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Now, of course, everyone on this planet is going to die at some point. But, there is a big difference between this simply being a part of life and it being ...
Views: 289 - Sense Of Badness: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Disowned Sense Of Badness If They Were Abused As A child? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they have the tendency to feel bad about themselves, their life is unlikely to be very pleasant. It is then going to be normal for them to be in a very low place and their life could be very unfulfilling. And, as they rarely feel good about themselves, it ...
Views: 289 - Healing Journey: Can Someone Feel Low When They Are Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is on a healing journey and is thus working through their emotional wounds, there are going to be moments when they will be in a lot of pain. The reason for this is that they will be facing up to the fact that certain needs won’t be met. These will be needs that go back to when ...
Views: 288 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Example Of How Alienated A Human Being Can Be From Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to express himself and live a life that is worth living, he will need to be connected to himself. This will involve him not only being connected to what is taking place in his mind but also to what is taking place in his body. His body is, after all, the seat of his true ...
Views: 288 - Attention: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough Attention If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be in the background and not stand out. So, when they are with a friend, they can do a lot of listening and not a great deal of talking. And, if they were to go to an event or out shopping with them, once again, their friend could take the lead and be the ...
Views: 287 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to do what they don’t want to do. They may see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Thus, instead of asserting themselves and saying no when they don’t want to do ...
Views: 287 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Repressed Feelings If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place. Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand ...
Views: 287 - Drive: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Be Extremely Driven? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone wakes up, they could feel the need to ‘get things done’. As a result of this, they are not going to have much time to sit around and to just be; doing so can be seen as a waste of time. Not only this if they were to take a break, they could soon end up ...
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