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- A Letter of Disclosure to My Future Partner - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Amy JonesDear Future Partner, There are some things you should know about me right now before we get involved. It’s only fair to apprise you of the situation and so I am coming to you with full disclosure; requesting that you read ALL the fine print listed below to ensure you are aware of what I am. ...
Views: 520 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Affairs When They Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, it might not be long until it comes to an end. Perhaps they have been together for a number of months, or they may have been with each other for a number of years. Yet, regardless of the amount of time that they have been ...
Views: 954 - Accepting Help: 5 Ways to Prepare for Self-Care - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Anica OaksSelf-care is the essential practice of engaging in regular activities or practices to reduce stress, maintain and enhance our physical, emotional, mental well-being and health. It’s learning to take care of yourself, knowing your limits, and not sacrificing your health for others. More people ...
Views: 1109 - Relationships: Do Some People Shut Down Emotionally After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end. It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ...
Views: 1654 - Discovering & Uncovering Men’s Emotional Pain in a Healthy Way - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Geoff LaughtonToday’s blog is about pain and the prescription for it, all rolled into one! First, let’s talk about the pain. I hear all kinds of complaints about men from women. I hear frustration, genuine concern and fears that mostly centre around the fact that they don’t feel they’re getting what they ...
Views: 1407 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place. Instead, what will happen is that one of them ...
Views: 773 - Heartily - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2019 from Dada BhagwanIn our life, we might have come across some heartily aunt, uncle or grandparents. We always find them happily talking to everyone. They seemed to be loved by everyone and their love seems to be unconditional and equal for all. The worldly dealing of such a good-hearted person are ideal ...
Views: 483 - Relationships: Can Someone's Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause a relationship to come to an end, and some of these things receive more exposure in the public eye than others. For example, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who had an abusive partner and how this caused their relationship to come to an end. ...
Views: 761 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Let Anyone Into Their Life? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it wouldn’t be a good idea for someone to put anything into their mouth; it also wouldn’t be a good idea for them to open themselves up to anyone. Therefore, the level of discernment that they show when it comes to the former will need to be shown when it comes to the ...
Views: 670 - Relationships: Can Shame Stop Someone From Reaching Out To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion. Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the ...
Views: 754 - Dear Dr. Romance: What can an older man do to win a younger woman? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...
Views: 3520(1 vote) - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Only Have Casual Sex? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men, casual sex is something that they will engage in from time to time, while there are others who only have casual sex. When it comes to the former, this could be something that takes place after a man has just been in a relationship. Going with another woman, more or less ...
Views: 1353 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I try to fuel the desires or calm them? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "Age Differences in Dating " I'm single, in my early thirties. for the last, i'd say 6 years, i have been extremely attracted to women in their forties. it's both a physical and mental attraction. i live in an upscale part of the ...
Views: 774(1 vote) - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Feel Guilty When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to end up in an intimate relationship, he may find that he feels fairly comfortable. Perhaps he is with someone who he has a good connection with and is physically attracted to. There is then going to be no reason for him to keep this area of his life to himself, with him being ...
Views: 1269 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves. When this takes place, these people ...
Views: 632 - LOVE BOMBING AND NARCISSISTIC ATTACHMENT - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerGetting hit by a love bomb feels glorious! The lavish attention and affection seems to answer our prayers. We’ve found Mr. or Ms. Right―our soul mate; unsuspecting that we’ve been targeted by a narcissist. The bomber abruptly changes colors and loses interest, and our dream comes crashing down. ...
Views: 740(2 votes) - Relationships: Are Some Men Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Have A Relationship With A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for a woman to complain about how she keeps ending up with men who are emotionally unavailable, and it would be easy to say that a woman like this is incredibly unlucky. Time after time, she ends up experiencing the same outcome - it can then seem as though men need to get it ...
Views: 714 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If They Are Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry. Then again, it could also ...
