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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a physical body and, therefore, will be visible to others, it doesn’t mean that he will feel seen. In general, he could feel invisible and wonder if he even exists. As a result of this, he could often feel powerless and helpless and believe that he has very little if ...
Views: 317 - Critical Thinking: What Will The Future Be Like For Humanity? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place on the planet for almost two years, a lot of people are thinking about what the future holds. If some of these people were asked a number of years ago about what they thought would completely disrupt the world, they would have probably mentioned climate change ...
Views: 316 - Individuation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause To Feel Comfortable Being An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone acts as though they are an extension of others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Furthermore, even if they were to become aware of this, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to simply change their behaviour. Through being in this position, ...
Views: 316 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Was Unable To Emotionally Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, it is likely to show that he is emotionally entangled with her. This will mean that although he is physically separate from her, he won’t be emotionally separate from her. At an emotional ...
Views: 316 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man fears getting close to a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. He is then going to unconsciously do what he can to keep women at a distance, but he won’t realise this. Thanks to this, he might often be in a position where it is as though someone or ...
Views: 316 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unlovable If He Had A Mother Who Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have the desire to be in a loving relationship, it doesn’t mean that he will believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he might have had this desire for quite some time and not been able to make much progress. He could look back on his life and see that he ...
Views: 316 - Relationships: Why Would A Man Attract Women That Are Overly Masculine? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a number of women who were anything but feminine, a man could be at the point where he wants this area of his life to change. In fact, he could be desperate to be with a woman who is different. However, thanks to the experiences that he has had over the years, a big part of ...
Views: 316 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Emotionally Abandon Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has emotional needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of these needs let alone do what they can to meet them. If this is the case, these needs are largely not going to be met. When it comes to their emotional needs, this will relate to their need to be seen, heard, ...
Views: 315 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Are Not Enough If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t believe that they are enough, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is the case, it is still going to have a big impact on their life. So, by having this software running, they can more or less always be on the go and trying to ...
Views: 315 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that different tools serve a different function, different parts of someone's being are the same. When it comes to their physical body, this part will give them the ability to move and to get things done. Their emotional body/self will be what brings their life to life and ...
Views: 315 - Energy: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Give Their Energy To Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have their own life to lead, it doesn’t mean that it will be normal for them to focus on their own life. What could be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things for others. Not only this, but when they are not doing things for others, they could spend a ...
Views: 314 - First Chakra: Can Developmental Trauma Mess Up Someone’s First Chakra? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with having a physical body, someone also has an energy body, and this part of them contains seven energy centres. The first one can be found at the bottom of their body, while the last one can be found at the top of their head. When each of these centres is in balance, they are likely ...
Views: 314 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see is that he finds it difficult to express his needs and feelings when he is with his partner. When he is not around her, however, this might not be something that he struggles with. If this is the case, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this, his ...
Views: 314 - Mother Wounds: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s developmental needs were rarely if ever met during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to how painful this stage of their life would have been, their brain would have ended up blocking out what took place. This would have been something that ...
Views: 314 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Reclaim His Mother Projection From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother, was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he might wonder what he is doing. It could be only too clear that behaving in this way is not serving him. But, although this will be an important stage in what will allow him to live his ...
Views: 314 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be An Unfeeling Human Being? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThroughout someone’s early years, they may have been hurt by one or both of their parents. This may have meant that they were abused in a variety of different ways and were neglected, which would have deprived them of the love that they needed. But, as they were powerless and totally ...
Views: 313 - Hopeless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has recently gone through a breakup, they could find that they feel deeply hopeless and helpless. They are then going to be in a state of despair and it will be as though their life is over. This may have been a relationship that lasted for a number of months or it might have been ...
Views: 313 - Inner Strength: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Life Is Too Much To Handle? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often end up being knocked down by life and feel helpless as a result. When this does take place, it could take a while for them to get back on their feet. This could be something that takes place on a regular basis. Due to how often it takes place, they ...
Views: 313 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Reflect On The Fact That His Mother Will Die One Day? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFirstly, a mother-enmeshed man will need to see that he is enmeshed, and, secondly, he will need to do something about it. It can be difficult for him to see that this is the case and doing something about it can be even harder. If he had a physical problem, it would stand out and he would ...
Views: 313 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Him From Being Able To Break Away? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a man who is unable to live his own life, due to being emotionally entangled with his mother, it can seem as though it is due to what took place in relation to his mother very early on. So, at this stage of his life, most likely, his mother would have used him to meet some of ...
Views: 313 - “Until You Make The Unconscious Conscious, It Will Direct Your Life And You Will Call It Fate” - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is typically as though someone begins and ends with their conscious mind. Not only this, it is as though what is taking place inside their inner world has very little if any effect on their outer world. When it comes to the self-development world, however, it is often ...
Views: 313 - Existence: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have No Right To Exist? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone believes that they have the right to exist, they are likely to be in a position where they generally don’t have trouble being supported and embracing life. This is because by knowing, at the core of their being, that they have the right to be here, they will feel worthy of all that ...
Views: 312 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Put A Woman On A Pedestal If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find is that he has the inclination to elevate certain women. He might see that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember and that being this way is not serving him. When he is drawn to a woman, then, he could see her as being a goddess and as being on a ...
