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- Acceptance: Is Acceptance Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it could be said that the ideal will be for one life’s to go as they want it to go, this doesn’t always take place. Instead, they can have moments when they don’t get what they want and there can be times when something ‘negative’ will occur. Resistance When something like this ...
Views: 1405 - Acceptance: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Accept Themselves? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest needs a human being has is to be accepted for who they are. But while this is the case, it doesn’t necessarily mean that one has been able to fulfil this need or that they believe it is even possible for them to fulfil it. If people were generally encouraged to be ...
Views: 3533 - Achievement: Why Would Someone Feel Depressed After They Have Achieved Something? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone may be working towards something, and this could be something that they hope to achieve in a few months or it could be slightly longer. And, due to how important it is to them, it could also consume a lot of their attention. So, throughout the day and when they ...
Views: 326 - Acting Out: Can Someone Act Out Feeling Helpless If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the tendency to feel totally helpless, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. However, when they feel this way, it is going to have an effect on how they behave. This is likely to be a time when they will behave in ways that typically don’t serve them ...
Views: 300 - Addiction: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Addiction? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear the word ‘addiction’, there is a strong chance they would start to think about an alcoholic or a drug addict. This is not because it is impossible to be addicted to anything else; it is because of how addiction is often portrayed in today’s world. As a result of this, it ...
Views: 1911 - Addiction: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Addictive Personalities? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to drink alcohol or even take drugs without their whole life being taken over, there are others who are not able to exercise the same level of self-control. If they were to drink or to even take drugs, they would soon find that their life has been taken over. One ...
Views: 2267 - Addiction: Is A Lack Of Connection The Root Cause Of Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video online titled, ‘Could the Root Cause of Addiction actually be a lack of Connection?’, and this video posits that a lack of connection causes addiction. It also says that “not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but they can all be traced to a painful ...
Views: 1163 - Adrenalin: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Addicted To Adrenaline? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to get an idea of what it is like to experience adrenalin, they could imagine what it would be like if ten people were running after them. Not only will their body be in fight or flight mode, they will also experience a surge of energy and feel alive. What plays a part in ...
Views: 1003 - Adult Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Outsource Their Adult Self? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. The reason for this is that, in general, they could look towards others to make decisions for them, to stand up for them and for guidance about how to live their life. Based on this, when it comes to how they ...
Views: 441 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to change their self-image, they might end up using affirmations. This could be because someone else has recommended this approach, or it could be something they have decided upon. However, although one may have decided to use them, it doesn’t mean that they will have ...
Views: 1763 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Delude Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time with people who affirm their worth, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. This is because human beings are interdependent, and this is why the responses of others play an important part in their self-image. However, although one’s ...
Views: 1623 - Affirmations: Why Don’t Affirmations Always Work? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many ways out there for one to change what is taking place within them and to therefore see themselves differently. With these changes making it possible for them to feel empowered and to be able to live the life they desire. Now, although change can seem instant at times, it ...
Views: 1857 - After Death Communication: Do Some People Try To Contact Their Loved Ones To Avoid Facing Their Grief? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people lose a loved one, they may think that that’s the end of it and that it’s not possible for them to talk to them again. In this case, they will have to rely on their memories and the memories other people have. There are then going to be others to believe this is not the case, ...
Views: 1748 - After You Have Taken My Course, You Will Be Completely Healed! - by Submitted on May 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since I wrote the articles, ‘My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!’ and ‘Every Healer Has issues!’, I have been reflecting on the kind of experiences I have had on the courses that I have done. There were times when I was in a desperate position and this meant that my thinking ...
Views: 1320 - Aggression: Can A Man Reject His Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a car won’t go anywhere without power, a man is also not going to get very far without being connected to his own power. When it comes to what will provide him with the power that he needs, his aggression is going to play a big part. Now, this is something that will give ...
Views: 291 - Aggression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a head, heart and a body, it doesn’t mean that all each of these parts of their being will be embraced. As a result of this, they can look like a whole human being from the outside but it doesn’t mean that they are whole on the inside. One can then be aware of what is ...
