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Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: Surviving Pathological Narcissistic Abuse
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As an Adult Child of Narcissistic Abuse you can learn ... Views: 56
While there are some people who have moments when they get angry with the opposite sex, there are others who always feel this way. In this case, it could be said that it would be more appropriate to say that they hate them.
As a result of this, it might not be possible for them to settle ... Views: 130
If someone was to talk to a number of people about what their relationships are like, they are likely to hear about a wide range of experiences. While some of these people could be in a relationship, there are bound to be others who are not.
So depending on what their current situation is, ... Views: 150
Dr. Romance received the following letter:
“A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomena which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a seemingly ... Views: 126
I am an expert at domestic violence relationships because I have been there. I know the fear and uncertainty involved. I understand the pain and sickening feeling. I have lived the criticism, hardship, heartache, and overwhelming fear.
Domestic violence is a serious issue that we need to ... Views: 77
Even though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ... Views: 186
When someone has the ability to empathise with others, they might expect to attract people into their life who are the same. But while they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is what will take place.
Instead, they can end up attracting people who are the completely opposite, ... Views: 240
Men who abuse others take care to always appear strong and in control. However, if one looks at them closely, one can see that this is a lie.
They are not stronger than others; they are not in control of their lives.
Sometimes men become abusive towards those they claim to love because ... Views: 128
Selfishness has a negative connotation in our culture; but it’s not selfishness, it’s a lack of empathy that hurts others. While I am no Ayn Rand acolyte, I do agree with her argument in “The Virtue of Selfishness”. Taking care of oneself is not only reasonable; it is necessary – necessary for ... Views: 224
Cyber-bullying is the deliberate and systematic harassing or defaming of an individual through derogatory postings and comments on the Internet.
In some cases the material posted can be disguised as professional opinion, as the opinion of a group of people or as coming from an organization ... Views: 111
Do you want to get back with your ex-boyfriend? Remember what brought you together in the first place: Attraction. Bring the spark back by getting his attention and exciting him for the things to come. A way to light the fire up is to flirt with your man. Flirting with your ex and other guys are ... Views: 246
Many women struggle with ex boyfriend trouble on a daily basis. They are caught between a break up and still being madly in love with their ex. Your head and the majority of your friends may be telling you that it's time to move on, but if your heart disagrees, it's almost impossible to envision ... Views: 191
How to make your ex girlfriend come crawling back even if she was the one who called the relationship off? That might seem like a super power technique or a mind control machine but the truth is you can do it without any high-tech machine or a magic spell. If you did the things we will discuss ... Views: 258
If you're still crazy in love with your ex boyfriend and you want to make him beg for you back, you've come to the right place for advice on making that happen. There's a part of a woman that feels victimized after she's been dumped by her ex. The feeling of rejection can be overwhelming. All ... Views: 226
Is Your Child a Bully? Aggressive Behavior to Watch For in Kids.
Does your child manipulate others for favors, and never make an effort to reciprocate? Do they have a lack of concern for the feelings and well being of others? Do they fight, steal, vandalize or set fires?
What do you do ... Views: 129
Always Remain True to Yourself
We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment.
We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ... Views: 148
Is Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships?
Take the Quiz
To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own?
Are you drawn to ... Views: 226
Narcissistic Parents Divide Their Children Through Triangulation
Conflict is a normal part of family dynamics. The fact that a family argues from time to time does not make it a dysfunctional family unit. What makes a family dysfunctional is the emotional pain and confusion that prevails ... Views: 208
Should Narcissistic Abusers Be Held Accountable for Their Actions?
Excerpt from January 7, 2014 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissistic Abuse
Many recovering victims of narcissistic abuse struggle with the dilemma of whether or not to hold the ... Views: 206
You've broken off for reasons best known to you, but you know the guy and what his likes, dislikes or preferences are. So if you want him back you'll know how to go about it even better this time than you did the first, so go along with these ideas and impress him back.
To ... Views: 209
Have You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation?
To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Is there one sibling in your family who is your ... Views: 166
Is One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler?
To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ... Views: 160
"My ex boyfriend won't talk to me and I still love him." If you've been saying or thinking this lately, don't panic. It's frustrating and confusing when you still have strong feelings for a man and he won't even give you the time of day. Many women find themselves facing this exact set of ... Views: 160
It's really unfortunate that we don't get a glimpse into the future when we start dating a new guy. Everything can seem incredibly promising and then in the blink of an eye it falls apart. This is exactly what happens to many women once they begin falling in love with their guy. They have ... Views: 112
While there are some people who end up in relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who end up in relationships that are life-denying. As a result of this, their experiences on this planet are going to be radically different.