Views: 312 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are The Real Needs Of A Mother-Enmeshed Being Covered Up By His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be hard to understand why a man would be overly focused on his mother’s life and overlook his own life in the process. This will mean that he will do what he can to take care of her needs and spend very little time taking care of his own needs. Now, this is not to say ...
Views: 312 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is It Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Out Of His Mother’s Mirror? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, a mother-enmeshed man will want to be in tune with and to freely express himself. However, although this is so, he will feel compelled to focus on his mother needs and to behave how she wants him to behave. He will then appear to have the ability to behave how he wants to behave, ...
Views: 312 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone may be in an intimate relationship and while this may be something that they have wanted to experience for quite some time, it doesn’t mean that they are finding it easy. Instead, they could find that they are finding it harder and harder to be present and to stay connected to ...
Views: 312 - Human Contact: Can Someone Prefer Things Instead Of People If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being and thus needs others, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They could spend a lot of their time by themselves and rarely if ever reach out to others. This could mean that they will have a job or a career that doesn’t involve a lot ...
Views: 311 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 311 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mother’s World? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will appear to be free to live his own life. Therefore, it will be hard for some people to accept that he doesn’t feel free deep down. He will be a separate adult but he will feel as though he is nothing more than an extension of ...
Views: 311 - Self-Expression: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life? - by Submitted on May 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is on this planet to express themselves, so that their life can be an expression of their true self, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable doing this. Instead, what can feel comfortable is going along with what other people want. Therefore, they are going to be ...
Views: 311 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 310 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Didn’t Develop Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends a lot of time doing things for and focusing on his mother, it is likely to mean that he won’t have much of a life. To use an analogy: it will be like he has lent a beam to another person to keep their house in place. As a result of this, his house will be without the support ...
Views: 310 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will have a good connection with them. In general, they could be out of touch with a number of their needs and therefore it will be normal for them to neglect themselves. But, as this is taking place without them being aware of what ...
Views: 310 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
Views: 310 - Abandoned: Can Someone Have A Deeply Repressed Feeling Of Being Abandoned If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could do is create the impression that they are not very emotional and even that they don’t have an emotional self. The reason for this is that they can typically come across as calm and detached. Another part of this is that they might not have a strong desire to be around ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man’s Emotional Wounds End Up Being Sexualised If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has a strong sex drive and experiences a fair amount of lust, he might not feel the need to look into why this is. After all, he can just see this as a normal part of being a man. Also, he can see this as a sign that he has high testosterone and is, ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother Emasculate Her Son? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he is more like a wolf that has been domesticated than a wolf that lives in the wild. To go even further, he could think about how he has the tendency to be passive, feel low and be a people pleaser and finds it hard to stand his ...
Views: 309 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind; however, the latter is largely overlooked. Not only does mainstream society ignore this mind but a lot of people in the helping professions, those who are doing what they can to help peoples “mental health”, also do the same ...
Views: 309 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to freely express themselves. And, to be able to do this, they will need to have a felt sense of safety. By feeling safe in their own body, they will be able to listen to their needs and feelings and then allow what is ...
Views: 309 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Sense Of Being Unlovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t believe that they are lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Even so, how they see themselves is still going to have an effect on how they experience life. By being this way, it can be normal for them to push human warmth away. But, if they are not aware of ...
Views: 308 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Betrayed By His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and he was to become aware of this, it will be a big achievement. The reason for this is that being this way will have just been what was normal for most of his life. As a result of this, he won’t have been able to see what was going on. So, ...
Views: 308 - Child Abuse: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Find Out About Their Parents Childhood If They Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to ...
Views: 307 - Dependent: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone to Be Dependent? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to stand on their own two feet and support themselves. This is likely to mean that they will either still need their parents/s or others to be able to survive. As a result of this, how they look is not going to match up with ...
Views: 307 - Hopeless: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn life, there will be hurdles that are both big and small that need to be overcome but that doesn’t mean that someone will believe that they have what it takes to handle these. Before they even come into contact with a hurdle, they could feel hopeless and helpless. Therefore, before they ...
Views: 307 - Acting Out: Can Someone Act Out Feeling Helpless If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the tendency to feel totally helpless, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. However, when they feel this way, it is going to have an effect on how they behave. This is likely to be a time when they will behave in ways that typically don’t serve them ...
Views: 306 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Have Such A Strong Need To Please His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he may see that he has had the need to focus on his mother and to take care of her needs. Nonetheless, this is unlikely to be something that he consciously thinks about, as it is likely to be something that just happens. It will then be clear that he spends ...
Views: 306 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Mother Treated Him Like An Object? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect, is that he rarely feels good about himself and often feels down as a result. He could find that he has been this for as long as he can remember. Consequently, it is going to be a challenge for him to appreciate his time on this earth. ...
Views: 306 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may often feel invisible and as though he doesn’t exist. If he doesn’t feel this way, it could be because a woman who he finds desirable has looked at him or he is seeing a woman or is in a relationship. Thanks to this, he is likely to have a strong need to be seen by a woman and to be ...
Views: 306 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it is not going to be a surprise if he ends up coming to the conclusion that he is this way because of how his mother treated him very early on. The reason for this is that after looking into what took place during his early years, he ...
Views: 306 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to express themselves. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to behave in ways that are not in alignment with their true essence. In general, then, how they act ...
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