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- Working Through Emotional Pain Is A Lot Like Weeding A Garden - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed ...
Views: 262 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Full Of Self-Doubt? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to believe in themselves. By being this way, it is not going to matter if they are good at something as they won’t be able to accept it. Along with this, if they have made a plan to do ...
Views: 261 - False Self: Can Someone Need To Let Go Of Their Parents Projections If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone experiences life, how they see themselves will have a big impact. However, they might not even think about how they see themselves and, even if they do, this could just be seen as who they are. If, then, they have an empowering view of themselves, this is not ...
Views: 261 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Human Contact With Death? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have ended up pulling away from at least one relationship. In fact, this may have been something that has taken place on more than one occasion. Either way, when this has taken place, ...
Views: 261 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Anxious Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to act like one. The reason for this is that he might not be able to spend much time by himself. When he is by himself, he could soon feel very uncomfortable and end up doing whatever he can to find ...
Views: 261 - Power Struggles: Can Someone’s Life Be Full Of Power Struggles If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of having the odd moment when they end up in a situation where another person is trying to cross their boundaries and control them, one could continually end up in this position. For example, they could be in a relationship with someone who is like this and they might work with some ...
Views: 261 - Self-Alienation: Can Someone Be A Stranger To Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be connected to their body and be in touch with their needs and feelings. The reason for this is that by being connected to themselves, they will be able to take life in, and this connection will provide them with the guidance that they ...
Views: 261 - Child Abuse: Would An Abusive Parent Fall Apart If They Acknowledged How Abusive They Were? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will ...
Views: 260 - Being Seen: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Associate Being Seen With Being Humiliated? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being seen. This might be something that they are not consciously aware of or this might not be the case. If this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they could often feel ignored ...
Views: 260 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Feeling Guilty After They Have Spoken To Their Abusive Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to ...
Views: 260 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Their Early Years If They Were Abused And Neglected? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly. Due to this, they are ...
Views: 260 - Critical Thinking: Does Repression Allow Human Beings To Lose Touch With Their Own ‘Darkness?’ - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has watched many films over the years and even if they rarely watch films, they are likely to be familiar with the good vs. bad scenario. There will then be one person or a group of people that are good, against one person or a group of people that are ‘bad’. However, without even ...
Views: 260 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Abandoned If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a man may have been in a relationship that seemed to be going well and then, out of nowhere, it came to an end. As a result of this, he could be in a pretty bad way and find it hard to function. When he is not feeling low and flat, he could be filled with a deep sense of sadness and ...
Views: 260 - Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Deprive Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like it. When it comes to how they live, it could be as though they only have a few needs. There will be their survival needs and then there can be the other needs that they take care of. When it comes ...
Views: 259 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause A Man To Be Addicted To Porn? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be in a position where practically his whole life revolves around viewing porn. Therefore, if he is not working or spending time with friends, for instance, he could be viewing it. Then again, there could be moments when he views it when he is at work. If ...
Views: 259 - Mother Enmeshed Man: Why Would a Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs and feelings is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with them. As a result of this, it could be normal for him to overlook them. There can be moments when this is something that he is aware of and moments when this is something ...
Views: 259 - Relationships: Will A Man Commit When He Finds The ‘Right’ Woman? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could believe that, once he finds the right woman, he will settle down. If so, this will mean that he is either not in a relationship, or he is simply having casual encounters. Over the years, he might have dated a number of women; then again, he might have only ...
Views: 259 - Child Abuse: If Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Be Seen By An Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this ...
Views: 258 - Depression: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Depressed As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperUp until recently, someone may have typically been full of life and taken life by the horns, to so speak. But, after something has taken place, they could have very little if any energy and have just about lost all their drive to do anything. As a result of this, if they were to reach out for ...
Views: 258 - Inner Security: Can Someone Be Consumed By Their Need To Feel Secure If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they spend a lot of time trying to settle themselves down. This is going to show that they find it hard to feel at ease. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, what is ...
Views: 258 - Self-Sabotage: Can Early Derivation Cause Someone To Carry Different Entities Inside Them? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone could have a few areas of their life that are going well and a few that are not. This could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they could have well and truly had enough and be desperate for their life to change. But, if this has been ...
Views: 258 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Suspicious Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he might not feel at ease and be able to let his guard down. This might not be because she has done something to make him question whether or not he can trust her, though. No, he could just expect her to do something that will validate ...
Views: 257 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 257 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience Extreme Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he might have had the need to be there for his mother. He may find that this is generally something that he doesn’t have to think about doing as being there for her is something that just happens. But, as time has passed, he might have started to experience ...
Views: 257 - Self-Abandonment: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone made a number of New Year’s resolutions, it doesn’t mean that they will have followed through with any of them. They could think about some if not all of the things that they planned to do every now and then but that could be about as far as it will go. Yet, even if they don’t have ...
Views: 257 - Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they are going to be an embodied human being. That is, of course, unless their time in their mother’s womb and their birth was not traumatic. By receiving the right attunement and care throughout this time, their connection to themselves will be supported and ...
