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Do you find yourself stuck in a bad relationship?
By bad I mean one that feels empty, where there are no feelings of intimacy or love, where there is emotional or physical abuse and so on.
One of the main reasons that individuals remain caught in such unsatisfying or abusive relationships ... Views: 36
Patients afflicted with the Factitious Disorder colloquially known as “Munchausen Syndrome” seek to attract the attention of medical personnel by feigning or by self-inflicting serious illness or injury. “Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome” (Factitious Illness or Disorder by Proxy, or Imposed by ... Views: 39
Do you know that many people feel continually attracted by toxic relationships that are destructive emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically? Do you know this attraction is actually another form of addiction, much like that to food, cigarettes and drugs?
Do you know the force that ... Views: 43
Do you know that many people are addicted to toxic relationships that involve emotional and physical abuse, infidelity, betrayal, rejection, humiliation, manipulation, control, jealousy, clingy and smothering behaviors and so on?
Do you know that many of these people repeatedly make bad ... Views: 38
Do you know many individuals find themselves so irretrievably stuck in emotionally abusive relationships that often they literally become "numb" to the toxic consequences of their situation? Do you know this "unconsciousness" is perhaps the single most important factor keeping one stuck in and ... Views: 67
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your post on line about 5 signs he isn't over his ex, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ... Views: 73
Do you know that one of the underlying causes of toxic relationships is the fear of abandonment? Do you know this fear causes one to become needy, controlling, manipulative, bullying, jealous, insecure, vulnerable, anxious and unattractive, to name a few, thereby making them and their ... Views: 117
Do you know that the reason many people are addicted to toxic relationships is because they feel emotionally incomplete and empty inside? Do you know these feelings desperately drive one to look to a partner for love, validation, security, care taking, self esteem, self worth, a sense of ... Views: 115
In the thirty plus years that I have been involved in working with either victims or perpetrators of domestic abuse, and the professionals involved with them, one of the most difficult decisions for the parties involved and for the professionals working with them is “Can this relationship ever ... Views: 93
Let's begin with the statistics - and they are daunting:
Approx. 1 in 4 girls & 1 in 8 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18. Even the most conservative estimates put it at 1 in 6 girls & 1 in 10 boys.
It is estimated that as many as 40 million Americans - one in six people - ... Views: 80
Addictive relationships are characterized by an inability to let go of a partner who is abusive because doing so leads to strong feelings of need and/or insecurity that cannot be tolerated. There are three important things one must do in order to free themselves from an addictive ... Views: 129
If you have been in an abusive relationship that appears to be getting worse, then it is better to make a plan for how to get out safely while you can think straight.
Research shows that one of the times that victims of domestic abuse are most at risk is when they are leaving or have just ... Views: 88
I often see young women who are suffering from depression, as well as being unhappy (not the same thing). When we peel back the layers of their life a bit, and I ask about their relationship with their husband, often they say, “oh yes, we’re fine”, then they rattle on to ... Views: 203
“The psychological impact of subordination to coercive control may have many common features, whether that subordination occurs within the public sphere of politics or within the private sphere of sexual and domestic relations ...... the psychology of the victim is shaped by the ... Views: 99
What does self pity have to do with abuse?
Well many of you may not see the direct connection unless you've been subject to a partner who has found themselves in it from time to time.
Self pity is usually resorted to when an individual feels victimized by someone or some situation. They ... Views: 109
Do you know that many relationships are founded on co-dependent manipulative neediness that masquerades as love? Do you know that most people never realize the difference between the two? Do you know that means the majority of such relationships are therefore conflictual, abusive and bound for ... Views: 111
Do you know that narcissistic individuals seem to exude a sense of self confidence and self importance that attracts, or rather "lures". individuals who often have low self confidence, self esteem, self worth and are usually very needy and vulnerable? Do you know that such individuals look to ... Views: 101
Domestic abuse is one of the most serious epidemics modern society faces today. With 1/3 of all women reporting incidences of violence in the home and/or in intimate relationships (this does not reflect the numbers that go unreported nor those of men being abused), no socio-economic group, ... Views: 114
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from ... Views: 150
Acquired Situational Narcissism can be induced in adulthood by celebrity, wealth, and fame. But, it may also occur in a variety of other situations. Codependents, aiming to fend off gnawing abandonment anxiety, can resort to and evolve narcissistic and even psychopathic behaviours and traits in ... Views: 113
“I admire and support him. I am his biggest fan. I am his right hand and one woman audience. I am his best friend and his only source of succor. Yet, he constantly humiliates and berates me and abuses me in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. What gives?”
He may be a narcissist.
The narcissist ... Views: 94
One of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control.
