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- True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, it could seem as though someone has a good connection with themselves and that what is taking place inside them is defining how they behave. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that there is any truth to it. One could generally be out ...
Views: 467 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Will Die If They Reveal Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, that’s if they were able to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that they are typically out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. Thus, instead of paying attention to what is taking place within them and allowing this information to play a big ...
Views: 743 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone’s True-Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and what their life is like, there is the chance that these two things are a reflection of what is taking place internally. In other words, there will be a connection between their inner world and their outer world. This is not to say that their behaviour ...
Views: 577 - True-Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take ...
Views: 356 - True-Self: Can Someone Leave Their Body When They Don’t Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the title of this article might sound a bit strange, and it could be said that this is not going to be much of a surprise. After all, it can seem more or less impossible for someone to ‘leave their body’. To be human means having a body and, if someone lost this part of them, ...
Views: 918 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Themselves When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are two worlds: the inner world and the outer world. When it comes to the inner world, it is going to relate to what is taking place within and, when it relates to the outer world, it will relate to what is going on without. A Fine Balance Even so, this doesn’t ...
Views: 1056 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Touch With Their True-Self If They Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be in touch with all of their feelings, they will need to be in touch with their body. The reason for this is that their feelings are primarily found in their body, not their head. Ergo, if someone has a good connection with their body, it will allow them to connect ...
Views: 602 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be how one will behave when they are in touch with their true-self and then there will be how they will behave when they are not. When it comes to the former, one will be aware of their needs and feelings. These elements will have a big effect on what they do ...
Views: 824 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Who They Are? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat allows one to have their own life on this planet is not just their physical body; it is also the fact that they have their own needs and feelings. If they didn’t have their own needs and feelings, it wouldn’t matter if they had their own body – or vehicle. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 678 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they generally act in an authentic manner. Therefore, irrespective of whether they are with their friends or are around people they don’t know very well, they won’t put on an act. What this is going to show is that one will ...
Views: 708 - True-Self: Do Some People Use Labels As A Substitute For Finding Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, some people have used different labels to describe themselves. This is something that can be observed by looking at the profiles that some people have created on different social media sites. When it comes to the labels that someone might use on social media, it ...
Views: 557 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down ...
Views: 775 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether someone does or doesn’t do something, it could typically depend on if it is right for them. In others words, they won’t have the inclination to do along with what other people are doing. What this is likely to show is that they have a good connection with their needs ...
Views: 631 - True-Self: Does Someone Need Approval From Others If They’re Out Of Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, it can be normal for them to look towards others for approval. This can then result in them doing what other people want, or they can try to achieve things. In their eyes, what they need to feel better will be given to them by people who they ...
Views: 804 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Be Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves around others can be in alignment with who they are, or it can be a reflection of their false-self. However, even if it is not a reflection of their true-self, it doesn’t mean that other people will realise this. An Act One is then going to behave in a way that doesn’t ...
Views: 1079 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term ‘true-self’ is mentioned, it can sound a bit air fairy, and it could be said that this it to be expected. One thing that can come to mind for someone is that human beings don’t have a self that is fixed. It Doesn’t Exist It is then not as of it is going to be possible for ...
Views: 1111 - True-Self: Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Acts Strong To Feel Weak On The Inside? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there is going to be how someone behaves and, on the other; there is going to be how someone feels on the inside. At times, what is taking place within them will be expressed through how they behave. An Authentic Human Being In this case, one is generally not going to put ...
Views: 893 - True-Self: Is It Harder For Someone To Express Their True-Self When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to fulfil their needs, they will need to be in touch with them. But that’s not to say that this is all there is to it, as one will also need to feel as though it is safe enough for them to fulfil them. The Two Levels It could be said that, as a human ...
Views: 983 - True-Self: Is Your Life Being Controlled By Your Split-Off Parts? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life. Their life will change as the years go by - stopping ...
Views: 766 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs far as some people are concerned, the purpose of life is to be happy; whereas for others, it is to live a meaningful life. When it comes to the former, it is going to be all about feeling good. Pleasure or Pain So, when someone has this outlook, they may believe that the alternative is ...
Views: 1120 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Find Their True-Self When They Get Older? - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some peoples early years were a time when they were given the support that they needed to develop into a well-adjusted adult, there are others that don’t have the same experience. This could mean that they were supported from time to time, or it may have been something that rarely, if ...
Views: 1108 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are going to be moments in someone’s life when they will need to be serious, they won’t need to behave in this way all the time. Along with this, one will need to be easy going at times, and at other times, they will need to be firm. Multifaceted Ultimately, how one will ...
Views: 976 - True-Self: Why Is It So Hard For Some People To Be Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a strong chance that there has been moments in one’s life when they have been told to ‘be themselves’. This could be something they have been told before they had a job interview, or before they were going to meet someone for the first time. Letting Go The other person may have ...
