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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That His Mothers Needs Are His Own? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of his time and energy doing things for his mother, he is going to neglect his own needs. The reason for this is that there is only one of him. However, if there were two of him, he would be able to focus on her and be there for himself. ...
Views: 356 - True-Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take ...
Views: 356 - Being Seen: Can Being Seen Be Painful If Someone Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to hide who they truly are. They may even say to themselves that they often wear a mask around others. What this is going to mean is that even if they are aware of their needs and ...
Views: 355 - Critical Thinking: Is There A Lot Of Toxic Shame Held In The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that out of all of the emotions that someone can experience, shame is the hardest one to handle. The reason for this is that when someone experiences shame, they can feel bad and worthless. It doesn’t end there, though, as their inner world can collapse and they can have the ...
Views: 355 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear Leaving His Mothers World? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, it is likely to stop him from living his own life. Instead of being aware of his own needs and doing what he can to meet them, he is likely to be focused on his mother's needs and do what he can to meet them. As a ...
Views: 355 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Care More About His Mother Than Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother, it is likely to mean that he will neglect himself. The reason for this is that he only has so much time and energy and if these two resources are being directed towards his mother, he will have less ...
Views: 355 - Parentification: What Can Happen If Someone Had To Meet Their Caregivers Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult. Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been ...
Views: 355 - Conditional Love: What Can Happen If Someone Experienced Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on May 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that there are at least three types of love that a child can experience during their early years. There is value love, outcome love and love that is promised but never delivered. When it comes to the first type of love, a child will only be loved when they adopt certain ...
Views: 354 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Strong Need To Be Desired? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a fair amount of their time and energy doing what they can to be seen as desirable. Now, this doesn’t mean this will be something that they are consciously aware of but it will be an important part of their life nevertheless. When it comes to what ...
Views: 354 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Feeling Supported? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he is going to spend a lot of time being there for his mother and supporting her. It will be as if his sole purpose is to be there for her and to take care of her needs. He could create the impression that he doesn’t have needs, or has a few ...
Views: 354 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Chosen To Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it might appear as though he has chosen to be with way. After all, he will be an adult so it’s not as if he won’t have a choice when it comes to how he behaves. Not only this, but if he was asked about this, he could also say that ...
Views: 354 - Critical Thinking: Do “Conspiracy Theorists” Need To Understand That They Are Not Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to the conclusion that the mainstream media, along with other sources, is not there to actually inform, someone can end up looking towards alternative sources for information. Fortunately, there is far more information available than there was in the past and so it is far easier for ...
Views: 353 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Suffer From Depression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling heavy, low and deflated could be an inner experience that a man is accustomed to. For as far back as he can remember, he may have had the tendency to experience life in this way. Consequently, he may typically see life as something that has to be endured, not enjoyed. In general, ...
Views: 353 - Critical Thinking: Can Repression Allow A Society To Appear More Evolved Than It Is? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn many society’s around the world that are seen as being ‘civilised’, there are things that take place that make some people question this view. This includes how animals are often treated, how people in power often behave and how people often treat each other. In addition to this, the kind ...
Views: 352 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Just Be? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMany societies around the world are full of people who are more or less always on the go. This is how it has been for many, many decades and it is unlikely to change any time soon. When someone lives in this way, they are unlikely to believe that they are living in a way that is not ...
Views: 352 - I Ran A Half Marathon - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of September, whilst I was out I came across a sign that said there would be a half marathon taking place soon and, on this day, the road would be closed. When I saw the sign, it was just under three days until the race. This event pulled me in and I instantly started to think ...
Views: 352 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That A Woman Will Complete Him If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could often spend time thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship, with this being a time when he feels good. This is not to say that he hasn’t been in one before, though. If he has, he could see that when he has been in a relationship, he has felt whole and complete. ...
Views: 352 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Body? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe ideal will be for a man to be both in touch with what is going on within him and what is going on without. This will allow him to be there for himself and to be there for others. If he is unable to be there for himself, it won’t be possible for him to truly be there for others. What this ...
Views: 352 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual, with their own needs and feelings, when they are around others they could have the tendency to lose touch with these inner aspects. As a result of this, they will act more like an extension of others. Instead of expressing who they are, then, their true ...
Views: 352 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they don’t have a good connection with their needs and are rarely in touch with how they feel. This is likely to mean that they will spend a fair amount of time living in their head. What they could also ...
Views: 351 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Needs If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man will have needs, it doesn’t mean that he will always be aware of them. Moreover, when he is in tune with his needs, he could still be out of touch with a number of them. As a result of this, he is likely to neglect most of his needs and this is going to have a negative effect on ...
Views: 351 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Beaten Down? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone comes into contact with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother and thus, is focused on her needs and neglects himself, it can be hard for them to comprehend why he would be this way. As they are on the outside, so to speak, they will be able to see clearly that he is ...
Views: 351 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If She Is With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may have come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. Consequently, he is not only going to neglect her but he will also neglect himself. But, if most of his time and his energy are being directed towards his mother, he is not going ...
Views: 351 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Dehumanise Their Ex? - by Submitted on May 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone’s relationship has come to an end, they could experience a number of different feelings. So, they could have moments when they feel angry and moments when they feel very sad. At other moments, they could feel very little, with them being in an emotionally shut down state. And, ...
Views: 351 - Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Disordered To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parent/s about what took place. However, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to receive what they are looking for. When it comes to what they ...