A Matter of Luck
One way of looking at this would ... Views: 125
You've lost your Aquarius man. It's come as an enormous emotional blow to you. You loved him and imagined a future filled with wonderfully, fulfilling moments with him. Although many people will tell you that the best thing you can do is to pick yourself up and move on, that may not be possible. ... Views: 288
"I want my ex boyfriend to miss me." Have you said that recently? Do you wish for nothing more than a second chance with your ex? Sadly, many women feel exactly the same way you do. Going through a break up is hard enough. It's overwhelming when you are still in love with your boyfriend. It's ... Views: 145
Will he come back if I ignore him? You've been wondering about this, haven't you? There's so much information about the no contact rule and how well it works when it comes to regaining a man's attention. You're skeptical though. You can't imagine cutting off all contact with a man you're so ... Views: 220
Falling in love with someone can be the most incredible experience. It can also be the most devastating if the relationship ends. Most of us go through life only finding love once or twice, so when we have it we want to hold onto it. If you and your boyfriend broke up and you still feel a deep ... Views: 105
After a messy break up, two things are involved, it is either you both path ways amicably or one party is still into the other in such a way that they will want to come back because of the love they both feel for each other. In this case you are the one who is still in love with your ex and you ... Views: 129
Modern technology has made life easier for everyone especially in the aspect of communication. This is because there is a great need for humans to communicate with one another on a daily basis as, this moves civilization. So, texting is one of the ways through which we can communicate with the ... Views: 122
Every woman wants to be desired by the man she fancies and loves. This feeling gives the most satisfaction to a woman because it is a thing of joy to be loved and desired by the man who means much more to you than any other. So when your relationship ends, you do not only want to get him back, ... Views: 138
In the past, a gym membership was not something that many people had, and while this was partly because of the cost, it was also due to the fact that there wasn’t as much pressure on people to exercise. This is not to say that people have only recently been encouraged to exercise; what it comes ... Views: 190
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
All told, there are three ways to manipulate the narcissist:
(1) To withhold narcissistic supply from him until he comes, hat in hand, begging for more and then you can name your price and dictate terms;
(2) To ... Views: 231
This was a film that I had already heard about due to the book being so popular, and although I did plan to read the book, I didn’t get round to it in the end. However, from what people had said about the book, it sounded like something that I would enjoy writing about.
Now that I have ... Views: 150
Getting someone to love you again is a whole different ball game entirely from getting someone to just come back into your life. This is because love is a feeling that is nurtured by the person who chooses to love and it isn’t meant to be forced down the person’s throat because someone else ... Views: 182
It is never an easy task to completely let go of someone you once shared so many beautiful memories with. It is also never easy to forget all the good times you both had thus, when an opportunity comes to fix what you had before, to go back to the pleasure you enjoyed, you will be willing to ... Views: 163
Getting someone to love or want you back is not as easy as it seems as; it will require you getting his full attention again. You will need to start anew with your ex once again as this time represents a new era in your lives. So how do you get your ex back? What are the easy approaches to use ... Views: 127
Your past relationship must have really made a huge impact in you which explain why you would want to get it back at all cost. There is nothing wrong with getting your ex back in your life if you choose to but you need to know exactly what to do first, how to do it and when to do it as these are ... Views: 130
If you are still having feelings of love and unending affection for your ex then maybe it is because you haven’t gotten over the relationship. A relationship you are still very much into is one you must keep at all cost because you wouldn’t know where it leads in the future. With this in mind, ... Views: 143
Mistakes are a part of our existence as humans on earth. We all make mistakes that we regret eventually and when we acknowledge our mistakes with an aim to correcting it then we can say we are truly mature and moving in the right direction. So, you cheated on your boyfriend and you want him back ... Views: 126
What you let go of a while back, is now your greatest desire and you are ready to do whatever it takes to make it reality for you again. Losing your ex might have been a painful experience caused by the unexpected way with which the relationship ended but you need to put on a brave face now and ... Views: 124
The shock of a break up might have devastating impacts on both you and your ex as; it might have been wrongly timed or just completely unexpected. Regardless of how ill-timed the break up might have been, you need to accept the fact that, it has happened and you need to move on from whatever ... Views: 118
If you still have the feelings of love you felt at the beginning of the relationship for your ex till after the break up despite all that may have transpired between you two, then the relationship is worth saving. Love is an essential ingredient to the making of a lasting relationship that can ... Views: 115
Betrayal is a very hurtful feeling that can change the dynamics of any relationship or partnership. This is because the moment one party gets hurt by the infidelity of the other; trust can no longer be guaranteed. A relationship without trust is like a relationship without life. So, how do you ... Views: 158
The process of restoring anything to its former state is usually a gradual one with steps that builds on what was lost. So, with respect to getting your ex back, you would need to restore all that was lost with the relationship by restoring the love and happiness you both shared in the past. The ... Views: 116
What are you willing to do to fix your broken relationship? How far are you willing to go to make him come back to you? What are the steps you are willing to take to get your ex to see light in a broken relationship again? These are some questions you might want to ask yourself first before ... Views: 140
A relationship gets broken when the parties involved no longer see the need to continue especially when the relationship has been subject to incessant conflict, bickering and all manner of abuse. However, no relationship is perfect thus, it is expected that there will be diverse issues ranging ... Views: 157
Every relationship has its ups and downs; conflicts are bound to happen in a partnership between people with different ideologies and pattern of thinking however, when these issues arise, it is imperative that you understand the dynamics of relationship. Every relationship cannot be free of the ... Views: 111
Getting your ex’s attention and winning his heart is a priority to you now as, you must be gearing up for the moment you finally win him over to your side. If anyone had told you prior to this time that getting your ex back will be impossible, well, you can forget about that and keep your focus ... Views: 142