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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

3 Quick Tips To Stop Feeling Stressed and Overwhelmed Immediately

It happens to the best of us. Things happen. People say things. Stuff breaks. Suddenly you look up and you are in the midst of a terrible situation. The buck stops with you and everyone is impatiently waiting for you to fix it. The good news is you are a highly responsible person so they have all confidence in your ability to make things right. The bad news is you are a highly responsible person and sometimes people don’t think to ask you if you could use a hand.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

5 Reasons Why You Are Struggling To Make That Decision

Wow, could you just make a decision already? Please! How many times have you heard that from yourself or others? You wonder why what seems like such a simple decision for others is so difficult for you. Or perhaps you are usually extremely decisive and yet find yourself waffling between the options presented like a kid in a candy store. Why are you struggling to make this decision? Here are 5 common reasons why you may be struggling to make that decision: 1. Your Thinking It "Should" Not Be This Difficult

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

4 Of The Best Things To Do with Fear

One thing I hear often is that by just thinking positive or speaking affirmations, you can overcome your fears. Unfortunately this well meaning sentiment is only part of the story. The other part is something you might not want to know. In order for you to truly get unstuck, it is necessary for you to face the fears and anxiety that is blocking your efforts to move forward.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

4 Reasons to Stop Being So Defensive!

Is it just me or is that chip on your shoulder getting bigger than ever? Man, you must be a really fun person to be around – NOT!

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

The Surefire Way to Get It

ou need it. You want it. You miss it. You dream about it. You don’t have it. You may have had it. Where did it go and how can you get it back? It use to be easy. It never worked before. You wonder if you deserve it. You worry about losing it if you actually get it. They have it and you’re wondering what they did that you haven’t done. What’s wrong with you that you don’t have it yet? You’ve helped others get it. You’ve worked harder than they have to get it. It’s stressful to know you don’t have it. You may be working to make sure they appreciate it.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

A Moment of Gratitude

Hey thank you! Yes, I mean you. YES, you! Please don’t miss this moment. Give these words your full attention for just a minute, okay? Great! Just breathe. Relax. I want to sincerely express my gratitude to you for the choices you make today. Seriously, thank you! Thank you for shining your light in the world. I see it, and it inspires me to shine my light brighter too. Thank you for deciding to live your life with more meaning and satisfaction today.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Your Most Difficult Gratitude Challenge

What do you want? No seriously what do you want? What are you asking for? What are you expecting? What are you hoping for? Your challenge, should you chose to accept it, is to accept all the abundance that comes your way in the next 48 hours. You will face many moments in your life when your own doubts and fears can begin to overwhelm you. Regardless of how upbeat, how positive, how hopeful you are, everyone faces those nagging feelings inside that something is going or will go wrong.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Delay The Gratification But Not Your JOY

Congratulations! You stepped out there to fulfill your dreams. You clearly understand that having lasting, meaningful success means setting priorities and being focused on achieving your goals. You are not just a wish upon a star dreamer, your sleeves are rolled way up and the elbow grease is flowing. Soon, the success that began on the inside with purpose, determination, and vision will be bursting through the seams where others can see the impact. People will be talking all about your rising star momentum and your brilliant ideas. How fantastic!

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

How to Feel the Love All Around You

We all have moments in life when we are just not feeling the love. In every kind of love, there are times when things go wrong and people disappoint you. It happens to the best of us. I want you to know that when you feel this way that everything is fine. There is nothing wrong with you. You may be feeling this way right now. This is just a moment. You will move on when you choose to do so. May I offer you a few practical things you can do right here to begin feeling more love and proving to your skeptical self that love is all around you? Yes, love is all around you even in this moment.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Are You Serious?

I’m just wondering. You keep saying it but are you serious? You say you want to be happier. You say you want to lose weight. You say you want to stop letting people walk over you. You keep claiming that you’re going to start living your dream. You keep swearing over and over that you are going to change. You’ve cried about not ending up in this same place again. You’ve even started creating pretty little memes about all the wonderful empowering things you say and sharing them with your networks. But are you serious?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

5 Ways to Kick Doubt Disappointment and Frustration

Ok, yes I know. You are already pushing toward that goal. You have taken the initiative and considered the risks were well worth the reward. Honestly, you did not see this as a choice. Your heart and soul were calling you to reach for this new level. Things felt great initially. You were feeling bold, decisive, strong, courageous, smart, and powerful. Then the unexpected happened. Now, you are having one of those moments in life. It may be a brief circumstance or an experience that never seems to end.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

