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“It’s true that CONTRAST PROVIDES PERSPECTIVE.
…In all respects, she was different. Not only was she a tidy homemaker, great cook, and a good money manager; she was playful AND passionate too.
Rapidly, we became lovers AND friends; having fun just being together.
And I ... Views: 807
Relationship coaching is a field that likely started when the first shaman or priest talked with the first "couple" or partnership concerning their relationship, how they relate to each other and who they want to be! In more recent times, the field of "family therapy" has blossomed with the ... Views: 1912
What is ‘authentic relationship’? How great is your relationship with your partner or spouse? Your communication? Your intimacy? Your sex life?
As in so many areas of our lives, people settle…they settle for going along, they give up parts of themselves, become ... Views: 1733
All the lonely people
Where do they all come from?
The Beatles, Eleanor Rigby
“Lonely People Face Higher Risk of Heart Disease,” Science Daily headlined recently, revealing perhaps more than it intended about what alternative medicine calls the mind-body connection in human health. As if ... Views: 728
Integration in a Mate Relationship
A mate relationship is a superlative setting for integrating your Four Freedoms. A relationship is the ideal arena for learning to become whole. Lovers do not complete each other but rather comprise one whole relationship. Not only is committed ... Views: 539
"Thou shalt not bear false witness" - the Ninth Commandment that is probably more abused than any other!
Lying is one of the Buddhist precepts as well, the fourth to be exact. The problem with Buddhism, however, is that lying is not simply a matter of making an untrue statement, lying goes much ... Views: 564
Why do so many smart people date so badly? Because while we all study reading, writing, and arithmetic, there are no classes for dating and relationships. Now a lot of people pay a lot of money and spend a lot of time on the sofa of their psychotherapists when the use of some common sense could ... Views: 767
You know the routine; picking out that special card with just the right verses, and then that special gift - an upscale box of candy, some flowers, maybe a nice ring, a new car, or some tickets for a cruise.
According to Wikipedia, The historical background of Valentine's day seems to go back ... Views: 1239
Here's a secret in the form of three tales about how you can make people's faces light up as soon as they see you or think about you in your personal or business life.
Every Christmas I type about 50 personalized letters and snail mail them, to thank all the wonderful restaurant owners ... Views: 1053
If there was a simple yet very powerful way to get what you want in life, would you want to know the secret?
In this article I reveal all. Read on to discover how to have the love, happiness and success you want - more easily and sooner than you expect.
After twenty years experimenting with ... Views: 639
While doing a signing for my latest romance novel, a woman passed by, picked up my book, and immediately wrinkled her nose.
"I don't read these kinds of books," she said.
"What do you read?" I asked.
She slapped it down on the table as if it was so far beneath her she couldn't bare to touch ... Views: 841
Q: There have been times when I'm not absolutely sure that I'm still in love with my husband. I'm afraid this means we're not right for each other, even though we've been married for several years. Can you shed any light on this?
A: There are many normal factors that can influence how you feel ... Views: 901
I'm going to tell you a secret about how you can make people's faces light up as soon as they see you or think about you in your business and personal life.
Every Christmas I type about 50 personalized letters and snail mail them, to thank all the wonderful restaurant owners and chefs, ... Views: 1212
In cafés, restaurants and at the water cooler women complain that men don’t talk about their feelings. Admittedly, this is a stereotype.. Some women don’t talk and some men do. In any case, what do you do when your partner doesn’t talk?
Some of the most difficult things to talk about are ... Views: 2053
From the threat of lay-off to balancing work and family life, today’s work-related problems are increasingly complicated and stressful. Job-related stresses frequently lead to a great deal of frustration and discontentment. Fortunately, there are many ways you can create a more enjoyable work ... Views: 1405
Have you recently ended a relationship or are you recently divorced? Are you thinking about dating again?
Many times, putting yourself back into the dating scene is a good idea. But how can you know when it is time to start a new relationship?