Views: 1215 - Trust: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Trust Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well. This will mean that ...
Views: 290 - Trust: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find that they have the need to keep people at arm’s length, preferring not to get too close to them. They could find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. By being this way, they are unlikely to share a great deal about themselves. When ...
Views: 342 - Trust: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step. Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do ...
Views: 793 - Truth: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Speak Their Truth? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ...
Views: 1881 - Trying To Change Others Is A Waste Of Time - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in an intimate relationship that is not going well or they could have a friend who is having a destructive affect on their life. Then again, one of their family members could be living in a way that is not healthy or they could be toxic. Irrespective of who it relates to, one ...
Views: 649 - Unconscious Mind: What Can Happen If Someone Doesn’t Realise That They Have An Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone’s life is like, there are at least two things that will play a part. Firstly, there will be what is taking place in their mind, and secondly, there will be their behaviour. Nonetheless, what is taking place in their mind will be the most important part, as what ...
Views: 480 - Unlovable: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it. For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ...
Views: 435 - Unlovable: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Are Lovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their relationships, what might soon stand out is that they have pushed at least one person away. They could find that this person was warm and that the relationship was going well and then, before long, it ended. Being in a relationship that was ...
Views: 248 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Can Someone Spend Their Adult Life Trying To Receive What They Didn’t Receive As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that their childhood is firmly behind them. Along with looking different, they won’t have the same needs as they had when they were younger. That doesn’t mean that some of their needs won’t be the same, but a lot of them will be different. With this ...
Views: 678 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Is It Important To Grieve Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ...
Views: 3673 - Unsafe: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them Up Believe That The World Is Unsafe? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some areas of the planet are far from safe, there are other areas on the planet that are the complete opposite. And due to what the media covers, one can end up coming to the conclusion that the whole world is unsafe. Now, this doesn’t mean that one’s safety will be guaranteed if they ...
Views: 1410 - Unwanted: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Unwanted? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t treated like they were wanted during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this now that they are an adult. Yet, if this is not something that they are aware of, what took place is still likely to have a big impact on how they experience ...
Views: 269 - Validation: Why Do Some People Always Need Validation From Others? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were independent, it wouldn’t matter if other people validated them or not. They would be their own island and they would be able to give themselves all the validation they needed. But as human beings are interdependent, it means that they need to be validated by others. ...
Views: 24801 - Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being. What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At ...
Views: 720 - Victim Mentality: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to reach out for external support, is that they have what is classed as a ‘victim mentality’. This is what they could be told if they were to open up about what is going on for them and how they experience life. When it comes to what is going on for ...
Views: 528 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Feel Loved When They Act Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s self-image, there is the chance that it is having a positive effect on their life. How they see themselves is then going to allow them to feel good about themselves and to fulfil their needs. Two Parts What this shows is how much of an effect one’s view of ...
Views: 985 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimised By Others? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that that are moments in everyone’s life when things don’t go to plan, or something ‘bad’ happens. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed. A Different Reality However, while there will be plenty of people who will be able to relate to this, ...
Views: 1041 - Victim Mentality: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon to come across someone who has a victim mentality. And while it would be easy to believe that this is kind of mentality that someone has if they are not doing well in life, this is not always the case. For example, plenty of people who go to university ...
Views: 1335 - Victim Mentality: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They See Themselves As A Victim? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims - to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people have been conditioned to see themselves as victims. This is ...
Views: 700 - Victim Mentality: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is unable to see that they have an effect on their life, they can have what is often described as a ‘victim mentality’. Other people are then going to being in control of what does or doesn’t happen to them. Through experiencing life in this way, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 685 - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Always Act Like Victims? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one gets to the end of their day, they might look back on what has happened, and this could be a time when they will see what good and bad things have taken place. Even so, they could believe that this is simply part of life. One Step Further If they were to engage in this process ...
Views: 1882 - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is nothing like a good victim story to get people’s attention. The media routinely covers a certain event or situation where one person or a group of people are labelled as victims. And based on what happens in these situations, it is often very difficult to disagree with the ...
Views: 2142 - Victim Mentality: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Let Go Of A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the tendency to believe that the world is against them and that they play no part in what takes place in their life, it is likely to show that they have a victim mentality. Through having this outlook, one is going to be nothing more than an observer of their life. Their life ...
Views: 579 - Victimization: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimized By Others? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination. It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also ...
Views: 805 - Violence: Can Repression Cause Violence? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to see violence or to hear about violence. The media for instance, is only too happy to inform people of what is taking place at a local level and around the world. And then one can hear second hand accounts of violence that have taken place in another ...
Views: 1848 - Vulnerability: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable If They Had A High Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a superhero who is unable to be affected by life, they can come across as though this is the case. As a result of this, it can be as though they are unaffected by life. They are then not going to have moments when they come across as hurt, sad or down, for instance. ...
Views: 210 - Vulnerability: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable. The image that they present to the ...
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