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- Child Abuse: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, one may find that it is a challenge for them to feel good about themselves. Their time on this planet is then going to be anything but fulfilling. In fact, it could seem as though they are in hell as opposed to hell being somewhere ...
Views: 732 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone might not have much motivation in life. This is, of course, will be in addition to all of the other challenges that they may have. So instead of having the need to embrace life and to make the most of the life that they have ...
Views: 731 - Do The Things That Empower You - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as someone can need to eat certain things to function at their best, they can also need to do certain things to be able to feel empowered. As a result of this, if they don’t do certain things, they won’t be able to feel strong and alive. However, if someone has felt disempowered for a ...
Views: 731 - Support: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To Support Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone’s early years would have been a time when they were supported and given what they needed to grow and develop. Providing this took place, one should be able to support themselves now that they are an adult. One will then be classed as someone who is self-sufficient or ...
Views: 731 - Survival: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Survival To Others? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a lot of what one needs to survive, and even thrive, will come from others, it doesn’t mean that their survival is dependent on one person or a group of people. What this then means, is that one is not going to need to please one person or a group of people in order to survive. One ...
Views: 731 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Repressed Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that what took place when they were a child will be over. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced during this stage of their life will be firmly in the past. What could add weight to this view is that if they were to think about this stage ...
Views: 730 - Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop Extreme Views? - by Submitted on May 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term ‘extreme views’ is mentioned, all kinds of things could enter someone’s mind. They could think about what they last heard from the mainstream media, or what they last heard from the alternative media. Then again, their mind could give them clear examples of extreme views without ...
Views: 730 - Critical Thinking: Does The Sexualised Western World Make It Hard For Men To Focus? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is likely to stand out for someone who has lived in the western world for at least fifty years, is how sexualised it has become. The reason it will stand out so clearly for someone like this is because they would have been around before it was this way. They will be able to ...
Views: 730 - Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being. What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At ...
Views: 730 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In A Struggle For Love If She Is Trying To Change A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a number of months have passed, a woman may see that her partner is overly focused on his mother. Regardless of if this stood out in the beginning, then, it will now be something that is only too clear. The next step can be for her to talk to him about what is going on, to see if she ...
Views: 729 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ...
Views: 728 - Do Our Feelings Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on May 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you feel good, you could believe that it is due to what is taking place externally. Likewise, if you feel bad, you could also believe that it is due to what is taking place externally. In both cases, you won’t have played a part in how you feel, and you will be nothing more than a passive ...
Views: 728 - We All Judge Others - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a strong chance that someone will have heard, at least once, that they shouldn’t judge others. If they are into self-development/spirituality, they may have heard this more times than they can remember. One way to look at this would be to say that this is sage advice. For one thing, ...
Views: 728 - Masculinity: Do Some Women's Childhoods Set Them Up To Become Overly Masculine? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, it has been said that men have become more feminine and women have become more masculine. Naturally, this is a generalisation and doesn’t apply to every man/woman in the western world. And when something like this is said, it could simply be an observation that someone has ...
Views: 727 - Neglect: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not realise that they were neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be firmly behind them. Their physical appearance will have changed and they might even live in a totally different environment, but their adult life could have a lot in common with ...
Views: 727 - "The Reason For Evil In The World Is That People Are Not Able To Tell Their Stories" - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard the quote above by Carl Jung, I had a clear idea about what he was talking about. My interpretation of what he said is that unless someone is able to talk about what they have been through, they will end up harming others. This is not to say that they will end up killing millions ...
Views: 726 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Ignorance? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to find out about if something is true or not, it will most likely be vital for them to have access to a wide range of information. When this takes place, it will be possible for them to come to an accurate conclusion. Simply having access to a lot of information won’t be ...
Views: 726(1 vote) - Emotionally Shut Down: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause To Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to go through a challenging time, is that they end up losing touch with their emotional self. Perhaps they have just experienced a break up or lost a loved one. This wouldn’t have been something that one chose to do; it would have been something that ...
Views: 726 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Good Idea To Tell Another Person That They Are ‘Unlucky’? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find out that a friend or a family member was going through a challenging time, they could end up reaching out to them. This could be a time when they will ask them about what has been going on. The other person could tell them that their partner is not treating them very ...
Views: 725 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Focus On Other People’s Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people’s problems. When this takes place, they could end up being seen as ...
Views: 725 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are. There is then going to be a big ...
Views: 724 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Lose Themselves When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to get into a relationship, is that they start to lose touch with who they are. So as the weeks and months go by, they will be nothing like they were in the beginning. Or to be more precise, they will be nothing like the person they were when they ...
Views: 724 - Are You Wasting Your Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are so many things to focus on; in both the real world and the virtual world. If someone lives in a big city, practically as soon as they leave their house their senses could be overloaded. There can be adverts on the side of taxis, buses, above buildings and on billboards. ...
Views: 723 - Self-Image: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Incapable? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who is capable, it is naturally going to have a positive effect on their life. Through having this view, it will allow them to take the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. Thanks to how they feel about themselves, they will believe that they ...
Views: 723(1 vote) - Neglect: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Emotional Pain If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was a neglected as a child, there will have been the pain that they went through for many years while they were younger and, now that they are an adult, there can be all the pain that they experience. What took place will have happened a long time go, that much is clear, but time ...
Views: 722 - Word Association Can Allow You To Access Your Unconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, it has been well documented that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. One way to get an idea of the difference would be to see the former as the tip of the iceberg and the latter as the part of the iceberg that can’t be seen. Another way of looking at ...
