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- Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Deny That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused during their early years, it doesn’t mean that what they went through will be validated by the parent who mistreated them. No, what they went through as a child could end up being denied. To take one step back, though, they may have suffered for a ...
Views: 411 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Become Aware Of The Law Of Correspondence? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to believe that what is going on ‘out there’ is the problem. Consequently, what is going on ‘out there’ will need to change in order for the world to change, and, if it doesn’t, this won’t happen. It could be said that it will be perfectly ...
Views: 411 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Put Other Men On A Pedestal If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the men in a man’s life, some of these could just be seen as other human beings, whilst others could be seen as being far more. As a result of this, he is not going to view all of the men in his life in the same way. However, this is not to say that this is something that he ...
Views: 411 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Comfortable Being There For His Mother? - by Submitted on May 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal for a man is for practically his whole life to revolve around his mother. This means that a number of his needs, along with his feelings, will be overlooked, with him putting a number of his mother’s needs first. This will then just be what happens and he won’t need to ...
Views: 411 - Repression: Has The Brains Ability To Repress Pain Led To The View That It’s ‘All About The Mind’? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has problems with their ‘mental health’ and they were to reach out for support, there is a strong chance that what is taking place in their mind will be the area of focus. Therefore, their thoughts, beliefs and even behaviour are likely to come under the microscope. It could be ...
Views: 411 - The Power Of Belief: Do Our Beliefs Define How We Experience Life? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf it was put forward to someone that how they experience life is largely the result of what they believe, they could be completely on board with this. This could be something that, to one degree or another, they have been aware of for quite some time Then again, they could end up dismissing ...
Views: 411 - Law Of Resonance: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Manifest What They Want? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, in 2006, the law of attraction came bursting onto the scene thanks to a documentary film. However, this law wasn’t new, it had been around for over a hundred years by name and the teachings themselves had been around for thousands of years. So, although these teachings were ...
Views: 409 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Doesn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that can soon stand out, when it comes to a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother, is that he acts as though he is purely an extension of her. As opposed to being a separate from her, then, he will be a part of her that is not physically attached to ...
Views: 409 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Deprive Themselves As An Adult? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may soon find is that a number of their needs are rarely if ever met. So, while their basic needs might typically be met, this won’t be the case when it comes to their other needs. In general, then, they are not going to have ...
Views: 408 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Become Who His Mother Wanted Him To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is going to be like her servant. As opposed to being a separate being who has his own needs and feelings, he will be nothing more than an extension of her. This is likely to mean that he will typically come across as ...
Views: 408 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 405 - Disgust: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Disgust If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might end up standing out is that they often experience a sense of disgust. When this takes place, they will be around something or someone that causes them to be repulsed and they could even feel sick. This will then be a ...
Views: 404 - Self-Ownership: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it could be said that their early years are well and truly behind them. In other words, they are an adult now and what took place in the past is irrelevant. However, although it may seem this way, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. There is a chance ...
Views: 404 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Move On From An Abusive Childhood If They Just Forgive Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that their early years were not very nurturing, it could take a little while until they feel ready to share what happened with others. As for why it has taken them a little while to see this, this will most likely be due to their conscious mind forgetting all about what ...
Views: 402 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Emotionally Shut Down Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may be in tune with his feelings when he is by himself and even around a man, this may seldom be the case when he is around a woman. What will be normal, then, is for him to be out of touch with his body when he is in their presence. This could be something that he is acutely ...
Views: 402 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to come to see that he is in a position where he is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs, he is like to wonder what is going on. He could also see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. This will also mean that he is unlikely to have much of a life ...
Views: 401 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Deprive Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to gain an understanding of what it is like when another person deprives themselves, they will simply need to pay attention to a man who is overly focused on his mother. By doing this, they will probably find out what it is like when someone stops themselves from receiving what ...
