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- The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the mainstream media has spoken a lot about mental health. What this has done is created greater awareness around this important topic; something that might not have occurred otherwise. There are at least two ways that this source has played a part. Firstly, it has spoken ...
Views: 821(1 vote) - Why Are Siblings So Different? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for people to talk about how different they are to their siblings and this can be seen as a surprise, especially if they have the same parents. Due to this difference, it can be as if they had different parents growing up. One Element One reason that is often put ...
Views: 821 - Energy Vampires: Why Are Some People Energy Vampires? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are going to be plenty of people will know what a vampire is, it is unlikely that the same amount of people are going know what an energy vampire is. Yet, even though there is the chance that not many people will know about the latter, it doesn’t mean that they haven’t come across as ...
Views: 819 - Attention Seeking: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self If They Constantly Seek Attention? - by Submitted on May 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough attention is something that everyone needs, there are some people who need more attention than others. As a result of this, the amount of attention that will be enough for one person won’t be enough for another. And what has made it easier for someone to receive attention is social ...
Views: 818 - What Challenges Can Someone Encounter On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I look back on my life, I can see that my healing journey began in 2003 when I met my first mentor. This was a woman who I would go on to study with for a number of years. During our time together, I would go on study Reiki healing and NLP. It wasn’t just the qualifications that I picked ...
Views: 818 - Emotional Problems: Does Inner Conflict Cause Some People To Suffer In Silence? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one doesn’t know someone who is going through a tough time emotionally, they may have heard about someone in the media whose inner world is not in a good place. One could even reflect on what they have witnessed over the years and see that this is a common occurrence. Thus, if they were ...
Views: 817 - Masculinity: Do Strong Men Repress Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile both men and women are emotional beings, it can, at times, appear as though some men are not. It wouldn’t be right to say that this only applies to men, though, as some women can be just as disconnected. Nonetheless, when a man comes across in this way, it can show that he is strongly ...
Views: 817 - Narcissists: Do These Types Of People Deserve As Much Attention As Narcissists Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to talk about how they are with or were with someone who is a narcissist. Conversely, they could say that social media is full of people that are like this. Furthermore, are also numerous videos and books that go into how to handle someone who is like ...
Views: 817 - Self-Sabotage: Is Your Inner Child Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find is that even though they want to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to make any progress. It could seem as though what they want to achieve is out of their reach. Perhaps they have been trying to achieve something for months or maybe ...
Views: 817 - Father Wounds: Will A Woman Come Into Contact With Men That Remind Her Of Her Father? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to talk about what her father was like when she was growing up, she may say that he was very loving and supportive or she could say the complete opposite. Having said that, she may say something in between; saying something that is neither positive nor negative. However, as she ...
Views: 816 - Is Past Life Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was working with a therapist in 2007, I thought that I was working through lot of pain that was from my past lives. However, after working through this pain, my life didn’t really change. As time went by I came to believe that dealing with past life issues was a waste of time and I ...
Views: 816 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk on Eggshells? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone can express who they are their life is going to be far more fulfilling than it would be if this wasn't the case. Here, one will be able to listen to themselves and they will be able to allow what is going on within them to come out. This will enable them to authentically connect ...
Views: 816 - Relationships: Is There A Difference Between Helping Someone And Trying To Rescue Them? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that a friend or a family member is going through a tough time, there are a number of things that they could do. They could end up calling them up, or they could go and see them. Once they have made contact, they could the take the time to find out what has been going ...
Views: 816 - Approval Seeking: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self If They Look To Others For Approval? - by Submitted on May 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe great Lao Tzu once said, “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” This was something that was said many, many years ago, but it is just as relevant today. However, while someone could read this quote and see how true it is, it doesn’t mean that it will ...
Views: 815 - Overwhelmed: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Overwhelmed By Life? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperStress is undoubtedly part of life, but while some people are able to handle a fair amount of it, there are others who can’t. When someone can handle a fair amount of stress, they may generally be able to handle their day-to-day life. If they do feel weighed down, it could show that they ...