Views: 350 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he may have the need for it to end and/or want to get as far away from his partner as he can. This is not to say that that he won’t like or even love her; it is due to the fact that he will feel trapped. When he first started spending time with her, ...
Views: 350 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and they are therefore free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. They could often isolate themselves from others. When they are around others they could typically do what they can please them, ...
Views: 350 - Sibling Wounds: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life To Please Their Sibling? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to move forward and this is how their life has been for as long as they can remember, the last thing on their mind could be that this has got anything to do with their sibling. This is assuming that they have one, of course, and are not simply an only child. As ...
Views: 350 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother Enmeshed Man Suffer In Silence? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, his true self is rarely going to see the light of day. This will mean that his needs, feelings and wants will typically be repressed and suppressed and, when he is around others, he is likely to play a certain role. In general, the role that ...
Views: 349 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother Enmeshed Mans Power Been Taken Away From Him? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man’s life to be an expression of who he is, he will need to be both in touch with and to feel comfortable expressing himself. Being in touch with himself will involve being connected to his body and being aware of his needs, feelings, wants and preferences. When it comes to ...
Views: 349 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a source of energy or fuel that exists in each person on this planet, and this can be seen as their fight instinct. Another way of looking at this part of someone would be to say that it is their aggression. In addition to giving them the energy that they need to take action and to ...
Views: 348 - Mother Wounds: Can It Be Hard For A Man To Speak Up In A Relationship If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he may find that he has the tendency to swallow his words and not to express how he really feels when he is with his partner. In fact, he might not even be aware of how he feels a lot of the time. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for him ...
Views: 348 - Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
Views: 347 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Shadow If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, what they may find is that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. They could have the tendency to feel worthless and as though they have no value. As a result of this, they are likely to often feel low and depressed and they may even think about ...
Views: 346 - Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have both a head and a body and will, therefore, experience both thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to relate to this. In general, they could live up top and only be aware of their thoughts and perhaps different sensations. They are then going ...
Views: 346 - Early Deprivation: Does Someone Need To See Their Depriving Parents Clearly If They Feel Worthless And Unlovable? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels worthless and unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if this is not something that they are aware of, what is going on for them is still going to have an impact on their life. It is likely to influence how they perceive reality, how ...
Views: 346 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lose The Will To Live If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ...
Views: 346 - Law Of Resonance: Will Someone Manifest More Of What They Are Trying To Avoid? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where one area of their life is not going as they want it to go and they experience a lot of “negative” feelings, they can end up doing what they can to change their life. This can be seen as the right approach to take; after all, simply putting up with what is going ...
Views: 346 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Avoidant Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’. He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and ...
Views: 346 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unconsciously Trying To Fulfil His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTo the outside observer, it can make no sense whatsoever as to why a man would neglect his own life and focus on his mother’s life. Clearly, by behaving in this way, he won’t be able to meet most of his needs. For him to do this, he will need to take a step back from his mother and spend ...
Views: 346 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Uncomfortable With Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may have casual encounters, and this could be how he has been for a long time. During these moments, he is going to share his body and perhaps his mind with a woman but he won’t share much else. This could mean that he hasn’t been in a relationship with a woman or this might ...
Views: 346 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Woman Be Happy If A Mother Enmeshed Man Changed? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she is naturally going to have a strong need for him to change. This is partly because he will spend a lot of time being there for his mother and very little, if any, time being there for his ...
Views: 346 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise They Are Walking Creators? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the pandemic, a large part of humanity has spent a lot of time feeling powerless and hopeless. Fortunately, as time has passed, some people have been able to move beyond this experience. Sadly, there are others who haven’t been able to move beyond this experience. Still, even ...
Views: 345 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man Need To Have Breakdown To Realise He Is A Mother Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for an issue to be resolved, it needs to be clear that there is an issue. Naturally, if this is not the case, it won’t be possible for anything to be done and the issue is likely to get even worse. With this in mind, if man’s mother is the centre of his world and he does what he can ...
Views: 345 - Self-Acceptance: Can Someone’s Childhood Stop Them From Being Able To Accept Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to hide themselves. As a result of this, how they generally come across won’t reflect who they truly are. This will mean that a number of their needs and feelings will rarely ...
Views: 345 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being A Feeling Human Being? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is made up of at least three parts, so their thinking, emotional and instinctual self, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. The reason for this is that they could come across as though they only possess the first self. Therefore, they could come across as though they are ...
Views: 344 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Father Was Humiliated During His Early Years? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may have the tendency to feel low and bad about himself. When this is so, he could end up doing one of two things; he could either isolate himself from others or he could be around others and do what he can to please them. Therefore, it won’t be necessary for him to isolate ...
Views: 344 - Human Touch: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Strong Need For Human Touch? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong need for human contact, it can seem as if they would be aware of it. However, even if they do, this could still be something that they are typically unaware of. What this means, then, is that this need will generally be outside of their conscious awareness. But, while ...
Views: 344 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Earn The Right To Exist If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend most of their time doing things. Therefore, they will rarely if ever take the time to relax and recharge. But, if this was pointed out to them, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to accept this. For example, they could say that life is too short ...
Views: 343 - Guidance: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Dependent On External Guidance? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find is that it is often difficult for them to know what to do. So, there will be how this affects them each day and the effect it has on their life as a whole. As a result of this, they are likely to have two ways of deciding what it is that they need to do. First, ...
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