Views: 401 - Fear: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on May 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and reflect on what they fear, they may find that a number of things enter their mind. They could find that they have a fear of being abandoned and rejected. Alternatively, they could see that they have a fear of being harmed and their life coming to an ...
Views: 400 - Inferiority Complex: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel capable and see themselves being less than others, it might not occur to them that this could be due to what took place whilst they were at school. There is even the chance that they are not consciously aware of this, with it being something that ...
Views: 399 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Search For A Father Figure If His Father Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThrough getting to the stage of his life where he is now a man, it could be said that he won’t need all of the same things that he needed as a child. To put it another way, he will have grown out of certain needs that he had. To focus solely on the needs that he would have primarily had in ...
Views: 398 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unconsciously Look For A Masculine Woman? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a mother-enmeshed man’s life is likely to revolve around his mother, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up getting into a relationship. When this takes place, he might spend less time doing things for his mother. But as time goes by, he could end becoming more focused on his mothers ...
Views: 398 - Critical Thinking: Do “Conspiracy Theorists” Need To Understand The Law Of Resonance? - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone spends a lot of time looking into what appears to be happening behind the scenes, so to speak, they are not going to happy to go along with the narrative that the mainstream media sells. They are likely to be a deeply curious person who has the need to know what is actually going ...
Views: 397 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Relationship With His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAnger, like any other feeling, is neutral; what defines whether it will lead to constructive or destructive behaviour is how it is utilized. So, if a man was to end up experiencing anger and lashed out at someone, it would be destructive. However, if he was to end up experiencing anger and ...
Views: 396 - Resilience: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Handle Setbacks? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that no matter who someone is, there are going to be moments in their life when something won’t go to plan. So, instead of being able to go from A to B, they will end up going from A to A. For whatever reason, they will have come up against a hurdle and it won’t be possible ...
Views: 394 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear Being Abandoned If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is in a good position financially, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel settled. They can often feel anxious and as though something bad is about to happen. Now, irrespective if they are in a good position financially, if they were to take a closer look at why they ...
Views: 393 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Learnt To Be Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a man is in a position where practically his whole life revolves around his mother and he is focused on her needs, he is not going to be empowered and feel as though he has control over his own life. He is likely to feel as though he is his mother’s possession and has to ...
Views: 392 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Put Their Mother Before Their Partner? - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that his primary relationship will be with his partner. No, there can be someone else, and this person will take up a lot of his time and energy as a result. What could come to mind at this point is that he is having an affair, with this ...
Views: 391 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Realise That She Lives In A Mirror If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman to have been with one man who was caught up in his mother’s world would have been tough, but, to have been with a number of men who were like this will have been even worse. Assuming that she has been in this position more than once, she might have decided to turn her back on this ...
Views: 391 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone’s Worth To Be Externalised? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s worth is inherent and is, therefore, not based on what they do, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can believe that their worth is based on what they do. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is something that they are consciously aware of. Even ...
Views: 391 - Emotional Pain: Can Someone Spend Their Whole Life Unconsciously Trying To Avoid Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s life, there can be areas that are going well and areas that are not. If the areas of their life that are not going well have been this way for as long as they can remember, they could believe that there is very little that they can do. This is likely to mean that ...
Views: 390 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Safety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has a felt sense of safety, he will be able to be in his body and to freely express himself. As a result of this, his body will be his home and he won’t need to live in his head. By being this way, he will be able to feel at ease and experience inner peace. In other words, his ...
Views: 390 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Guilty For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he might soon see that he is overly focused on his mother. This could be something that he has been forced to do after having experienced a breakup. As a result of being in a relationship, then, what had not stood out before would have ended ...
Views: 390 - Past Life: Can Past Life Trauma Cause Someone To Carry A Sense Of Badness? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the ideal will be for someone to be able to experience positive feelings on a regular basis, it doesn’t mean that this will be something that they are able to relate to. It could typically be a challenge for them to feel good. In general, they could feel bad, guilty, ashamed and ...
Views: 390 - Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Have The Right Vibration If They Want To Experience Something? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance. Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need ...
