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- Early Deprivation: Does Someone Need To Face The Pain Of Being Unloved In Order To Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone missed out on the love that they needed in order to grow and develop very early on, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Most of what took place during this stage of their life could be a mystery to them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 287 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Repress His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he rarely if ever gets angry, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. What this can mean is that it is normal for him to be walked over, taken advantage of and not stand his ground. This could be something that he experiences each week if not every ...
Views: 287 - Father Wounds: Can Man Fear His Own Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for a man to view his aggression would be to see it as both a source of fuel and as something that will keep him alive. This means that, inherently, this part of him is not bad or “negative”. This doesn’t mean that this part of him can’t be used in a destructive manner. The key will ...
Views: 287 - Happiness: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Happy All the Time? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can come across as happy or at the very least, as though everything is fine. Due to this, the people in their life could describe them as a ‘happy person’, and, because of this, they might feel uplifted after they have spent time in their presence. However, while this is ...
Views: 287 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter learning about the law of attraction, someone could soon come to the conclusion that they need to feel good as much as they can and to have positive thoughts. This is because both their feelings and their thoughts will play a big part in what they do and don’t experience. So, as the ...
Views: 287 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Wasting Her Time With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may want to be with a man who is available, she may find that she has ended up with one who is anything but available. This will be a man who is super focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs. As a result of this, he is likely to be emotionally unavailable ...
Views: 287 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose Himself When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he might be very different to how he was before. When he was single, he might have been aware of certain needs and done what he could to take care of them. However, although he will still have needs, he could typically act as though he doesn’t have any or ...
Views: 287 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To See Their Needs As A Burden? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too ...
Views: 287 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parents False Self Stop Them From Being Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter trying to get through to one of the parents or the parent that abused them for quite some time and not getting very far, it might be clear that they are wasting their time. This could be something that they have been doing for a number of months, if not years. But, no matter how hard ...
Views: 286 - Decisions: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they find it hard to make decisions. Therefore, when it comes to deciding what to do, their mind could go blank. By being this way, it is likely to be a challenge for them to move forward in a number of ...
Views: 286 - Inner Conflict: Can The False Self Cause Someone To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that they are often in a position where part of them has the need to do one thing whilst another part of them has the need to do something else. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion. Not only this, they could ...
Views: 286 - Intimacy: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has the need to experience both physical and emotional closeness with another, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable fulfilling this need. This could be something that is only an issue when it comes to being in a romantic relationship. Then again, this could be ...
Views: 286 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Trapped Forever If They Need Their Abusive Parents To Acknowledge What Happened? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be normal for someone to want to talk to their parent or parents about what happened, if they were to see that they were mistreated by them during their formative years. They might want to know why they treated them in this way and for them to express remorse, among ...
Views: 285 - Feelings: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they really feel. As a result of this, the people in their life are unlikely to be aware of what is truly going on for them. However, due to how good they are at hiding how they feel, there can be no reason for these people to realise this. There ...
Views: 285 - Mother Wounds: Can Early Neglect Cause A Man To Fear Being Seen By A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man fears being seen by a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. But, even if he is not consciously aware of this, what he fears is still going to have an effect on how he experiences life. The reason why he is not aware of what is going on is that he could be out of touch ...
Views: 285 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is It A Positive Sign If A Mother-Enmeshed Man Starts To Get Angry About His Life? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for a woman to understand, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, why her partner is so focused on his mother. This might not have stood out in the beginning, but as time passed, it will have become crystal clear. There will ...
Views: 285 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Underdeveloped To Break Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, this could be something that baffles him. He could struggle to understand why he is so focused on her and so neglectful towards himself. In general, he could feel as though she has complete control over him and ...
Views: 285 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Unconsciously Tying To Be Loved By Her Parent If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, what might soon come to mind is that this is not the first time that she has been in this position. She might see that her previous partner was the same. That might be as far as it will go, or she could see that this is something ...
Views: 285 - Self-Expression: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Voice? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to what is taking place inside them and this information directs their life, they are going to freely express themselves. Their life is then not going to be a reflection of how other people want them to live or how they think they want them to live. Moreover, when ...
Views: 285 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense Of Self Ownership? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, even though it could be said that someone owns their body and mind and that no one has a right to control them or make them do something that they don’t want to do, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they actually realise. Thanks to this, they could often be controlled by others ...
Views: 285 - Anxiety: Can A Man Suffer From Anxiety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he often feels on edge. He might see that he has only just started to experience life in this way or it could be something that he has experienced for a little while. Regardless of how long he ...
Views: 284 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Men Are Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is a man and no longer a boy, it could be said that his childhood will be behind him. This stage of his life will be well and truly over, so it won’t matter what took place during this time. However, while this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of his ...
Views: 284 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone doesn’t need to be a psychologist to realise that something isn’t right if a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself. The average person is likely to be able to see that he is living in a way that is not serving him. But, although this is something that can be ...
Views: 284 - Self-Sabotage: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Realise That They Are Sabotaging Their Life? - by Submitted on May 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone hasn’t been able to move forward in at least one area of their life, they could believe that it is due to what is going on “out there”. What is taking place in the external world is then going to be the reason why their life is the way that it is. This can be backed up by the fact ...
Views: 284 - Trust: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Trust Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well. This will mean that ...