Here are some questions to ponder:
1. Are you ... Views: 2723
“Do you love me?” I asked my partner countless times over the years. And every time I heard what I wanted to hear. Sometimes it came with a smile or a kiss, sometimes it came after a pause or a sigh; sometimes it was enthusiastic and sometimes it was dry and mechanical; sometimes I was convinced ... Views: 520
Intimate relationships offer great potential for connection, personal growth and healing. Yet many people find that although successful in their careers and are able to maintain close friendships, they struggle in intimate relationships. Often these relationships aren’t working because the same ... Views: 1147
Self-knowledge, shaped by life experience, refined by decent intentions, and applied thoughtfully, builds inner trust - a prerequisite for mutual trust.
Solo ventures, such as mountain travel by foot comprise a category requiring trust in the accuracy of one’s judgement, to safeguard life and ... Views: 1369
Janett of New York City wanted to give the love of her life, Ron the surprise of his life to celebrate his 60th birthday in October.
She asked him, "Would it be OK if I gave you a trip for your birthday?" Of course, it was!
"Would it be OK if I didn't tell you where you were going, if I just ... Views: 1204
There is a beautiful little town just south of where I live. It has peaceful, quiet, tree-lined streets with beautiful homes both old and new. It is the perfect example of small town America, a place where many of us dream of raising our children, a place that we think of as being safe.
Last ... Views: 1064
It's incredibly important for people in relationship to be able to talk about their feelings. Major disruptions occur when one person wants to share feelings and the other wants to speak logically about the circumstances. Two different languages are being spoken and no communication is ... Views: 5097
After being married for a while, many couples find themselves in a situation where one partner feels angry, hurt, and/or resentful toward the other.
They feel that they're the only one who's made sacrifices for the relationship, that they gave up their dreams, so that their partner could ... Views: 1123
Here is the theme and the statement of the day: In order for any relationship to work and have any lasting prospect of existence what it must have first and foremost is INTEGRITY.
So, what is this thing we call integrity? We use the word usually in relationship with others, like ... Views: 1556
1. Confusing the real purpose of a relationship.
Relationship is a mirror in which you can see yourself in reflection. You may think that you are a certain way, but relationship will reveal the true you every time. Therefore, the real purpose of relationship is to understand yourself. Once you ... Views: 514
“She had just severed a longtime, abusive relationship; and to her dismay, felt like she was back to square one in her life.
I had just ended a similar relationship, a relationship full of infidelity, lies, and heartbreak. And being a veteran of starting over (and over), I knew it was ... Views: 822
1. Misunderstanding what a relationship is all about.
A relationship is an opportunity to give, rather than take. If one or both partners have plastered on their forehead, "What's in this for me," things will get dicey. The key to a successful relationship is always uncompromising trust, and ... Views: 625
1. Relying on your feelings rather than your intuition.
Feelings regarding a new relationship will almost always involve powerful lust. This is natural. When an interest grows sexually, it grows as quickly and as surely as a child. Each interaction doubles the desire until the need to be ... Views: 570
“She had tolerated five years of infidelity, mental abuse, and battering; but the rape of her little sister was the last straw. She finally left him…and ended up in my house.”
“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…”
By Carl ... Views: 753
Reasons behind the fear of commitment for men and women can be different, but the results are the same. Fear of commitment often ends a relationship or puts a dense wall between two people - sometimes between life itself. Commitment to one person is a serious thing. It shouldn't be taken lightly ... Views: 4043
The following is a feelingization technique for releasing old lovers/beliefs. This is a two-part visualization – for the first part stand up next to a comfortable chair (which you will sit in soon).
Stand with your feet about hip width apart and close your eyes. Clench your fists, tighten your ... Views: 1892
All relationships are a reflection of the sacred relationship, the relationship we have with our Self. What makes the sacred relationship work makes all relationships work. What tarnishes or detracts from the sacred relationship, detracts from every relationship. If you lie to your Self you ... Views: 1573
From TheTransitionProcessTM Interactive Lecture
HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE
The following is a list of The 20 Do's and Don'ts of A Functional Relationship. It has been an effective tool and starting point for individuals and couples who are serious about creating more joy, ... Views: 2072
Have you ever thought about the issue of success in relationships? If you’ve had relationships that didn’t work out so well, I’m sure you have thought about why it didn’t work out. There are any number of conclusions you could probably come up with. For example, ‘It was all his/her fault!’ or ... Views: 771
I have observed while working with many thousands of people on strengthening their relationships that those that flourish have certain characteristics in common. One of the characteristics they share is that they have developed the power of innocence.