Views: 837 - Aggression: What Can Happen When Men Reject Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across as happy, they are likely to be accepted by the people around them. However, if they were to come across as aggressive, they may not receive the same level of approval. Now, this is not to say that this is black and white as it can all depend on the context, but ...
Views: 1529 - Alone: Can Someone Feel Deeply Alone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal is for someone to either feel alone or to be out of touch with how they feel and not feel anything. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Alternatively, they could spend a lot of time around others and not a great deal of time by themselves. ...
Views: 284 - Aloof Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThis is an area I have been reflecting on for many years, pondering and asking myself why such behaviour exists. And with my recent expression through writing, felt it was time to talk about this interesting and often confusing area of behaviour. So here, based on my experience and ...
Views: 31446 - Altruism: Is Altruism An Illusion? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one went into a populated area and started to observe other people’s behaviour, they may start to see that not everyone has the same focus. There may be some people who are only concerned with their own well-being, and there could be others who are also concerned about the well-being of the ...
Views: 1591 - Always Right: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They Are Always Right? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in someone’s life where they are right and there are going to be times when they are wrong. If human beings were all-knowing, then this wouldn’t be something that would occur. However, as it is not possible for someone to know everything there is to know, there ...
Views: 1726 - Ambition: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Ambitious? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have absolutely no desire to do anything, there are others who find it hard to sit still. When it comes to the former, one might be only too happy to stay in bed all day. Yet, when it comes to the latter, they may be only too happy to get out of bed and to get ...
Views: 1372 - Anger Problems: Can A Man Use Anger To Mask His Hurt? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys ...
Views: 240 - Anger: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Anger With Being Isolated? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThe part of someone’s being that provides them with aggression and thus anger and rage is there to protect them. Along with this, it will give them the energy and drive that they need to get things done. It will then allow them to take care of the basics, so their ‘lower’ needs and to go ...
Views: 294 - Anger: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne way to look at anger would be to say that it is something that someone experiences when they feel violated in some way. Therefore, to say that anger is bad wouldn’t be accurate. Nonetheless, if they were to become consumed by their anger and lost the ability to behave in a conscious ...
Views: 742 - Anger: Can Repressed Anger Cause Skin Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that every emotion has a purpose, and this means that it is going to be important for one to pay attention to all of them. However, even though this is the case, it can be easier said than done. What this comes down to is that while they might be able to embrace certain ...
Views: 1661 - Anger: Can Repressed Anger Cause Someone To Lose Control When They Get Angry? - by Submitted on May 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are in touch with their anger, there are others who are out of touch with it. As a result of this, these people can end up coming across as being radically different. Full of Energy When it comes to the former, they can find it easy to stand their ground, ...
Views: 1340 - Anger: Can Someone Carry Lot of Anger If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often feel angry and even enraged. At times, due to how worked up they become, they could lose the ability to think clearly and do things that they later regret. This could be how they have been for as long ...
Views: 202 - Anger: Can Someone End Up With Anger Problems If They Don't Feel Safe Enough To Fulfil Their Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of emotional problems that are fairly common in today’s world, and it is hard to say for certain how common they are. Even so, this is not to say that each problem will receive the same amount of sympathy. For example, if someone suffers from depression, they may find ...
Views: 1080 - Anger: Can Someone Use Anger To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are unable to get angry, there are others who are more or less always angry. As a result of this, it could be said that these people are out of balance. At Times Still, if one is not always angry, then they could be in a position where they have moments ...
Views: 1277 - Anger: Can Someone Use Boxing/Martial Arts To Deal With Their Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of people who suffer from depression, there is also no shortage of people who have anger problems. Still, this is not to say that someone can either have one of the other, as it is unlikely to be this black and white. A Different Experience For example, one could ...
Views: 1652 - Anger: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are certain emotions that are seen as acceptable and some that are not. And what is seen as acceptable to one gender is not necessarily seen as acceptable to the other. While a woman can come across as being sad without being judged, if a man was ...
Views: 1894 - Anger: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked about how people can suffer mentally and emotionally, they could end up talking about depression. This could be because they have suffered from it themselves, or it could be something that one of their friends has experienced. However, there is also the chance that they ...
