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- Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be connected to his own needs and to do what he can to take care of them. But, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, what can be normal is for him to be connected to her needs and to do what he can to meet them. Being there for her in this ...
Views: 254 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Allow Someone To Avoid Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a life that is anything but fulfilling, someone could end up coming across the law of attraction. Thanks to this, they could soon come to the conclusion that this law will allow them to finally live a life that is worth living. It could be as though their luck has finally ...
Views: 252 - Empty: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels emotionally empty, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. The reason for this is that this could just be normal, which is why it won’t be something that stands out. However, while this may be the case, they could still be aware of the effects of being ...
Views: 251 - True-Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take ...
Views: 251 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Unconsciously Look For Love If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, it doesn’t mean that they have well and truly put this stage of their life behind them. Nonetheless, there is the chance that they have completely forgotten about this stage of their life. Or ...
Views: 250 - Inferiority Complex: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel capable and see themselves being less than others, it might not occur to them that this could be due to what took place whilst they were at school. There is even the chance that they are not consciously aware of this, with it being something that ...
Views: 250 - Inner Insecurity: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Deeply Insecure? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. The main reason for this is that they could find it hard to be by themselves, with this being a time when they typically feel all at sea emotionally. If they are around another or others, ...
Views: 250 - Law Of Resonance: Will Someone Manifest More Of What They Are Trying To Avoid? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where one area of their life is not going as they want it to go and they experience a lot of “negative” feelings, they can end up doing what they can to change their life. This can be seen as the right approach to take; after all, simply putting up with what is going ...
Views: 250 - Critical Thinking: Is There A Lot Of Toxic Shame Held In The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that out of all of the emotions that someone can experience, shame is the hardest one to handle. The reason for this is that when someone experiences shame, they can feel bad and worthless. It doesn’t end there, though, as their inner world can collapse and they can have the ...
Views: 248 - Emotional Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the needs that someone has, there will be at least three areas; their intellectual, emotional and survival needs. In order for them to live a fulfilling life, it will be essential for them to take care of each of these areas. This is not to say that this is something that ...
Views: 248 - Critical Thinking: Do “Conspiracy Theorists” Need To Understand That They Are Not Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to the conclusion that the mainstream media, along with other sources, is not there to actually inform, someone can end up looking towards alternative sources for information. Fortunately, there is far more information available than there was in the past and so it is far easier for ...
Views: 247 - Developmental Trauma: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to be motivated. Therefore, if they do feel the urge to do something, it might not be long until this is no longer the case. Thanks to this, it is going to be a challenge for them to stick to things and ...
Views: 247 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they don’t have a good connection with their needs and are rarely in touch with how they feel. This is likely to mean that they will spend a fair amount of time living in their head. What they could also ...
Views: 247 - Disempowered: Can A Man Be In A Disempowered State If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal for a man is for him to feel powerless and helpless, and this can mean that he will often feel low and even depressed. What will be clear from this is that he will rarely if ever feel strong and powerful. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything ...
Views: 246 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Suffer From Depression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling heavy, low and deflated could be an inner experience that a man is accustomed to. For as far back as he can remember, he may have had the tendency to experience life in this way. Consequently, he may typically see life as something that has to be endured, not enjoyed. In general, ...
Views: 246 - Relationships: Is A Man Destined To Sabotage His Relationships If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up. Now that it has ...
Views: 246 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Violation If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is often walked over and treated badly by others. There may have been moments when he thinks that the world is against him. Now, this could be something that he only experiences when he is in the company of other ...
Views: 245 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Believe That He Needs To Hide His True Self In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was able to take a step back and reflect on how behaves, what may come to mind is that his behaviour rarely matches up with what is going on for him. So, when he is around others, he could typically be focused on their needs and be completely out of touch with his own ...
Views: 245 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Start Saying ‘No’ To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt is incredibly important for a man to not only have the ability to say yes and no, but to really mean it when he says each word. Having this ability will allow him to listen to and protect himself. However, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he may find that he doesn’t know ...
Views: 245 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Repetition Compulsion Cause Someone To Feel Totally Powerless? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel powerful and often feel powerless. This can show that their life is not how they want it to be and they don’t feel as though they have the ability to change it. As a result of this, it could be said that how they ...
Views: 245 - Repression: Is Someone’s Brain Designed To Keep Them Unconscious? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to believe that who they are begins and ends with their conscious mind. This is likely to be an outlook that is supported by the society that they live in. Therefore, it wouldn’t be right to say that they just randomly came to this conclusion as they ...
Views: 245 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Put Their Mother Before Their Partner? - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that his primary relationship will be with his partner. No, there can be someone else, and this person will take up a lot of his time and energy as a result. What could come to mind at this point is that he is having an affair, with this ...
Views: 244 - Shamed-Based Identity: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Shame-Based? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, shame is something that they experience every now and then and, when they do, it typically doesn’t hang around for very long. For others, shame is something that they experience on a regular basis and, when they do, it can typically hang around for a very long time. When it ...