What does being innocent mean to you? ... Views: 1283
Communication is the foundation of your relationship. Without it, you can't really have much of a relationship--just imagine how futile it is to build a house on quicksand rather than concrete. And with healthy, reciprocal communication, your marriage or relationship will continue to evolve in ... Views: 1685
Were you dumped by your girlfriend/boyfriend? Asked someone out but was turned down? Told someone that you love him/her and the answer was "although you are an interesting person, you're just not the one for me"?
Self-confidence and Being Dumped
What most people do when they are dumped is ... Views: 999
Starting from when we’re little, we are seeking assurance that we “measure up”.
We need to know that we are good enough, acceptable, likeable, clever, attractive so that we can feel worthwhile.
If we don’t get these assurances as we grow up, we are sitting ducks for the green-eyed monster to ... Views: 1262
The word romance is associated with the notion of being vulnerable in men's minds. They are conditioned to perceive being romantic as being feminine or being a wimp. Even the meaning of the word romance is confusing to men in general.
I took upon myself the task of asking the men whom I ... Views: 1476
The subjects of this article are cherished goals. What could be more rewarding than a life fulfilled, or expressing ones deepest felt emotions and thoughts? The problem is; one person's fulfillment might be another's tragedy.
Take for example the dream of home ownership. A young woman, ... Views: 559
Sex … Money … Power … Fame … Good Looks … Ambition … Success
If any of these Seven become tangled up in the Seven Deadly Sins (Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Sloth, Wrath, Envy, and Pride), look out! Otherwise, they are simply to be enjoyed, but not to bet the farm on - it's only when we begin to ... Views: 875
Have you ever heard of a dog that gives you the middle finger, snubs you when you call, believes that you exist to please her and that she doesn’t have to please you (unless she feels like it)—and channels the worst parts of your mother to boot? A dog that intentionally tries to trip you when ... Views: 1470
Recently, a beautiful woman, begged me to save her marriage. She is not alone in seeking help for this situation. Half of all marriages end in divorce. The following coping strategies may be helpful to you or an acquaintance experiencing similar circumstances.
Unfortunately, no one can save a ... Views: 4444
True love is not only hard to find, it’s also hard to tolerate. Such an idea may seem counterintuitive, but if you ponder it long enough to really get it, it could change the way you think about love.
All of us have been wounded in some way, either by early love relationships or ... Views: 1056
Love, romance, friendship, feeling a deep connection with others, loving and being loved-these are universally recognized as the keys to a happy and fulfilled life. Yet so many people feel a lack of each one of these. Our culture is both more interested in love, and at the same time more ... Views: 712
Part 5 of 8
"Men in Relationship: The Hero Who Admits He Is Afraid"
Many men are reluctant to embrace relationships but relationships are the marquee event in the Olympics of Life. Winning the gold medal in relationships is as good as it gets in this world. Ask yourself: Is a great ... Views: 679
It is not uncommon to find young persons falling in love with individuals that are a decade older than they are. Although you see such relationships in Hollywood and even in the movies, many are still unconvinced that such a strong passionate bond can truly occur between two people whose ages ... Views: 7436
For many years, I have been waiting to go to Paris because I have been told of the stories of abundant romance along the streets of Champs de Elysee and the lights on the Eiffel Tower.
I managed to scrape out the time and money after university, and so I was packed up and on a plane to Charles ... Views: 609
HOW TO SHARE RELATIONSHIP ROLES
Making It Fair: Who Will Do What and Why?
(Includes a Couple Exercise)
WHY ROLES ARE IMPORTANT?
1. Roles relate to how couples handle leadership responsibilities and divide household tasks.
2. As a couple, you will be involved in an almost endless number of ... Views: 1940
A Thai farmer is in a ditch planting rice in the searing, Southeast Asian heat. He is old, uneducated, ill, toothless, and his body is small and frail, weathered from years of hard labor. Is this old, useless farmer less than you? You, who are educated, beautiful, healthy, relatively young, ... Views: 1063