Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Articles from Oliver JR Cooper | Selfgrowth.com
- Child Abuse: Is An Abusive Parents Inability To Acknowledge Their Abusive Behaviour A Sign Of How Damaged They Are? - by Submitted on May 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together. No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and ...
Views: 275 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause A Man To Be Addicted To Porn? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be in a position where practically his whole life revolves around viewing porn. Therefore, if he is not working or spending time with friends, for instance, he could be viewing it. Then again, there could be moments when he views it when he is at work. If ...
Views: 275 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Feeling Guilty After They Have Spoken To Their Abusive Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to ...
Views: 274 - Child Abuse: If Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Be Seen By An Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this ...
Views: 274 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Could A Mother-Enmeshed Man Live His Own Life If His Mother Wanted Him To? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, it can seem as though a mother enmeshed man just needs to stop focusing on his mother’s life and to focus on his own. By doing this, he will be able to slowly transform his life and live a life that is worth living. With this in mind, it will be up to him to draw the line ...
Views: 274 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperMost if not all of the experiences that a man had during his formative years might have been forgotten about by his conscious mind. Therefore, most of what took place during this stage of his life could be a mystery. Nevertheless, while this might be the case, it doesn’t mean that what took ...
Views: 274 - Mother Wounds: Did An Abusive Mothers Childhood Cause Her To See Her Child As A Burden? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to look back at their early years, what might stand out is that this wasn’t a time when they were generally loved and cherished. Instead, they could see that this was a time when they were typically treated like they were nothing. This can be how their mother and perhaps ...
Views: 274 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Suppress Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to ignore their own needs. In fact, they could find that, in general, they are not even aware of their needs. Apart from their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 274 - Self-Assertion: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To See Self-Assertion As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, someone is going to need to stand their ground and not tolerate something. By doing this, they will be paying attention to their own needs and looking after their own well-being in the process. At other times, they will need to go after what it is that they desire. This will also ...
Views: 274 - Child Abuse: Would An Abusive Parent Fall Apart If They Acknowledged How Abusive They Were? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will ...
Views: 273 - Child Abuse: Would An Abusive Parent Fall Apart If They Acknowledged How Abusive They Were? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will ...
Views: 273 - Breakups: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just gone through a breakup and even if this took place a few weeks or a number of months ago, they could be in a bad way. This could show that they were with their ex for a number of years, or it might not have been this long. Additionally, this might have been a relationship ...
Views: 273 - Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Deprive Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like it. When it comes to how they live, it could be as though they only have a few needs. There will be their survival needs and then there can be the other needs that they take care of. When it comes ...
Views: 273 - Inner Security: Can Someone Be Consumed By Their Need To Feel Secure If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they spend a lot of time trying to settle themselves down. This is going to show that they find it hard to feel at ease. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, what is ...
Views: 273 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would a Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Identifying His Needs And Feelings? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will have his own needs and feelings, he could generally be out of touch with what is taking place within him. These parts, along with his desires and preferences, will be connected to his true self. Thus, if he is out of touch with what is going on within him and is ...
Views: 273 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Bad When He Doesn’t Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and her needs, he could wonder what is going on. Also, what could soon stand out is that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. He will see that he has his own life to live and needs to meet but he will have ...
Views: 273 - Self-Abandonment: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone made a number of New Year’s resolutions, it doesn’t mean that they will have followed through with any of them. They could think about some if not all of the things that they planned to do every now and then but that could be about as far as it will go. Yet, even if they don’t have ...
Views: 273 - Self-Alienation: Can Someone Be A Stranger To Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be connected to their body and be in touch with their needs and feelings. The reason for this is that by being connected to themselves, they will be able to take life in, and this connection will provide them with the guidance that they ...
Views: 273 - Survival: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel As Though Their Survival Is Constantly Under Threat? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can live a life where they often feel as though they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if they are not aware of this, they are still likely to suffer. What can be normal is for them to experience a lot of anxiety and ...
Views: 273 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone’s True Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to their true self, they will be aware of their needs and feelings. This will mean that they will be in touch with their body as this will be where most of their needs and feelings will be found. By having this connection, they will be able to live a life that is in ...
Views: 273 - Working Through Emotional Pain Is A Lot Like Weeding A Garden - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed ...
Views: 273 - Happiness: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Being Happy If They Grew Up With A Depressed Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels happy, they could soon feel uncomfortable and their inner state could change thereafter. This could be something that is the rule as opposed to the exception. But, if this is something that is normal, it might not be something that stands out. As a result of this, they are ...
Views: 272 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Act More Like A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Than His Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBefore long, a woman may find that she is with a man who has two women in his life; his mother and her. He won’t just have a normal relationship with his mother, though, as she will be his main focus. The woman, who should be his primary relationship, is then going to be like a woman that he ...
Views: 272 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can Early Deprivation Cause A Woman To Continually End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could be totally fed up and wonder if she should cut her ties with him. She might have been with him for a few weeks, months or even a number of years. Now, this might be the first time she has been in this position or she ...
Views: 272 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Woman Unconsciously Recreated Her Childhood If She Has Ended Up With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could be well and truly fed up. Still, a part of her could hope that he will change before long and they will finally be able to have a real relationship. Yet, based on how he has behaved and is behaving, ...