Views: 244 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother Enmeshed Man Suffer In Silence? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, his true self is rarely going to see the light of day. This will mean that his needs, feelings and wants will typically be repressed and suppressed and, when he is around others, he is likely to play a certain role. In general, the role that ...
Views: 243 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have A Relationship To Realise He A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be strange if a man has the tendency to focus on his mother’s needs and to be there for her. He will be ignoring his needs and his own life, so this should be something that stands out. However, although he will be out of balance, what is going on won’t be ...
Views: 243 - Repressed Pain: Does Someone’s Pain Disappear Once It Has Been Removed From Their Conscious Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, someone is often thought to begin and end with their conscious mind. Other than their physical body, then, this will be seen as who they are and there won’t be another part of them. Due to this, if someone’s “mental health” is not in a good way and they were to reach out to ...
Views: 243 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life is that they are rarely connected to how they feel or their needs. When this takes place, it could be as though part of themselves has disappeared. Therefore, they are not going to be able to operate ...
Views: 243 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the ...
Views: 242 - Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
Views: 241 - Inner Feminine: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Reject Their Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ...
Views: 241 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to come to see that he is in a position where he is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs, he is like to wonder what is going on. He could also see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. This will also mean that he is unlikely to have much of a life ...
Views: 241 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have Breakdown To Realise He Is A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for an issue to be resolved, it needs to be clear that there is an issue. Naturally, if this is not the case, it won’t be possible for anything to be done and the issue is likely to get even worse. With this in mind, if man’s mother is the centre of his world and he does what he can ...
Views: 240 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Avoidant Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’. He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and ...
Views: 240 - Mother Wounds: Can It Be Hard For A Man To Speak Up In A Relationship If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he may find that he has the tendency to swallow his words and not to express how he really feels when he is with his partner. In fact, he might not even be aware of how he feels a lot of the time. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for him ...
Views: 240 - Past Life: Can Being Ostracised In A Past Life Play A Part In Why Someone Feels Unworthy Of Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they don’t feel worthy of life, it could be said that this will be an achievement. Now, coming to this conclusion won’t mean that their life will simply change but what it will mean is that they will be aware of what is going on and they will be able to do something ...
Views: 240 - Success: Can The Fear Of Being Unloved Stop Someone From Being Successful? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have the need to grow and develop, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. One could find that they have been working hard and doing the “right” things but that they haven’t been able to get very far. As a result of this, they could believe that, unlike others, ...
Views: 240 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Realise Their Abusive Parents Were Deeply Wounded In Order To Move Forward? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise. However, although they will want to progress ...
Views: 238 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Reflect On The Fact That His Mother Will Die One Day? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFirstly, a mother-enmeshed man will need to see that he is enmeshed, and, secondly, he will need to do something about it. It can be difficult for him to see that this is the case and doing something about it can be even harder. If he had a physical problem, it would stand out and he would ...
Views: 238 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His True Self? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, there is the chance that he is not even aware of this. This is likely to show that this is normal, which is why he is unable to see what is going on. Focusing on his mother's needs and doing what he can to be there ...
Views: 238 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him. The seeds that were planted will have grown ...
Views: 238 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If She Is With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may have come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. Consequently, he is not only going to neglect her but he will also neglect himself. But, if most of his time and his energy are being directed towards his mother, he is not going ...
Views: 238 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother Enmeshed Mans Power Been Taken Away From Him? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man’s life to be an expression of who he is, he will need to be both in touch with and to feel comfortable expressing himself. Being in touch with himself will involve being connected to his body and being aware of his needs, feelings, wants and preferences. When it comes to ...
Views: 237 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Ashamed Of Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is simply part of the human experience and is not something that is bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, it doesn't mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. When someone doesn't feel comfortable with them, their life is going to be a lot ...
Views: 237 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Have To Hide Their True Self In Order To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go for a drive, they would be able to go wherever they wanted. So, if they wanted to go left, they could go left, and, if they wanted to go right, they could go right. Quite simply, they would have the ability to go wherever suited them and to adapt if it wasn’t possible for ...
Views: 237 - Unlovable: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it. For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ...
Views: 237 - Being Seen: Can Being Seen Be Painful If Someone Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to hide who they truly are. They may even say to themselves that they often wear a mask around others. What this is going to mean is that even if they are aware of their needs and ...
Views: 236 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Isolate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in a country and an area that is relatively safe, based on how they live, it will be as though this is not the case. This is because they could have the inclination to isolate themselves from others. If so, they could only go out when they need to do so, such as ...
Views: 236 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Man Weak If He Is Enmeshed To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and unable to live his own life, other people could end up commenting on his behaviour. This is something that his partner could do, assuming that he is in a relationship. She could often tell him that although he spends a lot of time focusing ...
Views: 236 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see is that he finds it difficult to express his needs and feelings when he is with his partner. When he is not around her, however, this might not be something that he struggles with. If this is the case, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this, his ...
Views: 236 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise They Are Walking Creators? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the pandemic, a large part of humanity has spent a lot of time feeling powerless and hopeless. Fortunately, as time has passed, some people have been able to move beyond this experience. Sadly, there are others who haven’t been able to move beyond this experience. Still, even ...
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