Views: 1609 - Anger: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to express every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are stuck on one end of the spectrum. When this happens, it is not going to be possible for someone to be a whole human being. This may mean that one is always ‘positive’, and that they ...
Views: 1935 - Anger: Do Some People Use Anger To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in today’s world who have trouble with their anger, with this being something that has taken over their life. But, while there are people like this who reach out for support, there are others who don’t. If someone in this position was to reach out for assistance and ended ...
Views: 850 - Anger: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a number of people were asked what they think about anger, some of them might say that it is a ‘bad’ emotion. This is then going to be something that is black and white, meaning that it is not open for debate. Someone like this could talk about how this is an emotion that only causes ...
Views: 1165 - Anger: Do You Feel Uncomfortable When Other People Get Angry? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt unhappy and they were to meet a friend who was happy, they could soon start to feel different. Their emotional state has then been transformed through being in the other person's presence. This can happen without one having to really do anything, and their life doesn't have to ...
Views: 3595 - Anger: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable embracing all of their feelings, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are not going to experience life in the same way, and when it comes to people who fall into the second category, their life is going to be harder than it needs ...
Views: 1286 - Anger: Does The Fear Of Losing Control Stop Some People From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings have the ability to experience a wide range of emotions, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable doing so. As a result of this, there are going to be people who only allow themselves to experience certain emotions. Two Parts Yet, even if one does feel ...
Views: 1468 - Anger: How Can People React When Someone Embraces Their Anger For The First Time? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone’s relationships can be an expression of their true-self, they can also be an expression of their false-self. What this means is that one can be surrounded by people who don’t know who they really are. Unaware Even so, this doesn’t mean that these people will realise this, ...
Views: 1274 - Anger: Is Anger An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain emotions that are often described as being negative and others that are often described as being positive. And in today’s world of positive thinking and of always needing to be happy, embracing the other side of one’s emotional spectrum is generally frowned upon. Based on ...
Views: 1789 - Anger: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to grow and develop, it will be important for the right conditions to be in place. This is something gardeners understand and as a result of this, they are able to create the right conditions for seeds to grow, among other things. Without this understanding, it ...
Views: 1686 - Anger: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Angry? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be people who feel comfortable expressing every emotion on the spectrum and then there are going to be others who are not in the same position. When someone does feel comfortable with their emotions, they are not going to deny how they feel. This will allow them to not ...
Views: 10513 - Anger: Why Do Some People Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges in the world today and some of these challenges are to do with emotions; from depression, to suicide and a whole myriad of other things. And emotions cannot simply be ignored or dismissed. They deserve and need as much attention as ones diet or physical health. ...
Views: 3853 - Anger: Why Don't Some People Get Angry When They Need To? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are many examples in people’s private’s lives and in the world at large of anger that is openly expressed and out of control, there is another dynamic that is often overlooked and this is because it is not as easy to recognise. This is when one should get angry and express how ...
Views: 1965 - Anxiety: Can A Man Suffer From Anxiety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he often feels on edge. He might see that he has only just started to experience life in this way or it could be something that he has experienced for a little while. Regardless of how long he ...
Views: 275 - Anxiety: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Anxiety? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find is that they often feel anxious. When this takes place, they can feel tense, their breathing rate can increase, and it can be hard for them to think clearly, among other things. This might be something that only ...
Views: 86 - Anxiety: Can Someone End Up With Anxiety Problems If They Don’t Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough mental and emotional problems have taken centre stage in today’s world, there was a time when they were not really given the time of day. One way to look at this would be to say that it is a good thing that this has taken place. A Healthier Approach The reason for this is that if ...
Views: 1111 - Anxiety: Can Someone Experience Anxiety If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere appears to be a lot of people in today’s world who suffer from anxiety, and while this may be something that only affects certain areas of their life, it may be far more severe. When it relates to the former, there may be times when they are able to settle down and to feel at peace. ...
Views: 881 - Anxiety: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Experience Anxiety? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with other people, they may find that they are able to be themselves. This means that there is going to be no reason for them to put on an act and to pretend they are someone else. Therefore, if they have something on their mind, they will be able to speak up. And if ...
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