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- Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise They Are Walking Creators? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the pandemic, a large part of humanity has spent a lot of time feeling powerless and hopeless. Fortunately, as time has passed, some people have been able to move beyond this experience. Sadly, there are others who haven’t been able to move beyond this experience. Still, even ...
Views: 132 - Fear: What Can Someone Fear If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were brutal, to say the least, it is not going to be a surprise if they are in a bad way now that they are an adult. This could mean that they find it hard to function or they might be able to keep it all together. Either way, living in this way can be what is normal, ...
Views: 132 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he may have the need for it to end and/or want to get as far away from his partner as he can. This is not to say that that he won’t like or even love her; it is due to the fact that he will feel trapped. When he first started spending time with her, ...
Views: 132 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is It A Positive Sign If A Mother-Enmeshed Man Starts To Get Angry About His Life? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for a woman to understand, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, why her partner is so focused on his mother. This might not have stood out in the beginning, but as time passed, it will have become crystal clear. There will ...
Views: 132 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Deprive Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to gain an understanding of what it is like when another person deprives themselves, they will simply need to pay attention to a man who is overly focused on his mother. By doing this, they will probably find out what it is like when someone stops themselves from receiving what ...
Views: 132 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Sabotage His Life If He Has The Need To Be Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is finding it hard to move forward in life, he might find it hard to believe that this could be due to what took place during his early years. As far as he is concerned, what took place at this stage of his life could be in the past and that’s the end of it. The reason why his life ...
Views: 131 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Ashamed Of Not Being Able To Act Like A Man? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can take a while for a man to realise that he is emotionally entangled with his mother; this could be something that will take place after he has been on this planet for many decades. It could seem strange as to why it would take him so long to find that he is overly focused on ...
Views: 131 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mother’s World? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will appear to be free to live his own life. Therefore, it will be hard for some people to accept that he doesn’t feel free deep down. He will be a separate adult but he will feel as though he is nothing more than an extension of ...
Views: 130 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Mother-Enmeshed Mans Sense Of Self Dependent On His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be a separate being, if he is enmeshed to his mother, it will be as though he is merely an extension of her. He will then look separate from her but he won’t act like he is separate from her. This could be something that hasn’t even crossed his mind, which will show now ...
Views: 130 - Critical Thinking: Can Repression Allow A Society To Appear More Evolved Than It Is? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn many society’s around the world that are seen as being ‘civilised’, there are things that take place that make some people question this view. This includes how animals are often treated, how people in power often behave and how people often treat each other. In addition to this, the kind ...
Views: 129 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Try To Stop Her Son From Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on May 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a mother is unable to see her son as an individual, she is going to have an issue with him living his own life. His purpose, as far as she is concerned, will be to be there for her and to take care of her needs. Still, this is not to say that this is something that she will be ...
Views: 129 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience A Conflict Between His Thoughts And Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man, who is entangled with his mother, is not aware of the fact that he is this way, he is likely to be out of touch with most of his needs and feelings. By being this way, he will have no trouble being there for his mother and focusing on her needs. This is likely to just be ...
Views: 129 - Father Wounds: Can Man Fear His Own Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for a man to view his aggression would be to see it as both a source of fuel and as something that will keep him alive. This means that, inherently, this part of him is not bad or “negative”. This doesn’t mean that this part of him can’t be used in a destructive manner. The key will ...
Views: 128 - Father Wounds: Would An Emasculated Father Emasculate His Son? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a father who was physically and verbally abusive, he might not be in a good way now that he is an adult. In fact, he could be in a very bad way and each day could be a challenge. However, if he is in a bad way, it doesn’t mean that he will realise why he is this ...
Views: 128 - Inner Security: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a house doesn’t have strong foundations, it probably won’t stay in place for very long. Or, if it does, it will be in for a rough ride as will the people who live in the house. Another example would be the difference between someone being on a rubber dinghy and being ...
Views: 128 - Death: Can Someone Have An Irrational Fear Of Death If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they experience a fair amount of anxiety. Along with this, they could often experience panic and even have panic attacks from time to time. At other times, they could be overwhelmed with fear and ...
Views: 127 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Didn’t Develop Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends a lot of time doing things for and focusing on his mother, it is likely to mean that he won’t have much of a life. To use an analogy: it will be like he has lent a beam to another person to keep their house in place. As a result of this, his house will be without the support ...
Views: 127 - Mother Enmeshed Men: How Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Respond When His Mother Passes On? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy to say that if a man is enmeshed with his mother, it means that he will be a certain way. However, in the same way, that not everyone with depression will have the same experience, neither will a man who is in this position. At the same time, all men who are in this position ...
Views: 127 - Trust: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Trust Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well. This will mean that ...
Views: 127 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that different tools serve a different function, different parts of someone's being are the same. When it comes to their physical body, this part will give them the ability to move and to get things done. Their emotional body/self will be what brings their life to life and ...
Views: 126 - Fear Of Death: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Death? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 126 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Beaten Down? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone comes into contact with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother and thus, is focused on her needs and neglects himself, it can be hard for them to comprehend why he would be this way. As they are on the outside, so to speak, they will be able to see clearly that he is ...
Views: 126 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lost Touch With His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may realise, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he is not very balanced. The reason for this is that he may see that he finds it hard to stand his ground and take action. In general, he may find that he allows other people to walk over him and he only does things if ...
Views: 126 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Change His Perception? - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is “enmeshed” to his mother, it is likely to mean that he didn’t receive what he needed to receive during his early years. Therefore, he hasn’t simply chosen to become entangled with his mother as an adult; he has always been this way. What this means is that it is not just about him ...