Views: 721 - Your Inner Child Is Waiting For You To Listen - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could find that they often feel down or angry and/or that they have the tendency to overreact. Regardless of what is going on for them, they may look into what they can do to experience life differently. Before long, they could try to change what is going on in their mind - with what is ...
Views: 721 - There Is A Difference Between Needing Help And Being Ready For Help - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was l watching one of the live video calls that I did with Errol Campbell, there was something that he said at the end that stood out. He basically said that the people who were watching the video were free to share it with those who were ready, not those who simply needed it. Hearing ...
Views: 720 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Traumatised So That They Will Accept Their Own Enslavement? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about mental health and how so many people are not in a good way. Now, although some people are not in a good way due to something that they have personally been through, it could be said that there are others are not in a good way due to what the modern day ...
Views: 719 - Relationships: Can Someone's Need To Save Others Have A Negative Effect On Their Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear that their friend is going through a tough time, they could give them a call or go to see them. No matter what they do, this could still be a time when they will listen to what they have to say and offer their support. Conversely, if they are in a relationship and ...
Views: 719 - Stoicism: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Stoic? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to self-development, a lot has been said about how important it is to be able to experience self-control and to be resilient. Naturally, these are two incredibly important abilities to have in life. If one is unable to control themselves, it is going to be a challenge for ...
Views: 719 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Want A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man looks like a man, it doesn’t mean that he feels likes like a man on the inside. What is going on externally is then going to have very little to do with what is going on internally. Still, even though his physical appearance will create the impression that he is a man, it ...
Views: 718 - Critical Thinking: Can Black And White Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to painting a picture of nature, the more colours that someone has the more detail there will be in what they create. If they only had two colours, they wouldn’t have the same freedom to express themselves. In the same way, if someone is able to see that life is made up of many ...
Views: 717 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need For Approval If He Grew Up With An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s father was rarely, if ever, emotionally available during his formative years, this is likely to have been a time when he didn’t receive what he needed in order to develop in the right way. This would have caused him to experience a lot of pain. However, he wouldn’t have had any ...
Views: 717 - Listen To Your Own Inner Guidance - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was speaking to someone who said that it was time for them to put a book together and to have it out before the end of the year. After having put this off for a number of years, this person knew that it was time for them to take action. When I heard this I just paid ...
Views: 716 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Slander To Control People? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperBefore the alternative media came along, the mainstream media pretty much had complete control. What this meant was that it was normal for most people to believe just about everything this source came out with. Nowadays, thanks to the alternative media, this source doesn’t have the same ...
Views: 716 - Child Abuse: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was physically abused as a child, there is the chance that this is not something that will ever cross their mind now that they are an adult. They may remember certain parts of their childhood, or it could be one big blur. It could seem strange as to how something so traumatic could ...
Views: 715 - Mental Health: Are Mental And Emotional Problems Part Of Life? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, mental and emotional problems receive a lot of coverage in the media and there are plenty of people that talk about them on social media. Therefore, what is taking place is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, mental and emotional problems were rarely spoken about and, ...
Views: 715 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If Another Person Is Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This ...
Views: 715 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Saying ‘No’ If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something. This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ...
Views: 713 - Masculinity: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Masculine Aspect? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground. Therefore, instead of assertive themselves when it is necessary, they just allow other people to walk over them. Along with this, they may have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say ...
Views: 713 - Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Have The Tendency To Demonise Others? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch an old black and white film, they could describe it as being a bit one-dimensional. There will be two colours, black and white, and there will even be some grey, but that will be it. After this, they could end up watching a film that has recently been released, with it ...
Views: 713 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Sense Of Safety To Others? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of safety, it will be possible for them to pay attention to what is taking place inside them and to utilise this information. In other words, one will be able to act like an individual. Ultimately, they will feel comfortable being in their body and safe to exist, ...
Views: 713 - Child Abuse: Is It Clear To See That Abusive Parents Were Also Abused By Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused as a child, they can struggle with two questions. Firstly, they can wonder why their own parents treated them so badly, and secondly, they can wonder why their parents would repeat what was done to them. These two questions can consume their mind a ...
Views: 712 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world perhaps, every adults early years would have been a time when they were given what they needed to develop in the right and were prepared for the real world. This would mean that their caregivers did what they were supposed to do. Their caregivers wouldn’t have seen them as ...
Views: 712 - Healing Journey: What Are The Signs Of Growth On The Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, their early years were a time when they received what they needed to receive in order to become a resilient, integrated and secure adult. Thanks to what took place during this stage of their life, their adult years may be pretty ‘normal’. So, they could have gone through the ...
Views: 712 - Relationships: Can Someone Push Other People Away If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a key part of someone being able to function at their best is for them to have fulfilling relationships. And, as they are an interdependent human being, this is not exactly a shock. Taking this into account, it will be vital for one to have strong bonds with ...
Views: 712 - Victim Mentality: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They See Themselves As A Victim? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims - to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people have been conditioned to see themselves as victims. This is ...
Views: 712 - Boundaries: Do Other People Walk Over You? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that make up ones experience of reality, and these include what they see, hear and smell. What also play an important part are their feelings and thoughts. When it comes to what they see, hear and smell, these are going to be things that other people will also ...
Views: 710 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Be Disconnected From Themselves So That They Can Play God? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the answers are within and that ‘who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes’ (Carl Jung). Based on this, it could be said that there is a lot going on internally. Therefore, if someone is connected to their inner world, they will have access to their truth and ...
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