The Abundance Challenge

One of the great ways to motivate yourself is to be intentional bringing abundance into your world. How abundant do you feel right now? How abundant is your life these days? Where could you use more abundance? This week, I want to challenge you to live in more abundance. For the rest of the week, look for opportunities to choose abundance over lack. Notice the decision points during each day and use them to bring more abundance into your life. Are you willing to do this? Make a game out of it. Pay attention to how it makes you feel.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

3 Tips To Help You Finish What You Enthusiastically Start

We have all done this at one point or another. The flash of genius. The rush of enthusiasm. The big burst of energy. Then along the way, your interest beings to wane. Life gets in the way. Progress slows to a crawl or stops entirely. The idea that was going to change the world is now heaped into a pile of other things that were going to change the world. And you totally plan to get back to that one day real soon...

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

4 Things You Must Remember To Maintain Your Hope In a Hopeless Situation

Yes, things look bleak. It’s really scary. You don’t know what you’re going to do and you don’t know what to do first. This is hard. It hurts. You’ve taken some losses; you’ve suffered some serious hits. I get it.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

25 Questions to Spark Your Productivity

What if you just stopped running that negative message over it again and again in your mind and started moving? How could you do both well? Why does getting this done mean so much to you? What story are you telling yourself that is getting in the way of your productivity? What could you do in this moment to move one step closer? Where is your support showing up in unexpected places? If you decided to do whatever it takes to make it work, how would things change? What are you doing today that will matter in 5 years?r

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Motivational Monday: Don’t Hate. Congratulate!

I wonder who was the first person was to say “Don’t hate. Congratulate!” If you know who it was, please send them a great big thank you for that bit of sage advice. It is true wisdom for the ages, particularly for someone like you. Yeah, I said it. Oh, but I am not talking about you throwing shade on someone else’s success, achievements and happiness. I am talking about the way you ignore your own.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

How to Deal with Your Anger in Constructive Ways

Wow, some people just know how to push your buttons, don’t they? Wait, I KNOW he did not just cut you off in rush hour traffic and you are already late as it is?! And why is she always so mean and nasty to you? This is her job. It’s what she gets paid to do. You would think Ms. Thing could understand that and just do it without the attitude. And why is it so hard for him to just leave you alone? You’re trying to be professional about this whole situation but he better not let the suit fool him! Hey, anybody ever heard of a thing called customer service around here?!

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

1,972 views

By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

5 Steps to Create Hope When Things Feel Hopeless

You did not except this. You are not happy about it. In fact, you are feeling pretty low about how things are happening. It may feel like you have no control. You may feel like you want to do something but you just don’t know what to do. The hopelessness can be overwhelming and make you feel stuck. Well, you do not have to exist in this space of hopelessness and despair. I want to share with you 5 steps to create hope when things feel hopeless. 1. Acknowledge That It Is What It Is Mama said there’d be days like this, There’d be days like this Mama said

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

It's Not As Bad As You May Think

No matter what the issue. No matter what the circumstance, you are probably making it more than it is. Now listen to me. I know this because I do it too. The fatalistic thinking. The dramatization. The negative worry, doubt, fears and criticism. Your imagination is running wild thinking of all the ways this could go wrong and how things could get worse and why the sky is falling. The sky isn’t falling. You have two choices. You can choose to keep spinning in circles screaming like a banshee and crying woe is me or you can choose to see that it is not as bad as you might think.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

1,773 views

By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Motivational Monday: 4 Quick Tips For Resetting Your Joy When It All Goes Wrong

Things didn’t turn out how you planned them. You may be feeling shock, surprise, anger, overwhelm, confusion, fear, frustration, grief, worry, or sadness about how things went so terribly wrong. Rationally, you know that the longer you dwell on what you don’t want creates more of what you don’t want but this one was a doozy. How are you supposed to pick up your joy from the floor before the dust has settled? Okay, perhaps it’s not all that bad but you are really emotionally attached to what is going on. You don’t really want to be upset. This was a wonderful day before things went wrong.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

The Right Love In Front Of Your Face

Did you see that? You missed it, didn’t you? Right there, while you were complaining about how terrible your life is right now, it happened. Love showed up.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

1,733 views

By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

5 Ways to Finally Do That Thing You Have Not Done Yet

I do not believe in coincidences. I believe you are reading this because you are ready to see this message. I trust you to know what this moment is challenging you to do. Or should I say what you are finally ready to do. Yes, this is about that thing you have been putting off. You are doing so many great things and that in itself is marvelous. You look like quite the overachiever from the outside. People wonder out loud how you do so many of the great things you do. Everyone thinks you have it all together.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

