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- Relationships: Why Would Someone Try To Revive A Relationship That Isn’t Healthy? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end it doesn’t mean that one will be willing to walk away. Instead, they may feel the need have the other person in their life again, and it might not be enough for them to see the other person from time to time. One Reason This could then be a sign that ...
Views: 1238 - Relationships: Will A Man Commit When He Finds The ‘Right’ Woman? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could believe that, once he finds the right woman, he will settle down. If so, this will mean that he is either not in a relationship, or he is simply having casual encounters. Over the years, he might have dated a number of women; then again, he might have only ...
Views: 260 - Religion: Why Are People Attracted To Religion? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous religions in the world today; some of these have been around for thousands of years and some could be described as new in comparison. And as well as the religions that are clearly definable as religions, there are also other figures and establishments that are serving a very ...
Views: 5022 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Repetition Compulsion Cause Someone To Feel Totally Powerless? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel powerful and often feel powerless. This can show that their life is not how they want it to be and they don’t feel as though they have the ability to change it. As a result of this, it could be said that how they ...
Views: 369 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Someone Engage In Repetition Compulsion If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their life, they may see that there is what they want to experience in one area of it and what they actually experience. Due to this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a number of ’negative’ feelings and thoughts. Then again, this ...
Views: 324 - Repetition Compulsion: Why Do We Repeat The Past? - by Submitted on May 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may realise that they are experiencing the same scenarios over and over again, there is also the chance that they won’t. If they are, it could seem strange as to why this keeps happening. What they may conclude, after reflecting on what is taking place, is that they have no ...
Views: 549 - Repetition Compulsion: Why Would Someone Repeat The Past? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I watched a video of a brown bear that kept walking around in circles. This bear was not in a cage, though, it was outside and was thus, free to go anywhere that it wanted. Apparently, it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it ...
Views: 584 - Repressed Emotions: Can Someone Experience A Lot Of Pain If Their Repressed Emotions Are Triggered? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone is born, they can end pushing their emotions out of their awareness. After a little while, they can have very little, if any, connection with this part of their being. However, even though they will have lost touch with a big part of who they are, it ...
Views: 651 - Repressed Emotions: Can Times Like These Bring Up Someone’s Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although there have been certain events that have had a big effect on a lot of people in recent years, it could be said that there hasn’t been anything for a while that is quite like what is currently taking place. If there are people that haven’t heard about what is going on, it could show ...
Views: 632 - Repressed Emotions: How Can Someone Know If They Have Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions are meant to flow, this is not something that always happens. This is not to say that one should always express how they feel; as this is not always going to be appropriate. What it will involve, is for one to accept how they feel and then to contain their emotional ...
Views: 1986 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
Views: 310 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
Views: 343 - Repressed Pain: Can Repressed Pain Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn many countries around the world, the mind is often the focus when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional problems. If, then, someone is not in a good way internally, they are likely to end up trying to change what is going on up top. This can be due to what they have learned online ...
Views: 423 - Repressed Pain: Can Someone Feel Like They Have Regressed When They Reconnect To Their Repressed Pain? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was greatly deprived during their formative years, they are likely to be carrying a lot of pain and a number of unmet developmental needs. This is, of course, assuming that they haven’t started to work through any of this pain. The reason for this is that missing out on the love ...
Views: 230 - Repressed Pain: Can The Mind Cause Problems When Someone Is Carrying Repressed Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a lot is said about physical and mental problems, and this is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, a lot used to be said about the former whilst very little was said about the latter. Taking this into account, it could be said that this shows how far society ...
Views: 417 - Repressed Pain: Does Someone’s Pain Disappear Once It Has Been Removed From Their Conscious Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, someone is often thought to begin and end with their conscious mind. Other than their physical body, then, this will be seen as who they are and there won’t be another part of them. Due to this, if someone’s “mental health” is not in a good way and they were to reach out to ...
Views: 462 - Repression: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Accept They Are Carrying Repressed Pain If They Are In A Repressed State? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that could cause someone to reach out for support is if they suffer from anxiety and/or often feel low. They could soon read or be told, depending on what approach they take, is that they need to look into and change what is taking place in their mind. What is going on up top, so to ...