Views: 284 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Having Boundaries With Being Disconnected From Others? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way a fence protects a garden, boundaries protect a human being. Not only will they stop someone from taking on responsibilities that are not theirs but they will also stop them from being mistreated. Unlike walls, they will allow one to let the right people in and experience ...
Views: 283 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they generally don’t feel the need to be around another or others. They could find that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are likely to spend a lot of time by ...
Views: 283 - Critical Thinking: Can A Crisis Allow Humanity To Connect To Their True Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an individual can go through a challenging time, humanity as a whole can also go through a challenging time. When it comes to what can unsettle an individual, it can be a breakup, a loss, or some kind of setback. On the other hand, when it comes to what can unsettle ...
Views: 283 - Critical Thinking: Do Some Conspiracy Theorists Carry A Lot Of Darkness? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf on one side, there are those who believe just about everything the media says, on the other, there are those who believe very little of what this source says. As a result of this, when it comes to how the former see the world, it is going to be very different to how the latter see the ...
Views: 283 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Heal Their Shadow? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear that they have a shadow, they could end up thinking about the dark shape that appears when their body intercepts the rays from the sun. They may remember that there was a time when they didn’t realise that this shadow was connected to them or why it appeared, most likely ...
Views: 283 - Critical Thinking: Is The Pandemic A Manifestation Of What Is Held In The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOn one level, there is what is going on in the world and the impact that this is having on humanity. Of course, it wouldn’t be accurate to say that everyone has and is being affected in the same way. There are those who have lost a lot and those who have gained a lot. For example, it has been ...
Views: 283 - External Focus: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Focused On The External World? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to tune into what is taking place internally and externally. The reason for this is that when it comes to the former, this will allow them to know what their needs are and then go about fulfilling them. As for the ...
Views: 283 - False Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Create A Fearful False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can live in an environment that is relatively safe and be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will feel safe or freely express themselves. Still, this might not be something that they are consciously aware of. If they are not consciously aware of what is ...
Views: 283 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Disempowering Self-Image If His Father Wasn’t A Good Role Model? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of himself. For a large part of his life, this may have been something that was just under the radar, so to speak. Consequently, the view that he has of himself would have just been ...
Views: 283 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Submissive Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he typically behaves when he is around a woman, what he may find is that he rarely shows up. Instead, this can be a time when he will come across as passive and easy-going. Therefore, he won’t act as though he is an individual that has his own ...
Views: 283 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Controlled By His Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNot only could a man find it hard to understand why he is so focused on his mother but some of the people in his life could be just as confused. So, even if he is not currently in an intimate relationship, some of his friends and perhaps family members could also wonder what is going ...
Views: 283 - Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Out Of Touch With Reality To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may have been abused by one or both of their parents during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they have spoken to them about it. For so long, they might not have felt comfortable talking to them about what happened. If they were to imagine how they would like it ...
Views: 282 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Develop A Narcissistic Defence? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during someone’s early years, they missed out on the love that they needed to grow and develop in the right way, it can mean that they are deeply wounded now that they are an adult. But, although this is the case, there is a chance that they won’t have been able to join the dots, so to ...
Views: 282 - False Self: Can Someone Feel Like A Child Below Their False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it can primarily be the result of what is taking place in their body or what is taking place inside their head. In order words, it can be a reflection of their true self or their false self. Therefore, in order for one to express their true self, they ...
Views: 282 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother See Him As An Extension Of Herself? - by Submitted on May 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is entangled with his mother, he is not going to know that he is separate from her. On the outside, then, he will look like a separate being, but, on the inside, he won’t feel like one. As a result of this, he won’t have gone from a dependent to an interdependent human being; he ...
Views: 282 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Trapped In An Invisible Prison? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother is likely to look as free as just about anyone else. He will then have the ability to behave however he wants to behave and to live the life that he wants to live. At times, it could even appear as though he is in control of ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Healthy Sense of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a mother-enmeshed man will probably need to do is to get back in touch with all of his needs. The other part of this is that he will need to realise that his needs are not bad and that they are important. Currently, he can be in a position where he is not even aware of most of ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Needs Are Important? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to focus on her needs. This is likely to mean that he won’t even be aware of a lot of his own needs. His mother’s needs are then going to consume him and it won’t occur to him that he is out of touch with ...
Views: 282 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the ability to give, and, on the other, there is the ability to receive. When someone has the ability to both give and receive, it could be said that they will be in balance. The reason for this is that they will be playing their part by giving or contributing to the ...
Views: 282 - Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Having An Emotional Birth? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth. The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will ...
Views: 281 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Humiliated By A Woman If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about the interactions that he has had with women over the years, he could find that he has often felt ashamed and worthless in their presence. He could see that in most of these cases, it was because he was often put down. Due to the experiences that he has had, he ...
Views: 281 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As His Enemies If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could see that he largely sees them as people who are against him and want to cause him problems. As a result of this, he could do his best to keep his distance and ...
Views: 281 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he can come across as though he has no needs. Unlike a lot of people on the planet, then, he will be a selfless human being. By being this way, not only can his mother provide him with a lot of approval, plenty of other people can ...
Views: 281 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard to Receive If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they typically give a lot but they rarely receive what they need, let alone what they want, they could struggle to understand what is going on. Naturally, as they are doing a lot of the right things, this is to be expected. One thing that they may have done ...
Views: 281 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Scared Of Life? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may live in an area that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel safe. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they live in a warzone. So, from practically the moment they wake up until the moment they fall asleep, they could seldom feel at ...
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