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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: let the small things go and don't pick each other apart - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from ...
Views: 978(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My brothers did not like my choice - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am a PhD student in Computer Science and Mathematics in Europe. I am interested in your blog which helps to a lot of people to find the best solution in their lives. I have also some problems in my private life. I would be very grateful if you could give me ...
Views: 1286(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is a great person, but a spoiled brat. - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your website and decided to write you via e-mail. The reason being is that my lover for the past three years has left me and I now am trying to afford the house and dogs and everything else we bought together with one income. My ex is a great person, but a spoiled brat. ...
Views: 704(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My father opposes my inter-racial relationship - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My question of the week is how to deal with family opposition of my inter-racial relationship. My dad, who is in his 70s, is vehemently opposed to my relationship with my fiance (who is white). He hasn't even met him and given him a chance. It is quite frustrating given that ...
Views: 900(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. - by Submitted on May 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever bring the topic she is always mad at me. I don't know maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help Dear Reader: You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to like it. Instead, ...
Views: 798(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend doesn't think she can handle this relationship. - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing ...
Views: 654(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband's one-night-stand is pregnant - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband had a one night stand several weeks ago. He told me about it. We've been going to counseling for several months and were doing great. We just found out she's pregnant. I love my husband, but can I work through this? Dear ...
Views: 1413(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost the use of his left ...
Views: 847(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife has been unhappy with me for years. - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your article on "The Nail in the Fence: Healing Relationship Wounds". I am a thirty-something man living on the West Coast. My wife and I have been together for ten years, married for six. We have three small children, and my wife has a pre-teen daughter ...
Views: 1076(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My Wife is Totally Shut Down - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife is totally shutdown and she does not know what to do. She wants to talk to someone for help and also for taking a decision that can help her to decide the future of us as a couple if is still possible or not. I just know that in the end I was very bad at her during ...
Views: 1348(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Now That We Are Together, Things Have Changed. - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we were talking and going on occasional dates for a good 5 months before we finally made it offical. Now that we are together things have changed. She ignores me when we are around friends and family. When I ask her if she ...
Views: 1002(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Older men and younger women - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article regarding younger men and older women; but what about older men and younger women who fall in love? What is to be said about that? I am in my 40s (and in my prime), and I have met the most wonderful woman in my entire life ...
Views: 1388(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Our sex life has been very bad - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My husband of almost 9 years just told me about 2 months ago that he is in love with someone else. About 5 years ago I caught him cheating on me with this girl and he told me that it was over and it was just for the sex. Then 2 years later I found out that he was ...
Views: 710(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Perhaps my desire will never be realized - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Not knowing just where to begin, I will simply state that I am a man in my mid-fifties, who possesses exceptional health and fitness, and who has been in love with a much younger woman, (mid-thirties), for many years and who has just lost her husband through ...
Views: 1091(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Perhaps we should have ended it sooner - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm currently going through a divorce after more than twenty years of ...
Views: 673(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Q: My father died 1 1/2 years ago. My mom always snaps at me and my older brother and I think she has a serious problem. I personally think it's a power struggle because she feels like she is loosing control over my brother and I. But, what she ...
Views: 564(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She cannot forgive all the hurt I have caused her - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name in an article titled "How Not to Repeat Past Relationship Mistakes". My wife and I have been together since for over ten years, and have 3 children. and my wife has a daughter from a previous relationship. We have been seeing a marriage ...
Views: 846(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She is verbally abusive to me - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a retired police officer who found his wife sneaking around with another man 3 years ago. We have 3 kids. I cook and clean and up ...
Views: 1279(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She makes me feel like I'm worthless - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading an article that you have written and it caught my attention. im in an relationship where the lady is older then me. it started of great then six months later its like reality hit hard, i love this lady so much she makes me feel like i dont have a care in the ...
Views: 1197(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she refuses to remove the dead roses her ex gave her - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am confused, i am in love with this woman but she refuses to remove the dozen roses her ex gave her and are now dead. She says she doesn't want him she just wants me but it's hard to swallow when every time we are in the bedroom there are the dead roses from her ...
Views: 1054(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she slapped my face and departed - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a ...
Views: 994(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I go where she is? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My ex and I lived in the UK. She dumped me a few months ago and she went to France as an exchange student. She will be back next year, but at that time I will have graduated and left school here, and she will be doing her final year here. so as you ...
Views: 914(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I say something? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Should I say something? I'm reaching out to you for advice, I came across your blog recently and wanted to see what you had to offer. I'm kind of in a weird situation, I'm interested in this girl that I work with, we have great chemistry and make each other laugh non-stop, we ...
Views: 1193(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I say yes to him? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend of a month and a week was planing a surprise for my birthday (he was trying to keep it a secret.) well we got in to a fight 3 days ago and last night I took him back. He was talking to my bff on im and he told her I took him back and told her he ...
Views: 962(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I stay in this relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had a really bad ending on my last relationship we were engaged. I moved into another relationship a month after he ended it. I was very lonely and my new relationship seemed perfect. Now I'm starting to get mixed emotions about my man. We have been together now 1 year. ...
Views: 779(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I try to fuel the desires or calm them? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "Age Differences in Dating " I'm single, in my early thirties. for the last, i'd say 6 years, i have been extremely attracted to women in their forties. it's both a physical and mental attraction. i live in an upscale part of the ...
Views: 1058(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Something Might Just Happen! - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I think I may be having some difficulty within my marriage! :( I dont really know if you can even help me! Maybe even give me some recommendations! I've been married for over 25 yrs. and we are in our 50s. Ever since we had a child 13 yrs ago there has been no more ...
Views: 1359(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Strangely, I still love this man - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ...
Views: 847(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented ...
Views: 1474(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: the truth made me feel worse. - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I dated a woman for about a year who was divorced with a small child. For most of our time together, I believed that I had found the best person ever. She was very honest, open minded, considerate, respectful, loving, and kind. Our relationship was excellent. ...
Views: 1059(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: They say I am a diamond as a man - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thanks for sharing the great article "A Good Cry" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have a question about it: "....If you're trying to help someone cope with a loss, don't try to make the bereaved person feel better. It just ...
Views: 712(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: This roller coaster of emotions has changed me. - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ...
Views: 1263(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are ...
Views: 643(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ...
Views: 730(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What can an older man do to win a younger woman? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...
Views: 3817(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your ...
Views: 1547(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. ...
Views: 771(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What does fighting in a relationship mean? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Ok. So my boyfriend and I are 11 months strong, but for the past maybe 4 or 5 months it has been on and off fighting. From big and important things to tiny pointless things. I dont understand why this is happening to us.. why? How canthis be resolved? I need help! Dear ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 902(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal ...
Views: 1637(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
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