Views: 262 - Repression: Can Repression Cause Someone To Believe That What Is Going On ‘Out There’ Is Defining How They Feel? - by Submitted on May 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they feel powerless, they could end up coming to the conclusion that it’s because of what is taking place in their life. For example, they might have lost their job, been through a breakup, or have a friend that lacks boundaries and is controlling. Therefore, ...
Views: 276 - Repression: Can The Brains Ability To Repress Pain Cause Someone To Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the chance that someone could work somewhere that is not very supportive, for instance. As a result of this, they could often feel worthless and even humiliated when they are at work. Along with this, they could be in a relationship that is not much better, with this also being a ...
Views: 304 - Repression: Has The Brains Ability To Repress Pain Led To The View That It’s ‘All About The Mind’? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has problems with their ‘mental health’ and they were to reach out for support, there is a strong chance that what is taking place in their mind will be the area of focus. Therefore, their thoughts, beliefs and even behaviour are likely to come under the microscope. It could be ...
Views: 411 - Repression: Is Someone’s Brain Designed To Keep Them Unconscious? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to believe that who they are begins and ends with their conscious mind. This is likely to be an outlook that is supported by the society that they live in. Therefore, it wouldn’t be right to say that they just randomly came to this conclusion as they ...
Views: 499 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 341 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 334 - Resilience: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Handle Setbacks? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that no matter who someone is, there are going to be moments in their life when something won’t go to plan. So, instead of being able to go from A to B, they will end up going from A to A. For whatever reason, they will have come up against a hurdle and it won’t be possible ...
Views: 394 - Resilience: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Resilience? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPain is part of life, and while this much is true, it doesn’t mean that this makes it any easier to accept it. And while there will be times when one does all they can to avoid pain, there will be other times when they are forced to face it. Experiencing pleasure is something that is more ...
Views: 1405 - Responsibility: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile is it one thing to feel responsible for one’s own life, it is another thing altogether to feel responsible for other people. Even though one is not responsible for other people, it doesn’t mean they feel this way. That is unless they have a young child or children for instance and then ...
Views: 1481 - Responsibility: The Taboo Of Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2093 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. In some shape or form, they are always there for others. And whether they truly want to be there for others is not always irrelevant; it often appears as though they have no choice in the matter. For some ...
Views: 5256 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Say 'You' Instead Of 'I'? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks about something they have been going through or how they currently feel, there is the chance that they will use the world ‘you’. This means that the word ‘I’ is unlikely to be used. So even though one is talking about themselves, it can come across as if they are talking ...
Views: 5594 - Retirement: Will Someone Need To Create A New Identity If They Have Retired? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a full time job, it is likely to mean that it is a big part of their life. In fact, what they do for a living could be their whole life, meaning that it will be more than just something they do for a certain amount of hours each week. What they could find is that what they ...
Views: 654 - Role Models: Can We Use Negative Role Models As Inspiration? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf the people one spent their time with had no effect on their life it wouldn’t matter who they had around them. But as human beings are interdependent and are therefore constantly being affected by the people around them, one has to choose their company wisely. When one walks into a room ...
Views: 3109 - Role Models: Who Are Our First Role Models? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment one is born, one is exposed to different people. And at the beginning of their life, these people are typically caregivers. So in the majority of cases, ones first role models are their parents. This can then go on to include siblings, other family members and family friends. ...
Views: 2738 - Romance Scammers: Are Some People Easy Targets For Romance Scammers? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this moment in time, one may be talking to someone that is not who they say they are. However, as far as one is concerned, they will be in a relationship with someone who loves or at the very least cares about them. In reality, the person they are talking to will simply be using them in ...
Views: 496 - Romance Scammers: Why Wouldn’t Someone Be Able To Accept That They Are Talking To A Romance Scammer? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has spoken to a friend or family member on a number of occasions about the person who they are in a relationship with, they could soon come to the conclusion that something isn’t right. This could be because they are with someone who is physically and/or verbally abusive, but, this ...