Views: 639 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed When They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, they may find that their behaviour doesn’t really change, and that this allows them to carry on as normal. Clearly, their life will be different as they will be with someone, but this won’t have caused them to become someone else. Also, there are still ...
Views: 640 - The Truth About Love (and my thoughts on Instagram) - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“Love is one of the great enlargers of the person because it requires us to ‘take in’ the stranger and to understand him, and to exercise restraint and tolerance as well as imagination to make the relationship work.” – May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude I recently decided to join Instagram. ...
Views: 642 - How to Bring Back The Passion And Romance in Your Marriage Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen it truly comes down to it, marriage requires a lot of work. This isn’t because it is a difficult thing to maintain, as loving someone can be rather easy, but because a strong marriage requires the desire of two people to outlast and outstrip all of the difficult times and negative ...
Views: 591 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To The People Who Will Allow Us To Replay Unresolved Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what causes one person to be attracted to another, it is can be easy to believe that it is simply due to effect that the other persons personality and/or appearance has had on them. These two factors will then have had the biggest effect on why someone is sexually attracted to ...
Views: 646 - Intimacy: Can Someone Be Unaware Of Their Own Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the desire to be in an intimate relationship, they may find that it is only a matter of time before they meet the right person. Alternatively, they may find that they are only able to get so far. The months will then pass and this area of their life won’t change, causing them ...
Views: 986 - How To Make A Relationship Work When You’re Afraid - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Geoff LaughtonAh, love. Whether you’re in the infatuation stage, a newlywed, or having some troubled times in your marriage, it’s normal to ask, “How long is my relationship going to last?” I’ve had several couples lately – some in a pretty new relationship and others who have been together for decades – ...
Views: 700 - Understanding Men & Women: Reinventing How We Can BE With Each Other - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Geoff LaughtonSadly, along all the political back and forth that is polarizing men and women and in many of the relationships I see, I fear humanity is getting thrown in the rubbish. Relationships haven’t been about connecting and community. It’s been about men vs. women. It’s been about truth vs. lies. ...
Views: 1206 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Associate Love With Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that some car journeys can be peaceful and obstacle free and some can be noisy and full of obstacles, relationships can also fall into one of these two categories. What is clear is that it is going to be far healthier for someone to be in a relationship that falls into the fist ...
Views: 679 - Shrink Fear Grow Love - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the delusions of separateness ...
Views: 596 - Social Media: Has Social Media Caused Some People To Trade Intimacy For Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone shares something online, they can end up receiving a fair amount of attention, and this can allow them to feel good about themselves. Even so, what happens online might only be a small part of their life. Therefore, they won’t be completely dependent on this attention, meaning ...
Views: 673 - Don’t Make Another Person The Centre Of Your World - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading the book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’, there was a chapter that went into how important it was to have many different areas of interest in life, and not to put all our eggs in one basket, so to speak. The author, Susan Jeffers, pointed out that a lot of people make their ...
Views: 745 - "What Was Cute In Romance May Become Acute In Conflict” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I read a few books by David Richo, and this is someone who really knows what he is talking about. Whether it is relationships or self-development in general, his books are packed full of insights. When I read two of his books towards the end of 2013, I had recently gone ...
Views: 830 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together and start a relationship, they can both have their own life. There is going to be how one person likes spend to their life and then there is going to be how the other person likes to spend their life. Through being together, certain parts of their life are ...
Views: 929 - The Rapture of Love - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe long for rapture. We long to be transported to an otherworldly place where the problems that weigh heavily into our souls and the pain that pierces our hearts lift away, if only for a moment. We long to feel profoundly alive and deeply fulfilled. We long for ecstasy. Western culture ...
Views: 528 - What Did Your Parents Teach You About Men And Women? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘Family Secrets’ by John Bradshaw and in this book he said, “it was and is your parents’ actually lives that educated you: not what they said, but what they did”. I took this to mean that what my parents did was far more important than what came out of their mouth. This ...
