Sometimes we spend a chunk of our lives looking back on what was. We are stuck remembering and holding onto something that is no more. We reflect on old issues, remembering things that have happened and moments that have passed. Why do we do this; why is it so important to us that it, in a way, ... Views: 10755
Sometimes in life things can feel out of control, like we are being pulled in many different directions. When things feel this way, we too can become that way inside. Our emotions and thoughts scatter, rising and falling with the events in our lives. It can be hard to stay grounded, to be ... Views: 8993
When we speak of love, we think of others and what they mean to us; we think of those we love. We do not, however, delve into what we think of ourselves and if we love the most important person to us, ourselves. Love, when given to ourselves, has the power to erase doubt, self-loathing, ... Views: 7400
What is the meaning behind being in the moment; what does it really do for us? Existing solely in the moment you are in allows you to connect to what is real. Anytime we are withdrawn, distant, or not present, we are living in a way that is not real. Existing anywhere other than the exact ... Views: 6858
If you feel closed off, protected, or withdrawn, you can physically change this feeling in yourself. You can bring more awareness into your life by purposefully opening yourself up to the world. This can be done in stages and through many steps. It is important to know that when we are ... Views: 6216
We sometimes go through life in a dream-like state, never really connecting or being who we truly are. It is as if we are waiting for ourselves to begin or for our life to take form. It is this constant waiting that prevents us from taking the center stage in our life. The waiting for the ... Views: 4841
Opening up to the possibilities in life is important. If we feel hopeless and challenged too often, we lose the purpose in our life. We stop seeing what could be, and instead see the end of things. Letting go of this viewpoint in life enables you to see life as it really is for you. If we ... Views: 4784
Finding out who you really are is about letting go of who you think you are. We develop certain ideas of who we are and hold onto them, even if they do not fit the real us. Sometimes our habits and even certain ways of being feel so real that we cannot imagine living without them. What do you ... Views: 4614
Releasing the idea of trying to be something else, something more, and allowing yourself to become one with all that exists is a true possibility for you. It does have to do with believing enough in yourself, that who you are in this moment is enough without reaching any further. It is ... Views: 4560
When we like someone, we may be afraid to approach them. We may have developed a crush and feelings toward them, but because of our fear of rejection, we haven’t spoken to them about the possibility of getting together. When we really like someone, approaching them feels even hard because they ... Views: 3727
Losing yourself in a relationship is a common occurrence. It happens when we forgo our own happiness for that of another, when we give up on our self so that the relationship stays as how we think it should. We give our identity over to the combined effort of keeping the relationship in ... Views: 3062
When you doubt yourself, you are basically saying that you cannot do what you want to do. For every moment we doubt ourselves, we are limiting our abilities and we are stopping ourselves. We limit ourselves, and therefore we lack self-confidence. It is a two-way street. If we doubt ourselves, ... Views: 2902
Feeling the need to be in control is a strong habit. It helps us to feel safe, at peace, and content, but only on the surface, for under the desired effect of trying to control lies the real discontentment that is causing the action. The continued desire for control will override any ... Views: 2825
As we go through life, sometimes we lose the idea of hope; we give up on things changing, on ourselves, on our world becoming better. We lose the hope that resides within, so that we can come to terms with what has already happened thus far in our lives. We see what has come before and assume ... Views: 2710
Open up your perception of life and you will not only live life differently, but will see the world in a whole new way. Often, we can get locked into seeing the world as we think it is, instead of seeing what is real. This can come from how we feel about ourselves. We project how we feel ... Views: 2566
Do you feel confused about your life or lost? Does your life feel like it has no purpose or plan, that you are just using up time? Do you wonder about when it will get better and when will you start really living your life? When you feel this way there is a reason. All of these thoughts mean ... Views: 2525
What do you do when others think they are more important than you? How do you deal with people who always put themselves first? It seems like there is always someone who believes they deserve more than others. It is not just that they put themselves first, but it is that they put you second. ... Views: 2446