Views: 814 - You Need To Forgive Your Parents! - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone who had a painful childhood was to talk about what took place to another person, they may end up being told that they need to forgive their parents. This could be something that they come out with more or less straight away or it may have taken a while. Furthermore, one could be ...
Views: 814 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Oppressed? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about how oppressed certain people are, with this being something that is often spoken about on social media and in the mainstream media. This is often seen as something that primarily affects minorities and women. Therefore, white men are in a very ...
Views: 812 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of how they see themselves, it doesn’t mean that this won’t be something that will have a massive impact on every area of their life. They can be so caught up in their own self-image that they won’t even realise that it is just an idea that they have of who ...
Views: 812 - Is Ancestral Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn some people’s eyes, it is someone’s formative years that will have had the biggest effect on what they are like. For others, someone’s DNA that will have had the biggest effect on how they turned out. There are then those that believe that it is not one or the other, it is actually both. ...
Views: 811 - Katie Wright: Is It A Surprise That Kate Wright Finds It Hard To Love Herself? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFairly recently, the mainstream media shared a story about Kate Wright, someone who first came to prominence after being in a British TV program. In this story, it said that Katie had ‘bad anxiety’ and ‘struggled to love herself’. Now, I don’t know much about her and I have only watched a few ...
Views: 811 - Loss: Does Today’s Highly Masculine Society Make It Harder For Someone To Grieve A Loss? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough experiencing a loss is part of the human experience, working through a loss is not something that is generally seen in the same light. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to experience loss and then to carry on as normal. They could then have lost a family member, their ...
Views: 811 - Inner Child: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self In Order To Heal Their Inner Child? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of their inner child, it doesn’t mean that it won’t be having an effect on their life. Their inner child, or their inner children to be more precise as there is more than one child, can be causing them all kinds of problems. And if one is aware of the term ...
Views: 810 - It Is Important To Be Able To Cry! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was sat next to someone and soon after this, their partner came over and had a good cry in their presence. I was in awe of how easy it was for this person to cry and that it didn’t even matter that I was there. It was then clear that this person had a good connection with ...
Views: 810 - Are Some People Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are ending their life as well as those who have thought about doing so. As a result of what has been going on, there is a strong chance that some people are ending their life right now and there are others who are thinking about ...
Views: 809 - Emotionally Frozen: Can Someone Become Emotionally Frozen If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone will have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they will find it easy to connect to what is taking place in their body. This doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to connect to the sensations in their body; no, what it means is that it can be hard for them to connect to ...
Views: 809 - Critical Thinking: Is The Establishment Trying To Infantilize Everyone? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt can appear as though the people in power are there to look out for their fellow human beings; nothing more; nothing less. Or, to be more accurate, the people who appear to be in power. The reason for this is that the people who are actually running the show rarely show their face (and ...
Views: 809 - Anxiety: Does The Modern-Day World Make People Anxious? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with depression, anxiety is one of the most common mental, as well as emotional and physical, problems in today’s world. Emotional and physical was used above as both depression and anxiety is not always just a mental problem. Like depression, anxiety is often something that affects ...
Views: 808 - We All Have Hidden Talents! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I caught up with my friend, Wain Gordon, and we touched upon a number of topics. One thing that I spoke about was a how-to guide that I had put together to assist others in finding their purpose. He asked me a few questions about this and then he said that one of the ways that ...
Views: 808 - "People Haven't Got Time To Have Years Of Therapy!" - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, when I was online, I read something that really stood out. The general gist was that due to how busy people are in today’s world, they haven’t got the time to have years of therapy. As a result of this, they need to be able to transform their life in a much shorter period ...
Views: 806 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If They Are Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry. Then again, it could also ...
Views: 806 - Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when ...
Views: 805 - Victimization: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimized By Others? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination. It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also ...
Views: 805 - You Are That Which You Seek - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I was out of touch with what I would class as my true essence. I felt disconnected, powerless and I didn’t know why my life was the way that it was. The pain that I was in made me look for answers; I needed to find a way to change my life. I didn’t know ...
