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When one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear.
What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ... Views: 60
A romantic relationship with a Narcissist can be an exciting, whirlwind experience.
They are often charming and the life of the party. If they are interested in you, nothing will stop them from winning you over. They will flirt, entice, persuade and pursue until you give them a chance. ... Views: 51
Anger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ... Views: 98
Hi Selfgrowth Friends,
Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video.
I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ... Views: 129
As a psychotherapist, I often meet individuals, couples and families who at first describe the relationships that matter the most in their lives as ‘very close’, ‘tight’, and supportive. But later, after understanding the issues that brought them to my office, I view them more as insular systems ... Views: 128
It is true that all of us want to see this world as a place that is full of honesty and peace but unfortunately, being blindfolded in today’s “criminal” world is sheer stupidity. If you are not being attentive, you might be misguided or misused by someone. We all know that the world is full of ... Views: 179
Anger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With
In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature.
In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ... Views: 184
Every day kids across the country are subjected to name-calling, physical bullying, cruel taunts and cyber bullying. At some point, your child will be picked on or have his/her feelings hurt by others. Bullying can turn out to be a real problem and leave deep emotional scars if not handled in ... Views: 148
Like many people who’ve endured Narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realize what was happening to you until you reached a point of near insanity and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse.
Further, the person you ... Views: 397
Renee L Richardson, M.Ed.
Knowing the "Love" Within:
So many times, we find ourselves sitting on the wayside of love, extremely disappointed, hurt and totally exhausted; simply because we failed to receive the love of which we have given. Were our expectations too high? Did we ... Views: 261
When we talk about sexual abuse, we differentiate between intra-familial (from within the family) and extra-familial (from outside the family).
When from within, it teaches the target of abuse to not trust people who are closest to them. When from outside the family, it teaches the target of ... Views: 164
Are you dealing with a Narcissist?
RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE
From the books: The Urban Goddess Lesson~How to Spot the Bad Boys and Lessons for an Urban Goddess
Are you dealing with a true Narcissist?
If you believe that you may have a Narcissist in your life, there are specific traits ... Views: 362
Are you in a TOXIC Relationship? Are you questioning if you should stay or go? Empowerment Coaching can help.
Breaking away from a toxic relationship is very difficult. You may be suffering from emotional abuse, or you may be addicted to an unhealthy love relationship ... Views: 311
(Note: Bad Boys is a metaphor for toxic partners. Just flip the pronoun to female depending on your relationship).
Bad Boys are everywhere. The corporate office, the gym, your neighborhood, a charity gala or the backyard bbq. Before they end up in your heart and in your bed, it will be in ... Views: 212
In order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise.
For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ... Views: 233
If man/woman was asked what they think about the opposite sex, they could say that they are all the same. As a result of this, this is likely to mean that they haven’t got a positive view of them.
But if this wasn’t the case and they say that every man/woman is wonderful, it could be said ... Views: 289
While there are some people who can handle life regardless of whether they are with someone, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are going to have a radically different experience when they are not with someone.
When one is able to handle ... Views: 279
While there can be people who one enjoys spending time with, there can be others who they don’t. What this will come down to is that they won’t feel the same around everyone, and this will be the result of how these people behave around them.
When it comes to the people who they ... Views: 380
While some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them.
This is not to say that they will treat ... Views: 312
Navigating normal relationship concerns is a big enough challenge, let alone navigating separation and attempts at reconciliation. We have to consider that what has persisted and what we know may be wrong, complicating the matter, altogether.
In my newly released white paper, Individual and ... Views: 471
While someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ... Views: 385
"I still love my ex boyfriend" is a phrase that may be on your heart and mind if you've just gone though an emotional break up. Right now you're probably feeling depressed and in pain. That's ok, those are normal feelings for a woman to have as they remember all the special moments and memories ... Views: 445
I feel that this will be one of the most important posts that I will create about how you can get your ex girlfriend back. It is vital that you actually completed the 30 day no contact phase otherwise this information is meaningless. Knowing exactly what to say or more importantly how to say it ... Views: 413
I suppose you might be wondering how long things can last without getting back together with your spouse, especially when you are hoping for reconciliation. There is no definite time frame when all hope of reconciling is cut-off, and I know this from personal experience. Some people can be apart ... Views: 383
If you’re in an abusive relationship, you may wonder if your partner is a narcissist or sociopath and whether or not the relationship will improve. If so, or if you recently ended such a relationship, it can undermine your self-esteem and ability to trust yourself and others.
The labels ... Views: 408
When something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance.
Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ... Views: 299
When someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with.
If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ... Views: 252
Sometimes referred to as over-protective, demanding, motherly, smothering or stalker - these are the emotional ties that choke a relationship and do NOT create strong bonds. Each of these characteristics can be plotted on a line from demanding through stalking, with each taking its own place on ... Views: 242
For National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I invite you to join me in celebrating the courageous women who have experienced abuse and their strength to move forward.
What can we do?