1,669 views

By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

5 Questions To Ask Yourself To Get Back On Track And Finish What You Started

Listen, you are not alone. You had so much enthusiasm at the beginning of that project. Your intentions were the best. You were so passionate, motivated, and excited about the impact it would have. Maybe you thought it would be more fun than it turned out to be. Maybe you got distracted by something more important, or something more fun, or something that you can’t even remember at the moment. Maybe once you jumped into it, you felt overwhelmed. You probably started criticizing yourself or doubting your own ability to make get it done. We all do it to some extent.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

4 Ways to Become a Grateful Gladiator

You are focused on what you don’t have and what is going wrong. I know there is a difference between where you are and where you think you need to be. The difference may seem insurmountable. The consequences may be terrible. The whole situation may be overwhelming. You feel like you are losing the fight. Let’s not think about that right now. No, I’m not asking you to wish away the reality of your situation. I’m not asking you to launch into denial about how serious your problem really is.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

3 Great Reasons To Be Yourself Today

Today, I want you to work on being exactly who you are. I know you have a ton of things to accomplish today, yet this is the most important thing that you can do for you and for the people you are around. There is no greater way to serve a purpose than to be exactly who you were made to be. Let me share this quick story with you to explain why.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

10 Reasons I Know Your Life Is Really Great Right Now

Hi. Yes, I know what you’re thinking. You are wondering how some person who doesn’t know you can tell you with certainty that your life is great. The thought running through your mind is probably: “How can you say that about me?” “You don’t know my life” “You don’t know what I’m going through” “You don’t know what I’ve been through” “You don’t understand how difficult this is” “I wouldn’t wish this situation on anyone else” “Things might be wonderful for other people but my life is NOT really great”

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

3 Tips To Chase Away A Bad Case Of The Monday Blues

Arrrrrgh! Stupid Mondays! You hate Mondays. Seriously, like why is it Monday AGAIN? Didn’t you just suffer through a Monday last week? I mean come on! Someone make it stop already. Did you notice how everything terrible happens on Monday? The sun is shining and you’re trying to be happy but Monday just won’t let you cook. And if one more things goes wrong… Sigh. You my friend have a bad case of the Mondays. It’s okay. It happens to the best of us from time to time.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Hey Listen, You Complain Way Too Much!

Yes, you. I’m writing this specifically for you to read. Someone needs to tell you, and I care enough about you to do it. Listen, you are a very lovely person. No seriously. You have a good heart and are accomplishing wonderful things. The people around you admire your strength and dedication in what you do.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

1,349 views

By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Your Negative Nancy Emergency Preparedness Plan

Every now and again you run into someone that does not have anything positive to say. That Negative Nancy insists on sharing horrible tales of injustice and songs of woe. Hearing them whine and complain about the sunrise or the effervescent giggles of a small child, you begin to wonder when they swore and oath to be contradictory curmudgeon. Then, every now and again you look in the mirror and see that Negative Nancy starting right back at you. How many times have you heard yourself complaining and wished you knew how to back away from that place of doom and gloom?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

5 Ways to Get Unstuck and Improve Your Quality of Life Right Now

1. Think about What ‘Quality’ Means for You

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Motivational Monday: What Will You Choose To Remember?

This moment is going to end. When it does, what story will you tell about it? Which memories will you store away to capture what happened? What will you choose to remember?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

4 Reason to Kick Your Bucket List to the Curb

So some old guy with a terminal diagnosis decides to run off and create some grand adventures before it all ends. It was a fun movie that sparked a worldwide phenomenon. People everywhere have started busting out of the doldrums of ordinary living to “live” by seeking incredible memories and making lists of adrenaline pumping adventures to experience before they die. Yawn.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Say Yes To Your Most Purposeful Self

Be honest with yourself for just a moment. No one else matters right now. Let’s talk about what you really want. This is not about what you are responsible for. This is not about what they want you to do. Just for this moment, don’t conce yourself about what should be. Sit with the idea that you could have it. Yes, something floated into your thoughts and you have stopped reading this long enough to push that thought away.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Keep Hope Alive

Yes, I know and let’s go beyond thinking about the messenger to the meaning of the message. Keep. Hope. Alive. It’s a demand, not a request. It’s a challenge that is yours to take. What does that mean to you in this moment of your life? What circumstances are attacking your level of hope? What corner of your mind is struggling with a conce about the future? What nerve do I have to demand that you keep hope alive in the midst of what you are going through right now?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