Views: 125 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Can It Be Harder For A Man To Break Away From His Mother If She Becomes Ill? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and is not living his own life, he might not even realise that this is the case. As he was probably trained to be there for her from a very young age, it is not going to be a surprise if it doesn’t occur to him that he is out of alignment with himself and is not ...
Views: 125 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Was Unable To Emotionally Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, it is likely to show that he is emotionally entangled with her. This will mean that although he is physically separate from her, he won’t be emotionally separate from her. At an emotional ...
Views: 125 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he generally finds it hard to be himself around women. There are then going to be moments when this is not the case, but this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. Upon closer inspection, he may see that this is how ...
Views: 125 - Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
Views: 124 - Intimacy: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Show Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to end up in a relationship, is that it is far harder than they expected it to be. There will then be what they thought it would be like and what their experience is actually like. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have had a relationship before, ...
Views: 124 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have Breakdown To Realise He Is A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for an issue to be resolved, it needs to be clear that there is an issue. Naturally, if this is not the case, it won’t be possible for anything to be done and the issue is likely to get even worse. With this in mind, if man’s mother is the centre of his world and he does what he can ...
Views: 124 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be connected to his own needs and to do what he can to take care of them. But, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, what can be normal is for him to be connected to her needs and to do what he can to meet them. Being there for her in this ...
Views: 124 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Ability To Love Been Taken Away? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is difficult for him to connect to how he feels and to experience love. If this is so, he could wonder if he has the ability to feel and to feel love in his heart. Then again, he could come to the conclusion that he is ...
Views: 124 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Hide His Needs In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, that’s if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he ignores his needs when he is in a relationship. As a result of this, he will act as though he doesn’t have needs. He can find that he is focused on his partners' needs and does what he can to ...
Views: 124 - False Self: Can Someone Feel Like A Child Below Their False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it can primarily be the result of what is taking place in their body or what is taking place inside their head. In order words, it can be a reflection of their true self or their false self. Therefore, in order for one to express their true self, they ...
Views: 123 - Fear: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on May 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and reflect on what they fear, they may find that a number of things enter their mind. They could find that they have a fear of being abandoned and rejected. Alternatively, they could see that they have a fear of being harmed and their life coming to an ...
Views: 123 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, that’s if he was to get into a relationship, is that he is out of touch with how he feels. Prior to this, it might not have even occurred to him that he was this way. This would have just been what was normal and he may have been this way for as long as he can ...
Views: 123 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Does Mother Enmeshed Man Want To Rescue His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile both her son and his mother will be adults, he can have the need to essentially save his mother. It then won’t matter if he is not a doctor or a therapist, for instance, as he will do what he can to resolve all her issues. Now, this could mean that his mother is deeply unwell and has ...
Views: 123 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 123 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Needs Are Important? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to focus on her needs. This is likely to mean that he won’t even be aware of a lot of his own needs. His mother’s needs are then going to consume him and it won’t occur to him that he is out of touch with ...
Views: 123 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman could soon find, if she is with a man who is enmeshed to his mother, is that he is emotionally available. When she first met him this might not have stood out but it will now be crystal clear. At this point, she might not say anything to him, hoping that it will only be a matter ...
Views: 123 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Ashamed Of His True Self? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he may soon find that he generally hides himself around others and rarely shows up. This will mean that his physical self will be seen but he will be estranged from his inner self. As a result of this, the person who shows up ...
Views: 122 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man can have the desire to deeply connect to a woman, he may also have the need to keep his distance. The experiences that he has had with them throughout his life may appear to be what has given him this need. As a result of this, it is going to be a challenge for him to fulfil ...
Views: 122 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are The Real Needs Of A Mother-Enmeshed Being Covered Up By His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be hard to understand why a man would be overly focused on his mother’s life and overlook his own life in the process. This will mean that he will do what he can to take care of her needs and spend very little time taking care of his own needs. Now, this is not to say ...
Views: 122 - Emotionally Shut Down: Is Childhood Trauma The Reason Why Someone Is Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are emotional beings, it wouldn’t be right to say that every human being on the planet comes across as one. There are those who are in tune with how they feel and there are those who are typically out of touch with how they feel. Consequently, there are those who appear ...
Views: 121 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Could A Mother-Enmeshed Man Live His Own Life If His Mother Wanted Him To? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, it can seem as though a mother enmeshed man just needs to stop focusing on his mother’s life and to focus on his own. By doing this, he will be able to slowly transform his life and live a life that is worth living. With this in mind, it will be up to him to draw the line ...
Views: 121 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother Feel Ashamed Of Her Own Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to put her needs first. Most likely, this will be something that takes place without him even needing to think about it. What should be normal is putting his own needs first and, perhaps, being there for his mother ...
Views: 121 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother See Him As An Extension Of Herself? - by Submitted on May 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is entangled with his mother, he is not going to know that he is separate from her. On the outside, then, he will look like a separate being, but, on the inside, he won’t feel like one. As a result of this, he won’t have gone from a dependent to an interdependent human being; he ...
Views: 121 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends most of his life doing what he can to please others and his mother, in particular, it is going to mean that he is primarily focused on what is going on without. What is taking place within is rarely, if ever, going to something that he is aware of. This is likely to mean that ...
Views: 121 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Feeling Supported? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he is going to spend a lot of time being there for his mother and supporting her. It will be as if his sole purpose is to be there for her and to take care of her needs. He could create the impression that he doesn’t have needs, or has a few ...
Views: 121 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Relationship With Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a relationship with his mother, if this could be called a relationship, he won’t have much of a relationship with himself. This means that he won’t be aware of most of his needs and is unlikely to value who he is. He will spend a lot of time in his head and being ...
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