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- Shamed-Based Identity: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Shame-Based? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, shame is something that they experience every now and then and, when they do, it typically doesn’t hang around for very long. For others, shame is something that they experience on a regular basis and, when they do, it can typically hang around for a very long time. When it ...
Views: 39 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Avoidant Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’. He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and ...
Views: 37 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs Around Women If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves around women, what he may find is that he has the tendency to hide his needs. When this takes place, he will create the impression that he doesn't have any. Or, if this doesn't take place, it will be as though he only has a few ...
Views: 37 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Become More Introverted To Change The World? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn many societies around the world, especially in the west, the focus is generally on what is taking place externally. Consequently, what is going on “out there” is the focus and what is going on internally is largely overlooked. When it comes to making changes at both an individual and ...
Views: 36 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Mother Treated Him Like An Object? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect, is that he rarely feels good about himself and often feels down as a result. He could find that he has been this for as long as he can remember. Consequently, it is going to be a challenge for him to appreciate his time on this earth. ...
Views: 35 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Reject Love If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being in a position where he has wanted to be in an intimate relationship and to be loved for a little while, a man could end up sabotaging the very thing that he has wanted for all this time. Still, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. The ...
Views: 35 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Woman Be Happy If A Mother Enmeshed Man Changed? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she is naturally going to have a strong need for him to change. This is partly because he will spend a lot of time being there for his mother and very little, if any, time being there for his ...
Views: 35 - I Ran A Half Marathon - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of September, whilst I was out I came across a sign that said there would be a half marathon taking place soon and, on this day, the road would be closed. When I saw the sign, it was just under three days until the race. This event pulled me in and I instantly started to think ...
Views: 34 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Needs If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man will have needs, it doesn’t mean that he will always be aware of them. Moreover, when he is in tune with his needs, he could still be out of touch with a number of them. As a result of this, he is likely to neglect most of his needs and this is going to have a negative effect on ...
Views: 34 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Treated Like An Object By His Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, ...
Views: 34 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Has Rights? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on his mother’s needs and neglects his own, it can be clear to the outsider that something is not right. After all, he will be an individual with his own life to lead; he won’t be here to act as an extension of his mother or anyone ...
Views: 32 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Dysfunctional View Of Love If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being brought up by an abusive mother, a man was able to realise that his early years were dysfunctional and then to reach out for support, he might not end up in a relationship with an abusive woman. He would then have been through hell but there would be no reason for him to replay ...
Views: 31 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Treated Like An Object By His Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, ...
Views: 31 - Fear: What Can Someone Fear If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were brutal, to say the least, it is not going to be a surprise if they are in a bad way now that they are an adult. This could mean that they find it hard to function or they might be able to keep it all together. Either way, living in this way can be what is normal, ...
Views: 30 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Be Overly Fearful Of The Coronavirus If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who have done their best to carry on as normal since the arrival of the contagion, there are others who have been unable to do so. For someone in the second position, it might not matter if the restrictions have been eased where they live. They may have ...
Views: 29 - Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
Views: 29 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Having The Vaccines For Protection And Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMost likely, someone will live in a country where a vaccine is seen as the best way for them to protect themselves from the virus. Or to be more accurate, it is seen as the only way for them to do this. Also, it wouldn’t be right to say that they will just need one vaccine, as there will be a ...
Views: 28 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise That They Have An Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to explain what it means to be human, they could say that it involves having a physical body and an intellect or something similar. Therefore, who they are will be a combination of what is going on in their head and what keeps this part of them in place. By ...
Views: 28 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Allowing Some People To Mask Their Unresolved Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, what is going on has been all-consuming, with it being hard for them to function. For others, what is going on hasn’t been something that has totally consumed their mind, with it being possible for them to carry on living their life. There are then, of course, those who are ...
Views: 28 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Being Used To Divide People? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperBefore the contagion came onto the scene, it wouldn’t be right to say that, as a whole, there was harmony on earth. There were numerous things that a number of people were fighting over. For example, there was the battle between some men and women and between those who belong to one religion ...
Views: 27 - Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have both a head and a body and will, therefore, experience both thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to relate to this. In general, they could live up top and only be aware of their thoughts and perhaps different sensations. They are then going ...