That Was Then, This is Now

Stop telling yourself that you can’t. That was then. This is now. Stop telling yourself that you aren’t. That was then. This is now. Stop telling yourself that you haven’t. That was then. This is now. Stop claiming that you don’t. That was then. This is now.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Calvary Is Here

Something I saw and then heard myself telling someone the other day that touched me: “I know it’s really attractive to think that [name] is coming to help you or save you from this situation. We all want to be cared for so I get that. I need you to hear and really understand that there is NO cavalry coming to save you. YOU are the one God sent to save you. You are the one that will decide how long you are in this situation.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Motivational Monday: No More Lame Excuses

I can’t afford it. I’m too busy. I don’t really need it. I’ll do it later. I don’t deserve it. I’m in a good place right now. What lame excuse is your inner critic using to keep you where you are? What lies are you telling yourself to avoid taking any action on this divine window of opportunity that just dropped into your lap?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Overwhelmed, Fearful, and Angry? Congratulations That is Great!

For good reasons or for reasons you cannot even explain, you are not in a good place right now. You might be spinning in circles in totally sensory overload; feeling completely overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done. Fantastic! You might be really afraid of what is about to happen or what is being asked of you. Marvelous! Do you hear yourself ranting about something ridiculous, or everything, or nothing at all? As you listen to yourself, are you wondering who this insane person is and why are they so mad about such silly little things? Congratulations!

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Choosing Your Response to a Tragedy

This was a tough weekend. If you’re not emotionally drained, chances are you know someone who is. Our hearts and thoughts are with the families and communities experiencing the most unthinkable loss and grief. When a tragedy occurs, your heart can ache searching for a way to return to a sense of normalcy and peace. You may even be wondering if you have any right to want peace when mothers and fathers are only beginning to deal with so much pain.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Reasons To Selfishly Help Yourself The Way You Help Others

Yes, selfish. Did I startle you? I hope that doesn’t seem like a shocking concept. It almost sounds like I’m totally advocating for you to help yourself as much if not more than you help others. Well, I am. Now before you go rejecting the very thought and getting upset that I told you to be selfish, let me tell you why I’m telling you to be selfish. I know it’s uncomfortable to think about. I’ll give you a minute to finish reacting to that word before I give you 3 reasons to selfishly help yourself the way you help others. Just breathe and hear me out.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Playing Games with Your Mood

So my niece is back in town for just a bit and we got together with the family for some fellowship yesterday. As we sat down to the

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

10 Questions From A 'No Matter What' Attitude

It's just after 3am right now and I'm on a Northeast train headed to a business meeting in another city. I'm really not a morning person and I'm very sleepy. Make no mistake - this is not the way I normally chose to spend my early mornings. When I get off the train, I'm headed straight to my meeting which will last the entire day. I'm making all of this effort because this meeting is a thing that matters to me a great deal. We find ways to do the things that really matter to us. No. matter. what.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

A Round of Applause For The Past Year

Before we all go off to celebrate another ending and new beginning, may I encourage you to remember why you are right where you are, and celebrate all those things you did accomplish in 2012.

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Okay, But What If You Could?

Okay but what if you could learn to live the life that you really wanted? Yes, and maybe there’s another explanation for what happened. What if you could allow someone who knows more about it to help you get it done? Well, could there be another way to make it happen? Alright, so will you be open to allow yourself to try again? I know, but if you keep thinking about it, perhaps you might admit it still matters? I hear you, but what if you could afford to? Yes, but what if you could? That’s great but how would you respond if you truly valued your worth?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

The One Day Soon You've Been Waiting For

Oh boy! This is it. YES! It’s finally here. Um, don’t sit there like you don’t know what I’m talking about. Today is THE day! You remember?

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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By Adrienne FikesRecently published1 topic

Keep the Happy In Your Holiday

Listen, I know how expectations can build during a holiday. This day is no exception. I just want to encourage you to stay focused on the things that matter. Please don’t allow the hype and frenzy to derail your peace and joy. Listen, I’ll make a deal with you. If you agree do what you can to make the best of this holiday and be positive and calm, I’ll give you a few practical ways to keep the joy and merriment out ahead of the stress and strain. Don’t just wish about a happy holiday. Do something. Deal? Cool beans. Check Yourself First

Primary topic: Personal Accountability

Personal Accountability

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