"I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line."
--Lucile Ball, 1911-1989, Comedienne and Actress
Lucile Ball was a very smart woman!
Do you believe that if you put others first, they will love and value you and you will feel loved? Has this worked for you?
Do you believe that if you love yourself first you are being selfish? Is it selfish to attend to your own feelings and needs so that you are not needy of others attention to you? Is it selfish to learn how to fill yourself up with love so that you have plenty of love to share with others, or is it actually selfish to expect others to do this for you?
Who is really being selfish?
In my definition of selfish, the first two examples are of people who are being selfish, and the third example is of people who are being self-responsible.
Loving yourself first is self-responsible. Loving yourself first means that:
It is true that everything else falls into line when you take care of yourself first. Far from being selfish, it is actually the opposite of selfish.
Why don't more people do this? If you are not doing it, why not?
If you are operating from any of these false beliefs, then you are likely stuck abandoning yourself rather than loving yourself.
"Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line." This statement is absolutely true. If you are not loving yourself first, then it is likely that things are not falling into line for you. Consider changing your intent from getting love to being loving - to yourself first, so that you can then share your love with others.
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