Views: 27 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Anxious Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to act like one. The reason for this is that he might not be able to spend much time by himself. When he is by himself, he could soon feel very uncomfortable and end up doing whatever he can to find ...
Views: 26 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Real Virus? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been paying a lot of attention to the mainstream media over the last two years, there is the chance that they will have a certain view of the Coronavirus and all the variants that have and are likely to appear as time goes by. As far as they are concerned, this virus and its ...
Views: 24 - Therapy: Is Exercise A Replacement For Therapy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for exercise to be seen as something that is not only far more effective than therapy but as something that is far cheaper too. Like mindfulness, then, it is often seen as a panacea. Based on this outlook, no matter what someone is dealing with or what is ...
Views: 24 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be In A Boundaryless State If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may find is that he rarely feels comfortable standing his ground and asserting himself. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for him to be walked over by others. He could be used to saying yes when he would rather say no, ...
Views: 23 - Self-Awareness: Can Someone Be Very Self-Aware And Out Of Touch With Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing change, it is often said that self-awareness is essential. The reason for this is that if one is not aware of what is going on for them, how will they be able to change their life? Through being aware of what is taking place both internally and externally, they ...
Views: 23 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 22 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Domesticated If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him. The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, ...
Views: 22 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard To Receive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is often hard for them to receive what they need to survive, let alone thrive. So, when it comes to money, they may rarely have enough. Keeping a roof over their head is then going to be a challenge ...
Views: 22 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 22 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 22 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Sovereignty? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body. By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. ...
Views: 21 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Development Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will physically look like an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Consequently, how they look won’t match up with what is taking place inside them. By being this way, their life is likely to be far harder than it would be otherwise. In fact, just about ...
Views: 20 - Inner Feminine: What Can Happen If A Man Is In Conflict With His Own Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him. He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only ...
Views: 20 - Intimacy: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Show Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to end up in a relationship, is that it is far harder than they expected it to be. There will then be what they thought it would be like and what their experience is actually like. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have had a relationship before, ...
Views: 20 - Developmental Trauma: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to be motivated. Therefore, if they do feel the urge to do something, it might not be long until this is no longer the case. Thanks to this, it is going to be a challenge for them to stick to things and ...
Views: 18 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Use Hope To Defend Themselves Against Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not going well, it can be normal for someone to hope that things will soon change. If they didn’t feel this way, they could feel helpless, and this is not going to allow them to feel good or to see a way forward. However, it wouldn’t be right to say that experiencing hope is ...
Views: 18 - Inner Feminine: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Reject Their Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ...
Views: 18 - Parentification: What Can Happen If Someone Had To Meet Their Caregivers Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult. Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been ...
Views: 18 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their last relationship, what they may find is that they started to lose themselves when they first started meeting the other and had more or less completely lost themselves once they were together. There is the chance that this has taken place on more than one ...
Views: 18 - Self-Ownership: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it could be said that their early years are well and truly behind them. In other words, they are an adult now and what took place in the past is irrelevant. However, although it may seem this way, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. There is a chance ...
Views: 18 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lose The Will To Live If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ...
Views: 17 - Workaholic: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Become A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people work to live, there are others that live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth. When it comes to the former, someone’s life won’t revolve around their work and they will typically only work at certain times. ...
Views: 17 - Happiness: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Happy If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. ...
Views: 16 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they are often out of touch with their needs. Or, perhaps, to be more specific, they are often out of touch with certain needs. This can mean that they will typically be aware of their survival needs ...
Views: 15 - Relationships: Can Someone Fear Human Contact If They Had An Intrusive Caregiver? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could often struggle with is feeling alone and isolated from others. During this time, they could be desperate for human contact and hope that they will soon spend time with another or a few others. However, if this was to take place, it doesn’t mean that their whole ...
Views: 15 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 14 - Helpless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just ...
Views: 14 - Father Wounds: Would An Emasculated Father Emasculate His Son? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a father who was physically and verbally abusive, he might not be in a good way now that he is an adult. In fact, he could be in a very bad way and each day could be a challenge. However, if he is in a bad way, it doesn’t mean that he will realise why he is this ...
Views: 13 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
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