Views: 255 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father Emasculated? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother, a man could believe that he would be different if his mother hadn’t used him during his early years. This could show that he has thought a lot about what took place when he was a boy. He will then have come to see that he was forced ...
Views: 255 - Relationships: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Bond With Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it means that they are not their own island. As a result of this, they are not on this earth to do everything by themselves and to always be in their company. Likewise, they are also not here to look towards others to do everything for them and to ...
Views: 255 - Breakups: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just gone through a breakup and even if this took place a few weeks or a number of months ago, they could be in a bad way. This could show that they were with their ex for a number of years, or it might not have been this long. Additionally, this might have been a relationship ...
Views: 254 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Lose Touch With Reality During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might soon find out that the parent that abused them is not willing to acknowledge what took place. Assuming it was one parent, they might have been told, on numerous occasions, that what they say happened didn’t happen. It then ...
Views: 254 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Idealise Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on May 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, they might have had at least one parent who didn’t treat them very well. If they did, this parent would have often been very cruel and, as a result, this would have deeply wounded them. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge how cruel this ...
Views: 254 - False Self: Can A Man Pretend To Be A Man If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of different views when it comes to what it means to be a man. For some, being a man will involve being highly masculine and not very feminine. This is likely to mean that he will need to have a muscular physique, be mentally strong, be able to lead ...
Views: 253 - Self-Awareness: Can Someone Be Very Self-Aware And Out Of Touch With Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing change, it is often said that self-awareness is essential. The reason for this is that if one is not aware of what is going on for them, how will they be able to change their life? Through being aware of what is taking place both internally and externally, they ...
Views: 253 - Child Abuse: Would An Abusive Parent Fall Apart If They Acknowledged How Abusive They Were? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will ...
Views: 252 - Developmental Trauma: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That There is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they often struggle when it comes to having enough. What could enter their mind is that they rarely have enough money. After taking a closer look, though, they may find that there is far ...
Views: 252 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have Strong Need To Be Successful If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is ...
Views: 252 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Treated Like An Object By His Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, ...
Views: 252 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may see that he is being used by his mother. This is because he could spend a lot of time doing things for her and she could act as though he is responsible for her. To make matters worse, he might not realise that he is overly focused on his ...
Views: 252 - Self-Assertion: Can Someone Fear Being Assertive If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do or suggests. If, on the other hand, they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. Another person could want them to do something or ...
Views: 252 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Look For Unconditional Love In A Conditional World? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone will have received the love that they needed during their formative years in order to experience an emotional birth. In other words, they will have been able to form a strong sense of self and develop a felt sense of enoughness, worthiness and being lovable. Thanks to this, ...
Views: 251 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Submissive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is out with his friends, he can typically be easy-going and happy to go along with whatever another person wants to do. He is then going to go along to get along and he will rarely assert himself. It might not be much different when he is at work, as he could be just as compliant and ...
Views: 251 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Attract Abusive Women? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but nurturing. These women may have undermined him in a variety of different ways and made his life a misery. Once his time with one of these women came to an end, it might have taken him a number of months if not ...
Views: 251 - Anger Problems: Can A Man Use Anger To Mask His Hurt? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys ...
Views: 250 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Both Idolised And Demonised During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, someone generally needed to be treated as though they deserved to exist and were valuable and lovable, among other things. If this is what took place, now that they are an adult, there is a strong chance that they will have developed a strong sense of self and be able to feel good ...
Views: 250 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Own Repressed Darkness? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, the general view is that the citizenry is being victimised by those at the top. For some, this relates to the government and for others, this relates to those that live in the shadows. If, then, it wasn’t for what these people have done and are doing, the world would be a ...
Views: 250 - Critical Thinking: Was The Recent Pandemic An Example Of How Humanity Can Be Victimised By Their Own Repressed Darkness? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that the dust has started to settle, numerous questions have been asked about why certain things were done at the height of the pandemic. For example, it has been said that the masks that were mandatory didn’t make any difference. And, along with this, it has been said that the public was ...
Views: 250 - Imposter Syndrome: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Like An Imposter? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have attained a certain level of success, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with it. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they have stolen this success from someone else. They could be doing well in their career and a number of other areas of ...
Views: 250 - Intimacy: Can Someone Have A Dysfunctional View Of Intimacy If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about the relationships that they have been in, they may find that they have generally not been very nurturing or full of love. In most of their relationships, they may have experienced a lot of pain and might not have been long before they felt the need to cut their ties ...
Views: 250 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Struggle To Be Loved By A Woman If His Mother Was Unable To Love Him? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be in a relationship with a woman who is not really interested in him. Or, if he is not in a relationship with a woman like this, he could be dating or seeing a woman who is. Consequently, he is going to be into or really into her but she is not going to feel the same ...
Views: 250 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Please His Father? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself in the process, it could be said that this illustrates that he has a strong need to please her. After all, she is going to be the person who he is doing so much for. Based on this, if he ...
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