Views: 272 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Engaging In A Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is seldom there for himself and spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he is going to be depriving himself of what he needs. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though he doesn’t have many needs. However, although this is something that may ...
Views: 272 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may see that he is being used by his mother. This is because he could spend a lot of time doing things for her and she could act as though he is responsible for her. To make matters worse, he might not realise that he is overly focused on his ...
Views: 272 - Will: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to have a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to assert themselves and to go after what it is that they desire. The reason for this is that if they are unable to do this, they won’t be able to live a life that is in alignment with who they are and what they desire ...
Views: 272 - Anger Problems: Can A Man Use Anger To Mask His Hurt? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys ...
Views: 271 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Their Early Years If They Were Abused And Neglected? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly. Due to this, they are ...
Views: 271 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Idealise Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on May 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, they might have had at least one parent who didn’t treat them very well. If they did, this parent would have often been very cruel and, as a result, this would have deeply wounded them. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge how cruel this ...
Views: 271 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Disgust? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much time for another woman. If he was to get into a relationship, then, he is unlikely to have much time for her. His mother will come first and his partner will come second. In the beginning, his partner might not have much ...
Views: 271 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Empty Shell? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother, what will stand out is that he is going to act more like an extension of her than a separate being that has his own needs and life to lead. At this point, it could be said that he just needs to implement boundaries with her and live his own ...
Views: 270 - Repression: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Accept They Are Carrying Repressed Pain If They Are In A Repressed State? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that could cause someone to reach out for support is if they suffer from anxiety and/or often feel low. They could soon read or be told, depending on what approach they take, is that they need to look into and change what is taking place in their mind. What is going on up top, so to ...
Views: 270 - Self-Assertion: Can Someone Fear Being Assertive If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do or suggests. If, on the other hand, they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. Another person could want them to do something or ...
Views: 270 - Critical Thinking: Does Repression Allow Human Beings To Lose Touch With Their Own ‘Darkness?’ - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has watched many films over the years and even if they rarely watch films, they are likely to be familiar with the good vs. bad scenario. There will then be one person or a group of people that are good, against one person or a group of people that are ‘bad’. However, without even ...
Views: 269 - Critical Thinking: Was The Recent Pandemic An Example Of How Humanity Can Be Victimised By Their Own Repressed Darkness? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that the dust has started to settle, numerous questions have been asked about why certain things were done at the height of the pandemic. For example, it has been said that the masks that were mandatory didn’t make any difference. And, along with this, it has been said that the public was ...
Views: 269 - Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they are going to be an embodied human being. That is, of course, unless their time in their mother’s womb and their birth was not traumatic. By receiving the right attunement and care throughout this time, their connection to themselves will be supported and ...
Views: 269 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have Strong Need To Be Successful If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is ...
Views: 269 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Suspicious Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he might not feel at ease and be able to let his guard down. This might not be because she has done something to make him question whether or not he can trust her, though. No, he could just expect her to do something that will validate ...
Views: 269 - Shadow Side: Does Someone Incarnate With A Shadow Side? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those who had a childhood that was very nurturing and then there are those that didn’t. Along with this, there are those that had a childhood that was in the middle; neither very nurturing nor overly depriving. When it comes to someone who had a very loving childhood, it can seem as ...
Views: 269 - Breakups: Why Would A Man End Up Sleeping Around After He Has Experienced A Breakup? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter going through a breakup, a man could decide to take his time before he dates or merely share his body with another woman. If so, this can show that he has been greatly affected by what has happened. Then again, this might not be the case but he might just want to take a break and focus ...
Views: 268 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Look For Unconditional Love In A Conditional World? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone will have received the love that they needed during their formative years in order to experience an emotional birth. In other words, they will have been able to form a strong sense of self and develop a felt sense of enoughness, worthiness and being lovable. Thanks to this, ...
Views: 268 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Human Contact With Death? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have ended up pulling away from at least one relationship. In fact, this may have been something that has taken place on more than one occasion. Either way, when this has taken place, ...
Views: 268 - Mother Enmeshed Man: Why Would a Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs and feelings is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with them. As a result of this, it could be normal for him to overlook them. There can be moments when this is something that he is aware of and moments when this is something ...
Views: 268 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 268 - Self-Assertion: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs one is an individual that has their own needs and feelings, there will be moments when they don’t want to do what another person wants them to do or agree with what they say. During such moments, it will be in their best interest to do something else or express a different viewpoint. If ...
Views: 268 - Unlovable: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Are Lovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their relationships, what might soon stand out is that they have pushed at least one person away. They could find that this person was warm and that the relationship was going well and then, before long, it ended. Being in a relationship that was ...
Views: 268 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Always Be On The Go If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend most of their waking hours on the go. So, from morning until night, they are seldom going to just be, and, even if they were to sit down, they might not be able to simply relax. To settle themselves down, they might need to have something to drink or ...
Views: 267 - Depression: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Depressed As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperUp until recently, someone may have typically been full of life and taken life by the horns, to so speak. But, after something has taken place, they could have very little if any energy and have just about lost all their drive to do anything. As a result of this, if they were to reach out for ...
Views: 267