Often times in life, we interact with people we do not know and try to find a way to relate to them. Without feeling uncomfortable, how does one interact with someone else they know nothing about? How do you get the conversation started, where do you begin? Some of us are natural talkers and ... Views: 2074
What is boredom? Is it seeing our life as not enough? We may want something else, believe we need something else, in order to be happy and feel fulfilled. But it is also feeling that we are missing something, either missing out on something in life or lacking what it is we need to be happy. It ... Views: 2051
How we look at our life and the world around us has a lot to do with how we live our lives. If we see our lives from a point of view that is pessimistic, negative, or without hope, then this is what our lives will feel like. When we see our lives as progressing, changing, and evolving, then ... Views: 2009
Addiction comes from a place of wanting, of needing something to fulfill and replace part of one’s life. It can be seen as an escape, but the real need is much more. What is missing that needs to be replaced? What part of life is empty and aching for fulfillment? It is a place that may be ... Views: 1885
In our day-to-day life, we get over excited, overstimulated, stressed, and overworked, too much of one thing or another, whether it is our frame of mind, our emotional reactions, or something in our outside world affecting us. We all need to learn the techniques that enable us to relax at all ... Views: 1741
To accept something is to let it be as it is, to not fight it, not even the idea of it, internally. It is to be open to what is, however it may be, without resistance. It is the understanding that every moment changes; therefore, what may be now will change. This allows continual acceptance ... Views: 1701
During life, we may encounter periods of time where we are under a lot of stress. We tend to hold onto these moments and carry them forward with us. How we felt during that period is also carried forward if we do not let go of it. That is why, even though the moment we are in may seem good, ... Views: 1665
We think that if we fear something, it is there to stay, that it is permanent, and unchangeable. But this is not so, and we must take a very personal look at ourselves to see why we think this is. When we believe something about ourselves, we encapsulate it, we make it stronger, and therefore ... Views: 1565
We all seek happiness in our life; we all want to find peace, contentment, to be at ease, and feel fulfilled. And yet how often does this really happen, and what is the key to finding this? How can we live a life that provides not only this, but everything else we desire? How do we connect to ... Views: 1563
We often come across people who for no good reason treat us badly, not that there is ever a good reason. People who behave in this way, who attack verbally or on a personal level, are really seeking acknowledgment and approval within themselves. By pushing outward they are trying to attain a ... Views: 1533
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Why You Are Afraid - by Adam Benedetto and Zoe Young at Answers in Writing
Sometimes we hold onto fear even after the moment has passed. We maintain this sense of fear because we still haven't let it go. What happens to us stays with us until we make a conscious effort to let it go. When we tense up in life, it could be because of a past fear, and not just the moment ... Views: 1509
Where does sadness come from when you don't understand its presence? Why is it there when you see no reason for it? Sadness itself has no control over you; it is not a separate thing. If we imagine sadness itself as something we must get rid of, let go of, or solve, then we are going about it ... Views: 1491
We all want to feel good and be at peace during our day. We strive for this and attain it at times, but during the course of our day, we struggle to keep that feeling. We get lost in our day-to-day motions and forget how important it is to come from this place, to exist in this way. We lose the ... Views: 1474
When we are in a close relationship with another person, sometimes we can feel the walls between each other. Sometimes, one of us may be trying to protect ourselves or hiding what we really are from the other person. After a while, this behavior becomes normal and thus is prolonged. If you ... Views: 1471
When you wake up in the morning do you feel like you are ready to start the day as who you are or do you see one moment the same as the next, the same as yesterday? It is important in life to remember that all is changing constantly, including yourself. It is easy to forget and to accept ... Views: 1415
In the wake of traumatic events it feels like the world is closing in and nothing makes sense, not even what others tell you or how you feel. It can be very unmanageable in how you feel and think, like nothing is right and you don’t know where to turn. Yet this moment is when you need ... Views: 1350