So ... Views: 90
Relationships: Tips to Recognize if your Partner is Emotionally Abusive
Ever look around at who stays married, and who doesn't? Overweight people far outnumber the thin and beautiful in successful marriages. The svelte and attractive get far more dates, but don't seem as able to close the ... Views: 151
Narcissistic Personalities & Sociopaths
Conscience is a type of judgment, that tells us what is right and wrong. It begins in early childhood, when (hopefully) parents teach a child what he can or cannot do (beginning with "no!"), then gradually how to tell right from wrong. ... Views: 146
Last month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader:
“A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ... Views: 117
Do you know that there are many successful women and men who continually choose or remain stuck in toxic relationships? Do you know this means achieving career success does not immediately translate into being able to make healthy, discerning and self respecting choices in one’s relationship ... Views: 184
One of the most common yet challenging issues I see when working with couples is anger. Anger is one of the most powerful and most destructive human emotions. The long-term damage it can have on a marriage can be irreparable as it tears apart the trust and safety in a relationship. Here are a ... Views: 239
No matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ... Views: 157
Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to do. Many people never truly heal, and thus stay a victim for the rest of their life. Learn how you can start the healing process to become a better you! Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to ... Views: 185
Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to do. Many people never truly heal, and thus stay a victim for the rest of their life. Learn how you can start the healing process to become a better you! Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to ... Views: 150
This is very common, so we should all understand what we are dealing with here. This is virus that once you have been exposed, it takes over your body and effects you to the point of near death. We should all think of this like the plague. It can happen to anyone if you get close ... Views: 150
Many people have no idea what or who is a life coach and why in the world would they need one?
OK, I will attempt to explain it to you.
A life coaching is the relationship based on trust. The life coaching process helps people to identify what makes them frustrated and unhappy in their ... Views: 109
Constantly leaving and being persuaded back into the trap of an abusive relationship is a cycle that needs to stop, and you can stop right now. This cycle will not end until you completely end all contact with your partner. Do not under estimate the power they have over you, and stop ... Views: 152
Do you know that the reason many people are addicted to toxic relationships is because they feel emotionally incomplete and empty inside? Do you know these feelings desperately drive one to look to a partner for love, validation, security, caretaking, self esteem, self worth, a sense of ... Views: 236
If you hate conflict, you could spend a long time stewing in your anger before you express it to the person who caused it. By then, your anger may have built to levels beyond reason. Or maybe you zipped off an e-mail, comforted by the fact that technology helped you avoid a face-to-face ... Views: 110
Do you know that many people are addicted to toxic relationships that involve emotional and physical abuse, infidelity, betrayal, rejection, humiliation, manipulation, control, jealousy, clingy and smothering behaviors and so on? Do you know that many of these people repeatedly make bad ... Views: 134
Do you know that one of the underlying causes of toxic relationships is the fear of abandonment? Do you know this fear causes one to become needy, controlling, manipulative, bullying, jealous, insecure, vulnerable, anxious and unattractive, to name a few, thereby making them and their ... Views: 145
The Secret Life of a Feminist
The story of O was my bedside companion from the time of my first sexual encounters until I left my husband, thirty-five years later. A liberated woman, I never understood my fascination with the book.
The story of O describes the ... Views: 77
Do you know that many people feel continually attracted by toxic relationships that are destructive emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically? Do you know this attraction is actually another form of addiction, much like that to food, cigarettes and drugs? Do you know the force that drives ... Views: 167
When you've just gone through a painful breakup or a divorce, it's just natural for you to feel anger towards your ex or towards yourself. You may end up bitter and constantly analyzing who is to blame for the separation. At the same time, you are torn between your anger and feelings of wanting ... Views: 260
Today you finally decided that you will find ways on how to win him back. You may have given up on him and the relationship before, but lonely days and even lonelier nights made you change your mind. You know that in your heart and mind, there is just one man meant to be your "soul mate".
On ... Views: 179
Every breakup leaves behind a trail of pain and it takes a strong heart to overcome the feelings of loneliness and despair that come with it. Usually, a period of introspection follows most breakups when you are sometimes forced to look back and analyze what caused the relationship to tumble ... Views: 187
A breakup is never an easy experience for anyone. Your emotions are in complete disarray - you may be hating your ex one minute and missing him the next. You find yourself going through the last fight over and over in your mind and you wonder if you could have handled the situation ... Views: 303
It's never easy to be "dumped" by someone you love, especially if the relationship has been going on for a long time. Sure, you find yourself wondering when will the pain end and wishing everyday for your ex to realize that the relationship's worth another try. And I'm sure every single day, you ... Views: 206
Are you trying all the strategies you've heard of or read about on how to win ex back and nothing seems to be working?
You've tried begging, had swallowed your pride and apologized a hundred times. You've even gone as far as stalk him just to find out if he's back in the dating scene already. ... Views: 178
You keep reading online advices on how to get your boyfriend back, yet you're not really confident that it will be that easy. Your boyfriend has asked for space, and you don't really understand what it means. Does it mean he doesn't want to share his "space" with you for the rest of his ... Views: 132
Do you find yourself wondering should you try to get your ex boyfriend back? After maybe weeks of not seeing or talking to him, you would want to think that you're getting over him fast. But just one accidental meeting or sometimes even the mere mention of his name can trigger that desire to be ... Views: 153
The die is cast - there's no more turning back, that's what you keep telling yourself. But do you really believe that? You've both made up your minds to breakup. And this time, it's not just a temporary time out - it looks like the breakup's for good.
Are you prepared to let go of this ... Views: 146
Getting your boyfriend back is a favorite topic among women who had just gone through painful breakups. It's only natural to want him back in your life if you know in your heart that he is the man for you. But you need to be careful on how you will go about doing this. As you probably know by ... Views: 59
Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ... Views: 148