Views: 390 - Critical Thinking: Does Society Want Empowered Victims? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter something ‘bad’ has happened, it can be normal for the mainstream media to assess what has happened through the victim/perpetrator lens. One person or a number of people will be victims, whilst another person or a number of people will be perpetrators. It might not end there, though, ...
Views: 387 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man A Fallen Man? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of if a mother-enmeshed man comes across as strong and appears to have it all together, it is unlikely that he will feel strong and capable on the inside. Behind the mask that he may wear is likely to be someone who feels the complete opposite. He could, of course, come across as ...
Views: 387 - Emotionally Empty: Can Someone Feel Emotionally Empty If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often feel flat and as though they are missing something. During these moments, they are not going to be filled with energy or feel alive. When this happens, they could feel the need to do something, which could soon allow them to change what is going on for ...
Views: 386 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be connected to his own needs and to do what he can to take care of them. But, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, what can be normal is for him to be connected to her needs and to do what he can to meet them. Being there for her in this ...
Views: 386 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Physically Harmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time, someone may have been able to see that they have been with a number of people that were not available. If so, this is likely to be something that has caused them to experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. But, as they are going to want to experience a deeper ...
Views: 385 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Allow Someone To Avoid Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a life that is anything but fulfilling, someone could end up coming across the law of attraction. Thanks to this, they could soon come to the conclusion that this law will allow them to finally live a life that is worth living. It could be as though their luck has finally ...
Views: 385 - Law Of Resonance: Is The Law Of Resonance The Antidote To The Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a victim mentality, they are essentially going to believe that they have no control over their life. What will be in control of their life will be the situations, circumstances and events that they find themselves in and the people with who they cross paths with. In other ...
Views: 384 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His True Self? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, there is the chance that he is not even aware of this. This is likely to show that this is normal, which is why he is unable to see what is going on. Focusing on his mother's needs and doing what he can to be there ...
Views: 384 - Critical Thinking: Has A Large Part Of Humanity Outsourced Their Perception Of Reality To The Media? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a lot of people who looks towards the mainstream media to inform them about what is taking place in the world. In fact, this will be the main source that they look towards to keep them up to date about what is happening ‘out there’. When someone is in this ...
Views: 383 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find that it is a challenge for them to connect to their needs and feelings. Along with this, they could find that they often feel numb and don’t have a great deal of energy. By being this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to live a life that is deeply ...
Views: 383 - Critical Thinking: Is The Media Using Humanities Creative Energy To Manifest A Certain Reality? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to find out about what is taking place around them and in the world at large, they could end up looking towards the mainstream media. Most likely, this is what they will have done for most of their life. It is then not that they have taken a deeper look into this source and ...
Views: 382 - Disempowered: Can A Man Be In A Disempowered State If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal for a man is for him to feel powerless and helpless, and this can mean that he will often feel low and even depressed. What will be clear from this is that he will rarely if ever feel strong and powerful. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything ...
Views: 380 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Update His ‘Software’? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother, it can be hard for someone to understand what is going on. He is going to be undermining himself, so this is to be expected. They can wonder why a grown man would be so focused on his mother and deprive himself in ...
Views: 380 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Just Randomly End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been with at least two men who were heavily caught up in their mother’s world, she could be totally confused and well and truly fed up. In all likelihood, she is likely to want to be with a man who is available. But, although she will want to be with a man who is like this, she ...
Views: 380 - Personal Reality: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Personal Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though human beings live on the same planet, what is clear is that they are not all having the same experience. Not only are there going to be different experiences that some people have in one country and some people have in another, but there will be differences that people experience in ...
Views: 379 - Relationships: Can Someone Need To Learn To Be Interdependent If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in a relationship, it may occur to them that how they have behaved for so long is not serving them. The reason for this is that for as long as they can remember, they may have tried to do just about everything by themselves and rarely expressed their feelings. They will ...
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