Views: 196 - Ronda Rousey: Why Did Ronda Rousey Want To Kill Herself After She Lost To Holly Holm? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn the Ellen DeGeneres show Ronda Rousey opened up about the experience that she had after losing to Holly Holm. During this interview, she said that she wanted to kill herself after the fight. Along with this, she thought she was nothing and that no would care about her anymore. After I saw ...
Views: 1695 - Sadness: Why Do Some People Always Feel Sad? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling sad, they’re likely to choose the second option; being happy feels good and being sad feels bad. Based on this outlook, one feeling is seen as being better than the other. But just because feeling happy feels better than feeling sad, it ...
Views: 1659 - Sarcasm: Why Are Some People Always Sarcastic? - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperSome people are sarcastic from time, while there are others who use sarcasm practically all of the time. What can define whether or not someone is described as being sarcastic can be how often they behave in this way. At times, another person may find it amusing when one behaves in this way, ...
Views: 1129 - Sayings: Does Everything Happen For A Reason? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where someone is from on this planet, there is a strong chance that they will have a few sayings. They may have picked these up from the people around them and/or they may have learned them through reading books. One may find that they use these sayings throughout their day, or ...
Views: 1412 - Secondary Gain: What Is Secondary Gain? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and personal development, there is a term that is often used called secondary gain. This is a gain that is often hidden and unknown at a conscious level. And although the word ‘gain’ is typically used in a positive manner, in this instance, it is not a positive ...
Views: 2289 - Self Abuse: What Is Self Abuse? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbuse is usually something that starts of as external in nature. This means that one is abused through the people around them and this could be limited to one environment or it could happen in a number of environments. The type of abuse that I am talking about here is the abuse that goes in ...
Views: 2374 - Self Awareness: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Self Awareness? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has no awareness of themselves it is going to lead to problems in their life. They could end up constantly blaming other people for what is or what is not happening to them and be oblivious to the part that they are playing. Pointing the finger towards other people may lead to ...
Views: 1404 - Self Awareness: How Can Someone Develop Self Awareness? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can be relatively easy to notice how another person behaves and how this affects their life, the same cant always be said about how one behaves and how this affects their life. And a big part of this comes down to how the modern day world is; with people generally being taught to ...
Views: 1706 - Self Control: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Self Control? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperControl is something that everyone not only wants, but needs to a certain degree. To have no control would make life a real challenge and could make one question their will to live. This doesn’t mean that the control in question here is the control of others. The type of control this relates ...
Views: 1562 - Self Development: Can Self Development Condition People To Believe That It's 'All In The Mind'? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for people to read books on self development, and while they can be looking for ways to change what is taking place within them; they might be looking for ways to become more successful. There is also the chance that they are looking to improve a number of areas of ...
Views: 1227 - Self Development: Can Self Development Make Someone Dependent On Other People's Advice? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has a question about an inner or an outer challenge, there is a strong chance that they will soon be able to find an answer. This is something that can take place without them having to move too far, and this is because they only need to go online. Through using the internet on their ...
Views: 1284 - Self Development: Can Toxic Shame Cause People To Be Obsessed With Self Development? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that we live in the age of self improvement and this is not limited to one area of life. In America for instance, the self help industry takes in billions of dollars every year. So there is the chance for one to ‘improve’ their mind, body, physical appearance, relationships and ...
Views: 1800 - Self Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Into Self Development? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side of the spectrum, there are people who had a childhood where most of their needs were met, and on the other side, there are others who had a childhood where the majority of their needs were ignored. And in the middle of these two extremes will be people who would have had moments ...
Views: 1419 - Self Doubt: Is Self Doubt A Good Thing? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone having an inner voice that is not supportive or nurturing for instance, there is going to be the need for some kind of change to take place. And if one feels practically paralyzed by this voice, then it is only natural that some kind of solution is going to be ...
Views: 1883 - Self Harm: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Self Harm? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear how important it is to be kind to others and while this is important, it is also important for people to be kind to themselves. In fact, if one is kind to themselves, they‘re more likely to be kind to other people. The reason there is a greater focus on how someone ...
Views: 2271 - Self Harm: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Self Harm? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be said to be two ways that one can be harmed in this world. One of these is through external means and what other people do to them. And the other is what one does to themselves. What goes on externally can be noticed and as it is observable to others, they can come to ones ...
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