Views: 594 - Financial Or Emotional Crisis? Get Security Today! - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Emma ViglucciMoney. Money is a hot topic in many relationships as there are intense emotions attached to money as well as a range of meaning around it. Partners have different ideas about the importance of money, what it means to them, its purpose, its role, how to manage it, and even how to earn it! Couples ...
Views: 534 - From Desperate Anger To Blooming Passion - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Emma ViglucciThe season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless. As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ...
Views: 484 - My Wife Is Not The Same Person I Married: My Wife Is Not Who I Thought She Was - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2018 from Jennifer SageMy Wife Is Not The Same Person I Married: My Wife Is Not Who I Thought She Was She loves me, she loves me not. How do I get my wife to love me again, you ask? First ask yourself how sure you are that she does not love you. Fortunately, even if her love for you has waned it is likely you can ...
Views: 718 - Your Four Types of Love - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2018 from Carmen HarraOften we’re so blinded by our emotions that we can’t decipher the true purpose of a relationship. Deep attachment can force us to stay in a relationship that was meant to end a long time ago. On the other hand, our stubborn will and uncompromising ego can make us leave a person who might be our ...
Views: 1015 - Is Your Lover 'Out of Sight, Out of Mind'? - Object Constancy and Borderline Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2018 from Imi Lo“Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood. “ Anxiety is a normal part of being in an intimate relationship. It usually comes in two forms- the fear of abandonment, ...
Views: 1166 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Tell If A Man Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may find that it is relatively easy for her to attract a man, what she may also find is that she is unable to find a man who actually wants a relationship. This may mean that she has been with a number of men who were emotionally unavailable. Even so, this doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 671 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can stop one from being able to have a fulfilling relationship, and ending up with someone who is unavailable will be one of the things that will stop them from being able to fulfil this need. When this takes place, they can find it hard to understand how this ...
Views: 659 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Aloof? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman has the tendency to end up with men who are unavailable, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on her wellbeing. Her desire to be with a man who is available is not going to be met, so it is to be expected that this won’t be something that she can simply overlook. If ...
Views: 655 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Only Interested In Women Who Need To Be Saved? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there will be no need for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they won’t be carrying too much baggage. So, instead of seeing each other as competitors; they will be able ...
Views: 1252 - Relationships: Do Some People Need To Experience A Few Bad Relationships Before They Can Appreciate A Good One? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away. And, if someone ...
Views: 773 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot. And no matter what kind of people someone is ...
Views: 863 - Relationships: Can Smartphone’s Destroy Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the ...
Views: 766 - Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is More Like Your Son/Daughter? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was thinking about how there were times when I had come across couples who appeared to be out of balance. When this was the case, it was as though it was more like a parent-child relationship and not an adult to adult relationship. One of them was more like a parent to the ...
Views: 858 - Knowing when cougars are ready for sex – Understand older woman sex signs - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2018 from Harry PridgenSex for most cougar women is very important. These cougars always have a way of going about these things. One thing you need to know however is that, you should never shy away from them. Older women never shy away from sexual advances made. They always make sure nothing is taken for granted. The ...
Views: 1652 - "Separation as a Powerful Relationship Tool" - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Barry and Joyce VissellFor too many people, separation is a prelude to divorce. Taking time apart from a loved one is often thought of as the end of the relationship. But after 53 years together, and helping to guide thousands of couples, Joyce and I view separation as a sometimes vital necessity in a relationship ...
Views: 644 - Don’t Put Women On A Pedestal! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was out the other day I saw a woman who was wearing a fair amount of makeup, and seeing this woman had quite a big effect on me. But, even though part of me was responding to what I had seen, another part of me thought about how strange this all was. For one thing, I didn’t know ...
Views: 907 - 5 Tips for Good Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from Daydree HornerLove is easy - relationships can be hard. We’re all individuals that come from different backgrounds, parenting and environments. Yet, with all of these differences we hope to come together in search of good friendships and romantic relationships. No problem, right? ;) As a love coach and Reiki ...
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