Views: 805 - Manifestation: Do Some People’s Childhoods Make It Harder For Them To Manifest A Fulfilling Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that it is not just someone’s thoughts that influence their reality; it is also their feelings. Therefore, it is going to be essential for them to pay attention to what is taking place in their mind, along with what is going on in their body, and to make sure that they are not ...
Views: 804 - True-Self: Does Someone Need Approval From Others If They’re Out Of Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, it can be normal for them to look towards others for approval. This can then result in them doing what other people want, or they can try to achieve things. In their eyes, what they need to feel better will be given to them by people who they ...
Views: 804 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves. When this takes place, these people ...
Views: 803 - “People Will Do Anything, No Matter How Absurd, To Avoid Facing Their Own Souls” - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago I watched “A Dangerous Method” and this was about a stage of Carl Jung’s life. Watching this film gave me the urge to find out more about him and since that time, a number of his quotes have caught my attention. One that has stood out is, “People will do anything, no ...
Views: 802 - Offended: What Can Someone Do If They Have The Tendency To Be Offended? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is online or offline, they may find that it is not uncommon for them to get worked up about something. They could read or hear something and, before they know it, they could experience a strong emotional reaction. When this takes place, it could take a little while ...
Views: 802 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Better If It Was Run By Women? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, numerous people have said that the world would be a far better place if it was no longer run men. In their eyes, a world run by women would lead to a world that is far better for everyone. When someone has this view, they can see men as being one way and women as being ...
Views: 800 - Do You Need A Healing Mentor? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of my healing journey, in 2003, it was like I was walking around in the dark. I had no idea about what was going on and I also had no idea about how I was going to change my life. One of the first things that I did, in order to try to understand what was going on, was to ...
Views: 798 - Emotional Pain: Can Emotional Pain Build-Up If Someone Doesn't Have A Strong Connection With Their Body? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has experienced loss, they could end up experiencing emotional pain. When it comes to how severe this pain is, it can all depend on who has passed on. So, if a family member has passed on, the amount of pain that they are in could be unbearable. Through being in so much pain, ...
Views: 798(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Trapped Around Others? - by Submitted on May 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that feel comfortable in their own company and in the company of others, and there are those that don’t. When it comes to the former, it is likely to show that someone has a strong sense of self. Due to how developed they are, they won’t feel empty when they are by themselves ...
Views: 798 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Relationship Problems If They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would need to be in the right place in order to drive a car, they would also need to be in the right place to have a relationship. When it comes to the former, if someone was unable to drive or was drunk, it wouldn’t be a good idea for them to drive. On the ...
Views: 798 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone End Up Being Addicted To 'Negative’ Feelings If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked if they would rather feel good or bad, they would probably choose the former. This would make complete sense as it is far better to feel good than it is to feel bad. Nonetheless, although this is what they are likely to say, it doesn’t mean that this is what typically ...
Views: 798 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Develop An Adult Self In Order To Move On From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their early years, they may find that it is not possible for them to put the past behind them. A number of decades may have passed since that time in their life, but it could be as if very little time has passed. And although their caregivers didn’t treat them ...
Views: 797 - Ceremonial Grade Cacao Is Powerful - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround ten years ago, I would add something called cacao to some of the drinks that I would make. This was a time when I would usually have an oat and milk smoothie for my breakfast and adding cacao would give me a break from the usual taste. The years went by and I stopped having this ...
Views: 796 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Dissociate As An Adult? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this. This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this ...
Views: 796 - Humour: Do Some People Use Humour As A Defence Mechanism? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that make life easier to handle on this planet, and being able to laugh is one of them. This ability serves a similar purpose to oil; it allows life to flow that little bit easier. Without oil, a machine would soon end up seizing up, but while the world probably ...
Views: 796 - What is Repetition Compulsion? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of the year I spoke about a time in my life when I was speaking to Vijay Rana, an integral therapist, about projection. This article was titled,’ “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” In this article I said that we also spoke about repetition compulsion ...
Views: 795 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, there is the chance that their life is far harder than it would be otherwise. They can have mental and emotional problems, health problems, and their relationships could be in a complete mess. However, while what took place ...
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