When we are faced with the moment of losing something, whether it is a job, a loved one, or a way of being, it can act as a catalyst of reversion, leading us on a path away from ourselves. It is almost as if in order to deal with it we must lose ourselves as well. To be present is harder than ... Views: 1250
Expectations of oneself or others can be a hard thing to live with. If we do not live up to our own expectations, we feel lost at our own inability. If others let us down, we have a hard time understanding or even forgiving them. Expectations are ideas of how things should be and work out in ... Views: 1220
A lack of confidence is caused by the idea that we need something more to be who we are. Yet we already are everything we are meant to be. The lack of confidence comes from not believing this. It is seeing yourself through clouded eyes and not believing in your potential as it already is. ... Views: 1205
Success comes from doing what you want and desire in life. It is living your life to the fullest and being who you really are. You will find that as you do this all else falls into place, things begin to happen, and the obstacles fall away. This is because you are doing what you are meant to ... Views: 1167
When we let go of our ideas of the world around us, we begin to see what is really there. When we open ourselves up to what is real, we begin to live the life we are really living. Just by setting aside our agendas, expectations, control, and the process we normally live by, we escape the ... Views: 1156
Opening up to your true self can be a very rewarding experience. It can shed light on not only who you are, but what you have become. Often, we do not see the real us. We get lost in our day-to-day lives, the managing of our existence, and forget to connect to the real us. Sometimes we may ... Views: 1149
Throughout life we grow accustomed to things, to needs, and to the belief in how things must be. We believe we can't do without them, that in order to be happy things must be a certain way. But do they have to be? And what happens when we lose the things that are necessary to us? When life ... Views: 1145
When we feel ourselves closing off and retreating from life, when we feel ourselves holding ourselves back, we must search for the reason why. For when we see and understand this, we are all the more prepared to deal with it. Retreating is our attempt at not only hiding from reality, but ... Views: 1134
In our search to feel content and at peace in life, we may think we have to change our behavior or habits, but does this really work? What really is in our way of finding peace is our decision of what life is. It is the belief that somehow we can figure it out, figure out our problems, and ... Views: 1122
What is the best outlook to have on life? If we are to have one perspective, what should it be and where should it come from? We can look at life in so many ways. We can see it as a struggle, as something to be fought against, as a hardship. At times, do we not see life from this vantage point, ... Views: 1118
When you wake up in the morning do you feel rested, awake, and ready to start the day or are you like most people, plagued with restless nights and fitful sleep? Sleep patterns have a lot to do with stress in our lives. What we live through and are worried about will often carry over into our ... Views: 1096
Our chosen path already exists within us. The path we are meant for, our destiny, is true to our heart and our being. It is here, throughout life, we are being led toward. Sometimes, of course, the path is averted or ignored completely. We then become unsatisfied and full of want. It can be ... Views: 1093
Sometimes we fear change. Why? Because we do not know what will happen. It is this fear that keeps us from enjoying life. Because we cannot know what will be, we fear; we fear the not knowing. It isn't so much what could happen as we cannot prepare for whatever may be. In order to feel more ... Views: 1087
Understanding your path in life is more about finding out who you are than being who you think you should be. We often go through life living a blueprint of our lives. Following plans laid down ages ago, acting out a future to please others or even ourselves. We choose not to let go of the ... Views: 1081
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Choosing Happiness - by Adam Benedetto and Zoe Young from Answers in Writing
During life, we may sometimes find ourselves in a slump, experiencing sadness, emptiness, or withdrawal at times when we know our lives should be making us happy. This can be confusing. Why, if all seems as it should be, are we not happy? What is in our way or stopping us from experiencing the ... Views: 1076
When you wish you could live your life differently, what is holding you back? If you truly want to change, what is stopping you, why can't you do it? For so many of us, we seem to be blocked by the inability to alter our own behaviors, even when we know we need to. What limits our capability ... Views: 1046
Awakening the source of your happiness is about letting go of the idea that you are waiting for something or holding yourself back. It is about being present with where you are in life. It is about connecting to your true self and letting yourself be you just as you are. All of these things ... Views: 1046