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Dear Future Partner,
There are some things you should know about me right now before we get involved. It’s only fair to apprise you of the situation and so I am coming to you with full disclosure; requesting that you read ALL the fine print listed below to ensure you are aware of what I am. ... Views: 520
If someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, it might not be long until it comes to an end. Perhaps they have been together for a number of months, or they may have been with each other for a number of years.
Yet, regardless of the amount of time that they have been ... Views: 954
Self-care is the essential practice of engaging in regular activities or practices to reduce stress, maintain and enhance our physical, emotional, mental well-being and health. It’s learning to take care of yourself, knowing your limits, and not sacrificing your health for others. More people ... Views: 1109
There are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end.
It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ... Views: 1654
Today’s blog is about pain and the prescription for it, all rolled into one! First, let’s talk about the pain.
I hear all kinds of complaints about men from women. I hear frustration, genuine concern and fears that mostly centre around the fact that they don’t feel they’re getting what they ... Views: 1407
In order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place.
Instead, what will happen is that one of them ... Views: 773
In our life, we might have come across some heartily aunt, uncle or grandparents. We always find them happily talking to everyone. They seemed to be loved by everyone and their love seems to be unconditional and equal for all.
The worldly dealing of such a good-hearted person are ideal ... Views: 483
There are a number of things that can cause a relationship to come to an end, and some of these things receive more exposure in the public eye than others. For example, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who had an abusive partner and how this caused their relationship to come to an end.
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In the same way that it wouldn’t be a good idea for someone to put anything into their mouth; it also wouldn’t be a good idea for them to open themselves up to anyone. Therefore, the level of discernment that they show when it comes to the former will need to be shown when it comes to the ... Views: 670
What can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion.
Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the ... Views: 754
Dear Dr. Romance:
I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ... Views: 3520
For some men, casual sex is something that they will engage in from time to time, while there are others who only have casual sex. When it comes to the former, this could be something that takes place after a man has just been in a relationship.
Going with another woman, more or less ... Views: 1353
Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your article "Age Differences in Dating " I'm single, in my early thirties. for the last, i'd say 6 years, i have been extremely attracted to women in their forties. it's both a physical and mental attraction. i live in an upscale part of the ... Views: 774
If a man was to end up in an intimate relationship, he may find that he feels fairly comfortable. Perhaps he is with someone who he has a good connection with and is physically attracted to.
There is then going to be no reason for him to keep this area of his life to himself, with him being ... Views: 1269
Naturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves.
When this takes place, these people ... Views: 632
Getting hit by a love bomb feels glorious! The lavish attention and affection seems to answer our prayers. We’ve found Mr. or Ms. Right―our soul mate; unsuspecting that we’ve been targeted by a narcissist. The bomber abruptly changes colors and loses interest, and our dream comes crashing down. ... Views: 740
It is not uncommon for a woman to complain about how she keeps ending up with men who are emotionally unavailable, and it would be easy to say that a woman like this is incredibly unlucky. Time after time, she ends up experiencing the same outcome - it can then seem as though men need to get it ... Views: 714
In the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry.
Then again, it could also ... Views: 639
When someone is in a relationship, they may find that their behaviour doesn’t really change, and that this allows them to carry on as normal. Clearly, their life will be different as they will be with someone, but this won’t have caused them to become someone else.
Also, there are still ... Views: 640
“Love is one of the great enlargers of the person because it requires us to ‘take in’ the stranger and to understand him, and to exercise restraint and tolerance as well as imagination to make the relationship work.”
– May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude
I recently decided to join Instagram. ... Views: 642
When it truly comes down to it, marriage requires a lot of work.
This isn’t because it is a difficult thing to maintain, as loving someone can be rather easy, but because a strong marriage requires the desire of two people to outlast and outstrip all of the difficult times and negative ... Views: 591
When it comes to what causes one person to be attracted to another, it is can be easy to believe that it is simply due to effect that the other persons personality and/or appearance has had on them. These two factors will then have had the biggest effect on why someone is sexually attracted to ... Views: 646
If someone has the desire to be in an intimate relationship, they may find that it is only a matter of time before they meet the right person. Alternatively, they may find that they are only able to get so far.
The months will then pass and this area of their life won’t change, causing them ... Views: 986
Ah, love. Whether you’re in the infatuation stage, a newlywed, or having some troubled times in your marriage, it’s normal to ask, “How long is my relationship going to last?”
I’ve had several couples lately – some in a pretty new relationship and others who have been together for decades – ... Views: 700
Sadly, along all the political back and forth that is polarizing men and women and in many of the relationships I see, I fear humanity is getting thrown in the rubbish.
