Many men I know are unhappy and are completely lost. It sounds dramatic, but many men feel like they’re living in a plagued society burdened with disease. Infected and looking to the heavens, they need answers to prayers that aren’t heard. Most men are not even sure why they feel the way they do. It’s sad to say a guide is needed on how to be a man these days. Not all their fault men need help that they instinctively despise asking for. What they need is an invention.
Plagues have occurred throughout history. But men have battled them by using their minds to create new inventions.
In the 1300’s Europe suffered one of the deadliest pandemics mankind has ever known. The unborn hero that could stop this merciless killer would come 600 years too late.
The Black Death plague is estimated to have killed 30–60 percent of Europe's population, reducing the world's population from an estimated 450 million to between 350 and 375 million in the 14th century. The aftermath of the plague created a series of religious, social and economic upheavals, which had profound effects on the course of European history. It took 150 years for the population to recover.
The word Antibiotic comes from the word “antibiosis”. In 1889 a pupil named Paul Vuillemin coined the phrase antibiosis which means “using life to destroy life”. In 1929 Sir Alexander Fleming observed that colonies of the bacterium Staphylococcus aureus could be destroyed by the mold Penicillium notatum, demonstrating antibacterial properties.
Fleming’s discovery was profound but was useless to stop Black Death or any other infectious disease. An invention was needed if this “mold” were to be used as a lifesaving wonder. A hero is born.
Use of penicillin did not begin until the 1940s, when the British men Howard Florey and Ernst Chain isolated the active ingredient and invented a powdery form of the medicine. As a result of their work, two members of the British group were awarded the Nobel Prize. Team member Dr. Andrew J. Moyer discovered mold from the cantaloupe as the most potent source, and he was later inducted into the Inventors Hall of Fame.
On May 25, 1948, Andrew J Moyer was granted a patent for a method of the mass production of penicillin. Antibiotics continue to evolve through the scientific process, rising to meet the challenges of newer, stronger strains of infectious disease. The invention of antibiotics has saved countless lives over the past 60 years. But medical drugs can’t cure everything.
While in Berlin, Germany a few weeks back, my friend Patrick and fellow coach said to me “you know, this is the greatest invention ever”. I knew what he was talking about, but his comment was so profound it stopped me in my tracks. He was talking about technology invented by a unification theorist and Men’s Psychology Magazine founder Dr. Paul Dobransky.
Dr. Paul didn’t invent all of the science used in his educational courses, but he has uniquely brought it together for the first time in history. Included among his courses are in depth human courtship models based on the triune brain theory. This unification and bonding of products offers real life strategy for achieving durable fulfillment. It also gives any man the chance at building unique tactics for any situation to fit his life. The invisible world of psychology is defined and drawn out for personal usefulness. Vague terms like “self-esteem” are easily understood and now attainable. How valuable would it be to wake up most mornings feeling like you’re on top of the world?
Is it too much to compare the importance of Dr. Paul’s beautifully elegant inventions to the power of antibiotics? Given the current state of failed relationships, I say "no." People around the world are drifting in a black abyss under the feeling of crushing loneliness.
Think of the ripple affect broken homes have on American society today. It’s alarming what the statistics say about how poorly boys do growing up without a father. Anger, Depression, suicidal tendencies, alcohol and drug abuse are just a few behaviors more prevalent in young men growing up without fathers.
Hunger for an absent dad plagues a boy throughout his life and plagues our society at this very moment. All the world's big game hunting can’t satisfy a man’s need for a true "initiation" into manhood. The honor of a boy becoming a man is supposed to be passed down from his father. So much of our prison population really results of absentee fathers who had failed at relationships long before they failed at being a dad.
And what about the destroyed emotions of little girls growing up without a father? Girls who never feel the strong protection and warm-hearted approval of a father grow up incomplete, if not broken.
At death, the Greeks asked only one question: “Did he live with passion”? The word "passion" originally meant suffering and love/sex. The Greeks were not fans of arbitrary, needless human suffering. By asking that question, I think they meant, “Did he suffer from amazing love and sex?”
Like the plague of centuries ago, today, men everywhere lie on metaphorical death beds. They are broken men slipping into forever. Looking back over their lives, they realize they’ve been covered in the fog of Depresculinity, haunting them for most of the journey. They never leave a legacy from their life’s mission and never feel the love of a great woman. Far too many men just expire, passionless.
It’s hard to appreciate and comprehend the importance of something without ever having the necessity for it. It’s been said that necessity is the mother of all inventions.
A few years ago, I found myself in the most barren wasteland, and it hardly seemed real. My divorce could be made into a movie because it was that exciting. It was so gut wrenching to experience, and the betrayal was so deep, I may take certain events to my death bed. Following my divorce, a beloved career in Real Estate Development came crashing down. My shame turned to rage following the two events. My reptilian brain signaled that my death was near.
My necessity couldn’t have been any greater in those days, and I made a decision to keep moving and find a cure. Today I have no shame in telling you that some of Dr. Paul’s inventions created a spark of hope and gave me the psychological shot I needed to survive. A man's inventions turned my hope into reality.
Paul Dobransky, M.D. is a board-certified psychiatrist, public speaker and relationship expert who has treated more than 10,000 patients in 15+ years in clinical psychiatric care. Journalists and clients worldwide have sought Dr. Paul's advice on dating, relationships and all aspects of human psychology.
Dr. Paul pioneered MindOS, a new, patent-pending approach to understanding relationships, mood problems and stress. MindOS synthesizes all schools of therapy into a single, effective system-based approach that uses plain language to help people understand psychology and solve problems. Go to http://www.menspsychology.com/ to learn more.