1. Show understanding, empathy, and support for anyone that may be experience abuse. Learn the ... Views: 239
When someone thinks about abuse, there is a strong chance that they will think about what some men do to women or how some parents treat their children. But if this is not the case, they might think about men who are abused by women.
The reason they are more likely to think about this kind ... Views: 372
Persons subject to domestic violence (or violence in the context of any relationship) may need protection from the perpetrator of violence.
To protect oneself, one can go to a place of greater safety (no place is 100% safe, although most women’s shelters offer a number of safeguards to ... Views: 235
Do you have a partner, a colleague, a friend, a loved one where everything is a challenge and every conversation becomes a competition; where if they don’t get their way, there is hell to pay; where they are relentless in their pursuit; where somehow or other they are always right; where if they ... Views: 283
In recovery circles, being a “victim” is frowned upon. Decades ago, when I heard people say they were no longer a victim, I had no idea what they meant. Actually, a victim is an individual who has been fooled, hurt, or harmed, due to his or her own emotions or ignorance, an unfortunate event, or ... Views: 410
Frustrating one's nearest and dearest has the dual "advantage" of simultaneously satisfying the narcissist's masochistic and sadistic urges. By withholding love, sex, intimacy, and the fulfillment of other people's desires and needs, the narcissist torments them even as he obstructs his own ... Views: 479
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The abuser abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways:
(1) By devaluing others, he restores his sense of ... Views: 665
When your guy loses interest or breaks up with you, it can be a time when you feel miserable and alone. You may replay the situation in your mind and wonder what you could have done differently. Perhaps you know that you acted needy or demanding or perhaps you have no idea what went wrong. You ... Views: 578
If you have a situation like me, then you might feel stuck like I do. I am working really hard to get my boyfriend back because I acted like an idiot. I didn't know how to stop myself from feeling possessive. I hated when he went out with his friends and talked to other girls. I couldn't stand ... Views: 575
A common question I receive is about whether or not someone may be able to get back with his or her previous other half after this person is the one caused the relationship to go sour in the first place. After some time has passed and they believe they have mended their ways, they wonder if the ... Views: 562
I Keep Thinking About My Ex Boyfriend / Girlfriend - I Can't Stop Thinking About My Ex
Great scavenger hunts lead you on an adventure from spot to spot, following clever clues to obtain your cache. On the other hand, horribly thought out scavenger tips will have you facing oncoming traffic in ... Views: 434
Reconnecting with an ex lover after a breakup can be extremely tough, especially if the breakup was your fault. Depending on how the relationship ended, the actions you take to get your ex lover back will greatly vary.
The best way to approach your ex after the breakup, how to properly ... Views: 568
You may be wondering how I know I can get my ex boyfriend back and why I think he still loves me but seriously, I can and I do. I can get my ex back because I have been through this before and I know he still loves me because he isn't seeing any body new. Have you said this to yourself ... Views: 330
I want him back, a common enough feeling for women to have. I truly believe it is possible to find new love from a past romance.
I want you to notice that you once had a connection with your ex, re-establishing that connection is actually easier because of this.
I know the connection hurts ... Views: 367
How To Stop Missing Your Ex - What To Do When You Start Missing Your Ex
There is no easy way on getting over a break up. It takes time and tons of effort to totally forget and accept everything that has happened. Regardless of your gender, it has never been easy to let go of someone you ... Views: 434
It can be difficult to know when a relationship needs to end, particularly if you've been with your partner for a long time. While there are things you can do to improve a relationship that has simply become stagnant, sometimes it's best for everyone to simply cut your losses and end things. ... Views: 376
So, your boyfriend hates you, or perhaps he said he doesn't love you anymore and you feel like you've just lost the most important thing in your life. Don't worry too much, most of the time this is not a statement of true feelings, and more of a reflection of a moment of anger or situational ... Views: 311
What should you do to win your ex back? You just need to speak to your ex without any hostility. It'd be difficult as breakup is something that affects a person very much emotionally and is very disturbing. But if you want to get your ex to call you back and maintain contact with you, you need ... Views: 289
What you do after the break up matters! Relationships on the verge of permanently falling apart can still be saved, but only few are successful. That's because unfavorable moves and mistakes are done on days following the big breakup. Heartbroken people are so weighed down by what happened that ... Views: 328
Harboring ill feelings on being dumped will affect your present and your future. No matter what the reason for the breakup if you forgive and forget you earn the respect of your ex and also earn an opportunity of being lovers once again. If you too want to date your ex boyfriend then read ... Views: 525
The two of you have had a massive fight. You're worried because it's been several days since it happened and you have yet to hear from him. Being a woman in this position is never easy. You replay the conflict back over in your mind and you wish with everything that you could find a way to ... Views: 581
Trying to convince your ex soon after the breakup will not yield positive results; in fact will only firm their resolve to stay clear of you. You need a much nuanced approach to convince them that you are their best bet and here is how you can do that. Read on
Let the anger dissipate
No ... Views: 492