Relationships haven’t been about connecting and community. It’s been about men vs. women. It’s been about truth vs. lies. ... Views: 1206
In the same way that some car journeys can be peaceful and obstacle free and some can be noisy and full of obstacles, relationships can also fall into one of these two categories. What is clear is that it is going to be far healthier for someone to be in a relationship that falls into the fist ... Views: 679
When the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the delusions of separateness ... Views: 596
When someone shares something online, they can end up receiving a fair amount of attention, and this can allow them to feel good about themselves. Even so, what happens online might only be a small part of their life.
Therefore, they won’t be completely dependent on this attention, meaning ... Views: 673
When I was reading the book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’, there was a chapter that went into how important it was to have many different areas of interest in life, and not to put all our eggs in one basket, so to speak. The author, Susan Jeffers, pointed out that a lot of people make their ... Views: 745
A number of years ago I read a few books by David Richo, and this is someone who really knows what he is talking about. Whether it is relationships or self-development in general, his books are packed full of insights.
When I read two of his books towards the end of 2013, I had recently gone ... Views: 830
When two people get together and start a relationship, they can both have their own life. There is going to be how one person likes spend to their life and then there is going to be how the other person likes to spend their life.
Through being together, certain parts of their life are ... Views: 929
We long for rapture. We long to be transported to an otherworldly place where the problems that weigh heavily into our souls and the pain that pierces our hearts lift away, if only for a moment. We long to feel profoundly alive and deeply fulfilled. We long for ecstasy.
Western culture ... Views: 528
I remember reading ‘Family Secrets’ by John Bradshaw and in this book he said, “it was and is your parents’ actually lives that educated you: not what they said, but what they did”. I took this to mean that what my parents did was far more important than what came out of their mouth.
This ... Views: 594
Money. Money is a hot topic in many relationships as there are intense emotions attached to money as well as a range of meaning around it. Partners have different ideas about the importance of money, what it means to them, its purpose, its role, how to manage it, and even how to earn it! Couples ... Views: 534
The season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless.
As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ... Views: 484
My Wife Is Not The Same Person I Married: My Wife Is Not Who I Thought She Was
She loves me, she loves me not. How do I get my wife to love me again, you ask? First ask yourself how sure you are that she does not love you. Fortunately, even if her love for you has waned it is likely you can ... Views: 718
Often we’re so blinded by our emotions that we can’t decipher the true purpose of a relationship. Deep attachment can force us to stay in a relationship that was meant to end a long time ago. On the other hand, our stubborn will and uncompromising ego can make us leave a person who might be our ... Views: 1015
“Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood. “
Anxiety is a normal part of being in an intimate relationship. It usually comes in two forms- the fear of abandonment, ... Views: 1166
Although a woman may find that it is relatively easy for her to attract a man, what she may also find is that she is unable to find a man who actually wants a relationship. This may mean that she has been with a number of men who were emotionally unavailable.
Even so, this doesn’t mean that ... Views: 671
There are a number of things that can stop one from being able to have a fulfilling relationship, and ending up with someone who is unavailable will be one of the things that will stop them from being able to fulfil this need. When this takes place, they can find it hard to understand how this ... Views: 659
When a woman has the tendency to end up with men who are unavailable, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on her wellbeing. Her desire to be with a man who is available is not going to be met, so it is to be expected that this won’t be something that she can simply overlook.
If ... Views: 655
When a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there will be no need for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they won’t be carrying too much baggage.
So, instead of seeing each other as competitors; they will be able ... Views: 1252
There are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away.
And, if someone ... Views: 773
While there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot.
And no matter what kind of people someone is ... Views: 863
In the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the ... Views: 766
The other day I was thinking about how there were times when I had come across couples who appeared to be out of balance. When this was the case, it was as though it was more like a parent-child relationship and not an adult to adult relationship.
One of them was more like a parent to the ... Views: 858
Sex for most cougar women is very important. These cougars always have a way of going about these things. One thing you need to know however is that, you should never shy away from them. Older women never shy away from sexual advances made. They always make sure nothing is taken for granted. The ... Views: 1652
For too many people, separation is a prelude to divorce. Taking time apart from a loved one is often thought of as the end of the relationship. But after 53 years together, and helping to guide thousands of couples, Joyce and I view separation as a sometimes vital necessity in a relationship ... Views: 644
While I was out the other day I saw a woman who was wearing a fair amount of makeup, and seeing this woman had quite a big effect on me. But, even though part of me was responding to what I had seen, another part of me thought about how strange this all was.
For one thing, I didn’t know ... Views: 907
Love is easy - relationships can be hard. We’re all individuals that come from different backgrounds, parenting and environments. Yet, with all of these differences we hope to come together in search of good friendships and romantic relationships. No problem, right? ;) As a love coach and Reiki ... Views: 819